Whats it like being pretty?57 posts omitted. Click reply to view.
i understand where youre coming from but i dont have ana tendencies. i dont even know if i wanna lose more weight. the weight i lost transformed me completely because i was super overweight. also i want to say, if the desire to change the way you look doesnt come from somewhere positive and constructive you really shouldn't feed into it imo.
It's great though I definitely grew into my looks and I don't know if it has made me less or more vain. Both my parents are extremely good looking and I felt so out of place in pictures with them and my brother when I used to be chubby and plain looking. I've also made okay money posing in awful clothes for online magazines.>>64736
In my experience, people with no personality are more worried about this than attractive people.
I went from being fairly pretty when I was younger to a total uggo (overweight and acne) so I guess I have a little insight. Both have pros and cons.
When I was younger, I was heavily sexualised in public. I was never sexually assaulted (thank god) but random older men felt entitled to speak to me or touch me (put their arm on my waist or play with my hair) and I'd catch men staring down my top or at my butt often. People around me made me feel like it was normal. I was "pretty" and I should appreciate that kind of attention so I put up with it to be "polite". It's the worst fucking feeling in the world to have someone like that enter your personal space because you can feel the malicious intent and you have no idea if or when it will escalate. I've been in scary situations where men have tried to follow me home or get me alone in a hotel room. I used to wear baggy clothes (even though I hated them and wanted to look good) and act tomboyish in an attempt to stop it from happening. Men would pretend to be my friend for months just to try to get into my pants, the only real friendships I had was with other women. They'd make excuses as to why they had to meet me in person (so trying to use up all my time) or enter my house, it was so disturbing. Even when I had a girlfriend and later a boyfriend, these guys would try to "compete" with my partners for me. Made me feel like shit to think none of them actually wanted to be my friend or wouldn't listen to me asking them to stop, I was just some prize to be conquered. My family always made it seem like my one and only worth was how I looked.
I get less attention from men now but obviously, I still have to be cautious as the most dangerous men out there don't care about looks, they're just looking for the perfect opportunity. I'm still not taken seriously and if anything, I get more patronising comments and people ignoring me for looking too "plain". There's no such thing as an "easy mode" in life for women, you can never fucking win as a woman. Being pretty doesn't make people respect you more and it only attracts the same gross scrotes whose only goal is to pump and dump you. You probably have a better chance at being hired for job interviews but then you have to deal with a nasty boss breathing down your neck or if you're in a STEM field, a bunch of men seething about how you "stole their jobs" and how you don't have the mental capacity for a STEM role.
Sorry for the sperg.