Anonymous 10/14/20 (Wed) 12:42:31 AM 65617 [Reply]
Is it worth it to live a single life where you only date and go on one-night stands to relieve sexual frustration? I need that person-to-person feeling when I have sex and I can't replace that with toys. I feel disillusioned with the concept of being in a long term relationship. I've been in a few and am currently in one (the others were 3+ years at least, current relationship I've been in for over a year) and they're just…disappointing. Men are excited to be with a horny woman until they realize how much work it takes, so I'm always left sexually unfulfilled to the point where I realize that as much as I used to think it was more convenient to be in a monogamous relationship for the purpose of a secured sex life, it's not. Certainly it's more effort to dress one's self up for a date, get dicked down, etcetera, but unlike a relationship, it's not going to get to a point where the other person doesn't really care about the effort I'm putting in (and then probably goes off to watch porn. Now to be clear, I might not have such a problem with porn if it weren't for the fact I've never been in a relationship where I feel sexually satisfied. I understand why a guy might watch it if I'm denying them sex, but if I'm not only accepting sex but wanting more of it, the fuck? Oh, right, it's just that I don't offer the "variety" every video on the internet could).
3 posts omitted. Click reply to view. Anonymous 10/14/20 (Wed) 05:07:36 AM 65635
>>65634 I don't "ignore men entirely" since my close friends are male, but I am a khv in my mid twenties and am just volcel at this point. Sort of because I need to work on my emotional health, also sort of because men will never meet my ideals and gay women are so few and far between.
My sex drive is high (and I'm bi so horny for everyone), but if I can get used to solo loving then I'm sure you can as well. Perhaps it's a bit different if you've actually had sex, but if you can control yourself in other areas (diet, alcohol) I'm sure it's similar.
A big coping mechanism for me is writing/illustrating romance and porn. It scratches the itch and honing a skill is a good distraction.
Do what makes you the happiest, anon. No situation is 100% great but we've gotta shoot for the closest we can get.
Good luck!
Anonymous 10/14/20 (Wed) 06:01:49 AM 65642
>>65635 Why can’t you just hook up with one of your male friends? It sounds like you need to break out of a dry spell desperately and you have lots of options
Anonymous 10/14/20 (Wed) 06:36:18 AM 65652
>>65642 I love romance too much unfortunately, and it always turns out that they either wouldn't date me or vice versa.
Cel life is doable though, is all I'm saying. I'm thriving most of the time since the rest of my life is fulfilling.
Anonymous 10/14/20 (Wed) 09:05:13 AM 65658
I just want someone as low maintenance as me, i want things to be simple, my last relationship broke down because of some neurotic feedback loop where i started feeling inadequate, because my ex felt depressed and it got me depressed as well, that made my ex more depressed in turn and so we kept getting more depressed over being depressed until we couldn't go on like that anymore, so stupid.
Anonymous 10/18/20 (Sun) 10:40:01 AM 65947
>>65617 Seek some kind of mental health healing before you make the mistake of sleeping with some rando and get a bunch of STDs + COVID.
Or masturbate furiously by getting some new toys and getting creative with them.
