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Anonymous 119780[Reply]

i literally cant maintain sexual attraction to men i am into romantically. its like a madonna whore complex for girls i h8 it so bad man. i can only love a man when i have a desire to protect him but i only feel arousal for a man when i want to ruin him :<< i only rly had sexual attraction to my most recent ex when we argued or when i was just mad at him

Anonymous 119799

>>119784
>being repulsed by a guy
That's the exact opposite of the problem she described.
She said:
>i only rly had sexual attraction to my most recent ex when we argued or when i was just mad at him
Now, imagine someone who has sexual attraction triggered specifically by shitty and abusive behavior. Is that person going to avoid shitty and abusive people and situations that make them mad? Is that person going to take every bit as much care with their personal relationships to select only people who are good for them and heckin wholesome adequate frienderinos? In real life?

Anonymous 119800

>>119799
thank you yes i was not sure how to explain better 2 that nona

Anonymous 119935

>>119780
I have similar problem, I will only want to have sex with a man once, even if I'm in a romantic relationship with them. I only get aroused by them once, and I cannot get turned on again afterwards, it sucks because it ruins my sex life – But instead I pretend I'm horny, and it usually makes me a little bit wet during but I never ever get horny first after the first time :sob:



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Bullying and body dysmorphia Anonymous 110205[Reply]

There don't seem to be many threads about eating disorders and I wanted to know if there were more nonas with similar experiences.
First of all I am going to clarify that I am not pro-ana, I wish I could eat normally but I have had anorexia since I left high school. During school my "friends" used to call me fat (actually at that time I was a little fat and I wore glasses and my face was childish) but it still hurts me, they also used to call me ugly and autistic for being shy. I used to skip gym classes a lot because I was afraid of receiving comments, one time I was running like everyone else but when I finished, one of them came up to me to tell me that I sweat like a pig.
Other times at lunchtime some boys made pig noises as they passed and looked at me.
I wish I could leave that behind, but even though I am underweight now, my intentions to continue losing weight increase along with the fact that I no longer look in the mirror often and I hate seeing myself in photos.

Anonymous 119891

I can't stop eating fast food. It makes me feel like shit, gain weight, and it doesn't even taste good. idk how to stop

Anonymous 119919

>>110205
so real. I've been binging/purging since I was like ten. can't even remember when I last felt comfortable in my body. even when you're a healthy weight the thoughts never stop



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I will always be the old person I was Anonymous 119890[Reply]

I have had difficulties in my childhood even until now because of my mental human condition. Everyone knows me me as the child who had insane periodic outbursts at periods and no one feels safe around me. I was always paranoid about my digital footprint, but people have archived some of them and people have found it. I used to say hateful or shocking things, and do them to "fit" in because I never had a community and these seemed like the only people willing to accept me. People have found these footprints.

I have nowhere to be. Rather, there is no place that needs me. Even if I change, there is still this person that I used to be that has undoubtedly affected other people negatively. Everything I've done has brought some sort of hardship.

It's not enough to just change and be a better person. I will die

Anonymous 119956

hey anon are you still there

Anonymous 119960

>>119890
i feel like there is 2 sides to this story, on one hand your mental dis-regulation and on the other is the modern internet's sense of self righteousness and purity spiraling where changing for the better is not welcome since they need to pat themselves on the back with the whole at least i am not that, the only way out for you is start using obscure forums and message boards(like this one) and almost dead websites and avoid ''political'' people like the plague other way is to start going to the most outdoor activities you can find since overly online people do not like that



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What now? Anonymous 119395[Reply]

A few months ago I was diagnosed with BPD. And more recently PTSD.

It's nice to have answers. For over a decade I thought the brain fog I felt was due to malnutrition or something, but apparently it's because of depersonalization. That's just one example of many things.

I don't know very much about BPD. Every time it comes up in conversation it's either in reference to someone's abusive ex or as an insult.

Of course I crave love and intimacy. I've never been in a relationship before. I've never even had anyone ask me out. I have a lot of very complicated, very mood-swing-ey feelings about that. I feel like I'm almost trying to find shitty things about the human race to make me hate being around people, so that it hurts less to be alone. I think it's working. Right now I'm in a state of mind where I feel fine being alone. I'd rather be alone than risk hurting the people I love.

Anonymous 119733

You can't make everyone happy

Anonymous 119782

I would say the next step would to probably go to a therapist to work on managing overwhelming emotions and thoughts. As well as addressing any issues stemming from your trauma. Just try to be open and honest with yourself and be receptive to change.

Good luck, try not to forget about the good people <3 (but still be mindful of the bad ones)

Anonymous 119878




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Anonymous 118687[Reply]

besides suicide what are my options if I hate myself so much that I am unable to function. What will help. Meds have not helped.
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Anonymous 119805

>>118687
try getting off the meds, I know this is super controversial but medicine keeps us sick, some meds really do help in certain circumstances but it seems they just push a bunch of stuff on you if you feel slightly bothered by anything

Anonymous 119810

>>118687
What do you hate about yourself?

Anonymous 119871

>>118687
You might be feeling trapped in negative self-talk. I would recommend speaking kindly to yourself and celebrating any bit of progress you make, it has helped me a lot to do that. Also, spending time outdoors helps no matter how shitty you feel.

Anonymous 119875

I'm like this too, I have no idea hpw to fix it and I just dwell on the past, future and present. The only thing that stops it is trying to focus on other things and that's temporary. Maybe I should rot my brain with meds, I don't know

Anonymous 120352

Are you unable to function because you hate yourself? Or do you hate yourself because you are unable to function? Having clear goals that can be accomplished one step at a time can help you overcome your self hatred. You're just as human as each one of us, and just as capable. Work with a professional, work on yourself, put in effort. It'll make you feel better



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Anonymous 119865[Reply]

I hate men so much omg 😭 I need a safe space to cleanse myself from all men (except George Michael's discography). I have an event later today that will require me to be around the same white cookie cutter men for the nth time and I want to rip my hair out I'm so tired of this bs
:((((((( I refuse to go to this event sober (but for legal reasons I will be raw dogging this required event)

It's just me and Freedom! 90 - Remastered against the world. Please pray for me and send me the most healing feminine energy so I can survive

Anonymous 119870

My parents took me to see George Michael and it was awful.



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I went to a gym and my god I have a problem Anonymous 119866[Reply]

I normally find the smell of bo gross but when I smell mens bo I get really horny


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Anonymous 106726[Reply]

post yr ideal partner
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Anonymous 119835

>>119832
Wtf lol

Anonymous 119837

>>119831

ideally i'd be the first of seven and he'd forget about doing the other six

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Anonymous 119854

It's unironically a young benedictine monk I met when I was in France, I have no idea if I'll meet him again or not but he was an amazingly sweet snd kind person (like most real christians). I'm not a christian so I have no idea what this is about.

Anonymous 119857

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>>113949
>>114178
Submissive men that aren't very fetishistic about it are naturally hard to find due to being, obviously, submissive. They're shy, probably don't go out unless it's with friends, probably don't use dating apps.
Really, the only time to get a submissive man is when you're in school.



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How to deal with my hatred towards pickmes as a woman Anonymous 107469[Reply]

How to deal with constantly having to see women act trashy for men, having to be gaslighted as an individual by women as a collective which is very vile and makes me doubt myself as if I'm a crazy person just making up shit, having to be surrounded with the patriarchy they co create with men especially through heterosexuality, having to see women acting desperate for men, being hated for having self preservation, literally getting mad responses from pickmes, having to live in this society with no community I can connect with and having to suppress my mind and "ignore" the issues aka just… suppress myself to fit them, having to be exposed to constant brainwashing and grooming by male lovers, having to deal with female socialization and being held to higher standards than they hold men to.
It's all just evil, women as a collective oppress individual women, and celibate women who don't want to engage in heterosexuality are seen as controversial and male lovers are threatened by us. I know people will just tell me to "ignore" but I want a community or else I'm a fucking slave in this society. Its hard being an autistic, mentally gnc woman cause other women hate you, not in the way hatred is usually displayed by humans but it's still real. I also feel intellectually suppressed/oppressed in the female socialization and female socialization is also very aggressive. I'm very unique(I know that we all go though the same experience and all human feel the same things, I just resort to seeing myself as unique whenever it's a temporary state or not or even trauma, it just helps me understand what I am in relation with others in the context of this issue here)
Please don't nitpick this cause I'm so tired, it's NOT just about being celibate please understand what I mean cause I've seen male lovers accusing volcel women of basing their worth around the "lack if male presence" in their life "just as male lovers base their worth around male presence". Wtf
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Anonymous 119544

>>119542
Screw it, might as well add the other stuff. See if anyone can relate, or if anyone wants a laugh at this bizarre fucked up family dynamic involving a pickme/boymom.

In our recent convo quoted above, mom also said, life would suck without men (HAHA), how she hates dykes (shell probably accuse me or question me if I am one, even though Im straight, if I keep explaining mens true nature and why I want to be separate from men as much as possible). Mom kept calling modern women who-oores, and I said thats what men say they want which influences women to behave sexually that way, that men are way more whorish than women. Mom brought up how women are so fucked up now (meaning, not feminine, shaved heads or blue hair, tattoos, and meeeannn to mens feewings). I said maybe its a result of trauma or abuse from men (not that a woman needs a reason, baby steps..). She said, oh I never knew that, so maybe something clicked?

Another time, mom said how she cant say no to men esp my brother. My brother is in his late 30s, yet he commands mom at all hours to make him a full meal, a snack, tea, clean up dog shit, or do his laundry (he only recently stopped telling mom about laundry past 12am, she usually stays up and even irons his clothing, complaining to me about it). Mom drops everything, incl if we were having a private convo or she was helping me with something, to fulfill my brothers command. As they leave, my brother glares at me before he turns around and walks away, so he can rat me out if he sees that I have a negative facial expression of annoyance. If I do and he sees, they both guilt trip me, accusing me of hating them both, when I just want my mom to stop hating herself and for my brother to leave me alone. When my brother commands mom to do whatever, he thinks hes a nice guy because he says "you dont have to do it right now". Mom then leaves me to wait while they have entire convos, so I just give up and do a hobby alone.

My brother orders mom around daily, to the point it feels like elder abuse. Its a subtle daily exhausting effect, not obvious extreme stuff like hitting. Mom neglects her own health issues, and I worry that my brother will compound them into something serious one day. Mom complains to me in private that shes tired, sometimes has to pretend shes sleeping, hiding in her room with her light off, so that he leaves her alPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 119806

>>119544
Your family dynamic is toxic nona, but you already knew that. It’s easy for me to say to walk away from that shit when it’s not my family, but still, reading all that, my first thought was “run”.

Your mom has an emotionally incestuous relationship with your brother (typical boymom, many such cases) and it will only get worse, and as it gets worse, she’ll demand that YOU pick up the slack when her health fails. You can’t reason her out of this. Her entire identity is serving men. It’s a standard primitive survival tactic, probably enforced into her as a child: she knows that men are stronger, are more violent, command more respect and have more resources, so she hates and betrays other women in the hopes of being spared or protected from other men. It’s fear-based, but if she’s malicious, she’ll also actively enjoy other women’s suffering. Pick-me behaviour.

The best you can do is keep your head down, save your money, and leave. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it happens to way too many girls and women. Your mom doesn’t respect herself, or you.

Anonymous 119817

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>>119365
Not op but lmao I can't even see women like you as human anymore, you're so mentally enslaved. Also don't call op a radiem, she's blackpilled and supports biological realism. Meanwhile radfems believe in socialization theory bullshit and most of them still want to suck dick

Anonymous 119851

>>119817
Are there any female blackpill & bio realism places left? I miss r/blackpillfeminism

Anonymous 119853

>>119851
Richard Dawkins related spaces used to be great but full of people that are way older than me. He used to talk about trans issues from a biorealism point of view but now he actively avoids the subject in anything he does.



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im so ugly i hate my face and my body Anonymous 119590[Reply]

I look so ugly and disgusting and I will always hate the way I look my nose is big my lips r small and I'm already starting to form face lines I have the ugliest body shape (strawberry) so even if I'm not fat my body is still unattractive and weird looking I have acne and there's red marks all over my face and I'm so hairy I have little hairs all over me why do I have to be so fucking disgusting I look like a fucking moid tranny my eyes are asymmetrical
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Anonymous 119635

Your face will change with time. I felt the same as you as one point. My nose didn't fit my face, fat face, my lips seemed too thin, my eyes were all fucked up looking. As I began to age my nose got smaller, my lips got fuller, I lost a lot of face chub, my eyes got sharper.

A lot of my skin care consisted of using products that were meant for my skin condition and now my skin is clear and soft. Find what products work best for your skin, see a dermatologist.

I was unhappy with the way my body looked. I got on a routine. (I had an eating disorder, don't recommend this "method" of weight loss to anyone). Put effort into changing your body if it truly bothers you.
You mentioned have a strawberry body shape. I say start working out and build muscle in the places that you "lack".

Sorry you're struggling with your appearance nona. Remember that you look the way you do because someone loved whoever has your appearance enough to create your beautiful life. Biggest part of feeling beautiful is loving yourself.

Anonymous 119639

trust me, it is impossible to look male. I thought I had "scary dead male autism eyes" but expirementing with simple but flattering eye makeup and shaping my brows to be thinner fixed my insecurity. I think my eyes are beautiful. You probably need to fix your diet and wash your face. Your brain is mean and you do not exist to be eye candy to dusty moids.

Anonymous 119807

I feel the same, I can't even use makeup because im scared i'll look weird, i always got bullied at school as a kid and now i can't even look at myself without feeling disgusted. I just want to be ok with myself

Anonymous 119812

it doesn’t even matter

Anonymous 119820

Most people have peach fuzz. Everyone has texture on their face.



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