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Anonymous 122231[Reply]

adhd management. does it exist? if so please help me out here I can't get anything done. I am on meds but they don't always work … women with adhd please gelp
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Anonymous 122235

Not to be rude but you have to put in a lot of actual work even with meds. Meds aren’t a cure. You need to be self aware and you have to push yourself.

Anonymous 122246

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I don't know about ADHD itself, but ADHD symptoms may be caused by other things like trauma (cptsd) or nutrient deficiency. (like the first post nona said)
If you're always distracted by bad memories or are dissociating (spacing out) it could easily be trauma.

Anonymous 122250

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>>122231
I want to help you but we need more info. What does your day look like? What are you eating? How are you sleeping? I find my life is very heavily dominated by the main tenants of sustenance:
1. Eating well. Fast food, sodas, sugar, lack of vegetables, etc. hits us harder than neurotypicals. We must feed ourselves with care. High protein breakfasts are a necessity if you want your meds to work.
2. Sleeping. You must get consistent sleep and sleep at the same time every day. Obviously you can have a few days off, but I find the further I stray from my schedule the harder it is to get back. You’re also going to need more sleep than a neurotypical. Your brain works harder to do what our society requires of us, so we need more sleep.
3. Outside structure. We need to leave the house every day (which can be so hard with executive dysfunction). We also need outside structure… If you expect yourself to manage your life, you’re setting yourself up for failure. My grandpa has ADHD. When he was six years old, his teacher told his mother, your son is going to need a really good secretary! He’s lucky he’s been able to own his own business and do just that. He pays her extra to manage his whole life. Be upfront with bosses/professors/friends that you appreciate being held accountable. You don’t have to (I would even advise against it) share that you have ADHD.
4. Just stuff like exercise and socializing go a long, long way. Daily routines you can rely on and go back to but that don’t trap you. Learn how you learn, learn what helps you. Try new things. I find when I get stuck places putting on a TV show or some music helps immensely. It gives me just enough dopamine to get unstuck or stop doomscrolling. Stuff like that.

Life with ADHD is so, so fucking hard. It’s just enough of a disability to ruin your life but not enough for other people to believe it’s actually a disability. But there IS hope, and being medicated is a huge start. Is there something specific you are trying to do? I have various strategies I’ve developed for various things. They’re not foolproof. My biggest piece of advice is sleep. Everything for me comes back to sleep.

Anonymous 122253

>>122250
youre so right this is a solid four point list to get my life in order. Food may be the biggest obstacle for me ngl i am very nervous of cooking meat … i will learn asap (my girlfriend is currently trying to teach me how to cook well)

the things i am trying to do? mostly academic things. i'm an undergrad student, i dislike my course (was pushed into it by family) but i'm finishing my penultimate year now so i might as well get the damn degree ..

i struggle with getting the coursework done because i really don't enjoy it. this is the biggest stressor in my life right now, i just don't like the stuff, so it's hard to get myself to do these things. Alas.
and i will keep sleep in mind. I've always known i sleep a TON .. never knew it could be cause of the adhd !

Anonymous 122254

>>122246
forgot to respond to this one in my recent reply..
Yes i am also diagnosed w/ ptsd, though i never gave a thought to its 'interactions' with my adhd. working on finding regular counselling!


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Anonymous 120345[Reply]

Does anyone else feel like they are too sensitive for the internet? Like I cant handle being on it for too long lol. I went on 4chan once and was sad at how everyone talked to eachother.
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Anonymous 121949

>>120355
>it's a very small percentage of people on websites like 4chan
hmm, not really, now it's the norm, you easily could see it on twitter or tiktok

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Anonymous 122201

>>121949
instagram too every video i see is just hate/racism/outing themselves as future offenders it's disgusting

Anonymous 122212

Yeah this is a big reason why I decided to stay away from all forms of social media. I did try it a few years when it started becoming popular. But the overwhelming negatively I saw on many posts would too often ruin my mood, or the braindead content in most of the other posts just made me bored. Plus it's easy to become a target for random trolls by posting just about anything. And most posts I tried to make would quickly get buried in all the noise anyway. Overall it was a very depressing, isolating experience. Now I prefer to stick to more obscure places like small discords or forums. I will only chat with people who act like a decent human being. I would eventually like to ditch 4chan because I'm sick of seeing a lot of bad attitudes on there too but unfortunately it's nearly the only place I know of to see regular discussion on some video games or anime I like. Any recommendations for comfy places online with only nice people are greatly appreciated.

Anonymous 122213

>>122212
who hurt you?


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Anonymous 121398[Reply]

Every moid in this world is disgusting, they are all pedophiles or rapists.
They're all disgusting and boring, their social skills are zero, and I'd have a better conversation talking to my own shit than talking to a man.
They are the only "people" who would spend hours explaining why it is okay to impregnate 14 year old girls.
It's not worth being nice to any dangling penis, since I treat every XY in my life badly I'm happier.
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Anonymous 121960

>>121953
my ex was a lolicon too and I absolutely destroyed him kek. he's still yearning for me

Anonymous 121966

>>121960
how did you do it? cause mine was a hardcore shotacon and nothing I did worked. try and make him miss me, see what he lost for being a pervert? nothing. anonymously tipped his irl female friend who's a mom to a toddler with evidence of his pedo antics so she could protect her child? "fuck off, he's my friend". pray to the goddess of retribution? hasn't seem to done anything. I just want him to suffer for being a fucking degenerate but men like him are pretty much the standard and accepted/coddled nowadays so nothing really will get to him and yes, it makes me seethe. most he's done is post on twitter "when will i ever be enough for someone :c" sandwiched between two posts of drawn porn of women getting brutalized shortly after breaking up but that's it.

Anonymous 121968

>>121966
well perhaps I shouldn't say this but I got physically violent with him. told him he had to atone for his sins by letting me slap him as hard as I could, then after I did that I'd continue to treat him coldly and refuse to touch him. I bullied him for months and would just endlessly try to make him cry, then I broke up knowing he had extreme abandonment issues. he flew down and stalked me and I'd just keep telling him to kill himself, got a restraining order. it's been years but he's still trying to stalk me online. I've moved on to date more conventionally attractive, wealthy guys which I know would make him insanely insecure.
> "fuck off, he's my friend".
thats disgusting, I fucking hate women like that.

take solace in the fact that he's probably depressed and is just going through the motions until he dies.

Anonymous 122171

>>121968
thats rude anon

Anonymous 122173

>>121398
talking to my own shit rn and i gotta tell u it’s much better than talking to the moid i just dumped


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Anonymous 121961[Reply]

My dad broke my phone because I said I hated living with my fam. Then he accused me of trying to kill him and my mom for some reason while threatning to light the house on fire if I did not open my room's door. My mother came home and refused to talk to me. I love my life. I will now work more hard for moving out.
Also when the fight "ended" he said why did I not stop him from breaking the phone and that he was sorry for saying anything mean. Um mean does not cover the things you said to me. I'm the same nona that talks about my cheating piece of shit dad. I hope he knows karma is coming for him. People that hurt me know that things never end well for them. I will now go workout.

Anonymous 121962

perhaps you could report him for this? threatening you, damaging your belongings

Anonymous 121964

>>121962
He will just act more aggressive and try to harm my sister and me. He knows people that own guns etc etc.

Anonymous 122056

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>>121964
That sounds like a horrible living situation nona… If his biggest power is being a man, and knowing people with guns, thats not a lot of power. One up him. Buy a gun. Look at trailer parks near you. The worst that it can get is going to court, and he doesn't want that, but just in case, start keeping evidence. Best of luck nona.

Anonymous 122119

>>122056
I would have done that a long time ago…unfortunately owning guns is not legal here


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incapable of love? Anonymous 122092[Reply]

does anyone else sometimes feel like you're incapable of loving, or liking another person in a romantic way? i've never had a crush on another person in my entire life. the closest i've gotten was a close friendship i had with a guy (that ended recently), but when i tried to imagine being intimate with him i felt absolutely nothing. i masturbate to feel good, but rarely feel "horny". the only time i've ever felt that is when purposefully listening to erotic audios in order to arouse myself. am i cooked? does anyone else feel the same way?

Anonymous 122093

Are you me? I'm exactly the same apart from the not feeling horny part. I use erotic audios too.

Anonymous 122096

there is no hope for us
i feel the exact same way, i found a guy who i really liked yet i couldnt imagine myself doing anything with him intimately, the like i felt was something closer to the way i feel towards my younger brother
i guess its something that comes with age


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Anonymous 122076[Reply]

Anybody else here that really don't care about romance? I like sex but romance is not my thing. As long as I can have sex with the guy I don't care about who he loves etc. I don't wake up or go to bed wishing someone else was here I just go to bed or wake up. I don't hate romance I simply don't long for it. I'm only 19 so it might change.

Anonymous 122078

I feel ya, I kinda miss my college days, fuk'd alotta guys but now that working in an office sleeping with anyone will have dire consequences

Anonymous 122082

>>122078
You get it…


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Anonymous 122053[Reply]

Anyone else sexualize themselves to moids to feel good about themselves? I've been doing it for two years now I hate it but I cant help it being told that I'm loved and I made people feel good makes me not want to stop yet I feel so disappointed in the whore I am

Anonymous 122054

>>122053
>Anyone else like being a whore?
You're the only one, sorry.

Anonymous 122055

Find a real hobby and get validation from your own progress in it.

Anonymous 122065

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>>122053
yeah, go ahead and keep sexualizing yourself, throw away any sense of individuality, just make yourself easier to digest
yes this feeling is felt by all nonas across boards
yes we all do this
yes this is what women have been fighting for

Anonymous 122067

I'd say the issue is mostly in that you're doing it for the sake of men in order to get their validation. If you just like looking good for you, that's mostly alright if not taken to the point of obsessive vanity, but desperately seeking out validation from other people belies a self esteem issue, which you no doubt are cognizant of. Basing yourself worth on beauty, something you just sort of have and don't really develop, as well as something that also has a time limit is not conducive to long term mental health and stability. While it's not as simple as >>122055 might make it sound, finding something to do with your life that isn't based on how others view you will probably make you feel better long term. You don't have to be good at it either you can just do it for your own sake.

Anonymous 122074

Unless and until he is the ultimate and ultimate man idk why you would do all that …and for free?! Putting yourself in danger …are you dumb Nona? Check for mold in your apt


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Anonymous 121744[Reply]

The whole phenomenon of this dude is proof that standards/body-shaming/fatphobia don’t exist for males. If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time. But because someone had the audacity to try to socially enforce any rock bottom, bare minimum physical standard for the sacred male, everyone threw a fit and he got a whole media festival of events, money and opportunities thrown at him for weeks on end. In real life a female is torn to shreds for not spending most of her mental energy on appearances, but something as febrile as “hey maybe a male shouldn’t be so fat he can barely walk” is completely socially unacceptable and would get you fired while every handmaiden within ten miles performatively throws themselves on his gangrenous fat-entombed micropenis.
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Anonymous 121914

>>121751
Dating is for retardpilled worthless eaters and it’s completely irrelevant to my post
Sorry I forgot 99.9% of people are illiterate mongoloids and tried to have a discussion about something

Anonymous 121915

>>121914
lol okay but i will continue to oppress fat ugly men like picrel by rejecting and ignoring them for the rest of my life and so will most women. i love fatshaming men

Anonymous 121923

>>121915
Your individual actions aren’t relevant to the discussion of collective societal actions you self obsessed fool

Anonymous 121924

>>121923
I mean use your brain for 1 second. If society doesn't agree on an ideal body type for men, why are male models required to be skinny or fit? Why are characters meant to portray attractive men in shows and movies often slim, fit and tall? If you look at any female centric media youll see that the moids there are conventionally attractive, not fat pigs. You can look up various studies that shows women's prefefence for lean muscular men but perhaps you'd nitpick those studies as well.

Anonymous 122039

>>121744
I see more fat women with regular size men than vice versa. I almost always see fat guys with fat women.


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dreams? Anonymous 122029[Reply]

i had the strangest dream, ive never experienced a dream so long
apparently i was in a thruple with my bf (recurring theme) but i always get confused by the concept as being weird, like i counted and felt something was off but wasn't sure what
we were in his room, he was with this pumpkin headed fella, kinda looked like me but not really
anyways after awhile of this fella cuddling with my bf and having his attention, i began to be unsure of whether he was real
after doing a test by (non violently) pushing him against my bf or more like pushing my bf on top of him on the bed (smushing him) he faded from reality and i came to the conclusion that he was not real, and maybe needed my brain to be checked.
he wasn't really a representation of me i don't think, more like "a stranger."
i woke up naturally but very tired, like the dream itself was exhausting
a REM cycle lasting longer than usual?

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I’m a terrible sister Anonymous 121483[Reply]

I’m the failure of my family. I think my upbringing was pretty rough, but out of my 4. other siblings, I’m the only failure. My younger brother and sister are both well adjusted and normal human beings with jobs and houses. My older brother is kinda a weirdo, but he is super nice and makes a lot of money as scientist. And my eldest brother is the coolest and best person I’ve ever known. He literally took beatings on everyone else behalf and practically raised my siblings and I after a certain point. He always protected me and helped me out, even though I’m a worthless person. One time he beat up a kid who hit me and his girl friend always talked to me because she knew I had problems making friends in high school. He was the kind of guy who would stop on the highway to help cars on the side of the road or lend everyone else money. He even started a few side hustles for my other siblings and I, but I never really got into them.

A few years ago he got married to his girlfriend and was promoted to an amazing job . He had the perfect life, perfect friends, and perfect relationship, and he deserved it. I was always super jealous of him and my siblings even though it’s my fault my life sucks.

About 2 months ago my eldest brother’s wife and kid died so he started drinking. Because his job involves cranes and boats, he got fired when he showed up to work drunk too many times. His life has gone to complete hell and I’m pretty sure he is going to kill himself drunk driving.

All my other siblings and his friends are doing everything they can to cheer him up, but there is literally nothing I can do. My sister and younger brother keep taking him out to eat. His wife’s family is helping him clean up his house. Even my weirdo shut in older brother is driving 300 miles a week to hang out and work out with him. I don’t have money to do anything for him and there is literally nothing interesting I do to talk with him about. I don’t have a family of my own for him to be around like my younger siblings or share any interests with him like my older brother. I can’t even help with all the side hustles that are falling apart without my eldest brother, because I have no real skills.

I wish I was nicer to him and I wish I could do something for him. The last time we talked, he told me he was sorry for not helping me more to have a better life before his friends had to carry him out of the bar.
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Anonymous 121636

>>121624
I think they did. sorry my posts have been sloppy. I usually only post here after drinking a bit. I’ll try to write more clearly to the 3 people reading my posts XD. Even if no one actually cares, it kinda feels therapeutic writing about it, even if I’m not the one suffering most here. Also I’m going to be super rambly here, so sorry in advance. Also I know its probably obnoxious having me refer to my brother by older and young, but if I use a fake name, I’ll probably start using their real ones by mistake.

So, I showed up at my eldest brother’s house last evening. When I pulled into his driveway, I saw my second oldest brother since he was outside laying down a bunch of stones to make this terraced garden thing. In high school and college, he had a job in earthwork/construction, so he is pretty good at that sort of stuff even though he works in a lab. He zones out really hard with headphones and he didn’t notice me until I was right next to him. I spoked him and he dropped a big stone on his foot, but he was cool about it after rolling around in the dirt for a bit. He told me he was trying to make a cool new garden for my eldest brother because he wanted a nice garden and to change things up to remind him less of his wife and kid. I guess that makes sense, although I’m not sure why he doesn’t just move from that house if it’s that much of an issue being there. My older brother did not pick me up and threw me into a piece of furniture, so thankfully my dream about that was no prophetic.
When My older brother and I went inside, and my younger brother and eldest brother where inside playing call of duty zombies. I think my younger and second oldest brother carpooled after work to head over to my eldest brother’s house. My sister wasn’t there that day. For about 2 or 3 hours, we played zombies. When we were teenagers, we’d play zombies a bunch since my eldest brother bought a Xbox 360. I never liked playing it much, but because COD was the only game my brother would buy, the area I was in was too rough to run around, and I had no friends, it was one of the few things I had to do growing up for fun. The only person who hated it more than I was my second oldest brother. He owned a computer as a teenager that he’d play his own games on and was willing to do stuff outside by himself, so he never got as good at the game as the rest of us. We spent a goPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 121637

>>121636
So, we start a fire in a firepit in the backyard and just hang out. We talked about some childhood memories and our family. It was pretty calm and nice. Eventually, my eldest brother gets messed up and My brother carry him to his room. Only my older brother came back out since my younger brother decided to pass out too. Things became pretty awkward since we weren’t talking, and he kept going over to the stick pile to keep the fire going. I don’t remember how, but we started talking about our lives and what we were going to do about our elder brother. He told me something about his old job being willing to taking him back, since he was one of the few people at the port who could get things done. I suggested we try to find him someone else to start a family with, but he said that it would be a bad idea. He also poked fun at me about being too alone myself to be a good wingwomen anyways, but I thin he wasn’t being mean since he doesn’t really have any relationship experience either. I have a lot of trouble reading him, especially when drunk. I remember asking him if I should go to the gym with everyone else and he told me I could but that I probably wouldn’t like it. He said he was going to try to find a beach or hiking trail this weekend, but I said I probably couldn’t make it. Not sure why I said that, but I did even though I never have anything going on. At some point we just start throwing asmany sticks and leaves as we can on the fire to try and make it huge. Then I remember sitting down and resting my eyes and waking up on a couch.

I’m 90% sure I was carried inside but I can’t remember for sure. I don’t know if this is weird, but I enjoy it when you smell like smoke and wood after being around a fire. I called out of work today because I was still kinda buzzed when I woke up and I hate my minimum wage job. I’m still at my brother’s house and I’m probably about to play zombies again in a few minutes as of writing this. I already cooked up some dinner with the help of my younger brother. I want to tell them I will go with them to the beach or whatever. My sister is coming too, so it would be super fun, I think. Idk, this whole situation feels weird, but I think I’m happy. I’m going to try and talk with both of my older brothers some more.

Anonymous 121692

>>121636
>>121637
So it sounds like you were actually useful Nona, you did very well! I'm sure they all appreciated having you there. And yes, you should totally go to the beach with them.

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>>121637
Sounds like it went way better than you expected


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