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How do you deal with hopelesness for the female species Anonymous 122690[Reply]

Everyday it's more clear to me that women will never be free, it makes me feel suicidal even. We are nothing but pets and will NEVER stop being pets, even if that were to happen I'll be dead by that time. What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?
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Anonymous 124373

>>122690
Women have been free in the past and are free in some places. Women can be free again. Join separatists and work on being separate. It may not work on a global scale but it will for the women who care enough like you.

Anonymous 124374

>>123569
a fellow SCUM sister I see

Anonymous 124378

>>124373
Join a female only commune. There is only two that I know of, all of them full lesbian but you can create your own if you have enough good willed Nonas with you.

Anonymous 124381

makeup die like th…

>What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?

there is stuff you can do. one of the most important things that i don't see any of you do is to promote a life in reality. a real life based on reality, not a life based on following narrative.

Anonymous 126135

i cry for a bit. i have discussions with my female friends who share the same views so its a bit cathartic to know im not the only one aware.


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Parents Coddle Loser Older Brother Anonymous 126120[Reply]

Me: worked every summer/scholarships to cover my own tuition, set to graduate with a FT job lined up; grew up super frugal bcs mom used to always complain about how I was a leech on her finances.

Older brother: literally fails so many classes he takes summer school every summer, + was on academic probation. Never had a job before, parents literally send him 1k-1.5k a month on top of covering his tuition and rent.

Usually I wouldn't gaf; not my problem. But recently my parents literally borrowed money from me to cover his rent, again, idrc. But once I had my family over at my place and they were asking how my internship for the summer was going and I was talking about the cool stuff I worked on and the perks I got and my older brother kept saying that it was lame/not that cool so I basically was like "okay this is a lot coming from a chronically unemployed person". Then my mom started glazing him like "one day you're gonna earn big money and retire us"… You bitch you literally borrowed money from me to pay his expenses.

And then she pulled me aside and was like "your brother is really struggling you shouldn't be discouraging him". Like… I wouldn't have said anything until he started coming after me???

The double standard is crazy bcs she never did anything when he used to abuse me as a kid but all of a sudden he can't handle a verbal comeback?? Tf??

Anonymous 126131

mom boy? favorite child syndrome? yeah you probably shouldn't lend them money anymore this is weird. this dude is set to fail if he keeps getting coddled like this anyway


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Mommy/daddy issues Anonymous 125658[Reply]

My parents do not care about me like at all.I had to find a place to live within 15 days. When I told my dad he basically said I should have planned better. My mom treated me like shit about it. My step mom was nice but not in a genuine way. This has set me up for being a complete failure socially.
My managers at my job helped me find a rental. They were the only ones who went out of their way to ask me how it went. To ask when I was moving in. If I needed anything or any help. I feel like I owe them now and like I’ve gotten too close to them and I wanna quit my job and never leave the house again. I know I feel this way because of the way I’ve been treated by my parents.

Anonymous 125660

your parents are neglectful assholes, I'm sorry about that nona. dads getting rid of their old kids ASAP after they find a new woman is a fairly common thing for some reason

Anonymous 125661

>>125660
He doesn’t even have new kids. he’s always been like this. Like he just shouldn’t have been a dad. So I don’t fault him for it. I just wish I wasn’t born.

Anonymous 126053

>>125658
Very sorry to hear that your parents lack empathy for their own daughter. Hope it can turn around for the better for you. Glad to hear that your managers cared. Its understandable that you feel indebted to them, but they were just being decent human beings. Maybe in the future those uncaring parents can be dumped in an old age home that shows that same lack of empathy.

Anonymous 126058

My parents cared too much. My mother would emotionally abuse me for not meeting her ridiculous expectations of me being a genius (had to start school at 5 y.o. as a child with ADHD because of them). She would feel guilty over it which lead to lovebombing spats which fucked up my capabilities for physical affection and made me anxiously doubt any acts of kindness towards me for the rest of my life.
They would bitch and moan about me not being able to support myself while also providing just enough support for me to depend on them, completely unprompted.

I ended up moving to another country and, as difficult as my life was for the first few years, it forced me to learn a lot of important things about life and myself. A part of me even regrets that I wasn't kicked out by my parents the moment I finished college.

Anonymous 126116

>>125658
>I feel like I owe them now and like I’ve gotten too close to them
Helping people who need a hand is actually pretty normal, you're probably overthinking it because your family is fucked up. I hope you find some cool friends, because if this much is enough to make you consider quitting your job, you may be prone to self-isolation. As someone who's dealt with AvPD, I get the social anxiety over that kind of closeness, but self-isolation isn't great for people. Probably gotta work on your confidence and self-worth after all that. You got a job and a rental despite your shitty family, you should be proud of yourself too


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Homelessness Anonymous 126004[Reply]

I'm homeless and waiting to end the world.
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Anonymous 126039

>>126037
the browser history at the homeless center PCs probably gets wild

Anonymous 126073

OP you will never be trent reznor ❤️

Anonymous 126075

>>126073
Actually, one day I will be.

Anonymous 126084

is there a women’s shelter near you? if so, you should go there and you won’t have to deal with these moids. also, if you somehow can, open up a venmo/gofundme and some nonas can help you a bit.

Anonymous 126086

>>126084
I'm on the waiting list, still, for one shelter, and tomorrow I'll try to get on the waiting list of another one.
Still on the streets, waiting to get inside a shelter.

Thanks for the heads up on those services you mentioned.


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venting about my exgf Anonymous 126049[Reply]

sooo i dated a friend of mine for literrally a month over the summer and it was fun but we were both mentally ill and terrible at communicating so it ended with her breaking up with me over twitter at 3am while high on cough syrup lol. when we broke up she told me that she didn't actually love me, and that she only dated me because our friends wanted us to. fast forward a few months later and while discussing our breakup, she said that she would've been willing to work things out if things between us hasn't gotten as bad as they did. recently, a friend told me that she had actually confessed to our mutual friend that she liked me, which is likely what made said mutual friend push us to get together in the first place. also, she told that same friend that she regretted breaking up with me???

i tried asking her about all of this and she just didn't respond which was really annoying because i talked to her later that day at an event we both had to go to. i want to try asking her about it again because i'm equally annoyed and confused and sad and want to know how she actually feels about me.

i wish i could say that i want to get back with her, but that's really complicated. i love her and she's a great person, but she's also a drug addict who refuses to get better and i can't have that stress added on top of everything else going on in my life rn.

should i see how she feels about me nonas?

Anonymous 126056

>should i see how she feels about me nonas
>i love her and she's a great person, but she's also a drug addict who refuses to get better and i can't have that stress added on top of everything else going on in my life rn
You don't need anyone else advising you on this, you already know the answer

Anonymous 126083

please don’t. she does love you but drug addicts will choose their substance over their loved ones. key word: refuses to get help. i have addicts in my family and know that their love is very real but their brains are taken over as if by a demon or parasite (depending on how far in the addiction they are) and their love is pushed out of the way by their chemical need of the drug. in a moment of clear thinking she realized what she did wrong. she has chosen the drugs over you and you don’t need the stress in your life. tell her you will keep your arms open for her if she really does decide to recover but until then you will not contact her. i am sure that she does love you but her brain has essentially been taken over by a substance that is literally poisoning her and also messes a lot with her emotions and way of thinking. and the reason she is being “confusing” is probably because of brain damage. she sounds immature and possibly bpd or something. choose your peace because this girl needs to get better and mature.


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Anonymous 126041[Reply]

my ex fucked a bitch in my bed and to add insult to injury my IEEE glasses cleaning cloth is slathered in her lipstick

i only found out because my friend from high school started dating said girl 2 weeks (!) after it happened. he found out and texted me.

i live in a really big city so it was one of those coincidences that demonstrated to me the reality of god's existence.

i feel really grossed out and violated, he's moved out but i can't sleep at night

what do i do with myself?

Anonymous 126046

Salt water purification


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Anonymous 126028[Reply]

Anyone else struggling with being caring or selfless with a hard time setting boundaries fated to be endlessly disappointed by people who shaft, lie, cheat, steal and otherwise take advantage of one another?

Not being able to say no. I like everyone to be happy. But I feel like people just use each other constantly.

Anonymous 126030

My best friend is like you. I've significantly helped her with saying no to people, and we celebrate every time she tells someone "no."

The best thing you can do is reflect on times you agreed to do something you didn't want to do.
>Why did you agree to it?
Is it really about 'keeping peace,' or is it that you're scared of an outburst if you say no?
>Why did you regret agreeing to it?
Is it because that person never does anything for you? Is it because you forewent something you wanted to do? Is it just because you were already really tired and stressed, and you just agreed to do more work?

Reflecting deeply is most of the solution, you can make a plan for the future:
>Hey nona, can you drive me to (distant location) tomorrow night?
>"No, sorry, I'm really swamped with housework and need to catch up," or "Sorry, I've been trying to fix my sleep schedule and I need to be ready for bed by 9p.m."
Don't lie, obviously. If you actually are swamped with housework, they might offer to help you beforehand, which may work out better for you. If anyone is genuinely offended by such reasons, and they don't offer a helping hand, then they're genuinely bad people and you should welcome their scorn. I'm perfectly happy to burn such people for good; I have said "No sorry, I'd prefer not to" to people's faces (I got the idea from Bartleby). Some never speak to me again, yet others are still close friends.

Being useful doesn't make you respected, it just makes you get used. I'm only where I am because I'm a bitter, jaded person. It's not better to be like me, you shouldn't burn bridges like I do. It's lonely. Find something in the middle that works.

Anonymous 126031

>>126030
>Is it really about 'keeping peace,' or is it that you're scared of an outburst if you say no?

I'm scared they won't like me or want to be my friend if I don't do it.

The moment I stop making an effort, the friendship and/or relationship usually stops in its tracks.

>Is it because that person never does anything for you? Is it because you forewent something you wanted to do? Is it just because you were already really tired and stressed, and you just agreed to do more work?

I've regretted it if they're abusive, disrespectful or hurtful afterwards. I don't necessarily want them to do "something" for me.


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NEETs what do you do all day? Anonymous 125667[Reply]

NEETS = Not in education employment or training. I’m over 25, any over over 25 NEETs? What do you actually do all day?

I’m awake now, took two puffs of my vape. TikTok scrolled, Reddit scrolled and played a game on my phone and I’m immensely bored. Ideas are welcome , any of active forums I should know about? Any & all welcome

There’s a lot of times where I just bed rot and do nothing due to the depression but I think this isn’t one of those days. But I am lonely as I have no one and bored and I don’t feel like gaming tbh.
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Anonymous 125791

A friend asked me to make a website so thats what Im gonna do now since Im still unemployed

Anonymous 125900

>>125667
I was really depressed when I was a NEET as well.
Watching Osomatsu-san made me feel a little bit better but also worse in a way too.
Do you have hobbies? Any plans on not being a NEET anymore? What's keeping you from pursuing a career and education? Depression? I hope you're seeing a therapist about it… My depression was largely situational, and improving my immediate environment and finding a way to advance my education for the sake of my future career helped me immensely. It's not any special job or anything, but I've found that doing anything is usually better than doing nothing and learning things is actually pretty fun.

Anonymous 125901

>>125900
>Watching Osomatsu-san made me feel a little bit better but also worse in a way too.
for me, it's Juushimatsu.

Anonymous 125958

you have to MOVE
your body produces endorphins when it moves around, especially when exercising

you should have a ritual to kickstart to your day
tell yourself that you can play your games after your morning ritual AND breakfast (which includes washing the dishes)
you'll have to wash them anyway so what difference does it make ? if you get rid of your chores first, your fun won't be spoiled by the worry of having to do them

>tiktok
soulless slop
>r*ddit
no comment
tbh i find trooncord less cancerous, i have a few servers that i only use to scroll the meme channels and mute the rest

Anonymous 126008

I'm not formally recognized as not NEET by the government, but I'm actually employed as a god, and always educating myself on matters pertaining to that.

So, fairly thread relevant.


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Anonymous 124469[Reply]

Every moid I've dated that didn't watch porn was very asexual to some degree. The last guy I talked to was demisexual and hearing him say he cared little about my appearance made me feel undesired and unattractive. He made me feel seen, safe and understood everything about me. It often felt like he read my mind, but I couldn't get over that feeling that he wasn't attracted to me physically. I want to feel desired, pretty and hot. Is that wrong of me?
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Anonymous 124595

>>124559
>Send the demisexual men over to me.
What's your contact? I'll tell him to reach out.

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>>124548
What do Muslims have to do with any of this. Act normal

Anonymous 125732

>>124469
Yeah it sounds like you were heavily brainwashed into self loathing and to prioritizing caring about your looks more than simply enjoying your life. If you are really attractive you don't need to be validated by somebody else that's your ego

The real question is, is HE attractive ? As long as you're physically emotionally attracted to them, that's all that matters.

Anonymous 125733

>>124527
Thank you. I'm over here literally avoiding male attention at all costs. Op has a non porn addicted moid and she feels it's asexual ???? We have a real winner here

Anonymous 126003

>>124469
I knew a boy once that didn't watch porn, but was still very sexual. He was a true romantic, the idea of engaging in anything sexual (including porn) without being in a loving relationship disgusted him. Like he was literally fembrained in this regard, but was otherwise masculine (wasn't a femboy at all)
I would have dated him, but I was a NEET at the time and dependent on my bf
So I guess they do exist. But he's the only guy like that that I've ever met


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Am i Toxic Anonymous 125995[Reply]

Been dating with my bf for 7 months now, i trust him but i have the urge to stalk. It's a really bad habit but i cant stop it, everytime i try not to do it i feel like there's something eating me inside out. Since we started dating i never told him to unfollow the girls he follows since they don't have an inappropriate profile and them seem from his uni or his friends girlfriends. I stalked him today after he went to sleep and i sent him the 2 girl's account he recently followed asking who they are? But in a mad way. And i want to know if being this jealous is a toxic behavior. I don't think he shouldn't have friends and i didn't say anything about friends that seem close to him but these new girls seem like they're NOT from his uni and 1 is emo uwu type edgy girl and they both follow him back. I don't understand. Its been hours since im trying to sleep but i cant its already 7 am

Anonymous 125997

No, you have reasonable suspicion. Can’t trust moids these days especially the last part about the uwu emo girl part. You need to confront him. Don’t let him think he can slide away with anything. Also, guys probably like it when you’re a bit “jealous” because it shows you really do love and value them.

Anonymous 125998

>>125997
He woke up and kept apologizing and said that the emo girl was someone he followed really long time ago before we even meet but i probably didn't see her he said he's sure that he didn't follow her recently and he has cut the conversation with her after we started talking. The other one turned out to be his really close friend's gf lol


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