/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>41396
Wrong! It’s Johnny cash you fucking idiots

OP YOU ARE OVERTHINKING THIS

FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS HOLY DO NOT FUCK THIS UP

LITERALLY JUST TELL HIM

“Hey man sorry if this is out of the blue, but I actually really like you and I want to take things slow to make it feel more serious. Sorry if that’s not what you’re looking for, but I want a real relationship, not a hookup”

Either he accepts it or he doesn’t

>>41360
If he's so insistent on having sex with you, then that's a clear sign of what he's looking for. Have you considered that he's putting on an act to get you into bed with him? If he genuinely loved you, he would take it slow. Finding someone who shares all your obscure interests is a shot in the dark, and most certainly so on on a hookup app like Tinder.

>>42037
>If he's so insistent on having sex with you, then that's a clear sign of what he's looking for.
him wanting sex is a sign of him being a healthy moid with a functional libido, nothing more and nothing less

the key is finding out whether he's in it for the long haul or just wants to pump and dump. since this is tinder i would assume pump and dump until proven otherwise. making him wait is a good way to test this, but if he gets the impression that you're stringing him along or friendzoning him then he'll feel taken advantage of and bounce. so if you have an ex who you put out faster than you want to do with him now, then better not let him know that, cause that will make him think he's getting cucked and moids hate that feeling (unless theyre cuckold fetishists)

>>41360
Honestly? I think you should talk to him about your intentions, and see what his intentions are. He might want to be in a relationship with you, and is just picking up on your hints that you want to have sex with him. Tell him how you feel about the situation, and he'll give you your answer.

If you are really great friends, I don't know why she would mind. I am sure that she would even feel bad if she knew she was inadvertently making you unhappy. I think you should tell her first that you like her brother and she might even help you get closer to him.

You know she already knows right?
You just have to talk to her but she is already waiting for you to talk to her about it.

>>42440
I met a really great guy online. He was sweet, funny, accomplished, romantic, really monogamous, independent… but I had to reject him because of the distance. I think it's the right decision but I hate that I might never get to have a bf like him.

He wasn't the one who got away but I wasted my developing years on a random long distance relationship, this was 2010 or so and the some years where long distance relationships were trendy

>>42701
Thank you, that's so friggin sweet. I appreciate you, anon.

Maybe not the one who got away, because I feel like ultimately he just wasn't that into me.

But I can't help but feel like in different circumstances we could've had a very meaningful and beautiful connection. When we met I was in a very dark place. At the start he showed interest to me, even said that he started to like me, but I was too insecure of myself to do anything about it. I just felt like the ugliest most unlovable person at the time who he would abandon the second if he ever got to know me. That feeling made me so passive, and maybe uninterested in his eyes. My self-hatred got so bad I ended up hospitalized for over a month, and after that we just drifted apart. We both tried to rekindle the spark a few times but it didn't lead anywhere.

It's been 2 years, almost 3, when we met the first time, over a year since we spoke last time. I even have gotten into a relationship with a person I could spend the rest of my life with, but I still find myself thinking about him at times. Especially lately.

I just can't shake the feeling of undisclosed desire our thing left me with. I don't think I even love him, I just wanted to experience us together way more than what we actually did. What we had made me feel so alive, I have not felt anything like it since and I didn't get enough of it. I even know that eventually our flame would have subsided, but I'd have left satisfied. Now all I have this bothersome itch and regrets that are always going to haunt me, and I hate it. I should have been more confident, more open and braver.

>>43426
Ngl you will probably regret it. Good dateable guys are incredibly hard to find no matter how far you look and if he was accomplished I’m assuming he had enough to fly you over?

Is that a thing in Portugal?

>>42724

anona depravada!

>>42724
Bom dia from Luxembourg

>>42724
I like how broad the first sentence is and how suddenly specific the next sentence is.

>>43240
>if he told me an opinion i disagreed with, i would accept it
Are you saying he made you agree to accept it in advance or did he mentally force you to agree with what he was saying?

>>43325
i can accept that someone holds different opinions than me, without judging them or freaking out or demanding that they change their opinion to match mine.

he was not capable of that.

Gaslighting is a twitter buzzword that has had its meaning stretched so wide it means literally fuck all anymore.

Just like all twitter buzzwords.

>>43525
Yep. Nowadays, arguing with strangers who disagree with you already counts as "gaslighting".

>>43525
>I have opinion x about subject y.
>excuse me, but isn't opinion x a little bit of an overreaction?
>REEEE STOP GASLIGHTING MEEEE!!!!
Pretty much all it is now.

I'm so lazy I keep disappointing everyone.

This is like the fourth time I built a nice relationship with a professor only to disappoint them when I get a mediocre grade on the final.
I'm starting to think school isn't for me.
I just cannot stand studying. I like doing things and being productive but studying for the sake of learning useless facts just doesn't work for me.

>tfw so lazy i'm heavily researching the stock market
if i can make at least $300 dollars a month to start off with, i'll honestly be gucci. that'll cover my internet bill + meds

>>43601
A lot of people lose trying to play the stock market just watch the retards of wall street bets, they have various YouTube videos failing going bankrupt. Be careful.

>>43602
i'm too broke to be reckless anon, don't worry

>>43601
It's pretty easy to start off with something like an IRA and index funds that pay a dividend. If you can find one that pays 5% annually, every $1200 you put in is $5/month for life.

Her behaviour, includes that if I confront her of a lie, she’ll start talking about how I have trust issues with ppl and she’ll say stuff like “oh, you feel that way, too bad” so talking is a big no-no with her.

>>43593
If you keep being upset like this, just skip being part if you don't feel like it. There is no merit in brewing more drama.

Thank you anon… that was really nice..

Thank you anon!! I love you

This thread, especially the thread pic, have solved all my life problems, unironically

>>43030
I heart you whole heartedly anon poster you made my day this post will make my day any time some jerk butt ruins it. I thank you very very much.

>marries a Brown man
>Have kids with Brown man
>Is upset when her kids aren't as light skinned as she is
I hate myself and my whore mother

>>43516
God that's relatable why do white women do this.

>>43407
i may have fucked 61 people but i have more self-value than to be with a guy who shits in a bathtub and leaves it there.

>>43521
You didn't bang 61 moids in a week, you are a moid making shit up. It's impossible unless you are a pornstar doing gangbang scenes overworking every single day of those 7 days.

Lying is bad. Stop.

>>43552
they never said a week… i'm pretty sure they meant 61 as a lifetime body count, where are you getting a week from here?

>>43503
I don't talk to the men in my courses. Simple as

>>43505
What kind of courses?

>>43506
The majority of my classmates are male, if that's what you're really asking.

>>43507
Nothing to do with dating and relationships but everyone must think you're a stuck up bitch if you don't talk to anyone.
I mean I hate people and I still like talking to them and would hate to be around people all the time and not talk to them.
But you do you. Not judging.

>>43509
Seethe more, normie.