/feels/ - Advice & Venting

So what do y'all feel about non-monogamy? Open relationships, swinging, whatever y'all wanna call it.

Her shirts says “YOUR BOYFRIEND GAVE ME THIS T SHIRT”. Do you think that’s rude? Would seeing someone with that shirt upset you? On the one hand it reminds me of that I’ve never had a bf, but on the other hand it makes me happy because the shirt assumes I have a bf which gives me hope that I can be normal and have a bf.

both a good friend and I have feelings for this one guy, who I'm pretty sure is oblivious that we're both trying to subtly flirt with him. my friend and I have already talked about it and decided that whatever happens, we won't let a guy ruin our friendship. however, I'm scared that regardless of our promise, things might turn ugly, simply because she is a very emotional and sentimental person in general, regardless of whether one of us ends up with him or neither. she's giving me the feeling that she might feel jealousy when I'm talking to him in social situations, even though she says she's fine. I've also assured her that I would be happy for her if she ends up with him because she's still my friend and her happiness is just as important, although I can't really predict that I will be 100% okay if it does happen. has anyone been in a similar situation and how did it end between the friends and the guy? any advice?

What do I do? I just need a quick "Itll be okay" or advice or something.
I feel so anxious and horrible and I just want everything to be okay.

A while back I was involved in a community, and there was one person who was a bit notorious for being bad to people/a bit nasty but I sympathized with them and befriended them. Eventually things singled out and now they're my only friend from that community. They never really did anything to me until recently.

They held a suspicion I was plotting against them with another person from the community and requested that I screenshared my private messages with them to prove I hadn't been. I wasn't ok with that and this lead to a big argument with them threatening to report my account/get it taken down if I didn't. I cracked because my account is dear to me. They promised that this would be the last thing. I was ok with it because I was innocent anyway. We did it and everything was fine again.

After that, some time, they told me they found my address through my IP. I know that usually its very very uncommon for that to happen which is some reassurance right now but there is a possibility which is scaring me like crazy. Recently the suspicion sparked back up again for whatever reason and they wanted something else, that had a lot more information. I refused to give it to them pretty much. Now they told me that they could spread my dox and tell my school/parents/neighbours about the inappropriate things I've done. I am just so petrified. I don't know if I should just delete my accounts/uninstall the app and hope they never find a way to contact me again.. But what if they do actually have my address? What if they contact me through some other means like my parents or my school or something? I don't know what to do. I feel so stuck and trapped. They have my phone number but they can't call it unless they get someone else to do it/get a fake number because my plan doesn't cover international calls.

I really really really don't know what to do. I have indeed done 'inappropriate' things but they don't have my nudes, but they may or may not be able to get me suspended from school/in trouble with my parents if they tried.
I just want this to be over. I hate feeling so trapped. pls help/give advice.
I really really can't just tell my parents this is happening since we're already on bad terms and they would take everything away from me if they found out.

>tfw you get messaged that you were blocked by your bf was because he wanted to run off to another girl, but instead of telling the truth he makes up an entire jumanji game with him being the protag, telling me he loves me and that he wants a future and for me to wait for him when he comes back from his adventure, and then gets all of his friends to lie about it too.
>mfw I don’t even care that much because I already had conflicting feelings at the start
>mfw he tells me to find a man who can give the future I want for me, despite him making multiple claims and promises that he is that guy and I should stay with him and allow myself to be so vulnerable around him
>mfw he leaves me on read,
>mfw I called a suicide hotline from panicking and crying so much yesterday because of the lie he presented me, making me think he still loves me and that “he’ll be back..right?”
>mfw my first relationship
>mfw makes a game that he’s basically going to save the world with his elite skills and ends up making all of this shit up, with his friends who talked to me yesterday telling me everything is gonna be ok
>”I think you are really good for him, anon”
>”you are a wonderful person,anon”
>mfw I spent all this time worrying about him, buying him gifts, having him visit me,
Paying for his transportation (I’m in eu he’s in us)
>mfw I told him my abandonment issues, he says he would never do anything of the sort and that he’s the one for me
>mfw he ends up having me wake up to a message of him claiming love for me, saying he’ll be back in days,weeks,months,years, and that I should just wait for him
>mfw he tells me to trust him
>”trust me, ok anon? Ill be back, I love you.”
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>know bfs password on social media
>he doesn't text a lot of people so it was easy to scroll through old messages
>found out some messages with one of his good friends talking about how they would like to fuck a girl they know
>they rate other girls
>those messages were just a month before we started dating

How should I feel?

I feel like I'm not feminine enough. I swear I try hard AF by dressing well and wearing pretty makeup and perfume and taking care of myself but I always look like a solb :(
I also wish I were more delicate in my moves and behaviours, but it doesn't matter how hard I try, I always end up benig tomboyish

Does anyone else have this problem?
How did you solve it?
Any general tips on how to be more feminine?

>Do you have a fucked up relationship with your mom/dad or both? Why?
>How do you get over it?

It sucks knowing most people have a normal relationship with their parents but I don't

Do you hold grudges? Is it really a petty thing, or just hard to "forgive and forget"? Do you say you're "over" something but not really?
I would say I'm pretty forgiving, but still feel bitter about some stuff from the past. Tell me your thoughts anons!