/feels/ - Advice & Venting

A few days ago I was contacted by a troon asking to be friends, I thought it was okay since I don't have any female friends.
I talked to him for a while until he asked me to do VC, his voice was that of an effeminate man.
The worst part is that I can't even stop talking to him or ghosting him because he could expose me as "transphobic".
I feel stupid for not noticing it sooner; it was so obvious. He was acting very "feminine" in a forced and performative.
If I don't answer he starts spamming me, also he asked me if he could do "yuri" with my character and his (I'm an artist btw).
I have to live with this torture if I want to live, I hate modern society.

What is dating like?

30 and never been asked on a date or had a BF.

“I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’”

This ugly swede made a YouTube video whining and e-begging about how he couldn't get a gf, and ended up marrying a 7/10 woman that saw his videos and fell in love with him. Imagine if it was an ugly woman that made a video like that. She probably wouldn't have gotten as popular as he did and definitely wouldn't have got a cute bf to wanting to marry. I fucking hate moids. They have the easiest lives ever

Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.

Why should I have to settle for an ugly man just because I'm an ugly woman? I hate ugly men.

Men can impregnate multiple women at once so all women should just be able to share the few actual good looking men.

Do you guys ever just stop mid goon to cry? Like seeing people have sex and wanna have sex with each other just makes me want the same thing so bad.

I think I’m reaching the end of my relationship and I can’t tell if I’m finally becoming honest with myself or just spiraling.

The weirdest part is that my boyfriend has no idea how much manipulation and performance existed at the beginning of our relationship on my side. Not even in a cartoon evil way. More like… I knew how to become what he wanted emotionally and I did it very intentionally. Sometimes when he says romantic things to me now, I get this horrible detached feeling because instead of hearing sincerity, my brain immediately goes: “yeah, but you engineered this.” Like I built the emotional architecture and now I’m uncomfortable living inside it.

But then another part of me wonders if ALL relationships are kind of like this to some extent. Maybe most people just aren’t self-aware enough to interrogate attraction and attachment this hard. Maybe everyone performs a version of themselves in the beginning and then later feels trapped by it. I genuinely can’t tell anymore if I’m uniquely toxic or just hyper-conscious of dynamics most people leave unexamined.

Lately I’ve been thinking about ending things. I can feel him trying harder to get closer to me, texting more, being more attentive, wanting reassurance. It almost feels like he senses me slipping away. And instead of making me feel loved, it makes me feel trapped and guilty. Sometimes I can’t tell if he actually deeply loves me or if he’s terrified he won’t find someone else who fulfills certain emotional needs for him. Then I wonder if I’m the reason he feels that way now. Like maybe I slowly trained him into emotional dependency and now I resent him for it.

What’s also confusing is that one of the reasons I liked him initially was because he felt normal compared to me. Grounded. Socially functional. Less mentally tangled. But over time he started becoming stranger, more isolated, more emotionally intense, and I genuinely can’t tell whether that was always inside him or if being close to me dragged it out. I hate even typing that because it sounds narcissistic, but it’s honestly something I think about a lot.

And despite all this, he gets under my skin in a way nobody else ever has. It’s almost physical. Certain tones in his voice or certain phrases instantly trigger rage or disgust or panic in me and I become obsessed with analyzing WHY he has that effect on me specifically. Sometimes I think I’m psychologically studying him more than loving him. WhPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I survived COCSA when I was in middleschool. Everyone in my family knows, yet none of them talk about it (I don't really expect them to), and I'm too scared to tell anyone. Since it happened, I have had to deal with this by myself. This of course didn't go well, since time after time, since I was eight, I've somehow ended repeating the same situation where I'm degraded sexually.

I have only learned one thing from all of this, and it's the reason why I feel I should step out of dating for a while (although predators always find a way to slip into your social circle ). But I have also learned that anything that you "seek" in a man, you can already give it to yourself.

Dating feels amazing, but if you're doing this for a specific and selfish reason, you should really question if whatever you're looking for can already be found within yourself (or other relationships like you girlfriends). Be kind, take care of yourself.

I hope things go better for me. I'm tired, terribly tired of going through the same situation agan and again. After all of this, I unfortunately forgot how a normal relationship should feel like. One where I don't feel disposed after they…well.

i really like my bf, but i can't help myself wishing i was with a girl. he''s amazing, does everything well, we get along super well, have similar hobbies, enjoy each other 's company, he's polite and fun to be around, even my parents like him. The dates are cute and fun, but i feel like im not really feeling much, kind of hollow. on the otherside I love my bestie, she is amazing, caring, loving, even drove in a snowstorm to save my ass once. we made each other bracelets, cook for each other, talk all day, she gave me a beautiful birthday card and took me to a concert, and we even say goodnight messages to each other everynight. I feel guilty about this because i feel like i'm getting something out of our platonic friendship that i cannot get from my boyfriend, and i keep apologizing to him because i feel like its not right. I told him before that i do love girls and he's my first real boyfriend that i want to try stuff out with.
>lmao just dump him and run away with Bestie
I can't do that since she is in a really sweet relationship herself. her BF and Her both had awful awful relationships in the past and they are sooooooo sweet for each other, i do not want to wedge myself in between them, despite bestie asking her bf if he'd be cool with kissing girls and he is. Bestie also told me she just wants to be besties and not do anything romantic, despite us both kinda crushing on each other since we met and we had to stop ourselves couple times before we did something. idk if im making any sense but i just know i want to have a relationship with a girl, but also still have a close companionship with my bf. Maybe the perfect scenario would be me being mainly with my bf, and occasionally go on dates with girls, but idk im just rambling eughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh help me nonas ;_;