/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>114989
Then don’t?

I feel you, OP. I don't have any mirrors in my house anymore, and last time I went to try on clothes in a dressing room, I had a mental breakdown.

I fucking hate the way I look but I love looking into mirrors. They're like otherworldly portals to me. I await the day my reflection moves differently.

>>115010
Same. I wish I could see the mirror without me in it.

I made my narcissistic, bipolar and abusive mom lose custody of me and my older sister, she's now living in the streets and my whole family hates her

I plot my revenge everday. Pigs are going to bleed and i will not care, trust me. There are a lot of moids that just need to be kept in a basement.

sometimes I think men don't learn or change until money or violence are involved…

>>114899
i don't remember opening any obvious phishing links directly from people on my devices but i don't know, i could've. ive opened sketchy links on 4chan threads from anons before.
>factory reset your devices and change your passwords.
i've already changed my passwords. i honestly didn't think about factory resetting everything before, but that might fix things. i'll work on that, thanks.

>>114629
Hello OP, here's what I learned about online stalking, and how I managed to stop it when it happened to me.

1. Delete your social media accounts. Make new ones, do not post personal info, don't post your face, location, anything. Just be anonymous. Get a vpn if you must, but I don't think it's necessary.

2. CHANGE YOUR PASSWORDS. Use passwords that are extremely difficult to guess. Look this up if you don't know how.

3. When you meet people, make sure they are people you can track down, who have accounts with their friends and family on it who have to be accountable, preferably someone with mutual contacts in real life. Do not disclose info to people who don't have accountability to others.

I hope this helps you. Also try to run a scan on your pc, with a trusted antivirus software.

>>114898
It seems like the answer is pretty obvious, delete and remake all your accounts, get a new phone, new number, everything. Just replace literally everything they have targeted you on. And if they've found you here, don't post.

Shitty but it seems like you're desperate.

>>114902
nta but can you elaborate your third point? i find it very interesting.

>>114982
nta but basically become a creep and seek non-creeps

>>114861
That's so dumb tho, they think we preselect them based on whether another woman thinks they're datable, but how is a guy who's ready to leave his girlfriend/wife for me dating material? Why would I want a man with 0 loyalty who could easily be taken by the next best woman? And on top of that why would I destroy a relationship for that? They really just think we hate each other trying to compete for "the top 10%" of them lmao

huora

>>114806
He's using all that stuff (showing you pics, low rating of you) to keep your self esteem low so he can keep you settling for him. He's showing you his true colors, don't fall for it. This is toxic and manipulative.

>>114834
>>114806
It's blackpill nonsense. They believe that women are only into toxic men, that they will only be with men who's value is much greater than their own. So they do this whole thing where they act unavailable, maintain multiple female situationships, dread game women and play women against tach other.

>higher ranked women

Dump him. Or start comparing him to hotter guys so he sees how it feels.

ykw its probably pertinent to point out that he lives in a country pretty far away from mine. all of the guys ive talked to have either been in a diff country or state. way too anxious to talk to men who live near me

>>114930
>Said he only wants something casual
No contact time nona, you're getting attached to a moid who will use and hurt you

There is no point continuing to speak to him

>>114046
No, it's not weird at all. Your age difference is only 2 years and you're both adults, so everything's fine

>>114046
Nope. You're in the same peer group, and an 18 and 20 year old can easily be classmates in college or coworkers without it being weird. If it was 25+ and 18 that would be iffy, but it's not. Have fun

>>113885
A lesbian is a homosexual woman. If that's your sexuality, you're a lesbian. It's not about looks or aesthetic. A lot of people dunk on femme4femmes but it's mainly because they're common in media portrayals and tend to look down on GNC women, but if you aren't like that it's fine. Just get a backbone about it

Who will be my girlfriend?
I'm socially stunted, a virgin, and average looking
Also I will eat you out for as long as it takes

>>108556
>first crush?
Raven from the Teen Titans.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
Full of troons, as usual.
>favourite lesbian media?
I've read Price of Salt and Carmilla, but honestly I keep going back to wholesome doujins of ships I really like from different anime. Also Sailor Moon I guess.
>lesbian media you hate?
I really did not like Bloom into you. Anything aimed at males I guess.
>coming out stories
I came out to my mother in the McDonald's drive thru. She seemed fine with it then, told me she'd love me no matter what, etc. I think she's secretly disappointed in me, though.
>bitch about being lonely
Damn, I guess I see myself as an unattractive fat and ugly monster, even though I'm not really all that overweight. Every time I download tinder the only girls who swipe right on me are troons and unicorn hunters. Some bitch who seemed really sweet at first eventually revealed after a week that she was looking for a third.
>butch? femme? how do you feel about labels?
I kind of hate them ngl. Tomboy is the only one I like.
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Would you date a bisexual woman, nona?

Why or why not?

Only after escaping troon spaces did I realize it was a thing. I guess I'd be open to it because I haven't had any relationship experiences to sour my opinion of them yet.

>>114844
I went on a dating site to find women one time just to try, but no women messaged me. I've never in all my years been approached by a woman who was interested even when i dyked out my look
>>114851
basically what nona said

>>114852
im straight and would eat out another woman for fun, so maybe

realistically speaking i wouldn't mind dating/marrying/fucking another woman or even being a cuckqueen if she saved me from my shithole country

>>114914
If you want to eat out other woman and even date her, then you're not straight, simple as it

>>114919
l o l only in extremes like drunk or "green carding" in most cases no

>>113908
just how ugly are you?

>>113913
gtfo moid, you wouldn't get it

>>72555
Sounds like you have an attraction to the GAME of love itself, but can't commit. You like the chase, but you love it too much, and it leaves you wanting when feelings become mutual, since you haven't become content with loving what being in a relationship is actually like.

Hope you're doing better now nona, been a while.

I walked past six baby skunks eating a trash pizza

i fully believe in the concept of toxic camaraderie. the concept of friendships can be toxic, in spite of how media portrays friendship as always being pure or wholesome. for example, people who assume that you do not like them or are against them as people solely for the fact of not desiring to be their friend. in actuality, most people just want to have friends that they believe align with their goals and interests. being selective about who you are friends with, or not desiring to be friends with someone, does not indicate that you are against that person or dislike them AT ALL. it just means you do not perceive someone as adding to your life - that is not dislike or hatred, or that you are against them as people. people are groomed by society into believing that someone that does not want to be friends with them threaten their security. i can think of examples in real life where someone assumed that my desire not to be their friend was based on malicious feelings towards them, where none but neutrality existed. you do not have to want to be friends with EVERYONE - that is a waste of emotional energy and humans are limited by their lifespan and how they dedicate their time.
additionally, being friends with someone can result in malicious behavior, even if you BELIEVE that the friendship itself is pure. just because you are friends with someone does not mean you will hate someone just because your friend does. people who are friends and think of their friendship as a means of hating people together, that is absolutely dumb. friendship should be about supporting your friend, not about hating people together, even IF you care about your friend or perceive them as being hurt by someone and believe that hatred is justified, when it never is - media's portrayal of such friendships is an example of propagating and normalizing toxic camaraderie.

How could I have been so stupid? It's not like I was content with my circumstances but I always coped by thinking I could be satisfied with less, with nothing. I was careless, I overlooked many things and I can no longer go back. Instead of being this worthless I should have worked into bettering my life even if it was useless, even if it wasn't enough, I would have had a silver of hope I could hold onto. Things will continue happening in spite of me. There's truly no point, I can feel myself crumbling. I can't protect anyone

sometimes i wish that i was the only person on earth at times. i know its selfish but i just can't keep dealing with people who are not as "sensitive" about certain things as i am. a part of me understands this as weakness. but god i am so tired of dealing with other people all the time. and if you try to decentralize, if you try to make your own little space, you get bullied for it and targeted because you wanted inner peace in the first place.

not to be an asshole as i can see ur sad and i hope u can feel better but this is justa vent shitpost.and couldve easily been in the vent thread or ur own journal instead of shitting up the catalog.

>>114850
Sorry I seriously tried to delete after posting but it said I can't. I only lurked before but apparently it wasn't enough to not make a stupid mistake. Sorry I hope it gets buried fast or something

>>114842
This is not a weakness, people are just exhausting. Solitude is key the key to happiness in my universe. Pretty much everyone i encounter annoys the shit out of me. Oh sure i would like to meet someone i mesh and vibe with but thats like finding a needle in a haystack. If i do great. But im not counting on it or anything. Things you love make life bliss so forget everything else. Trying to control everything and resisting the state of things too much just makes you unable to appreciate the bliss.

>>112342
pseud

>>112342
You give good insights but I get the sense that you just like hearing yourself talk and its shown by you going off on tangents that have nothing to do with OPs post. Maybe it's just a stream of consciousness or autism. I agree though the average person is a literal NPC

how is romantic/sexual attention a win? men will literally fuck anything that moves and fall in love with anyone who's even vaguely nice to them

>>112225
I understand, anon. Idk if people itt are pretending not to get it. I'm sorry that your cousin insulted you that's really mean and she sucks. My cousins are pretty normie. In my early teens one of them asked me if I had a bf and when I said no she asked why not and that made me feel we live very different lives. I was thinking obviously I don't have one. I think it's weird your cousins were that open about their sex lives but that might be a cultural difference. I know how lonely it is when your cousins have boyfriends and then husbands and children and it seems effortless. And when older relatives say it's your turn at weddings and ask you when you're getting a bf. Different worlds.

>>113980
yup

>>112327
go back

>>112232
They're not bragging. It's just something attractive people do and assume everyone has the same experience, it's really not that deep