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I am pregnant Anonymous 122619[Reply]

I found out a week ago that I am pregnant.
I am married, have been for 2 months to my husband who I have been with for 3.5 years now.
I am scared.
Right now I am the sole breadwinner of the house and I don't even make that much money. Enough for bills but hardly enough for anything else and slowly have been draining my savings.
He doesn't work. He had a good paying job but left it to pursue school 6 months ago. And what he is in school for I honestly don't think he has a future in.
Other than the financial struggles, neither of us are ready to be parents.
I think I could handle being a Mom, but I do not want to be a Mom. I am not ready for a lifetime commitment yet. I wanted to enjoy being newleyweds longer.
He is not ready to be a Dad. Emotionally immature.
The reality is slowly dawning on me on how hard this will be for us and I am really distraught. We are broke and I am married to a man who literally cannot handle fatherhood. I am terrified.
At first I thought I would be excited for a baby but I am more scared, mostly because of ny husband being unprepared. I know he couldnt support us but I know one of us will have to stay home with baby all day.
I just dont know what to do.
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Anonymous 122974

Hey. It will be ok. The terror of life does not stop when one is a mother. I've got two kids, one is only 3 months old. I thought I would die having a second child because my first was so wilful and crazy but she has defied every expectation in a most lovely way.

The truth is you will never feel "ready" even after you have kids. You grow woth them. Every age, stage, shoot every day is different. And men generally buck the f×ck up when they have children (i know personally, my husband is kind of a manchild, lol).

Don't let the terror win. You are strong, and the life within you wants to live. Give it a chance. Give yourself a chance, give your husband a chance. Motherhood is HARD and sometimes you have to scream into a pillow but it will mold and shape you into a different, stronger, more capable, more kind and loving person than you ever would have imagined. I dont know you, but I believe in you.

Anonymous 122986

Nona you need to realize something. The same way you now have to face consequences because you married a retard who was still trying to "find himself", if you abort behind his back you can (and should) kiss that relationship goodbye.
It's not worth living with the lies, the fear and most importantly the guilt it will drive you mad. Keep them both or be ready to lose them both and reroll again later.

+ nobody ever feels ready to become a parent

>>122641
I second this
he has to take back his job if he has to beg them on his knees to take him back.

Anonymous 122994

either abort now, make him go back to his job, or divorce(and abort)

Anonymous 122997

>>122619
Abort now.
And make him go to jail for forcibly impregnating you.

Anonymous 123002

Please abort. Don't give this thing a shitty life with unstable parents.


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Anonymous 122967[Reply]

how do i tell my boyfriend murdering me is bad for the economy?

Anonymous 122970

murdering you would actually be a net positive for the economy, if only because less people = less stress on a dire housing crisis

Anonymous 122971

The idea that removing individuals helps the economy by reducing housing demand ignores the immense value each person contributes through labor, consumption, innovation, and community. Economies thrive on human activity—not on reducing populations through violence. Ethical societies solve housing crises through policy, not by eliminating people.

Anonymous 122973

>>122970
but who buy cigarettes

Anonymous 122981

>>122970
this generally only applies to old people and people who own too much housing. zoomers don't have anywhere as much pressure

Anonymous 123000

Although the feminist movement has already come quite far in the past 150 years, some things (sadly) still seem out of reach for us.
Men will be men.


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i tried making small talk yesterday Anonymous 122664[Reply]

i'm a confirmed autist.
i know my parents want me to be more social, so i've been trying to at least make some small talk.

last night i went to eat dinner with them.
my dad asked how my day was. i said it was good and asked how his was.
he responded by mimicking my voice in a mocking tone.

i didn’t say anything, and just went back to my room.
i made ramen on my hotplate and went to bed.

this morning my mom told me she called him out for it.
he got pissy and said i was "disrespecting him" with my tone.
then he got angry at her for defending me and left for a while.

i asked my mom why she wanted to be with someone like that for the rest of her life and she just said "relationships have highs and lows."
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>>122668
I think I overdid it, but in your text, it seemed like your father was a bit of a pain in the ass. Well, it's a good thing you're going to college, at least you'll get a change of scenery.

Another thing that helps in dealing with people is not giving them too much importance, seriously. Most people are normies who will just pass you by, there's no reason for you to be too anxious about anyone in this world.

Anonymous 122673

At a certain point you'll be old enough that your parents stop giving a fuck about your lack of friends and social inadequacies. Some of us are just incapable.

Anonymous 122964

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>try to make small talk with mother about how I feel im falling behind in life
>berates and belittles me, tells me I don't need to improve at anything to work at McDonalds

Sometimes I wonder why this woman bothered having children she didn't want to love

Anonymous 122966

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>>122964
I'm sorry, anon. There's nothing worse than having parents, especially a mother, who you can't talk to or vent to. I have the feeling that most boomers and X's are completely insensitive. I don't even bother talking to any of them. But were you trying to vent just about work or about something else too?

Anonymous 122987

>get abused by asshole
>i must be autistic
?????!!


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Anonymous 122527[Reply]

I want an AI/robot bf so badly
>will not have any flaws, never make any mistakes
>will have perfect and pretty facial aesthetics
>will have a muscular build
>will never bald
>taller than average w a bigger than average dingdong
>will be completely loyal to me
>never cheat, can't experience attraction to another person than myself, has zero interest in anyone but me
>can never disrespect or abuse me
>completely honest and full og integrity
>will do all the household chores for me
>will never be contradictory or inconsistent
>never hypocritical
>will give me daily massages
>always tries to make me happy
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Anonymous 122560

>>122559
AI love is the purest form of love there is

Anonymous 122663

I always think about how the bots are not people, and eventually lose interest.
How can I find a more immersive experience? (besides real people)

Anonymous 122677

>>122663
drugs

Anonymous 122979

>>122527
whats the pic from

Anonymous 122983

>>122527
I don't think you could afford the METAcrosofTESLA subscription, and even if you could they will try to scam you with stupid excuses like "memory full, pay to upgrade your cloud plan", "upgrade needed, pay to unlock", "he is moody now, pay to unlock more kindness credits"
You would have to be a slave to have your own slave. There is no escape.


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Anonymous 105650[Reply]

Anyone else here schizoid?
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Anonymous 121063

Im extroverted, hate being alone, love being around nice people, love sex (who doesnt), love having fun and being happy.

Anonymous 121074

>>120910
No it actually sucks, it's a very miserable way to be.

Anonymous 122929

My mother told me she's always suspected I was, but I don't hate people. I feel more in my skin as an autistic and free when I'm alone.

Anonymous 122954

>>121063
I hate sex

Anonymous 122962

me… very


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asexual/low libido with a girlfriend who isn't? Anonymous 122905[Reply]

i somewhat recently got into a relationship with a girl that i've known for a while. i've had talks with her before we started dating about how i'm not really interested in relationships, but that has (obviously) changed since i met her. i really like her, and i'm in no doubt about my feelings for her. but, now that we're together, she's made somewhat flirty comments about my body, or hinted at sexual things. i don't mind that she does it, and if anything i find it sweet that she views me in that way. the problem lies in that i'm very low libido, arguably asexual. i'm not repulsed by the idea of sex, or having sex with her, but i really have no need for it. it's not really my thing. if she asked me to, i'd do it for her, but i'm pretty indifferent.

how do i break the news to her?

Anonymous 122907

>>122905
I think just telling her the way you wrote it here is good enough, it's very respectful. If this makes her leave, it would have done it sooner or later, so just wait for an appropiate moment and tell her.


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my boyfriend used to be a porn addict and it makes me miserable Anonymous 122881[Reply]

I feel like being a woman who likes men it's so humiliating, why am I madly in love with someone who used to comment weird stuff to onlyfans models? how am I attracted to someone who used to jerk off to anime girls with dicks??
He also likes rough sex, I developed a "fetish" for this too, but it makes me feel so bad that I always end up crying after. The worst part is that he also started slapping me and hitting me outside of sex, I feel so miserable and unlovable
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Anonymous 122898

>>122881
>He also likes rough sex,
Must be circumcised

Anonymous 122900

>>122898
We must CIRCUMvent all CIRCUMsized moids
No but fr death to all mutaloids

Anonymous 122902

>>122898
i was thinking the same
>>122894
at the very least leave him. you can do better and deserve better

Anonymous 122904

>>122881
girl … just break up with him damn

Anonymous ## Cleanup crew 122932

Moved to >>>/nsfw/15114.


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Anonymous 122863[Reply]

>Never have had a friend
>Never had a group of girlfriends to vibe with
>Never had a boyfriend or guy friends to do guy stuff with
>Feel used by people constantly
>People only want to talk about themselves, their life, their problems
>Unless it's about them or related to them, they literally don't care
>You have to care about their life / problems / passions but they don't care about yours
>You want to support, hype them up, be there for them but they're never there for you
>Every friendship / relationship feels one-sided where you care about them but they won't ever care about you
>Share something about your life, and people don't care, unless they can make it about themselves somehow
>Feels like people only like what they can get from you or how you make them feel
>People always say I look sad or upset

Anonymous 122868

do you have discord? would you like to talk with someone?

Anonymous 122869

Why have you never had a friend?

Anonymous 122871

I grew up probably a decade before you, if you're the age group I think you are. We had a very different social atmosphere and different patterns of relatability then. It's a lot harder to build bonds now, especially with complications made post-covid and due to the changing nature of the Internet becoming enmeshed with everyday life. Including social media being engineered the way it is. It's not just you. It's a pervasive issue that's tricky to articulate but as much as it feels like it, you aren't alone. It's just harder to connect with people like you because of the way of the world currently.


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Anonymous 122655[Reply]

What is being in love- real love, not infatuated or forcing to try to find the good in a relationship, actually like for you?

Anonymous 122656

>>122655
First, we have to both be virgins. I don't care what modern times has to say, it's not true love unless it's with your first and only partner.
Second, we have to be comfortable talking to each other without having to put on a show, the same way I talk to my family.
Third, we have to both have some sort of life outside of the relationship, which, on the other hand, won't encroach upon it. The relationship has to be the most important thing in our lives, but not the only thing.

Anonymous 122658

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never been in love. maybe never will. its okay

Anonymous 122678

>>122658
I love you, nona.

Anonymous 122850

we both stim equally hehehe


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how to stop being mentally ill in my relationship? Anonymous 122806[Reply]

it's been some time since i've started officially dating a girl that i've been friends with for a while. we're pretty close, and i love her more than i can really put into words. but, i've been struggling with anxiety in our relationship. if she doesn't text me back within an hour, i start to get anxious and worry that she's mad at me. even if she has a totally reasonable excuse that she's told me beforehand, i still worry. do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.

how do i stop myself from getting anxious and worked up when she doesn't text me back? something i do now is deleting instagram, so i don't have to worry about getting a notification that she's texted me. it helps a bit, but i still can't help but worry.

Anonymous 122809

>>122806
sounds to me that "stopping being mentally ill" over it is just putting a fig leaf over the real problem. do you have low self esteem, nobody else other than her who can tend to your needs etc

>do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.
what is it?

Anonymous 122819

>>122809
i mean, i would probably argue that i have low self esteem lol. but she makes me feel loved, which is why i love her so much. i have other friends that i like, but not in the same way i like her.

>what is it?
i’d rather not say, but she didn’t cheat on me or anything. it’s not really something i hold against her either.

Anonymous 122822

>>122819
idk how to put it but I think this feeling signals a legitimate concern that she doesn't make you feel safe

doesn't mean she's a bad gf but maybe you don't feel you can rely on her to take your side
or not to violate her boundaries
just minute things that are important but you forget about eventually while your subconscious still buzzes about it


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