/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>45243
Sorry that happened to you but also
>having a pity friend
Do you realize you're the same as the people talked about ITT?

>>45252
>having a pity friend
Do you realize you're the same as the people talked about ITT?

I see the point you’re trying to make but this girl basically used me and thought I didn’t know. If someone else came along she would dump me or run away from me then be all friendly later when it was time to walk home together. My very first day of high school I found out that she had told people in my class about something that had happened to me when I was 6 (I’m still really curious how that played out as she wasn’t even in my class, how did the topic come up?). I meant “pity friend” as I didn’t let on to her that I knew she made faces at me behind my back when I spoke to her and never mentioned the thing about her dad. Most of the time in high school she flat out ignored me as she had other people to prey on, who I suspect were also just putting up with her. She was horrible but I let her do it as I felt sorry for her and I don’t think she realised that I knew what she was really like. Basically I let her low-key bully me and think I wanted to be her friend my entire time at school because I knew no one else liked her much. I never spoke to anyone about this apart from when I blew up at her, which I would never have done if she hadn’t told everyone about something embarrassing about me for the second time (that I know of, I could believe it happened more often).

>>45223
Why didn't you?

>>45233
Based.

>>45233
Well played anon, I hope you dream like a baby at night.

>>43867
Here’s a serious answer; what happened? What went wrong? What made him so great? Give us more info and we’ll try to see what you can do

>>43867
I'm so sad to hear that. Don't worry though, we all have ups and downs. You will find someone better.

relatable, but u dont need him anon. learn a new hobby, go on a nature walk, make new friends, its cheesy but you wont need him. i had to learn too, i was depressed violent for like 8 months, and i realized fuck that asshole. ur better off. this is nights without the constant anxiety of abandonment. nights you can sleep peacefully

>>43867
He didn’t deserve you. We all have someone made for us in the world, and by abandoning you he has secured his destiny with Jezebel.

>>43867
How did you push him away anon? Also surely you must still have a way of contacting him if you truly miss him so much?

>>44922
>almost 5 years
>alone
i need friends

>>44922
>2 and a half years
>Playing video games, watching mindless youtube, and browsing mindless imageboards
I want to die every day.

>>44928
Why would covid affect neets? It hasn't affected me at all, literally done nothing but give me some free dosh. I live in the midwest and no one has bothered me about a mask the few times i've gone to the grocery store despite the signs saying it's required.

The anxiety I feel every time I even think about doing something, anything is eating me alive. There is no escape, and there is certainly no hope.

>>44922
You can't have anime/shows/manga be the main "meat" of you life, it should complement your life like how salt adds flavor to your food.
Seems like you are missing a hobby or two in which you are engaged in, consuming media is kind of passive. We get bored/irritated if we don't balance out the passive/active actions in our life (my pet theory, disregard if it sounds like bs)
Active actions can include: socializing (zoom meetings count), exercising(light walks around the neighborhood is fine), learning something new etc etc.
I also league once in two days, even that shit game, is enjoyable if done sparingly.
And it doesn't have to be a grand ceremony or anything just different enough to knock you off of the rutt you are currently in. You can do it anon.

>>43110
Stop running up to people in their cars and screaming at them for not wearing masks, please. Thanks.

>>43210
Good. You're one of the smart ones.

>>43110
Just my onion but I think you're expecting more paranoia because of the trend to record strangers and post it online, or the trend of "lolcows"

>>43110
idk anon, but I have had the same thing happen to me. I've had mild anxiety for years, but suddenly last year I started have constant panic attacks and periods of dissociation. It's absolutely terrifying and, yeah it's easy for people to say "huh just calm down, do deep breathing, meditate" but that doesn't always work

hang in there. just keep reminding yourself it will pass

>>44627
I used to find it so hard to cut toxic friends from my life because I had so few friends to begin with, and didn't want to end up alone.
Then one of my 'friends' tried to fuck my bf, and he turned her down and told me immediately. I tore into her and then blocked her on everything, and got many of my friends to do the same.
Suddenly, now that the floodgates are opened, I don't have problems cutting toxic bitches out of my life. I have a few good friends and my bf, that's all I really need.

Its hard to cut people off that you genuinely were friends with (at one point or another). After dealing with some “friends” who introduced absolute chaos and nearly ended my stable relationship of 5+ yrs, it took a lot of strength, and willpower to cut them off. Really, spent many nights stressed, some nights crying, but its all worth the growth as time goes on. Systematically block, do NOT respond to messages, and completely ignore them(out of sight out of mind sorta thing as best as you can). Once someone truly crosses the boundary of absolute toxicity, you have to protect yourself/your relationship, and tbh know your worth. Don’t stay associated to truly toxic people, that’s torturous. My bf and I just said the other day how happy we both felt after not associating w/ said toxic people for a couple months now. It really does no good to keep people around who just couldn’t give a shit or don’t care to.

>>44627
I just never talk to anyone I don't want to talk to. If the friend becomes "toxic", then I disengage.

Cut off a friend of 15 years. She became more and more toxic and negative the more I got my life on track. Feels good/No regrets.

Best way to heal and deal with breaking off of shitty friends is literally the hit the gym/delet facebook adage. Exercise is healthy and there is no feeling quite like running into them with your life in order, body in shape, career on track, saying hi, and being too busy to think about them again. Or if you never run into them again, good for you.



>>44653
Truth. They don't improve, and if they do, they can reach out first, not you.

I had an online friend I made thought it would have worked out, it didn't. I dont want to use the word toxic because it is used so blatantly. She was a good person i know deep down, my gut tells me she hid things from me, I hope she gets better though.
I ghosted her and a group though for personal reasons, I think she was sad, worried most of all pissed and I finally deleted her and it was best for both of our parts.
The trust had been broken long ago, always go with your gut.

>>44412
>late 20s
Don't they ALL claim so? wink wink nudge nudge

>>44413
are you mentally challenged?

I'm over him despite never thinking I would be.

A cute boy followed me on twitter and instagram.

I stopped talking for a couple days with a friend because I get in moods and get too scared to say anything, and she said she missed me! I have no idea why she thinks my company is so pleasant that she misses it, but it made me really happy and I almost cried because I am starved for pleasant social interactions. I hope she really meant it.

>>45110
Moids don't care about personality. They always go for fucking looks first, talk later.

>>45113
If you don't have anything to talk about, they won't want to talk to you, which leaves you with…

>>45102
You never approached men when you were fitter, so you're now paying the price with your virginity

>>39949
Yeah. Lose weight.

>>39949
>Any advice?
Pay.

>>44471
OP please listen to >>44472 and fathom that not everyone is a lesbian and you just like feminine men.
If you were truly lesbian, you would have masturbated furiously to your own body (like how male homos "joked" about losing their virginity by having sex with an exact clone of themselves) and you would have been into tomboys and "reverse traps" like Kino a long, long time ago; even before you discovered hentai.

Christ, why have we, as an entire civilization, have not developed some kind of psychological test to determine if someone is truly a homosexual/bisexual so as to not make people force themselves into a homo/heterosexual relationship with someone.

I swear to god, ordinary androgynous people and those who are attracted to them are going to go extinct in our lifetime. Everyone is going LGBT+. All cute guys are homos or transition and all women into them are lez or ftm.

>>45122
On the Internet, yeah. Take your face away from the screen and search outside.

>>45122
Move to a more conservative state or settle down with an androgynous bisexual.
I understand what you're saying, though. The most beautiful are beginning to have less and less children while the uglier ones tend to have more children, for some stupid reason.

>>44892
>If you were truly lesbian, you would have masturbated furiously to your own body
Where the fuck did you get your idea of lesbians from? Jfc. Please, we're not degenerate moids, don't project their shit on us

>>44958
I used to make hot wine with spices and drink a fair amount of a bottle so I could fall sleep quickly with a warm feeling. I'm missing it right now. Shit, I love winter.

Anon you'll be fine.

>>44958
>two fairly big glasses of wine
>too afraid of dying in my sleep to go to sleep
You're still able to type without any grammar errors, so you will be fine.
You only die in your sleep if you pass out very hard; i.e., drinking over "two fairly big glasses" and with high ABV spirits like bourbon instead of wine.
Unless, of course, you take certain meds and you are a huge retard who had the audacity to drink alcohol despite knowing the dangers of doing so. Or you're simply underage and you shouldn't be posting here.

>>44958
Have some more wine and you’ll fall asleep anyway.

>>44976
Or short enough that you could be mistaken for underage.

>>44128
You shouldn't feel guilty. What happened to you and the effects of it are not your fault.

>>41163
>raped 3 times
>none were full on rape
wtf is your definition of rape?

>>44077
>If you can, keep being there by her side please. It sounds like isn't ready to process it yet, but i hope she opens up to you or accepts therapy soon.

I'm hoping she does, but our friend group is naturally quite slutty
So while I know that something is wrong and she needs help
The rest of my group is happy that "the prude is now a meag-slut like the rest of us"

Trying to convince her that "hey fucking a new dude every second day is bad" is a very uphill battle when the rest of the group are almost doing that without the rape

>>41440
>And child predators are pretty much a 50-50 gender split, but when a woman targets a little boy society doesn't care and expects him to enjoy it.
That's because 99% of the time when people find out is because the boy bragged about it to his friends. It's literally every middleschooler/highschooler's dream to lay their teachers.

>>45079
I know. I read about that.