feeling like a loser Anonymous 71719[Reply]
i am the only one in my friend group without a boyfriend, some are already engaged, one is married, the others are in LTR's and seem really happy and i am happy for them. for the longest time i thought i was glad being alone as i am, took the pinkpill too early only reading stuff like Jane Eyre and the like, then growing up and realizing i am asexual which didn't help. i don't think guys (or girls for that matter) are attractive, but there has always been a side of me that yearned for a strictly platonic relationship, with nothing to do with sex, a shoujo-manga style relationship if you will, but soon enough, that side of me also realized it is a strictly fictional thing, (or a one in a thousand?) which made me give up, and i was happy giving up because it felt easier. for a while, it felt like a huge burden was taken off my shoulder, when i was able to say "im asexual" and it made sense. But recently, ive realized that hugging my cats to kill off touch starvation, and reading fanfiction like i used to when i was a middle-schooler "ain't it" anymore. 7 posts omitted. Click reply to view.
Whenever my friends are talking about their S/O, either in a positive or negative light, they seem so much cooler than me. not just in the sense "how do you do fellow kids"-cool, but just- relevant, got their life together, typical, safe, etc.. qualities none of which i have for my own.
and recently, it's gotten even more humiliating because they seem to like joking about this state of mine too, i can't stop thinking about that time i was talking to this one girl, and the conversation ended with me wishing her well on her upcoming marriage like "y'all are so cute together, i wish you well!" and she goes
>thank you anon, and i wish you and Aatrox well too :))
Which made me want to kill myself.
i still do tbh, it's just- the idea of getting in a relationship horrifies me to no ends, the committement, the "being the best version for yourself", the sappy cringe, but especially all the sexual stuff. But on the other hand, i feel dysfunctional and weird being the only one this way, and i wish i can stop feeling this way and love moids like everyone else and be normal in this sense
Didn't make those posts but it's imageboard culture. I expect mean and rude anons every time I come here.
She told you to have fun with a league of legends character?
, it's OK if you don't want to date or ever be in a romantic/sexual relationship. It sounds like your real source of distress is your shame about being "different". It's OK to have different priorities than most people. You have friends and don't sound like a total hermit or anything. Just accept yourself and if people give you shit about it, that's their problem. You are fine.
This is unnecessarily harsh. If she doesn't want a bf/gf, she doesn't need one.
If she didn't want a bf/gf she wouldn't feel like a loser, she would just be. However, she does feel like a loser, so obviously something is reacting to the outside world around her. If she was okay with being single she should be just that, okay. Instead, other people upset her by the mere mention of the fact that they are in relationships
. They're not ganging up on her and calling her "catlady", they're living genuinely happy lives and she is upset by this.