/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>122498
Theres love but if you show it, they pull away. I hate this game everyone agrees to.

He also asked me if I watched porn. I think on top of everything he's a porn addict.

>>122418
it sounds like you want us to provide context or validation for the relationship you have, and don't care for what a few ppl have suggested you do. I think that if your intention is to reap the benefits then you need to make peace with his feelings about you - he can change the way he acts on those feelings and should do so if its making you uncomfortable and he cares about you, but the feelings themselves as confused as they may be aren't something that you can get rid of. If i were in your shoes i would break things off, preferably with a conversation if i felt able. I can only give advice based off of what you shared, but the nuances and the more subtle feelings about your relationship don't seem like they ever will be great for either of you.

>>122449
at some point, you’ll have to confront the reality. romantic love is a myth, an illusion crafted by men to exploit women’s vulnerability. it’s always been a means to an end for them. desire masquerading as devotion. they are, without exception, opportunistic and self-serving. every single one of them is a lust-driven parasite. stop wasting your time with these horny little manipulators. the moment you stop romanticizing them is the moment you reclaim your peace.

>>122468
Wow thank you nona. You really opened up my eyes.

>>122111
yeah definitely go with this option. your life should improve immensely.

>>122462
>I'm winning
proof?

Who is the girl in the pic? I feel like I recognise her but I also don’t

Just don’t do it, duh.

>>122465
it's nagyung from fromis_9!
>>122467
yeah you're right, I just get this desire to correct moids and teach them a lesson but my free time is too precious tbh

>>122472
Aw I should’ve known that, I used to listen to fun! religiously

>>122478
but it's my fault

>>122475
Not saying you should date him but I actually think the erratic behaviour is evidence he's pretty attached to you (if he wasn't he'd be more cold/indifferent/wouldn't behave that differently after the breakup). He's using anxiously attached protest behaviour, he's not being avoidant.

>>122483
i realize we both hopelessly play negative attachment roles but i'm not really sure how to be normal id assume he's similar

>>122485
meh I think anything other than avoidant behaviour can be worked around with love.

>>122475
I'm stealing this femjak

You just had to make a thread for this?

>>122395
Yes what about it

nona stop trying to be good at so many things at once
decide something and be good at that thing and you naturally will start to understand life and do something with your life with that one thing

>>118829
It is also the most sublime drug known to man. Better than an entire drug cocktail

I knew for sure when I realized I only want to marry and have kids with him.

It’s a hunger a need for someone. When I love someone I need them for my life to have any meaning

One side bliss, one side worry.
Every moment with him is wonderful. Laughter, passion, pleasure. I can open up and be myself with no facade.

Without him is anxiety. Did I mess something up? Is he okay? He’s depressed, so will he leave me? Did I hurt him? Is he eating? Did he get drunk? Is he okay at work? It tears at my heart.

>>118787
Everything feels so clever and light hearted and funny and next thing you know they've sucked your soul out and made you feel smaller and heavier and more insignificant than anything else ever had in your entire life

viewing a LinkedIn profile = stalking or is there something else going on?

>>122435
I look at random people on linkedin to see what theyre doing. Idk this was stalking. I am set on private though so they cant see i viewed them

I want to date a woman already. It’s been years (since COVID) and I have been daydreaming about love and who the next “she” would be;; her personality, appearance, et cetera.

But I’m not cute enough for the bi (and maybe les? But tbh I think those are spicy straights) on dating apps. And if I seem attractive IRL, then that probably disappears once it’s made obvious that I’m so damn socially awkward.

And also I’m just unaware of if I’m interacting with another bi/les woman.

I’m so lonely. I really want to share my life but I’m stuck with yearning. It seems as if I’m no woman’s type!

>>119562

Also OP of this post, I struggle with internalized racism and homophobia, as well. I’ve heard that people can sense things like confidence and insecurity so I wonder if I’m sending a vibe that’s just overbearingly negative and I don’t even know it.

>>119489
you have to just stop caring what others think. easier said than done yes, but that's truly the only way.

i need a gf. i dream of picrel being my future.

>>108556
>first crush?
a girl in elementary school, but i didn't understand what i felt for her at the time. first crushes i recognized as crushes were in middle school. i imagined being married to her and i told my mom abt it.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
troonland
>cute stories about your gf
am a femcel
>favourite lesbian media?
does madoka magica count? my lesbian experience with loneliness, kase san, run away with me girl are among some of my faves. sailor moon and utena also mean a lot to me.
>lesbian media you hate?
most things that are modern and western
>coming out stories
told my mom when i was 15. she blamed it on me hating men.
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
idk lol
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>>122284
>some of his friends are retarded
>easy pray for influences
dangerous combo

pros
> childhood friend, i’ve known him since middle school, we were very close
> very physically and verbally affectionate
> great relationship with his mom, has a healthy family
> the most physically attractive guy i’ve seen
> everything in common with interests and sense of humor
> made it clear from the beginning of our relationship he wanted something serious with me
> my best friend, but idk if that’s reciprocated, maybe i just don’t have any friends.
cons
> former porn addict. knows a lot about porn from the memes to the actress names and etc.
> bisexual and has a weird friendship with a moid mutual who we also suspect is bi lol. i used to not think much of it but after coming back from a trip with them, their dynamic makes me uncomfortable
> kinda critical of me sometimes
> his explore page on ig is kinda gross with women sometimes
> ignores me when he’s with that moid bi friend
> gets angry and annoyed with me when he’s drunk
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>>122125
Yes

pros: the sex is really fucking good when he's off his crazy pills like damn

pros
>incredibly clean
>great cook
>great sex
>understands my references and humour
>listens to me and talks me down
>very friendly
>insanely kind
>very very giving and generous
>wealthy
>takes care of me
>suuuper smart
>emotionally stable

cons
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now that i have a bf and 1 guy friend who are very normal humans (trust me on this nonas), it makes me hate all other men even more!!! i love hating men i love hating men :3 Total female domination!!!!!

>>122352
>now that i have a bf and 1 guy friend who are very normal humans (trust me on this nonas)
yup
dats what made me start hateposting on men

>>122352
>i hate men!!1!
>i'll still keep dating and fucking them tho cause this one is different!!
fake misandrists stfu challenge

>>122365
sybau

>>122352

Men hate each other.

I hate men back, and women deserve to hate men back if are hated.

Forgive me father, for I have sinned. Yup, a big sinner. Did you put money in the box? yes. Then you are pardoned my son.

Let's just treat men like dogs. They deserve it.

My husband was so strange today. He asked me for the weather, I said the weather. Then he asked me something, I said yes and then other thing, and I said no.

He is complicated, he then said "god why are you answering so cold" who understands men? i answered, I bought him clothes, I let him live under the roof, I pay bills and he thanks me like this?

Like that. Men are always happier when being slaves.