/feels/ - Advice & Venting

1. During pregnancy, cells pass back and forth between a mother and her baby. What is truly amazing is that these baby's cells can stay active in the mother's body for decades after birth—a phenomenon known as fetal microchimerism.
If a mother’s heart, liver, or other organs suffer an injury later in life, these lingering fetal cells will actually migrate straight to the site of the damage. Once there, they can transform into the specific types of cells needed to help repair and heal her body.

2. A surprising number of life-saving and everyday inventions were born purely out of women looking out for others. In 1902, a woman named Mary Anderson was riding a streetcar during a freezing sleet storm in New York City. She noticed that the driver had to keep opening the front window to manually wipe away the ice, leaving him shivering and delaying the passengers.
Feeling bad for the freezing driver, she went home and sketched out a lever-operated rubber blade that could clear the window from inside the cabin. She patented the very first windshield wipers a year later, entirely because she wanted a stranger to stay warm and dry.

3. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, a brilliant group of women known as the "Harvard Computers" completely revolutionized astronomy. At a time when women weren't allowed to operate the university's telescopes, they were hired to analyze thousands of photographic glass plates of the night sky by hand.
Despite being barred from the actual observatory equipment, their mathematical precision unlocked the universe. Annie Jump Cannon created the star classification system still used by scientists today, and Henrietta Swan Leavitt discovered how to measure distances in deep space—the exact "cosmic yardstick" Edwin Hubble later used to prove the universe is expanding.

4. Biologically, some women possess an actual superpower when it comes to perceiving the world. While the average person has three types of color-sensing cone cells in their eyes, a genetic variation allows some women to possess four distinct types of cones.
This condition, called tetrachromacy, allows them to see up to 100 million different colors—roughly 100 times more than the rest of us. Where a standard eye sees a basic green leaf or a gray concrete wall, a tetrachromat can perceive an incredibly rich, shifting gradient of entirely distinct shades and tones that most people simply cannot detect.

Women are amazing!

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I'm 25 and I don't know what to do with my life anymore. I got a CS degree pre-AI but now with a horrible job market, just getting junior roles is really difficult and it feels like I have to grind my ass off just to get a livable wage in my field. I've been doing leetcode and applying soulless tech stacks to my resume that I genuinely don't even care about. My boyfriend of almost two years left me because his avoidant attitude turned every conflict or disagreement into a breakup scenario; which I just put up with, even though it hurt me deeply to feel so disposable in the relationship cus I had nothing else and didn't want to lose the only source of love and warmth I had. Now that he's gone, my life feels like a void again with not much reason to wake up. All I want in my life is to be happy with my family and have someone waiting for me at the end of the day, but with each passing year, that dream just seems more distant. Been feeling really nihilist, thinking if any of it even matters.

Anyone here autistic with ADHD?

college has been such an isolating experience for me, at the beginning i had a lot of friends because im naturally extroverted, i would talk to pretty much everyone, then i realized the same people i interacted with every day were talking shit behind my back, after that i just lost interest in being part of big groups, later i mostly hung out with two of my best friends, then i found out they were talking shit about me too, during all of this i kept trying to self reflect and figure out if i had done something that made people treat me like this, i genuinely couldnt find anything, i was always kind to them, i would help them however i could, even with my closest friends, i know i have flaws like everyone else but i honestly tried to be the best version of myself

then i had a guy friend catch feelings for me, i rejected him, after that things got even worse, now i basically have no real friends in college and every day just feels weird and isolating, im lonely most of the time, i feel like most of my class doesnt like me and it sucks because i havent done anything except be kind to people or stand up for myself when someone treated me badly, a big reason people dont like me is because the guy i rejected spread rumors about me and everyone just believed him because hes popular and basically a microcelebrity, then i found out some girl in my class was telling a guy that i wear makeup every day because i want attention and that im nothing without it, its just exhausting, it feels like no matter what i do people will come up with some reason to hate me, after a while you just stop wanting to bother with anyone, sorry if this sounds like im victimizing myself

Since I've moved to a big city I've had this problem where I'll be minding my business in a grocery store and some crackhead middleaged woman will try and start a fight with me. It happens a few times a year. I never instigate, I always keep to myself and stay far away from people. They'll throw insults usually, but last week a woman tried hitting me with her cart.

I always look like a bum when I go grocery shopping. My friend suggested I dress up when I shop so that these women will feel inferior and leave me the fuck alone. Does that work? I thought they'd get jealous and the opposite would happen.

Idk. Let me know what you guys have experienced.

for whatever reason, i could not stop hurting myself and making bad choices since i was a teenager. always doing weed to try to fill the void of being alone. i never just slowed down or took a rational approach to fix the problem. like simply taking care of my body and working hard. instead i coasted by and am now haunted by regret. i hate feeling envious over people in a relationship. but its a constant dagger in my side everywhere i turn. i failed to do simple things that others can do without thinking. i am a loser lol. my brain is legit damaged with severe memory problems now because of escapism with some trash drug and i've been ready to rope because of that for a few years. my life is now 90% more dull than it already was, which was already bad to begin with. i try to ignore the hurt and embrace the absolute joke of a human i am. and i am sometimes okay at it by just stop caring/searching for stuff outside of myself and needing anything from the world. but every shitty music song practically is about love and i am always reminded that i am worthless and defunct. even with my dog who looks like the puppy in pic rel who is the best thing ever i still feel like i am not enough. but not only that, an existential curse of the feelings i have rid myself of. its this transcendental void that kills me inside. i can barely concentrate or do anything with my life because i just rot in a perpetual state of regret. but i try to not be so harsh on myself and dwell on the sad cloud that keeps following me everywhere i step. my mom tells me to move forward, but its so hard your entire life and mind has been irreversibly ruined. i need to let go of this negativity.

i love my boyfriend desu
but clothes that hang up in his room smell like ammonia-y ferret droppings. not musky, like cat pee if it was even worse, and without actually coming in contact with the pee. he has to wash his clothes when he comes over. when i go over i have to keep my clothes shut in my zipped suitcase. my dumb ass just hasn't told him that i know the source of it
we're ldr and idk how to broach the topic that it is gonna be me or the ferrets if he wants me to move in with him. i have migraines and my ocd already makes me think i'm stinky
also it's bad for animal welfare i think
wtf i do
(i already am bitey when he doesnt do stuff to my standard in my home, he just says ok and does it tho)

I need some form of advice in this situation because its making me feel like i'm in a forever luteal mental state

I befriended this girl at work early last year and we got along really well. She was a bit shy and hard to talk to at the beginning but I saw a lot in her that I liked so I persevered in forming a friendship. As time went on we became really good friends and I thought she would have been a friend I would have for a long time. She hadn't really had much life experience but that wasn't an issue to me as I was more than happy to introduce her to my friends and guide the way and point her in a good direction as she isn't from my city.

I started to notice her saying weird things, villanising our other co workers, talking about the way her body looks which I would obviously be like oh don't be silly you're so pretty, not thinking much of it at the time.

I started dating my boyfriend a couple months after her and I started being friends and that hadn't changed anything at the time. She was very happy for me and all was well. A few months after that so around 8 months after her and I started becoming friends we decided to move in together.

The first month was great and there were no issues at all, the second month rolls around and at night when my boyfriend would stay over she would start slamming the doors and stomping around the house, I talked to her about it immediately but nothing changed snd she only did and does this when my boyfriend stays over. The first time this happened it marked the down hill spiral of this friendship.

I continued to be nothing but nice to her even though she was displaying really scary behaviours that to me are the most violent you can be without causing physical harm. I would continue to invite her to outings, share music and interests with her, invite her to hang out with my boyfriend and I, Cook her dinner occasionally.

Work changed for me, over time she would tell me all these "nasty things the girls were saying" which I later found out were not true and she had forged a story to stop me from finding out that she was complaining to them about me. saying that " I expected more from moving in with her, I expected to go out more"

She started to express extreme levels of jealousy that made my boyfriend and I feel guilty for being in a healthy relationship, we felt extremely policed, we were too scared to talk over a whisper at night not to upset her.
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Hello nonas, im really sorry for annoying you with this post but i need a strong answer.

Every time im not listening to a video or music, my mind cant help but ramble about random bad shit about me, my friends, and my loved ones.
I think i have a pretty good and fulfilling life, but i cant help but to overthink every single step of mine, throwing down my achievements and thinking that people actually hate me.

anyone ever got a similar situation? Got any suggestions on how to deal with it? Postal 1 dude just because he's cool