/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>20534
I decided to try it. Worst case it took five minutes, best case I get a pen pal.

Some of the best friends I've ever had have been way different than me in regards to personality and tastes. It seems kind of boring to only want friends just like you.

>>22499
A bit of common ground's good though, right? At least to get the ball rolling.

>>20534

The spelling errors are hilarious. Just adds that perfect layer of potential trolling vs holy shit, this might be real.

>>22490
>>22499
>>22500
>>22501
Too bad the newest batch isn't going anywhere. 4500 people registered and still nothing has been sent.
I was so hyped for this.

As a femcel, no we're not that different besides not going on mass shootings as much. Just look at the /pol/-tier ramblings about low-IQ, race, and all that stupid shit. Jesus fucking Christ. Go outside and realize the only problem is you. Do something about it or accept your mediocrity like I did. Just stop blaming literally anyone and anything but yourself.

>>22755
A lot of people say that about their own countrymen/women. I'm from a Euro country where some men decry West European women for being manly feminazis and idealise Russian women as feminine, traditional and domestic. It wouldn't surprise me if there are Russian men out there who hate Russian women but idealise South American women for example.

>>22657

they're afraid of seeming insecure, creepy, beta, loser, bla bla, i think you get what i mean.
they think that every time they speak to a woman, they are being put through a hundred different filters to see if they are worth spending time on, and the end result is a very artificial and resentful personality, because they blame women for it.
imo it's media culture bleeding into reality in a very sick sort of way. it's so pronounced in americans and brits because they consume the most anglophone movies and tv

>>22784 nails it on the head… any countrywoman/man will shit on their bedfellows. Grass is greener. East Asian here and it's the same. Clueless white guys fawn over us not realizing that we're all awfully flawed, just maybe different flaws.

I wouldn't be surprised by >>22755 though. Americans unfortunately have by far one of the worst if not the worst reputations as potential partners, male or female. I would even assume an American, white nonbinary person is lowest on the totem pole in dating than those of any other race or nation.

>>22852
>American, white nonbinary person is lowest on the totem pole in dating than those of any other race or nation.

It strongly depends where you're from, obviously
here in Poland every nonwhite person will have a hard time dating and there's no prejudice against Americans.

>>22825
If you think you’re having a miscarriage go to the emergency department

>>22825
Did you get a positive pregnancy test?

Go to the ER immediately

If youre really into this /X/ paranormal crap then watch or read Ночной Дозор. It literally starts with what you said.

>>22443
>never rubbing one out under the covers at 6am while sharing a room with two other girls and their boyfriends
Normie detected

I'm in the same boat sister. I have no other solution but to just suck it up and start dieting before I get fat for real. It's gonna be hard at the start but once you give it time you'll get used to it and you are back in track again.

Good luck.

>>22431
>binging
>dieting
That's the problem. Not giving yourself an adequate amount of calories and macros is a sure way to burn yourself, especially if you lift. A routine is necessary to avoid binging, eating multiple meals around the clock, similar times each day if possible. Going on a diet usually implies a short, set time in which you are in a calorie deficit, which just hurts your body and makes you crave like crazy because it needs certain nutrients. If you're someone who overthinks a lot like me, you negative self-talk yourself so much you end up eating the thing you were mentally trying to talk yourself out of. I know I eat the most sugary crap when I'm depressed, because sugars release hormones that temporarily make you feel better. My advice is deal with your mental issues.

>>22440
oft but ive never masturbated am i asexual…………?

>>22817
Probably just low sex drive, it's common for women to never masturbate.

>>22227
>Surrogacy is honestly one of the most humbly feminine and selfless jobs you could do in your life.
But OP isn’t doing it out of selflessness. She’s doing it for money. There are a ton of complications and risks that come with pregnancy as well as postpartum things she’ll have to deal with. She might get preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, or a laceration/episiotomy during birth.

I think childbirth is a beautiful thing but if you’re doing it for superficial reasons like money it’s not worth it. She should just do what >>21817 and >>21828 suggested if she’s that desperate for cash.

>>22251
me too. i can barely imagine giving my body to my own child, i could never do it for someone elses.

>>22273
same tbh. maybe if it was for a couple I knew that wanted a baby very badly, but not for some random rich couple. not to sound like a radfem or anything, but no amount of money could convince me to literally give away my womb for money

>>22277
Sounds fair to me, not radfem, speaking as someone whose ideal kid situation would be surrogacy.

I've signed up for an egg donation site. It will probably be several more months until I get to do it though.
>getting paid 10k to have some other woman birth and raise my descendants
Is this how men feel when they donate sperm or knock&dump a chick? Only problem is I have to manage to pass the psychological test and I don't know how stringent it will be. Not my fault, they should know personality tests are void past a certain IQ because you can understand and game the questions. Otherwise feels good man.

If he doesn't care enough about you to hide his cheating properly, I don't know why you're with him.

>>22451
>acid
>burn herself
>losing recent memories

wtf, you're life sucks. get your shit together and be a decent person.

PD: leave your boyfriend too, he's probably a mess just like you.

>>22451
No relationship can bounce back from cheating, or frankly any kind of major betrayal of trust, without years of time to heal. You will literally never be able to trust him. Is that really worth the stress and eventual degeneration of your relationship from it? Just dump him and just focus on yourself, when you can get by without thinking about him then you can start worrying about finding someone else.

>>22454
Cheater detected. Your behavior isn't normal and I hope you're either in an open relationship or better yet, partnerless.

>>22454
ew

>>22680
it’s both, i’m too damn old to be a kissless, handholdless virgin and it’s about time i get over my insecurities and find myself a qt gf already

>>22684
the employees (esp. the manger) were super charismatic. my friend is really obese and was struggling to find lingerie that fit her, and he did a great job of making her feel comfortable about being too big without being inappropriate. she otherwise would’ve probably cried. i loved that guy.

>>22667
>buttplug
I don't understand how people do that to themselves, disgusting.

>>19175
If your friends make you feel embarrassed for being a virgin then maybe it's time to get new friends. I don't mean this in a "drop anyone who disagrees with you" way, but rather do not be around bad influences way, and this includes sluts who think sleeping around is something to be proud of. After too much sex people lose the ability to pair bond and that leads to disastrous long term relationships, so if anything these "friends" of yours should be embarrassed themselves, you are better than them.

>>22699
That's the point of these places. If the employees acted like cunts, it would fail as a store. They already have to compete with online shopping with discrete shipping, their customer service is the only thing that will make the place good. It's already a big scare for most for being in a sex shop as it is.

>>22705
yeah you're right, and that just makes me like it even more.

i'm probably going to try dropping off my resume late tonight to see if there's any possibility i can work there. fingers crossed!

I have a couple I could list.

>1. male, my high school bf.
turns out horny teenage boys are pretty much a low iq subspecies and ruined my outlook on guys for a long time. nonetheless, quiet breakup and definitely not in touch.

>2. female, i got catfished to all hell lol
you know those girls who have insane insecurity issues and facetune themselves way skinnier and prettier than they are? i would've been cool with whatever body she had if not for the other major personality issues that comes with someone who does that… breakup was awful: i went off on her after catching her cheating. she could be dead for all i care or know.

>3. female, bipolar but one of the ones who was managing her illness very well compared to others.
couldn't take it though. not in touch though on occasion we'll see eachother in social circles. it's not too awkward. i hope she does alright in life.

That was years ago. These days am happily with someone, several years strong… I'm pretty much going to put a ring on her if things go well. Also I don't really stay in touch with exes unless they get in touch first. No harm no foul, I move around a lot and don't have the energy for a ton of people let alone exes.

anyone else here get jealous thinking about their bf's past relationships/their exes? idk if this is normal or just weird

>>22433
yeah. hard to wrap your head around stuff like that sometimes. i get jealous pretty easy honestly, but you gotta put things in perspective and remember that they're with you now and (presumably) wouldn't rather be with anyone else.

>6.5 year relationship
>he became more and more abusive over that time until enough was enough when he threatened to punch me one day
>broke up, then stupidly took him back for like a month because he promised to change. went right back to being abusive
>dumped and put him on no-contact
>he broke no-contact to send me a sappy message. I reminded him of the no-contact and removed that means of contact
>been 5 years now and I haven't spoken to him, haven't seen him, I don't use social media and don't browse it, we have no mutual friends
>no idea where he is now or what happened, frankly don't care, he feels the same to me as some shitty kid's book I might have read when I was young, didn't particularly like, never read again, and forget the title of
>can't even fathom how I could have been with him because he's not my type at all
>only regret is that I wasted that much time with such a loser
>I have no social media so he can't check me out. I've also moved out of state and started going by another name
I kind of want those six and a half years back though. The sex wasn't even good. Man I was so stupid.

Someone I met freshman year of high school. We were never really close, although both of us wanted to be. He tried really hard, but it was difficult because of his autism. He asked me out, and I rejected him. I said I'd like to date him, but we needed more time as friends. He didn't understand why. He asked again months later, but we still never got closer in that time. It was over text when I was at home; my dad was trying to take my phone from me aggressively, and he's a pretty big dude. "Who was that? Let me see IT! It's -guy I'm talking about- isn't it? You're fucking!" I locked myself in the bathroom and started to cry. Friend proceeded to call me, and I couldn't answer him because I was being screamed at and the door being pounded on. I felt horrible because I knew the guy was probably freaking out. I had to give my answer in person at school the next day and explain what happened. Friend didn't believe me and was upset. We kind of grew apart, and aside from casual conversation, eventually stopped talking and graduated.

A year later, we text again (found each other on Insta), and he asks me to come over and see if we could make things work. I said yes. We tried to go out, but I was in a horrible place in life and he just shut down completely from overload trying to process our conversations. I was suicidal and wound up on a hold. I called him while I was there, and he broke up with me over the phone. I tried to text him when I got out, he said he never wanted to speak to me again (but not in a negative way, it ended on good terms). Still, it felt lonely and shitty I was still living with my abusers and now I was all by myself with no one to talk to.

During one of our dates he said, "I kind of see why you said you wanted to wait (get closer as friends)." He didn't understand my dad was abusive and a control freak, that I couldn't just "go out with him" when he asked back in high school. But over the course of time, my friend started to witness my dad's behavior and believe me.

>>22297
You only have to lower your standards if you really want a bf. If you are ok with being alone as well there is no need to make any compromises.

>>22297
Be open to surprise!

I could get laid if I wanted to, but I just don't want to. I have no sex drive, and very rarely experience attraction that only lasts a few seconds. Emotions turn me on; it's the facial expressions on a man and his general behavior around me on a regular basis that can drive me wild, but it's been years. Most guys just don't stick around long enough for me to get comfortable being vulnerable with my sexual feelings. Sex is freely given now; no man wants to put in the work of investing in me emotionally, so that I'd get wet enough for sex to be pleasant. I can't dive right in like guys can; I'm not visual. I swear, only Don and Kathy's relationship from Singing in the Rain, and a few cheesy shoujos, like Dengeki Daisy, turn me on thoroughly. Real men don't do it for me; they seem lost in outer space, preoccupied with literally anything else.

>>22654
It's similar in my case. What confuses me is that some guys resent women for not sleeping with them on the 3rd or so date ("you're just withholding sex to get me to stay with you!!!") but I've always thought that was considered slutty and made you bad relationship material because they complain about high partner counts. I don't really get adult dating. Teenage dating was less shallow (in my own personal experience!) and more about connection, common hobbies and personality.

>>22656
It was teenage dating that exposed me to what guys are really like. I had a lovey-dovey, best friends fantasy. I was naive and sex never crossed my mind until they brought it up or made obvious advances, as early as the first date. However, I do agree, it was easier to get to know them then. Guys really focused on who you were as a person (even if it wasn't much) and you could both open up and form a lasting friendship even if the dating didn't work out. Now it seems guys just want to jump from girl-to-girl (but somehow many still want virgin or "low count" parters).

>>22630
A lot of people cross post yes but usually there is one board people consider to be their "home" board and identify with.

I don't talk to anyone who uses imageboards. I'm already awkward enough as it is, I don't know how it would go down if I really did become friends with an anon.

>>22572
>do you know anyone irl who browses them?

Not anymore. I don't trust any adult who participates in imageboard culture.
I've seen way too many judgemental and bigoted posts on 4chan and other websites and can't tell how many of you are "just joking".

>>22634
I'll be honest.
I do feel bad around my male friends sometimes after posting the vitriolic things I have about men at my lowest.
But there's always a fear that they're secretly racist and sexist towards me so it evens out. Just secretly hate your friends anon.

hm I met my bf off /SOC/ if that counts. I must have talked to 100 guys on there and was about to give up on the board until I came across his post, not everyday you come across someone online from my smallish city , much less a total qt:3

>>22630
>Tfw he browses /ck/, /lit/, /fit/, and /fa/
Feels good, man