/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I had a bad childhood, and as a result as a teenager, I acted out in ways that I now regret. This continued up until my mid twenties. I can see now that I didn't have any real friends and unintentionally hurt some people because I was so used to being hurt myself.

I have a good life now and have put a lot of distance physically and mentally between myself and my past. However, I feel that no matter how hard I try, I'm still stuck with the painful memories inside my head. Even the smallest inconsequential word can trigger a related memory.

How can I cut the first 25 odd years out of my head permanently?

What are really beautiful men like? Do you know any? Doesn’t have to be a bf or lover, can also be your friend, colleague, classmate, neighbor, brother, dad, whatever.

Is it true they’re all dumb and rude?

Share your relationship problems here

Opinion on giving notes to friends who are falling behind on their studies and am constantly complaining about it?

I have a friend whom I’ve known for years. He is constantly complaining about being behind on his studies and I get that medschool is difficult. I gave him a digital cooy all of my notes for the year but I’m kinda feeling annoyed rn because I don’t think he actually put in any extra effort to study but is instead just complaining?

How do I stop thinking about dying and panicking about it? It's kept me up late the past few days and on some days I get so nervous I could throw up. I don't have any anxiety about other things in my life. I just love existing too much and the idea that I might not be able to experience it twice guts me. I am not religious and haven't found any good answers or people to go to for solace about this topic.

I would only want a boyfriend from 4chan r9k which fucks me over. I have much easily available guys IRL interested in me but them being normie just makes me so disinterested to even be friends with them let alone date.

What has your experiences been with dating from 4chan?

Does anyone else struggle with spiraling guilt and paranoia, feeling like you've hurt other people and damaged your reputation forever constantly but not being able to figure out if its real or rational?

I struggle hugely with executive function and I've been in a horrible depressive episode for over a month. Even though I told my roommate I would handle paying our rent, I didn't pay on time for May or June for literally no reason other than I couldn't get myself to write the check and walk less than a block to drop it off, and whenever I thought about doing it I got so overwhelmed with shame and anxiety I would put it off further. I finally dropped off the check for our rent for 2 months a few days ago. Luckily our landlord isn't charging late fees because of COVID, but we got a scary notice in the mail that I just opened and our cosigners (parents) also got notices. I feel so embarrassed and just completely irredeemable because I caused stress and worry for no reason and I don't know if this can affect our credit scores or reputations in some other way? And I've just been sitting here spiraling for an hour trying to decide if I really did something wrong and wronged my roommate and damaged my relationship with her, or if it's okay.

This happens to me all the time with various situations where I'm worried I've wronged someone but I don't know if it's something that I can expect people to forgive me for or not? It doesn't help that I'm hypersensitive and I know that other people aren't but it's really hard for me to understand how people who aren't like me react to interpersonal situations, or situations that would make me anxious but a normal person wouldn't worry about. And I wish I could just ask my roommate about it, but I don't think there's a non-insane way to ask about that? She knows I struggle with depression and possible ADHD, she has ADHD, and she helped her girlfriend with a serious depressive episode/her ongoing MH issues, so I think she would be understanding, but would she? I have no idea how much leeway I should expect from people because of my mental health issues. We're also close friends, but I see things on social media where people are talking about resenting or abandoning their friends for things that seem insane to me so ???

Any tips on dealing with guilt, paranoia, or just not trusting yourself to accurately interpret situations because you're an autist?

Anyone else feel uncomfortable when your on a date and the guy pays for everything? Went on a date with some guy before the lockdown, we had dinner at a fancy hotel loft, then drinks at a fancy cocktail bar and then we even went to a Japanese style inn. In total he propably spent 1200.

I felt so weird during the entire date. He just kept ordering the most expensive shit on the menu.

the title says it all.

i ended up scrolling through the account of someone a few years younger than me and saw posts like pic related…just people (kids i guess) having fun with their friends and it made me sad because i never got to have that ):


can anyone relate?
also, general friendless anon thread.

I've been kicked off of lolcow and I feel really sad about it. I felt a connection to the aesthetics of some cows tbh and I will really miss /ot/. I might shack up here but i'll miss the rapid fire infighting. It sucks, I really wanted it to carry me through quarantine. I feel lonelier without that place in the background.