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Copycat Anonymous 22563[Reply]

Are you a copycat? Have you ever stolen aspects of another girl's personality, interests or fashion sense on purpose to be more like them?

If I told anyone this in real life, they'd probably think I was bizarre, but i want to get it off my chest. To be honest most of my personality now and my likes and dislikes and interests were stolen from a girl who's blog I used to read 3-4 years ago. She wasn't anyone e-famous but I just stumbled across her and somehow I became obsessed. I cyberstalked her all over the internet and I started listening to every band she posted about, watching every movie, posting things with the same sense of humor and going over her selfies for aesthetic details every time she posted them so I could try my best to copy her style. I've never spoken to her openly but I used to send her all sorts of anon messages so I could find out things about her to better emulate them. Eventually I stopped stalking her accounts as much and lost track of her online profiles as she would change names a lot. Recently I checked back to find she was completely different now, and in my opinion much less interesting. I'm still basically a reflection of her from 4 years ago, and I'm fairly comfortable with it all still even though it sounds quite creepy when I type it out. Most people who know me now weren't really around in my life 4 years ago, and they have no idea that almost everything about me is copied from some random girl online i've never even properly spoken to. I still use some of her dead aliases as screen names (don't worry, only as nicknames on places she would never be able to see or be disturbed by if she did find me). Am I alone in this? is anyone else this creepy?
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Anonymous 49364

I realised today that every job I’ve had has been inspired by someone else I knew that had it first. Some of them are pretty uncommon. I’m retraining right now for another one. I guess this makes me a bit of a copycat, though I think it’s more that I have always had trouble imaging my future self and these types of jobs never seemed to be within reach before.

Anonymous 49369

Could be a BPD thing, actually. I know armchair diagnosing can be offensive, but flimsy sense of identity like that, that is also influenced by people you admire is common with BPD.

I take unconsciously take inspiration here and there from girls (noteably a wrestler called AJ Lee - I even bought all of the same comic books and read them), and even guys I develop obsessive crushes on, but I don't full on skinwalk.

Anonymous 49370

>>49369
I feel like I absorb little bits of every person I know, with some people moreso than others. No one could peg me as a skinwalker, though. For reference, I have BPD.

Anonymous 49373

I feel like I have some BPD traits but not this. A strong sense of identity is like the only thing I have going for me.

Anonymous 49393

>>49369
I'm pretty sure I have cPTSD which has some overlap with BPD. Growing up my parents always tried to force me to like what they liked and ridiculed what I liked.

I guess when I copy someone I'm a bit like a kid wanting to be like the grown-ups around them who they admire. As a child, there were no other adults in my life except teachers who I didn't bond with much. Not even extended family members.

I think I have a bit of wild imagination too and can create a whole amazing life and persona from a few details about someone. Because it's fake it always seems much better than my life.



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Anonymous 49336[Reply]

Has anyone here had emotional numbness from antipsychotics and got their emotions back once you switched to different antipsychotics? Is it possible?

What if the antipsychotic i wanted to go on was one from years ago that didnt mess with my emotions?
Would it still work? or not?
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Anonymous 49341

>>49338
btw diagnosed as schizoeffective, i i was recovering too off of them, but kept losing touch with reality becuase of the stress of no emotions (but stress and anxiety) pretty much.

Recently told people about my problems, everyone still wants me to take it though.

Anonymous 49342

>>49338
I had good effects with quetiapine 6 years ago though, i am hoping it will work when i take it as my main medication again and it will give me back my emotions, if not im fucking quitting and never using any ever again..

Though i am scared if i end up in the ward again becuase they will force inject me (again)

Anonymous 49343

>>49338
What i wouldn't give to be "partly lobotomized" compared to this….

Anonymous 49349

I haven't had emotional numbness yet, but I have gone through major life changes in the past month. My main illness is BPD and I'm given it to control my delusions and paranoia. It works pretty well, mixed with an antidepressant and a mood stabilizer. I'm on risperidone at the moment and I take seroquel if I can't sleep or am panicking.

Anonymous 49350

>>49349
I meant I've gone through emotional life changes that usually affect people strongly and on top of that I feel strongly, so maybe that's why the numbness hasn't hit in yet

I did feel numb on Prozac, though. My meds were switched out by my psychiatrist and the new antidepressant I've been on for months has not had the unpleasant side effects. Are antipsychotics all you are on?



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Anonymous 48622[Reply]

I'm half mexican half white but i have a goblin black-tier nose and tan skin. I was thinking about getting a nose job and bleaching my skin after i lose some weight

Pic related is the ideal look I'm going for, I kind of feel guilty for wanting this. Does this mean I have internalized racism? or does it mean I just want to be more attractive.. idk
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Anonymous 49235

>>49216
Moid-tier post. (White) women are better than that.

Anonymous 49244

>>49224
I'm using azelaic acid on my face due to acne hyperpigmentation. It made my whole face paler, so you might want to look into it.

Anonymous 49248

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>>48622
always remember that people are usually their own harshest critics.

you might not like your nose, or how tan your skin is, but you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who's actually worth being around that would have a differing opinion of you for having those features.

i work retail in a very tourist heavy area, and(before covid) i'd see like 300+ people a day in my shift alone. i rarely ever think about how anyone looks unless they're doing some stupid shit and i have to remember their face to recall it later.
My normie coworkers basically are the same in this mindset.

but not liking your features isn't "internalized racism", after all, attractiveness is just your preference.

Anonymous 49249

i think you're pretty idk

Anonymous 49299

>>49235
Sorry to ruin your white women fantasy.



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How do I cope? Anonymous 49107[Reply]

How do I cope with being an unstable mess? I'm paranoide, see and hear things that aren't even there and have terrible moodswings.

I honestly feel like someone just scrambled every mental defect in a blender and injected it straight into my dna.

I'm so terrified of being alone, which I am. But also feel so guilty for whoever would be with me because I'd become such a giant burden.

Anonymous 49121

You need to go to a doctor anon.

Anonymous 49275

>>49107
Those who are you with you know what they've gotten into and don't care.

Maybe they have secrets of their own.

Trust me, whomever you're with, finds you the perfect companion.



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Anonymous 38304[Reply]

Has it happened to you?
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>>49203
Real life conversation with a climate scientist on the strangely consistent 3% to 5% of climate scientists who disbelieve global warming in polls. It seemed extremely strange that professionals would act this way, but professionals are human and this is apparently a human response to polling.

DuckDuckGo has given me a few additional references.

Anonymous 49230

>>49215
>It seemed extremely strange that professionals would act this way, but professionals are human and this is apparently a human response to polling.
Is it possible that 4% of respondents claim that they've been decapitated, in part at least, because some of them are just that dumb and perhaps misunderstood the question or didn't know what the word meant but pretended they did?
I'd find it more likely that 4% of climate scientists honestly disbelieve global warming just because they're being dumb about it despite all the evidence their field should supposedly give them, rather than the idea that they answered wrong on purpose to be funny. Having professional credentials doesn't make 100% of doctors immune to being quacks, after all. I assume the same goes for scientists.

Anonymous 49233

>>49129
>normal people
Cool story, what do you mean by normal though?

Anonymous 49239

>>49203
Yes, because it's actually known as the Lizardman's Constant, not sure where she took that from. It's sort of fascinating but not really studied. Polls tend to have all sorts of artifacts anyways.
>>49230
You are exactly right. You have to look at how these polls are done, the people who reported the 4% were as far as I remember conducting a poll where they asked people several questions, one of which was "Is Obama a lizardman". Apparently it was conducted via phone calls, so you inherently get some people who didn't pay attention just take the first option and such.

Anonymous 49271

>>38304
She's being bullied by tall.



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Vent thread Anonymous 46828[Reply]

Last thread was >>45059 vent your worries and frustrations
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Anonymous 49279

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I'm stressed out ladies

Anonymous 49284

>>49246
Russia?

Anonymous 49288

>>49266
>>49268
You should be each others' gfs!

Anonymous 49319

>>49279
why? organize everything, lay it out for yourself.

Anonymous 49382

if it turns out you're using me like he did, I'll understand, not really. I shouldbe used to being used from now on.i keep getting these intuitive feelings I used to get back then with that person.



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Anonymous 49228[Reply]

HOW do I find female roommates I'm about to join the fucking military soon if I can't find a place to live

Anonymous 49229

check facebook groups for the area you want to live in, there’s usually housing/student groups of people looking for people to sublet/extra roommates! plz don’t join the military good luck anon

Anonymous 49236

>>49229
this is actually how a someone i know got a roomate dont give up!



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Anonymous 48754[Reply]

My bf has started seeming like he is depressed for the last few months. He said he is sad, hates himself, feels disgusting, and has for the last year or so. He seldom hugs or kisses me anymore and never wants to do anything. He doesn't even seem to like it much when I do it.

Not only that, but if I ask him to pick something for dinner he says "I don't know". He can't even pick an ingredient. Apart from washing the dishes everyday and buying what I tell him to, he doesn't do any housework. I study full time, work almost full time, and now it feels like I have to take on the entire household, especially the mental load. He only works full time.

It's not just that he is sad but mean too. He also complains we don't have sex but twice told me sex was boring so I'm not interested anymore. Having so much mental load is a turn off too.

He manages to work ok and is normal when talking to other people, though that doesn't happen much. It's only me he is depressed around.

I know it sounds like we should just break up, but I don't have anywhere else to live, especially with corona. I don't get on with my family and I don't think flights are even open here yet if I did want to go back to my country. I don't speak the local language so I can't just find a local place to stay.

I kinda just want to stop trying and ignore him but that feels more lonely than if I were alone. Being constantly rejected is awful too.

I really don't know what to do. I'm not a fan of therapy (it feels like there is a third person in the relationship) or anti-depressants (they don't solve the problem, just make the feelings go away) so I don't want to recommend that he tries them.
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Anonymous 48764

>>48762
I’m not sure what you mean, talk about feelings?

I just told him how I felt and he got annoyed and is now sulking. Seems he might want to break up with me now.

Anonymous 48930

He sounds like he resents you and doesn't want to throw you out but doesn't want to be with you anymore, and your presence is making him miserable. Do you fight?

Anonymous 49219

I think you have some misconceptions about mental health that are holding you back from being happy/helping your bf be happy.

>I'm not a fan of therapy (it feels like there is a third person in the relationship)

A (good) therapist is just a third party who helps you talk to each other. A lot of relationship problems happen because one or both parts of the couple don't know how to properly communicate their issues. In the case of depression, a lot of people don't even know how to recognize their own problems and verbalize them, so they don't know how to start working on them because they haven't understood the concrete issue(s) yet. Therapy can help with all of this, but of course it requires a person who's willing to do the work.

>or anti-depressants (they don't solve the problem, just make the feelings go away) so I don't want to recommend that he tries them.

They're not supposed to solve the problem, they're just supposed to balance you out a bit so you have fewer hurdles in your way to work on your problems. Both therapy and medication don't work on people who don't want to put in work. They're just tools to support you.

>He manages to work ok and is normal when talking to other people, though that doesn't happen much. It's only me he is depressed around.

It's hard not to take this personally, but I don't believe that you're the cause/recipient of his depression. I think what's happening is that he's functioning in his daily life because he can pull himself together for an amount of time, but when he's at home and can be himself, he shows his real feelings.

>It's not just that he is sad but mean too. He also complains we don't have sex but twice told me sex was boring so I'm not interested anymore.

This is incredibly hurtful to hear and I'm sorry. Most likely it's his depression killing his libido, so when he does have sex he doesn't really enjoy it, but this, again, is not your fault and I'm sorry that he's damaging your self esteem.

>I know it sounds like we should just break up, but I don't have anywhere else to live, especially with corona. I don't get on with my family and I don't think flights are even open here yet if I did want to go back to my country. I don't speak the local language so I can't just find a local place to stay.

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Anonymous 49222

>>49219
Your post was good but the
>misconceptions about mental health
Triggers a gut negative reaction in me and I think most people who have had pysch stuff pushed on them with this spiel and had bad experiences. Therapy and drugs can be good tools and they won't help if you don't want them too, yes, but they aren't neutral tools. They're both crapshoots and unless you get lucky you'll have to try a lot of different ones to find one that works, and a bad one can cause a lot of extra damage, both drugs and therapists.

Anonymous 49225

>>49222
Yeah that's true, finding a drug/therapist you're compatible with can be really hard. I regretted using that "mental health" sentence as soon as I posted, but oh well.



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Anonymous 48983[Reply]

I never really posted on here, just lurked but I am desperate enough to finally ask for some help and advice.
I have been e-dating a boy (i hate LDRs but he is really special and we are meeting soon and I actually wanna spend my life with him), I love him and he says he loves me. Kind of awhile ago I found a post he made about his ex where he mentions her tits and he says he misses them. She has big tits, and of course, I don’t. I really wanted to feel better and asked him about it and he admitted he does miss big tits and that he prefers them.
I have never been insecure about my tits before but this just destroyed me. I feel so undesirable and ugly and I feel embarrassed that I even had the audacity to show him my tits or send him nudes. I feel gross. He does not even care, he just gets mad at me for being upset about this. I don’t what to do or how to feel better I keep thinking about it, I am literally turning brain dead. Talking to him was unironically the only thing that made me feel better since I dropped out of school and don’t really leave my room anymore. The worst part is that I found his ex’s social media and she is very pretty and of course has giant tits. Not like big or medium, literally giant. Even if I tried to get big tits, they could definitely not get that big, I am too skinny. How do I feel better?
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Anonymous 49208

>>49207
I mean I'm not that anon but I got what they were trying to say and didn't really think they were a moid, the message didn't make sense for a moid poster unless they're LARPing really hard.

Anonymous 49209

Isn`t breast implant an option?

Anonymous 49211

>>49209
>>49111
He thinks fake tits are gross.

Anonymous 49213

Hi

Anonymous 49221

>>49211
No, he doesn't, he thinks shitty bolt-ons are gross. Fake tits are like makeup. Men haven't got a fucking clue about how much work and product can go into a 'clean, natural' face.



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Drugs Anonymous 45565[Reply]

LSD LSD LSD
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Anonymous 48676

>>45847
>but i dont feel it much because undiagnosed adhd or autism or something
wait what? adhd/autism make mdma less effective?

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Anonymous 49149

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I had the worst LSD trip of my life last month, and while my friend rescued me halfway through it I still look back and feel bad about it.
The one good thing is that I made some decent decisions to improve what I was freaking out about in that trip, and I'm now seeing the positive effect of my changes.
Lastly I wanted to try Ketamine, but I dont think I'm mentally stable enough to do dissociatives or psychedelics for a while lmao

Anonymous 49194

>>48234
IDK which drugs you're looking for, but TBH I signed up on Tinder, put "420 friendly" in my bio, made small talk with a few alternative looking dudes, met the least annoying one for coffee. Said I'm new in the city and need a plug. He told me some spots and I got my weed. He was nice and not creepy, so we became casual friends. If you end up hanging out with someone who smokes and who tries to give you the "I'll smoke you out" spiel, just say you only smoke for [insert medical issue] and don't want to get too used to it and only want to keep it around for emergencies. It'll work for other drugs too as long as you find an excuse not to do it together with the moid.

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