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Anonymous 122053[Reply]

Anyone else sexualize themselves to moids to feel good about themselves? I've been doing it for two years now I hate it but I cant help it being told that I'm loved and I made people feel good makes me not want to stop yet I feel so disappointed in the whore I am

Anonymous 122054

>>122053
>Anyone else like being a whore?
You're the only one, sorry.

Anonymous 122055

Find a real hobby and get validation from your own progress in it.

Anonymous 122065

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>>122053
yeah, go ahead and keep sexualizing yourself, throw away any sense of individuality, just make yourself easier to digest
yes this feeling is felt by all nonas across boards
yes we all do this
yes this is what women have been fighting for

Anonymous 122067

I'd say the issue is mostly in that you're doing it for the sake of men in order to get their validation. If you just like looking good for you, that's mostly alright if not taken to the point of obsessive vanity, but desperately seeking out validation from other people belies a self esteem issue, which you no doubt are cognizant of. Basing yourself worth on beauty, something you just sort of have and don't really develop, as well as something that also has a time limit is not conducive to long term mental health and stability. While it's not as simple as >>122055 might make it sound, finding something to do with your life that isn't based on how others view you will probably make you feel better long term. You don't have to be good at it either you can just do it for your own sake.

Anonymous 122074

Unless and until he is the ultimate and ultimate man idk why you would do all that …and for free?! Putting yourself in danger …are you dumb Nona? Check for mold in your apt



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Anonymous 121997[Reply]

>You need to modernize
>If you dont get tiktok/twitter/facebook then how will you socialize with others huh silly?

Anonymous 122007

pity reply for another frog thread

Anonymous 122059

>>121997
>tiktok, facebook
Nobody uses those
>twitter
It's called x granny

Anonymous 122063

>>121997
all the people that matter dont use cringe social media anyway



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Anonymous 121744[Reply]

The whole phenomenon of this dude is proof that standards/body-shaming/fatphobia don’t exist for males. If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time. But because someone had the audacity to try to socially enforce any rock bottom, bare minimum physical standard for the sacred male, everyone threw a fit and he got a whole media festival of events, money and opportunities thrown at him for weeks on end. In real life a female is torn to shreds for not spending most of her mental energy on appearances, but something as febrile as “hey maybe a male shouldn’t be so fat he can barely walk” is completely socially unacceptable and would get you fired while every handmaiden within ten miles performatively throws themselves on his gangrenous fat-entombed micropenis.
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Anonymous 121914

>>121751
Dating is for retardpilled worthless eaters and it’s completely irrelevant to my post
Sorry I forgot 99.9% of people are illiterate mongoloids and tried to have a discussion about something

Anonymous 121915

>>121914
lol okay but i will continue to oppress fat ugly men like picrel by rejecting and ignoring them for the rest of my life and so will most women. i love fatshaming men

Anonymous 121923

>>121915
Your individual actions aren’t relevant to the discussion of collective societal actions you self obsessed fool

Anonymous 121924

>>121923
I mean use your brain for 1 second. If society doesn't agree on an ideal body type for men, why are male models required to be skinny or fit? Why are characters meant to portray attractive men in shows and movies often slim, fit and tall? If you look at any female centric media youll see that the moids there are conventionally attractive, not fat pigs. You can look up various studies that shows women's prefefence for lean muscular men but perhaps you'd nitpick those studies as well.

Anonymous 122039

>>121744
I see more fat women with regular size men than vice versa. I almost always see fat guys with fat women.



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dreams? Anonymous 122029[Reply]

i had the strangest dream, ive never experienced a dream so long
apparently i was in a thruple with my bf (recurring theme) but i always get confused by the concept as being weird, like i counted and felt something was off but wasn't sure what
we were in his room, he was with this pumpkin headed fella, kinda looked like me but not really
anyways after awhile of this fella cuddling with my bf and having his attention, i began to be unsure of whether he was real
after doing a test by (non violently) pushing him against my bf or more like pushing my bf on top of him on the bed (smushing him) he faded from reality and i came to the conclusion that he was not real, and maybe needed my brain to be checked.
he wasn't really a representation of me i don't think, more like "a stranger."
i woke up naturally but very tired, like the dream itself was exhausting
a REM cycle lasting longer than usual?


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I’m a terrible sister Anonymous 121483[Reply]

I’m the failure of my family. I think my upbringing was pretty rough, but out of my 4. other siblings, I’m the only failure. My younger brother and sister are both well adjusted and normal human beings with jobs and houses. My older brother is kinda a weirdo, but he is super nice and makes a lot of money as scientist. And my eldest brother is the coolest and best person I’ve ever known. He literally took beatings on everyone else behalf and practically raised my siblings and I after a certain point. He always protected me and helped me out, even though I’m a worthless person. One time he beat up a kid who hit me and his girl friend always talked to me because she knew I had problems making friends in high school. He was the kind of guy who would stop on the highway to help cars on the side of the road or lend everyone else money. He even started a few side hustles for my other siblings and I, but I never really got into them.

A few years ago he got married to his girlfriend and was promoted to an amazing job . He had the perfect life, perfect friends, and perfect relationship, and he deserved it. I was always super jealous of him and my siblings even though it’s my fault my life sucks.

About 2 months ago my eldest brother’s wife and kid died so he started drinking. Because his job involves cranes and boats, he got fired when he showed up to work drunk too many times. His life has gone to complete hell and I’m pretty sure he is going to kill himself drunk driving.

All my other siblings and his friends are doing everything they can to cheer him up, but there is literally nothing I can do. My sister and younger brother keep taking him out to eat. His wife’s family is helping him clean up his house. Even my weirdo shut in older brother is driving 300 miles a week to hang out and work out with him. I don’t have money to do anything for him and there is literally nothing interesting I do to talk with him about. I don’t have a family of my own for him to be around like my younger siblings or share any interests with him like my older brother. I can’t even help with all the side hustles that are falling apart without my eldest brother, because I have no real skills.

I wish I was nicer to him and I wish I could do something for him. The last time we talked, he told me he was sorry for not helping me more to have a better life before his friends had to carry him out of the bar.
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Anonymous 121636

>>121624
I think they did. sorry my posts have been sloppy. I usually only post here after drinking a bit. I’ll try to write more clearly to the 3 people reading my posts XD. Even if no one actually cares, it kinda feels therapeutic writing about it, even if I’m not the one suffering most here. Also I’m going to be super rambly here, so sorry in advance. Also I know its probably obnoxious having me refer to my brother by older and young, but if I use a fake name, I’ll probably start using their real ones by mistake.

So, I showed up at my eldest brother’s house last evening. When I pulled into his driveway, I saw my second oldest brother since he was outside laying down a bunch of stones to make this terraced garden thing. In high school and college, he had a job in earthwork/construction, so he is pretty good at that sort of stuff even though he works in a lab. He zones out really hard with headphones and he didn’t notice me until I was right next to him. I spoked him and he dropped a big stone on his foot, but he was cool about it after rolling around in the dirt for a bit. He told me he was trying to make a cool new garden for my eldest brother because he wanted a nice garden and to change things up to remind him less of his wife and kid. I guess that makes sense, although I’m not sure why he doesn’t just move from that house if it’s that much of an issue being there. My older brother did not pick me up and threw me into a piece of furniture, so thankfully my dream about that was no prophetic.
When My older brother and I went inside, and my younger brother and eldest brother where inside playing call of duty zombies. I think my younger and second oldest brother carpooled after work to head over to my eldest brother’s house. My sister wasn’t there that day. For about 2 or 3 hours, we played zombies. When we were teenagers, we’d play zombies a bunch since my eldest brother bought a Xbox 360. I never liked playing it much, but because COD was the only game my brother would buy, the area I was in was too rough to run around, and I had no friends, it was one of the few things I had to do growing up for fun. The only person who hated it more than I was my second oldest brother. He owned a computer as a teenager that he’d play his own games on and was willing to do stuff outside by himself, so he never got as good at the game as the rest of us. We spent a goPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 121637

>>121636
So, we start a fire in a firepit in the backyard and just hang out. We talked about some childhood memories and our family. It was pretty calm and nice. Eventually, my eldest brother gets messed up and My brother carry him to his room. Only my older brother came back out since my younger brother decided to pass out too. Things became pretty awkward since we weren’t talking, and he kept going over to the stick pile to keep the fire going. I don’t remember how, but we started talking about our lives and what we were going to do about our elder brother. He told me something about his old job being willing to taking him back, since he was one of the few people at the port who could get things done. I suggested we try to find him someone else to start a family with, but he said that it would be a bad idea. He also poked fun at me about being too alone myself to be a good wingwomen anyways, but I thin he wasn’t being mean since he doesn’t really have any relationship experience either. I have a lot of trouble reading him, especially when drunk. I remember asking him if I should go to the gym with everyone else and he told me I could but that I probably wouldn’t like it. He said he was going to try to find a beach or hiking trail this weekend, but I said I probably couldn’t make it. Not sure why I said that, but I did even though I never have anything going on. At some point we just start throwing asmany sticks and leaves as we can on the fire to try and make it huge. Then I remember sitting down and resting my eyes and waking up on a couch.

I’m 90% sure I was carried inside but I can’t remember for sure. I don’t know if this is weird, but I enjoy it when you smell like smoke and wood after being around a fire. I called out of work today because I was still kinda buzzed when I woke up and I hate my minimum wage job. I’m still at my brother’s house and I’m probably about to play zombies again in a few minutes as of writing this. I already cooked up some dinner with the help of my younger brother. I want to tell them I will go with them to the beach or whatever. My sister is coming too, so it would be super fun, I think. Idk, this whole situation feels weird, but I think I’m happy. I’m going to try and talk with both of my older brothers some more.

Anonymous 121692

>>121636
>>121637
So it sounds like you were actually useful Nona, you did very well! I'm sure they all appreciated having you there. And yes, you should totally go to the beach with them.

Anonymous 121880

Updates?

Anonymous 122001

>>121637
Sounds like it went way better than you expected



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one of my friends totally dropped me Anonymous 120770[Reply]

as the title says, one of my friends texted me last friday, and decided that we couldn’t be friends anymore. he said that our friendship was “too intense” and he couldn’t handle it for his mental health. this came out of nowhere, and he hadn’t expressed discomfort any time in the past about our friendship and what we talked about. we’ve only known each other since november but we’ve gotten really close in that time, and tell each other about our mental health, personal, and family struggles. i’m not mad that he did this, if anything im glad he’s prioritizing his mental health. but, it just really fucking sucks that he just,,, decided we can’t be friends anymore. i don’t even know if this is permanent. from the way he spoke, i don’t think it is, but i have no clue when he’ll be stable enough for us to be friends again.

on one hand, he’s kind of right? like, our friendship was a bit mentally draining for the both of us. but on the other hand i really miss him. i miss talking to him from when i woke up to when i went to bed. i miss seeing funny videos and sending them to him. i miss talking to him about literally nothing and everything. i think it’s worse because he still like, looks at my ig stories. he doesn’t hate me, we just can’t be friends for the time being.
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Anonymous 121717

>>120918
pretty much the same happend to me
for 2 year we sorta dated but i told him we couldnt be with him because im a lesbian
when he got over me and started seeing another girl i realised im probably just bi and stupid
but the coodependency hit really good while it lasted

Anonymous 121963

op here again bumping this thread!! it's been a while since this all happened, but i talked to him a couple weeks ago and i got some form of closure. he basically told me that we got too close, and that he was telling me things about him that he shouldn't, as well as thinking that we were too dependent on each other.

i'm doing better now! i still feel sad about our friendship not working out (especially since i couldn't do anything about it) but i'm not as worried. i just hope he's doing okay. he's a good guy, even if he doesn't always feel like it. sometimes i come across a tweet or tiktok and i'm like "lol toby would like this" and then i remember. oh yeah. can't send it to him because i have him blocked on instagram and imessage. i'm in therapy now (thank god) and hopefully i'll start changing for the better. :)

Anonymous 121967

>>121963
Proud of you nona. It is very hard to adjust to having someone in your life to not having them there at all. But usually time makes things better and it sounds like it’s helped for you. I’m also adjusting to not speaking to someone who I used to talk to every day. It’s very, very hard and I hope I’m able to be at peace with it soon. Happy to hear you’re doing better and I wish you the best!

Anonymous 121974

>>121967
thanks nona. its always really hard at first. but i think that eventually you just… forget? like, at first i couldn't help but think about him. from the time i woke up til the time i went to bed. but now i don't think about him as much. you slowly forget about them as you spend less time with them.

Anonymous 121978

traitors are to be EXECUTED!!!



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Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
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Anonymous 120945

>>120944
Some errors here use this in place of number 2.
http://www.nwsnet.or.jp/

Anonymous 120946

>>120945
https://nwsnet.or.jp/
Sorry the 's' was missing

Anonymous 121922

op Here. I let my husband convince me I was the problem again. I convinced myself if I did better he would treat me better. I stopped fighting. I went along with everything. We had more good times, but he would often just turn cruel without warning. And when I didn't give into his baiting he would punish me.

Tonight I agreed to throw out some "contaminated" trash and do extra cleaning. I followed all his instructions. While I was cleaning he was watching tv, eating, and drinking. He kept accusing me of not cleaning and lying. When I finished a task he told me I didn't actually do it. Then he told me I finished too fast. This happened repeatedly until he set a timer and told me I had to spend 2 hours cleaning the entry way ( about a 1meter x 2 meter space including the genkan). All the while calling me a bitch and a liar. He was using headphones so I quietly put on some dirty clothes from the hamper and ran away. I turned off my phone. Bought food because I wasn't allowed to eat until I finished cleaning. Now I'm at a manga cafe. I feel a lot lighter even though I have no plan. tbh the thread of that girl who was groomed and kidnapped who had first made a thread about how to fix herself was running through my head.

>>120944
Sorry for not replying earlier. Thanks for the support. I've spoken with the shelter in my area and they will take me but I have to quit my job which I can't do right now.

I have no plan and I have a medical test and have a big work thing this week but I7ll manage.

Anonymous 121950

>>121922
How often are you going to crawl back to your husband and then come here to cry about how he abused you again.

What's your home country?

Anonymous 121976

>>121950
US. I came back, we alreadh had a huge fight and the police got called. Police were not helpful at all. Earlier that same day I talked to a social worker at the hospital who told me to wait for my paperwork to go through and then she can hook me up with resources to leave and set up a place to live.



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Anonymous 121969[Reply]

>his friends are liking his instagram posts, they must be cheating
>he reposted a tiktok, i think it's because his cheating partner likes it
>he's too happy, he must be cheating on me
>he's sad, maybe he's having conflict with his cheating partner
>that song can be interpreted as an relationship with infidelity, he's cheating
>his pupils are dilated, he must be thinking of cheating
>he breathes slower around strangers, he's cheating
>the murmurs he makes while sleeping could possibly be a name, maybe multiple, he's cheating
how do i catch my boyfriend cheating on me? i can't ignore the signs

Anonymous 121970

go through his phone

Anonymous 121971

>>121970
no i don't like confrontation is there a truth pill? i could drug him

Anonymous 121972

>>121971
nah not even the CIA could find a truth pill. well, thats pretty much how most people find out if their partner cheats. you can do it in sneaky ways, unethical but hey. if your intution tells you that hes cheating perhaps its time to break things off bc youre clearly stressed out, uncomfortable and dont find him trustworthy



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Anonymous 118787[Reply]

In your own words, what does falling in love feel like to you? How do you know there's a connection, a spark, a vibe?
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Anonymous 118829

It feels more self destructing and dangerous than taking drugs of questionable quality.

Anonymous 119008

>>118829
It is also the most sublime drug known to man. Better than an entire drug cocktail

Anonymous 119057

I knew for sure when I realized I only want to marry and have kids with him.

Anonymous 121955

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It’s a hunger a need for someone. When I love someone I need them for my life to have any meaning

Anonymous 121965

One side bliss, one side worry.
Every moment with him is wonderful. Laughter, passion, pleasure. I can open up and be myself with no facade.

Without him is anxiety. Did I mess something up? Is he okay? He’s depressed, so will he leave me? Did I hurt him? Is he eating? Did he get drunk? Is he okay at work? It tears at my heart.



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unsent letter Anonymous 121934[Reply]

You'll find that I'm losing myself more & more, not because I'm incapable of loving anyone else but you – but I'm forgetting you, I can't even remember what nicknames we had for each other unless I really sit and think, or if I go beyond my notes. I hate that I can't think of you and see your face anymore, your face is such a blur which is weird to say when your face is everywhere online. You and your friends can block me from your life, and you can think I can forget you but the fame you hold is to an extent where I can hear from you, or what you're up to. I wish one day you'll come home. I don't care how dirty you did me, all I request is a kiss


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