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(Teen) pregnancy Anonymous 83995[Reply]

I'm 19 years old and my BF is 20. I'm a NEET and he's in college (considering dropping out, however.) We haven't been dating long, and we always use a condom, but I still got pregnant. I told my parents and they were okay with it and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted to get an abortion (which is legal here), but I'm not so sure now.
I talked about it with him, and he assumed I'd get an abortion, but I said I wasn't sure, and he seemed calm, and told me we could go to the doctor together and see our options. I don't want to get an abortion, but I'm not ready to have a child. We both live with our parents and use their income to support our expenses. Neither of us ever had a job. We both have severe mental health issues, a suicide attempt, and psych ward inpatient history.

Does anyone have any advice on how to make up my mind? I know the logical thing would be to get an abortion since we have both recently attempted suicide and self-harmed, but it isn't as easy as some would make it sound. It's very scary to me, even more so than pregnancy. He has BPD. I have Asperger's.

This isn't bait. And please, avoid rudeness. I feel bad enough. Picrel from Google.
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Anonymous 87461

>>87458
The coil is just as bad plus you can’t stop it yourself like the pill.

Anonymous 87468

hoping OP aborted but based on all her arguments against abortion, she seemed like she really wanted to keep it.
another baby in a broken home for the statistics i fear

Anonymous 91215

>>83995
>We both have severe mental health issues, a suicide attempt, and psych ward inpatient history.
get an abortion, that's the responsible thing to do.

Anonymous 91655

>>91654
getting an abortion is taking responsibility. neglecting the child after it's born or giving it away is much worse.

Anonymous 91678

>>83995
are you sure you want to risk p.p depression and psychosis?



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Disliking my breasts Anonymous 91432[Reply]

I have small breasts, and there's nothing wrong or conventionally unattractive about them, but I deeply dislike them. I hate walking around without a tight sports bra and feeling them move, touching them accidentally, or posing in front of a mirror and seeing these bumps on my shirt.
This has been happening to me since the start of puberty, but as of late I feel more and more uncomfortable with my chest area.
I'm not trans or anything. I'm GNC ("adult tomboy") and I'm okay being a woman, but I'd like to look more masculine, maybe have a stronger jawline, or broader shoulders. I absolutely don't want to be male, just a more masculine woman, since my frame is very naturally feminine.
I know I shouldn't care about my looks and just concentrate on something more productive, but it bothers me the fact that I can't be okay with my natural chest. I don't want to hate my body, and the only solution I've found so far is to wear a "chest binder", which flattens my chest and makes it more comfortable to exist. I wear a bigger one, so I don't actually fuck up my rib cage.
Does anyone have the same struggle? How do you cope with it?

Anonymous 91540

nona, I feel your pain. Have you tried getting into radblr? They have a nice community for dysphoric women with some really good advice on managing dysphoria and combatting your internalization of society's hatred of the female form. I was in a similar situation to you once, and I found that feminist "pussy power" "make everything look like a clitoris" etc style body positivity stuff really helped, even though it seemed cheesy. I don't have the time right now but later I think I might come back and post some links to stuff like that. Also try learning about how your female body parts help YOU and serve YOU and not other people. Did you know that your breasts contain vital hormone-producing structures that help keep you healthy? They're not just good for feeding babies or being enjoyed by men, they're helpful to you, too. People don't like talking about women's bodies outside of sex and motherhood though, so if you don't want to have sex with men or be a mom, or you just don't value those things very highly, that might make you have gender dysphoria.
In terms of fashion advice that I have, there was a /butch/ thread on cc a few years ago but it didn't have much fashion advice. Just try wearing masculine clothing made for women or more popular with women. Things like tanktops/wifebeaters, button-ups and hawaiian shirts, suspenders, and sweatervests/turtleneck sweaters are quite nice. They sold some really nice button-up blouses at walmart a while back but they don't have them anymore I think. Butch fashion is definitely very summer-focused kek. If you want to look like you have a masculine body, it's generally better to "fill-in" through padding and layering then to "cut off" through binding and such, more comfortable and better for your health. Try getting some nice jackets and go for looser-fitting clothing to hide your physique. Boxers are also really good for being comfy as all hell and hiding your butt a lil. Also they won't give you wedgies or have the elastic wear out weird. When looking for fashion advice, don't look at mainstream male or female sources, since the male ones will give you dysphoria and exacerbate any tranny tendencies you might have, and the female ones are pretty much exclusively for femmes. If you think you can get a hold of your dysphoria enough though, those resources can be quite good, especially as inspiration for fits or for advice on saving dough while looking clean. Just look at butch women in media and try to copy what tPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 91598

>>91540
I'll try to look into the radblr community for dysphoric women.
>People don't like talking about women's bodies outside of sex and motherhood though, so if you don't want to have sex with men or be a mom, or you just don't value those things very highly, that might make you have gender dysphoria.
This is a great point, and thank you for the sex ED.
These are most likely a factor on my dysphoria, but I think the biggest part is that I think it looks awkward on my clothes. During sex, I also don't enjoy having my breasts touched very much, I find it a very vulnerable part of my body.
I don't have any problems with my vagina, I like having one, even.
>Just try wearing masculine clothing made for women or more popular with women.
I wear baggy men's clothes only. Mostly sweatpants and cotton graphic tees. I'm a sperg and I don't enjoy fabrics like denim, leather, or wool. I'm in college for comp sci, and I will likely never have to wear a suit in my life.
I use a chest binder that's slightly loose, so I can wear it all day long without bruising or breathing issues.
I've been thinking about buying boxers, I love when pants are big on someone and their boxers' band shows a little. I think it is very attractive.

Thank you for your detailed response. I will try to look for an FTM guide to dressing or something similar, to get a boxier shape.

Anonymous 91663

Do you think it could be a form of body dysmorphia or OCD like intrusive thoughts?

Anonymous 91670

>>91663
That's entirely possible. Although I doubt it's lated to OCD (there's neither obsession nor compulsion.) I dislike it aesthetically and find it bothersome, but it's not something I think about 24/7.

Anonymous 91693

I'm the same and in highschool used to double up the sports bras to get as flat as possible (despite already being almost flat, like you). For me it's definitely the oversexualizatuon of breasts (I hate being sexualized in any way that makes me the object of desire instead of a subject who acts on someone else), as well as that I feel it makes me look fat. I struggled with weight for years and it has been instilled in me to see being fat as one of the greatest moral wrongs, even if I'm ironically attracted to women who are a bit chubby and don't project this onto them.

I still struggle with this, but lately I've been trying to desexualize breasts for myself. Following artists depicting neutral female nudity and painting such things myself has helped a little.

Female secondary sex characteristics may make us less human in the eyes of men but it doesn't have to be like this to ourselves. It's difficult to internalize that you're not a sex object just for having breasts and hips, but we'll get there anon. I'm sure of it.



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Aspd support groups Anonymous 91615[Reply]

Anyone know of any aspd support groups that wont cobstantly keep pushing recovery? I dont want to recover or be a good person. I have tried and tried but I just dont want to and i need to talk to someobe that wont call me silly or tell me to just grow a pair already.


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Porn Addiction General Anonymous 4838[Reply]

I'm not posting this in /nsfw/ since the entire premise of this thread is antithetical to that board, and I figure we could support each other here. I've seen a few posts here and there around cc of anons trying to curb this issue.

Who here is struggling with a porn addiction? Share your experience, thoughts and ideas, hold each other accountable, or just vent.

>a few resources on how porn affects the consumer, tips on staying free, and general topics of interest

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com
pretty much this entire website +

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-problems-here-come-women

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/are-fetishes-innate

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/forum/threads/my-thoughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post.15558

https://a-broader-sensibility.tumblr.com/post/160909630573/anti-porn-masterpost-feel-free-to-reblog-and-add
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Anonymous 14140

>>5154
While most men don't watch things that extreme, it's still true that they've gotten desensitized. Just look at the average porn video, that's already a bit too extreme.

Anonymous 14141

>go relatively porn free for a year (meaning I drew my own and look at nudes, but didn't get off to or watch videos)
>fetishes still continue to get more violent and gross
Why? It can't be the drawing since that's still my imagination.
My taste with women has at least vanilla-ed out (thank goodness), but in regards to men it's gotten heaps more degenerate this year.
I know I'm inherently into GFD since I fantasized about it before porn, but I've recently gotten intofeet, anal prolapse, vomit, amputation, and fisting, things I'd watched out of curiosity before but not gotten off to.

I've also relapsed a bit, but I'm no longer spending hours looking at it and also haven't watched any featuring women. I'm not sure how I'm doing, really.

Anonymous 14145

>>14141
>vomit
Sounds pretty hot.

Anonymous 14146

>>14145
It is, but that's kind of the problem.

Anonymous 14156

>>14141
I don't watch porn, but I'm kinda the same with you when it comes to men and women. It's probably because men are shit as a group, so the anger crept into my sexuality. I notice I have the worst most aggressive fantasies when I'm in a low/bad mood, is it the same for you?



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Anonymous 90250[Reply]

My parents psychology and psychically abuse me I sent my ldr bf a video of me crying & telling him I will be good when i move in. I won't start fights and I'll be clean yayaya and that I hate my life with my parents I need some reassurance that he still wants to move in. I had scratch marks on my face from the abuse in the video. I told him my plans in life when it comes to school work and family and marriage to make sure he wants to live with me too and I told him about how I feel suicidal and the idea of living with him helps me not kill myself. I also told him that I'm not trying to say ill kill myself if he leaves me. I also apologized to him for being too emotional and venting to him. He said I'm too baked to talk about this right now. And I was okay we can tlak about it later. I feel insecure about the relationship now and that I'm come off looking bad. I also started imagining my thepraist as my mother. When I was a child I have my an imaginary mom that was blonde & skinny and was chill and relax that would give me sitcom end of episode life lessons she was the was the sheer opposite of my real mom mentally and psychicall I'm literally bringing back this coping mechanism.
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Anonymous 90325

>>90324
You could also get a job stocking things at night at big retailers… that way yu don't have to do a whole lot with people. God fuck your parents I hope you're alright

Anonymous 90397

>>90250
>fluttershy pic
tranny?
>expecting a moid to save you
you do realize he's either going to just be super avoidant and jerk you around and resent you for being remotely vulnerable or he's going to take advantage of your vulnerabilities and mindfuck you worse than your parents ever could, right?

You need to dump your stoned loser boyfriend, get a job (not sex work), and move out with roommates. You could probably work some min wage retail shit, save up, do a 2-year community college degree in programming or business admin or some shit, and then get a real job.

> When I was a child I have my an imaginary mom that was blonde & skinny and was chill


Also stop being racist.

Anonymous 90400

>>90397
>Also stop being racist.
dafuq?

Anonymous 90406

>>90400
Why would a blonde mom be better than any other mom? I mean, white people get divorced at the drop of a hat, so if anything blonde moms are probably shittier. Moid-brained eurocentric beauty standards creeping into OP's assessment of what makes a good parent.

Anonymous 90436

>>90406
>When I was a child I have my an imaginary mom that was blonde & skinny and was chill and relax that would give me sitcom end of episode life lessons she was the was the sheer opposite of my real mom

I'm assuming she was saying that her real mom was not blonde and not skinny and not chill so her 'opposite mom' is blonde and skinny and chill. What radfemtwt does to the brain…



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I have to write a huge fucking papaer on mayapples Anonymous 91433[Reply]

Currently freaking out because I have to write a huge ass paper on mayapples for my science class. I procrastinated on it so now I'm fucked
I can't even think of what the fuck to write, I've already exhausted all my options. How much can you write about them? I've already written about their ecology, their use in herbal medicine, in cancer treatments, in jams, in wine, fucking everything. I hate mayapples.

Anonymous 91435

write about how it can be propagated and grown and if it's ever been farmed at all?



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What do you base your self-esteem on? Anonymous 91333[Reply]

Okay so suppose I'm a feckless, unhealthy, unattractive idiot who has no skills and despite trying very hard have basically failed at everything I've aimed for. What should I base my self esteem on? Alternatively, how can I keep going without needing self esteem?

Anonymous 91344

Try becoming a funny person, it's easier then you think. Going out of your way to feel helpful to others and be more caring can reaaly be good for self-esteem. Having low self esteem is not a death sentence though, I have it too. Try finding something you are passionate ebout. Can be literally anything. then focus on that over your own self. being occupied with work, school, and hobbies gives you less time and energy to waste hating yourself.

Anonymous 91390

If I try my best to be kind in this world, then I'm doing better than a lot of people and have nothing to worry about. Even if I'm cringe and not the best at the things I do, whatever. At least I mean well.
Also consider that you'll always have you, anon. You have to love her (you) because she's all you have.
>>91344
>>91355
These are also correct.

Anonymous 91430

>>91333

Physical attractiveness (Yes, I know people are going to say that is wrong but it is well-known life is easier for physically attractive people.) and intelligence (I've been called retarded and treated like a retard more than a few times at this point). Also money, because fuck you money is a thing after all. I once left a job where people treated me like shit, only after a few months, because I didn't really need it that much in the first place. lmao



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Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability Anonymous 34633[Reply]

Part vent, part desperate plea for help…

My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)

I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.

I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.

And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.

Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
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Anonymous 89760

>>89730
Yeah, I've been getting more sleep for the past week and it's like night and day. I'm way more productive and wake up before my alarm instead of needing three.

My husband has also been adjusting his schedule so we can both get more sleep. It's hard because his mother also has bizarre sleep hours because she takes pain killers and some other mystery medication along with energy drinks. She has no regard for others and will constantly wake up myself my husband, or my husband's grandmother at 2am to talk about shit tgat is not time sensitive and could easily wait. It's worse for my husband because is mother will start screaming at his grandmother pretty much every day when he is trying to sleep.

At least now that I'm getting proper sleep I can help with chores I'm also on top of things at work again.

Anonymous 89804

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Looking forward to coming back to this thread in a few years and seeing OP relapse a few times, continuing the circle of leaving and coming back. You will waste away your remaining years of youth on this jobless psycho, and when you will finally leave him (maybe when you're 35, maybe 40), you will realize that there is so much more to live for. Good luck abused nona, hope you will come to your senses.

Anonymous 90272

I hope she’s doing okay

Anonymous 91196

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>>89760
I wanna shit on your husband's mom but at the same time I know she's another abused woman to the point of insanity. However that doesn't excuse her actions. Given that she's so hopped up on shit, I'm not surprised she acts incomprehensible towards you and her son. Like, no wonder her kid has clinical OCD to the point of harming himself and those around him (you).

God. I relate to you, not directly but with some of the stuff you've encountered. How have things been anyway? I've not been the nonas in the last two years in this thread, but I do want to know how you've been dealing with these problems since.

Anonymous 91422

>>90272
I'm doing okay. I stopped drinking and found other outlets to deal with my stress.

We are trying to move but haven't decided on a place yet.

>>91196
She has been through a lot of real shit, which I recognize. But she is also a manipulative person who has never held a full time job and has always relied on others. She has symptoms of BPD and has bipolar-like depressive/manic states. She also has fibromyalgia.

Lately her family realized she had been mooching off her mother while my husband and I take care of her and they've been putting pressure on her. So she has actually been helpful lately. But she always wants something in return and it's exhausting.



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Who is your "omg literally me" character Anonymous 86452[Reply]

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Anonymous 91149

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minus the tranny part, i was also a severe aspie while growing up, with my own fantasy world on my head. i also went batshit insane when my ex bf left me to run away from our country, and i like to make multiple accounts with different personalities on social media

Anonymous 91150

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I wish it was someone edgier like Cait.

Anonymous 91153

>>91149
We are twins

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never related to a character more before

Anonymous 91403

>>91389
I'm her but where is my bus?



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Male Friends: Can They Be Trusted? Anonymous 90414[Reply]

Share your experiences with male friends proving to have nefarious or secret motives.

What are signs a male friend is interested versus just being nice, despite having a boyfriend?

What do you think these mean:
>tries to hang out one on one
>gives you random gifts
>offers to pay for everything
>texts you frequently
>takes pictures of you during group outings
>says "oh you don't mention your boyfriend much" despite having done so
>seems to focus on topics that lead to personal info
>asks questions relating to more intimate things
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Anonymous 90877

I only had one male friend in my life and I always wished for him to be a woman. Its cool to have a male friend until you find out that someone who means so much to you has just been viewing you as a sexual object rather than a human being all along. Or maybe my personality was just too bland to care for lol

Anonymous 90898

>>90414
>takes pictures of you during group outings

Get the fuck out! Now!

Anonymous 90993

>>90898
I think that she meant that he offers to take pictures? Would be pretty creepy if he was taking creepshots.

Anonymous 90995

I'm going to be staying with a guy friend for a few nights this week. We've been friends for 5+ years and I never got even an inkling that he was attracted to me so I feel like I can trust him. He also has other platonic female friends, so I know that he's capable of having regular friendships with women and being normal. Even still, I feel pretty nervous about it. It's not that I'm afraid for my safety or anything, but more that I've never stayed over at a guy's place for that long. I didn't think much of it, but now that it's coming up I'm starting to get nervous about sharing a space with a guy for that long and not even one that I'm attracted to kek. Anyway I'm just trying to treat it like if I were staying over at one of my female friends' places and I'm excited to hang out and catch up. If it ends up being a horrible mistake I guess you can expect another post from me next week.

Anonymous 91400

The only man I consider a friend is a guy I've never met in person and probably never will. We met in a random online chatroom when we were younger, it was surprising that we were so close in age so we clicked fast. We're pretty close and have a lot of the same interests so we talk a lot, but I feel like an online friendship is the most I can take with a guy. I'm so wary of a guy getting the wrong idea that I'm either standoffish enough that we don't get super friendly or I really up the "one of the guys" bro behavior (as if that would make them not see me as a woman kek).
though the looks on their faces when i tell guys i'm a lesbian is usually very amusing lol, that's usually how I can tell some moid thought he had a shot with me.
(I kind of consider my roommate's boyfriend my friend because we get along and he's a well adjusted individual, but I don't think he counts because we only interact when he's hanging out in our apt with her lol.)



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