/feels/ - Advice & Venting

No words, I just want a hug.

>>21234
would you prefer they ask/announce the hug prior, or surprise you with the hug?

"I think you're fine just the way you are"

You're so beautiful, please come live with me in my huge house and marry me. While I'm at work all day, take this credit card and go shopping or do whatever you want with it. Please make sure the maids are doing their job. And please take care of my 2 very cute dogs while I'm out. Also start packing because we're going to Dubai for vacation.

"Let me take a deep breath and eat the sandwich
I didn't want to kiss you. Your thoughts are too naive.
Please remove the defense and restrictions on the wolf
I am a good boy drinking milk before going to bed.
You are a beautiful girl but I want to go home
You said that you and your parents are quarreling to stay at my house tonight.
Stay and live, anyway, my home is big enough.
I have to sleep on a big bed, where do you like to sleep?"

>>21256
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2018/05/06/millennials-turned-sex-study-suggests-one-eight-still-virgins/

Relax!

>>21179
Asexuals are taking over the kids minds with their shitty Hamilton music and steven universe fanfics

>>21262
Yeah that's bullshit, with the new hook up culture that means the ones who aren't having sex are the ones who are the desperate fucks where a woman needs a lay but she has no good choices around. Now they got all the choices possible at the tips of their finger, so they don't need to dip into the 1/8th of the pop that would be getting laid by no other means but because they had nothing else better available to them.

>>21265
what

>>21267
The. Article. Is. Bullshit.
They are trying to say "The sharp rise in the number of young people waiting longer to have sex may be because of a "fear of intimacy" and the pressure of social media, according to analysts." which is bullshit. The reason those people normally got laid in previous generations is because before high tech hook up culture, the only way to get laid is whoever was physically available around the person who wanted to hook up. And it's not a mystery that most women are the one who chooses who they fuck seeing as men would fuck anything and without the availability of being able to choose someone from half way across the city like you can in apps like Tinder and such they had to make due with what they had around them. Now with modern hook up culture, the choosers can be even choosier because their pool of who they want to have one night stands with has increased significantly which means the ugly/charming men who might have gotten that lonely pity fuck aren't getting laid now which are the that 1/8th.

It's not a fear of intimacy, it's just a failure to be physically pleasing to people to want to screw.

>>20419
I'm not suicidal. All things considered my needs are met as I am. I live in a nice house in a crime free area of a 1st world country and don't want for anything. My life is pretty good. I'm like a retired spinster at 34. I'm getting too old to consider having children anyways so it's probably too late. So my legacy won't be in genetic form. I'm not big on legacy anyways because I'm pretty nihilistic at this point. Not depressingly so but if nothing matters you can make the individual moment matter more than living in the past memories or future hopes and worries. That's pretty freeing. I can't do much irl because of the illness but we live in a technological age where I can get anything I need delivered to my door and talk to people all over the world any time I want and without any worry. This is the golden age for people in my situation. How could I not be content in this world? Eventually I had to realize my limits and I have met them so I would call that a success. It's a little sad that the bar is low for potential for myself but there's no use hoping for things that can never happen. My grandfather was blind but he reached his potential without the ability to see and was a success because of that. My legacy will be the positive influences I put out to the world hopefully make enough ripples to make the world a better place for a while. I'm happy if that's what I can do.

>>20419
Anon… you're not very bright, you're trying to give input on situations you don't fully understand or comprehend, it's time to stop.

>>20423
Yeah, I guess it's probably too late in that case. Be sure to get your prescription upped. Good luck anon.

>>20433
Thank you.

>>20194
Literally a movie-tier life story. I'd pay to see this.

>>21027
>Flipping an egg

As in a fried egg? Why are you flipping it? Just spoon oil on the top. You crazy Americans, next you'll be telling me you keep uncooked eggs in the fridge or something…

>>21047
>keep uncooked eggs in the fridge
Are you not supposed to?

>>21027

I'm 21 and I just accepted I will never know how to tie my shoes at this point. I just wear laceless shoes now. I get comments sometimes "are you just coming from work."

>>21050
American eggs should be kept refrigerated until they're cooked, because our eggs/hens are raised in deplorable conditions that give rise to a lot of nasty stuff in unrefrigerated uncooked eggs. The rest of the world doesn't have this problem on nearly such a scale, which is why you'll often see Japanese just eating raw egg like it's no big deal.

>>21027
>>21041
>> Usually it's so bad I have my father tie my shoes for me

That is super cute, I wish I had a dad :(

>>21178
What do you eat on a regular day OP? Making a food diary helps to show which foods are high in calories and refined carbs.

Dear god, can anons stop recommending fasting in every thread related to food and weight? You had an eating disorder, we get it.

>>21211
>>21211
it's literally the same anon. ana-chan needs to go home.

>>21211
Agree, OP just needs to cut out junk and cut out snacks, then lower calorie intake from there. Gradual shit.
Exercise is also good on top of it if you're up for that (recommend lifting).
Also:
>not wanting to leave the house because chunky during this process
That's a mental health issue. No one but shitty assholes will hate you or really notice, unless you're 300+ lbs and even then it will be a passing thought.
OP, try to change your mindset to "fuck em all." It's not as if they're going to physically assault you or something, and if they're smaller then you can easily defend yourself lmao.

If its not too much to ask, whats your weight/bmi?

Either way, you just need to acknowledge why you're binging and deal with it. Or go onto keto

>>21053
Who knew people into memes were abnormal blokes heh

>>21070
It's like the internet houses the insane

>>21053
I haven't been able to maintain presence on any form of social media because of this. Even down to QUIZ UP. I CANNOT PLAY QUIZ UP BECAUSE OF CONSTANT CREEPY BROKEN-ENGLISH DMS

>>21096
no, people just become crazier on internet

>>21144
>CONSTANT CREEPY BROKEN-ENGLISH DMS
ah these are the best

>yes helo i have big balls u want slut
>you have turkish cock beofre white bitch
>you want slut
>…
>fuck you cunt have rape

holy god

>>21109
>who hurt you
Passive-aggression doesn't make you seem any less bad of a person. I thought you were done here?
>>21110
>flirting with another guy over Facebook
Anon, that's not even close to cheating. That's like considering a LDR a close relationship. Sounds like he overreacted, especially since he didn't want any kids to begin with, so why would he even be upset? I swear some people just don't know what they want half the time. Whoever you're with now doesn't believe in that stuff right?

>>21114
I mean, I personally feel like I cheated emotionally and it was still a breach of trust with my ex. I've told my current bf and he kind of had the same reaction and even laughed, but only because he thought the entire situation was a mess of immaturity and poor judgement. Still, he said even if I "physically cheated" he wouldn't have minded so long as I was honest, so yeah… I think we have a very positive relationship.

>>21115
Eh, what did he expect? For you to just die with him? You did the right thing. Actually cheating on someone because you're "bored" is what's wrong. You weren't married, and he obviously was too immature for marriage. Good riddance to him, and good luck to you two.

>>21114
>Passive-aggression doesn't make you seem any less bad of a person
Why would I be a bad person? I never even cheated. And I didn't say I was done.

>>21118
Enabling it is pretty bad.

>Did it fuck you up? How?
I had cognitive dissonance between my sexuality and my beliefs, which definitely fucked with me for a while. I've had romantic feelings for women for as long as I can remember, but when those feelings became sexual in my preteens I was plagued with anxiety and depression. I'd often go to bed crying and praying for God to take those feelings away. I still haven't come out to anyone even though I know my parents would accept me.
>Did it help you in the long run?
Praying has always been a good coping mechanism for me. I still believe in God and there are several moments in my life in which I think divine intervention was involved.
>Do you wish you were raised like other people?
There were a ton of problems in my family but I don't think religion was ever the stem of the problem. Both my parents had really terrible childhoods and that showed in how they treated my siblings and me.
>Is your family still very religious?
They've pretty much stopped going to church completely in my late teens. One of my sisters flip-flops between Catholicism, Buddhism, and atheism, but I think it's because she's going through an edgy phase.

Men
>religion keeps the waman in check! waman will be happier if they only have sex within a marriage!
also men
>lol fuck religious chastity imma go cheat on my gf/wife with escorts and fap to 20 year olds nudes well into my 70's, dont tell me how to control my peepee God

I wish I could kill my dad and every other "religious" scumbag out there. If hell really is real, they should all burn there forever.

>>21063
You can tell they're genuine Christians when they have about 144 children.

>>3316
Mom is very Catholic and dad is a theologian for the Catholic Church.
You bet my family is religious.
Did it fuck you up? How?
No.
Did it help you in the long run?
I think so. I can always count on my education to help me figure out what to do.
Are you still religious? If yes, how much?
Very religious still, yes.
Do you wish you were raised like other people?
I was??? Almost everyone I know is at least a little religious
Is your family still very religious?
Yes, very.

I think that it helps that my parents mean it. Mom is constantly helping other people and I have never in my life hear her utter a harsh word about another person. My father has strict limits but is very loving and let us all be us, I guess is how to put it?One thing I am told is unusual is my parents always apologized to us,
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>>21085
Mt father, close quote,
"90% of what is said about any Pope is hearsay and gossip, but it is very bad now. The Church has people in it, and people sin. We cannot approve but condemning the Church for the sins of men is like blaming a school when a student sins. Punish the person. The Church always needs reform because it is full of people."

>>20881
One state away isn't awful, unless someone is dying soon or needs a lot of support you can manage the drive for holidays or when you need to see them. Minneapolis/surrounding smallish towns area has a lot of opportunity.

>>20889
That's 100% how I feel and I'm 29 now. Everyone has been driving since they turned 18 here and I'd just be completely overwhelmed. If I did something wrong and someone honked at me, I'd just freeze. Literally - I'd just stop the car and panic and not know what the fuck to do. No matter where I'd be at the time. So no thanks, I'll just stick to public transit, even if it's a total pain. I cherish the times I can afford a taxi or someone pays for it for business reasons.

>>20916
>>20889
Everyone feels that way when they start. It goes away with practice. Also, not everyone is a great driver, even if we think we all are. I hate being a passenger with some people, but I haven't found anyone uncomfortable with me driving, so I usually am the driver and we have no problems. If you ever do decide you start, just remember that there is always more road and most people are observant, you can always keep going with the flow of traffic if you miss an exit or whatever. Insurance does suck but I literally couldn't hold the job I have or enjoy several hobbies without personal transport.

>>20915
That's pretty much the situation, a family member that needs care daily. I don't know how people dealt with being out here before the internet… The only thing to do here is go to the little bar and get hit on by the bottom of the barrel dudes from my high school or go drive an hour to the nearest Wal-Mart.

Anyways I digress. Are you in Minnesota, sis?

>>20954
Born and raised. Getting super sick of the cold, though. What keeps me here now is the dying years of older relatives and my current company. If you decide to check out Minneapolis, don't actually look to live in the big city, live in a town a bit away from it like Watertown, Chaska, Chanhassen, etc. Very suburban/borderline rural but the job market still reaches out there.