/feels/ - Advice & Venting

This happens a lot in almost any tech related stuff

Nona i'm majoring in finance and i literally feel this to my core

>>128688
Eventually every field will be female dominated, but we need pioneers like you to start pumping the prime. Stay strong.

>>128704

Preach 🤲

I hope youre not in a masters program

i kinda lie or just listen tbh.

I say something out of pocket or start sending random images from my gallery…

Generally i avoid small talk, gossip, getting emotional or discussing contemporary wold events. I prefer discussing philosophy and esoteric themes in dispassionate manner. Silence is perfectly fine too. I avoid those who talk for the sake of talking.

>>128624
so wait, if you satisfied the beauty standards of a coomer online, it would prove that you are worthy of love ? was that your initial reasonning

>>128673
i think it's this preconceived notion that coomers are so desperate that they would date anyone

Probably some shitty advice, but what about dating sites? Then they can see your face right away. Also, what's so bad about your face? Plastic surgery isn't as expensive as people think

>>128672
This, don't feel bad. He's used to 2d

dumb guy prolly js like kids

think 'Love' can be very different between individuals overall

it genuinely feels this way because i got dumped this morning before work and he said he did it because he didnt want to cheat on me. the world is fucking horrible. and now hes going to flirt with other girls.

men are capable of romantic love

>>128538
False
>>128539
True

It is not normaal and it is retarded

Then don’t be mean.
Problem solved.

they want to brainwash you to become a mother

>>128528
Chances are they see good leadership or compassion. Since you're a woman all they see is your potential to create life.

Sometimes as a mom you will have to do things that children will conceive as mean, even though it is not and it is for their own good. Maybe people mean you are good with boundaries and very calm and communicate clearly?

>>128528
Smart women make good moms

Data trails like fingernails scratch across the sky

[Chorus]
She's a naughty girl with a bad habit
Bad habit for drugs
She's a party girl with a bad habit
Bad habit for drugs

[Post-Chorus]
Ecstasy, ecstasy e-e-e-e-ecstasy
Ecstasy, ecstasy e-e-e-e-ecstasy

So, it's Halloween
And you feel like dancin'
And you feel like shinin'
And you feel like letting loose
But what ya gonna be?
Babe, you better know
And you better plan
Better plan all day

Better plan all week
Better plan all month
Better plan all year

You're dressed up like a clown
Putting on your act
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I ain't got no panties on
Ain't got no panties on
I ain't got no panties on
On the dancefloor

It took so long to remember just what happened
I was so young and vestal then
You know it hurt me
But I'm breathing so I guess I'm still alive
Even if signs seem to tell me otherwise
Got my hands bound
And my head down and my eyes closed
My throat's wide open

Do unto you now what has been done to me
Do unto you now what has been done

Tool- Prison sex. The latter half of the songs explains how abuse comes full circle, the abused become the abuser. Abuse like this leaves a hole in you that only seems to be filled when you hurt others. But you never truly get your power back.

Another year goes by and I've done nothing when all I do every day is survive. I feel like I'm still 16. I have all the reasons to be depressed, and my depression IS the appropriate response because I know that if I were happy, then I am insane, because there's nothing much to be happy about when I look around the rock bottom I am in.

Here's to another year, nona. Hope things go well at least this time.

>How do I cope with this?
A hot steamy bath, something tasty to eat or a walk outside in a park, maybe. Something that pampers the inner child's five senses.

Have you tried a seasonal depression lamp? My mom has one and she says it helps decently.

>>107395
Vit D, physical activity and this >>107424

I struggle with feeling like total shit and hitting rock bottom whenever the weather gets colder and darker. Usually with my OCD and anxiety flaring up, I truthfully dread the Winter and, to a lesser extent, Fall every year. I should probably move somewhere warmer, fuck I can't wait for Summer (repost because I made this a thread accidentally since I was retarded and didn't realize there already is one)

>>128629
Neither can I. Didn't take me long to figure out casual sex wasn't for me.
I think we are biologically programmed to bound with sexual partners with hormones being involved or something. Never cared to look up the details because I know what I feel.

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

You are wasting both his and your time

>>127058
will someone PLEASE think of the man grooming a teenager online.. puhleeeaassee guys we have to caaarrrreeee about men’s time and feelings… please he must be so lonely having his entire social life over discord plssss can anyone help HIM

>>127059
HAHAHHA

>>126912
but yes nona pls get out asap while you still can. you are literally 19!!!! you deserve to meet and date people if you want that and have actual real connections. not get lovebombed by some guy 5 year older than you tf. And definitely don't feel guilty bc he spent time/money on youu, because be fr he's a grown man and those are his choices.

If you don't end it soon it'll just keep going and it'll be harder to get away from him. Think about your future. You do NOT want this man to be your husband !!!

Yikes, normally I dont about age gaps but the fact hes already suicide guilting you is a giant red flag. Block,run and hide and never look him up. Most likely hes bluffing…and on the 5% chance he does its not your fault or even worth thinking about. Its not the job of a teenager to "fix" a grown ass man. Gurantee you he'll try to baby trap you as well.

Be careful counting calories. You should, but don't obsess over it and think eating less is a cure-all. Try to avoid any diets that involve cutting food out completely because those diets always end with binging. Your best friend is consistent workout. If you are so big that certain exercises cause pain, choose weight friendly ones or swim. Suddenly doing difficult workouts when your heavy can ruin your joints.

Sometimes weight gain is hormonal or genetic. You can eat less and still hold onto fat because some of your ancestors starved at some point in time.

>>128510
serving sizes are bs, counting calories is more reliable

>>128587
Somehow every North korean except glorious leader is immune to that.

Moved to >>>/hb/22658.