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asexual/low libido with a girlfriend who isn't? Anonymous 122905[Reply]

i somewhat recently got into a relationship with a girl that i've known for a while. i've had talks with her before we started dating about how i'm not really interested in relationships, but that has (obviously) changed since i met her. i really like her, and i'm in no doubt about my feelings for her. but, now that we're together, she's made somewhat flirty comments about my body, or hinted at sexual things. i don't mind that she does it, and if anything i find it sweet that she views me in that way. the problem lies in that i'm very low libido, arguably asexual. i'm not repulsed by the idea of sex, or having sex with her, but i really have no need for it. it's not really my thing. if she asked me to, i'd do it for her, but i'm pretty indifferent.

how do i break the news to her?

Anonymous 122907

>>122905
I think just telling her the way you wrote it here is good enough, it's very respectful. If this makes her leave, it would have done it sooner or later, so just wait for an appropiate moment and tell her.



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my boyfriend used to be a porn addict and it makes me miserable Anonymous 122881[Reply]

I feel like being a woman who likes men it's so humiliating, why am I madly in love with someone who used to comment weird stuff to onlyfans models? how am I attracted to someone who used to jerk off to anime girls with dicks??
He also likes rough sex, I developed a "fetish" for this too, but it makes me feel so bad that I always end up crying after. The worst part is that he also started slapping me and hitting me outside of sex, I feel so miserable and unlovable
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Anonymous 122898

>>122881
>He also likes rough sex,
Must be circumcised

Anonymous 122900

>>122898
We must CIRCUMvent all CIRCUMsized moids
No but fr death to all mutaloids

Anonymous 122902

>>122898
i was thinking the same
>>122894
at the very least leave him. you can do better and deserve better

Anonymous 122904

>>122881
girl … just break up with him damn

Anonymous ## Cleanup crew 122932

Moved to >>>/nsfw/15114.



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Anonymous 122863[Reply]

>Never have had a friend
>Never had a group of girlfriends to vibe with
>Never had a boyfriend or guy friends to do guy stuff with
>Feel used by people constantly
>People only want to talk about themselves, their life, their problems
>Unless it's about them or related to them, they literally don't care
>You have to care about their life / problems / passions but they don't care about yours
>You want to support, hype them up, be there for them but they're never there for you
>Every friendship / relationship feels one-sided where you care about them but they won't ever care about you
>Share something about your life, and people don't care, unless they can make it about themselves somehow
>Feels like people only like what they can get from you or how you make them feel
>People always say I look sad or upset

Anonymous 122868

do you have discord? would you like to talk with someone?

Anonymous 122869

Why have you never had a friend?

Anonymous 122871

I grew up probably a decade before you, if you're the age group I think you are. We had a very different social atmosphere and different patterns of relatability then. It's a lot harder to build bonds now, especially with complications made post-covid and due to the changing nature of the Internet becoming enmeshed with everyday life. Including social media being engineered the way it is. It's not just you. It's a pervasive issue that's tricky to articulate but as much as it feels like it, you aren't alone. It's just harder to connect with people like you because of the way of the world currently.



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Anonymous 122655[Reply]

What is being in love- real love, not infatuated or forcing to try to find the good in a relationship, actually like for you?

Anonymous 122656

>>122655
First, we have to both be virgins. I don't care what modern times has to say, it's not true love unless it's with your first and only partner.
Second, we have to be comfortable talking to each other without having to put on a show, the same way I talk to my family.
Third, we have to both have some sort of life outside of the relationship, which, on the other hand, won't encroach upon it. The relationship has to be the most important thing in our lives, but not the only thing.

Anonymous 122658

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never been in love. maybe never will. its okay

Anonymous 122678

>>122658
I love you, nona.

Anonymous 122850

we both stim equally hehehe



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how to stop being mentally ill in my relationship? Anonymous 122806[Reply]

it's been some time since i've started officially dating a girl that i've been friends with for a while. we're pretty close, and i love her more than i can really put into words. but, i've been struggling with anxiety in our relationship. if she doesn't text me back within an hour, i start to get anxious and worry that she's mad at me. even if she has a totally reasonable excuse that she's told me beforehand, i still worry. do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.

how do i stop myself from getting anxious and worked up when she doesn't text me back? something i do now is deleting instagram, so i don't have to worry about getting a notification that she's texted me. it helps a bit, but i still can't help but worry.

Anonymous 122809

>>122806
sounds to me that "stopping being mentally ill" over it is just putting a fig leaf over the real problem. do you have low self esteem, nobody else other than her who can tend to your needs etc

>do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.

what is it?

Anonymous 122819

>>122809
i mean, i would probably argue that i have low self esteem lol. but she makes me feel loved, which is why i love her so much. i have other friends that i like, but not in the same way i like her.

>what is it?

i’d rather not say, but she didn’t cheat on me or anything. it’s not really something i hold against her either.

Anonymous 122822

>>122819
idk how to put it but I think this feeling signals a legitimate concern that she doesn't make you feel safe

doesn't mean she's a bad gf but maybe you don't feel you can rely on her to take your side
or not to violate her boundaries
just minute things that are important but you forget about eventually while your subconscious still buzzes about it



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Tempted to contact ex who harassed me Anonymous 122025[Reply]

It’s wrong and I know we’re over but I want to talk to him again I miss his giggles. His softness. His jokes. What can I do to stop this feeling….
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Anonymous 122205

>>122202
Not op
i should have never left my bf in the first place, i did check out of the relationship for a long time and i self reflected on it and my reason why due to boredom and missing the spark feeling, i thought relationships were all about the firework and spark but i never met anyone like him anymore he was the only guy who told me that he chooses me everyday even when things get hard. This was a month ago and i told him to leave me alone out of my own anger during our last phonecall, recently he sent me a mail that mentioned that he can't live in area at all since every time he drives it reminds him of our memories so he literally enlisted himself in the navy. I just feel so bad, i made a mistake and i want him so bad but i just have a feeling that if i break the silence and reach out he may not want me anymore

Anonymous 122208

>>122205
sorry for the yapfest
well, first, you'd need to ask yourself if your boredom is going to become a problem again. i don't know you or your bf or the relationship you've had together, so this is something you need to mainly figure out yourself. i cannot stress this enough, figure out your own shit before getting back or into a relationship.
second, it's obvious he still cares IN some way (whatever it may be) and probably still likes you, hell he's even enlisting in the fuckin navy because he's probably broken up over you. don't be afraid to break the silence, believe me haha. i've missed my chance when i could've opened up and talked to my boyfriend after our break up, and genuinely from the bottom of my heart i regret it deeply. i could've mended our relationship, got closure or even said a goodbye.

i can't promise you anything, but please talk to him before he leaves, genuinely. you may not get the outcome you want, but atleast you'll both have closure, and potentially in the future can rekindle that spark.
and, if it helps; open up to him about your feelings if you'd like, tell him what really happened and why you lashed out, just be honest, okay?

Anonymous 122639

just gigglemaxx

Anonymous 122783

>>122328
Would you like moids to do the same? To treat a relationship with you as bound for failure, having several escape plans and alternative options because this one is bound to fail and if it works out it just does? Sounds grim.

Anonymous 122803

>>122783
Moids don't deserve shit



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Anonymous 122795[Reply]

sometimes it feels less lonely to be alone

Anonymous 122796

>>122795

Gets pretty intoxicating tbh

Anonymous 122797

>>122795
If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.



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Anonymous 122099[Reply]

My boyfriend possibly has a fetish for maids. What should I do? Should I be worried about this?
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Anonymous 122744

>>122739
yup

Anonymous 122745

>>122738
Fuck you, you homophobic piece of shit.
You are the reason women will never be free.

Anonymous 122747

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>>122745
LOL nona is just unlucky and straight

Anonymous 122749

>>122745
Rude >:(

Anonymous 122764

>>122738
>>122745
>>122747
acechads just can't stop winning



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How do you deal with hopelesness for the female species Anonymous 122690[Reply]

Everyday it's more clear to me that women will never be free, it makes me feel suicidal even. We are nothing but pets and will NEVER stop being pets, even if that were to happen I'll be dead by that time. What the fuck do you do from here that isn't giving up?
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Anonymous 122742

>>122740
>Women have never thought of themselves as a collective
We naturally do that, it has nothing to do with social media - it's just a tool/vehicle which promotes what already exists. Collectivising and interacting with ingroup bias is a survival mechanism, and in today's age where women compete with men over the same resources, there's even more of a motivation for it to be expressed. But the result on men's part is to either compete back aggressively, which they can't do due to modern laws, or detach, dissociate, tap out, remain weak because their mothers raised them to be non threatening in any way.

Anonymous 122746

>>122728
>The idea that the Patriarchy is organizing globally to keep women down is nuts
have you never seen men harping on women when they are trying to speak against abusive men. 90% of them unanimously start spouting the same shit like "le fake rape allegations" or whatnot.

what you're posting sounds like a schizo projecting their life experience onto everyone no offense lol

Anonymous 122748

>>122728
nothing brings men together more than keeping women down honestly

Anonymous 122750

>>122746
When I was in college all a Woman had to do was whisper and fratboys would get expelled without evidence.

Anonymous 122759

>>122750
sure troon



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Anonymous 121997[Reply]

>You need to modernize
>If you dont get tiktok/twitter/facebook then how will you socialize with others huh silly?
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Anonymous 122063

>>121997
all the people that matter dont use cringe social media anyway

Anonymous 122700

>>122063
>she says on cc

Anonymous 122716

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>If you dont get tiktok/twitter/facebook then how will you socialize with others huh silly?

Honestly, I think that these normie social medias make you a bit dumb and with a rather idiotic way of communicating, based on repetitive memes. Maybe the best way to learn how to socialize is to get a worthwhile job and communicate with people at a high level.

Anonymous 122719

genuinely these "normie" social media are filled to the brim with some of the most schizopathic people possible

Anonymous 122724

>>122716
Normalfags act you like have the plague when you tell them you don't have social media



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