/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>126914
DO NOT MEET WITH HIM!!

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

You are wasting both his and your time

>>127058
will someone PLEASE think of the man grooming a teenager online.. puhleeeaassee guys we have to caaarrrreeee about men’s time and feelings… please he must be so lonely having his entire social life over discord plssss can anyone help HIM

>>127059
HAHAHHA

>>126912
but yes nona pls get out asap while you still can. you are literally 19!!!! you deserve to meet and date people if you want that and have actual real connections. not get lovebombed by some guy 5 year older than you tf. And definitely don't feel guilty bc he spent time/money on youu, because be fr he's a grown man and those are his choices.

If you don't end it soon it'll just keep going and it'll be harder to get away from him. Think about your future. You do NOT want this man to be your husband !!!

>>127162
no i'm just 15lbs above what i want to be

>>127163
15 lbs isn't that much.
That's the kind of weight you can easily gain or lose by accident when you happen to change diet and habits, it happened to me a couple of times.
You're probably fine the way you are.

>>127156
>if u entered a relationship 15lbs heavier
heavier than what?

>>127168
the weight i am supposed to be

>>127171
10lbs above my natural weight 20lbs above my ideal weight but he doesn't like if i'm skinny

>Friends
The more closely you've bonded with someone, the more accepting they'll be of abnormal behaviour (in stages, don't reveal the abnormal stuff all at once).
You just need to reel them in first.

>>127105
Nothing in picrel sounds natural or healthy op

>>127122
Normiemaxxing is often neither healthy nor normal.
If you're a proper normie, you don't have to waste time on explicitly figuring out how to act like one, most of it will come to you naturally the more you spend time around people. You mess up, you learn, you move on.
But if you're extremely deep in the weirdness, scared shitless of being ridiculed or even slightly rejected and very desperate to behave normal in public, you can speed things up by suppressing your personality and pretending you're already a normie.
100% won't work, but it'll give you a ton of anxiety.

>>126975
Build confidence and self-esteem so you can get over not being a normie.
You can make friends without being seen as normal.
Most people are weird if you get to know them closely enough, I'm starting to think that true normies don't exist.

>>127139
I'm sure your experience is insightful but doesn't need to be extrapolated to everyone and isn't so black and white. Maybe some nonas just need a safe environment to do it without having to fake it at first.

>just bee confident and urself :^)
ironically requires some degree of normality because being a tolerated weirdo faggot requires social skills (which normiemaxxing is supposed to provide) or resources. nobody really cares about you otherwise and confidence requires backing anyways

>>126883
she literally said he attempted suicide over his ex who treated him like shit he has issues

i think i misphrased it tho i was associating it with moids like the one she likes

its not about disability but many disabled moids will become incels bc their disability makes them undesirable and then they become kinda fucked up

>>126931
maybe you're autistic or something because that doesn't sound like very unreasonable to tell about (1 life event that explains visible life debilitating change) especially if op asked him or if they "hit it off" hard enough

>>126935
im an evil hag spirit

>>126830
I'm not sure cute outweights crippled + porn addict this doesn't sound like a good deal
I knew a guy who suffered nerve damage from a failed an hero attempt and the constant chronic pain makes it extremely hard to function and not to abuse painkillers/porn to deal with it

>>126931
I'd like your thoughts on this but I've come to believe inceldom is a cope that only losers use to explain being social rejects without having to face their own inner ugliness - this mix of indulgent laziness and entitlement to muh waifu that results in the bitter inceldom we know, in my experience moids who come to terms with their unattractiveness or take some accountability are less likely to fall into it

>>126858
It's ok to be by yourself

>>127046
>the memories are yours forever

That's not what alzheimer's and dementia said

>>127048
Well then you’re just screwed and should find a way to euthanise yourself before you hurt your loved ones

you can’t take loved away.

People stay when they're getting something from you. Doesn't mean you're a bad person if nobody stays with you, just that you need to learn skills ppl need. It's like a job.

>>127064
this is so true it breaks my heart. and men only ever want one thing. i wish i’d never found out how quickly i would be discarded when i couldn’t provide sex temporarily

>>126757
>I don't feel oppressed by men. I feel oppressed by my biology. Especially in sex.

Explain?

OP it sounds to me like you're taking what you see in p*rn for reality. I guarantee you it's not.

>>126663
This

>>126666
No they're fucking not. It is a skewed, reductive view of feminity.
You're so wrong that Satan himself blessed you with demonitc digits lmao

>>127072
i agree. you have to watch porn to have these thoughts. stop watching that shit

>>126729
No, it's the other way around. Porn doesn't reflect real sex dynamics, it's real sex dynamics being affected by porn because 99% of moids are porn addicts and expect porn sex from their partners

read the bible

>can you ever heal from growing up unwanted + ostracized by your peers?
This one is really hard desu and requires a lot of support from others to recover. Bottom line is you need to be wanted and accepted by others.
If the extent of the damage done to you by ostracization was limited to your self-esteem, you'll probably have an easier time recovering by simply glowing up and changing your environment to a less racist one. You have an issue but you're pretty independent socially.
But if there was serious damage done to your socialization to a point where you're self-isolating weird etc then you'll need much more actual help.

>>125731
Not OP, but sometimes I think some women in spaces like these sort of take it as a slight against all women when a woman talks about feeling ugly, lonely or pathetic or like a loser or something, and they feel the need to overperform how much of an outlier she is or that she's probably a larping moid, like embarrassedly saying "she's not with us" in case an outsider conflates her situation with yours. I don't think that's very fair. This mindset is why I never feel like I can vent about never having a boyfriend before, as if that's somehow remotely implying that applies to everyone here. It doesn't and you shouldn't care what hatereading scrotes think, even with perfect optics they would still make up bullshit reasons to insult women anyway, as they always have done for centuries including back when female outcasts were less prevalent than today.

If anything, I think it's a bit of a horseshoe to imply all women naturally live fabulous lives free of any insecurity, stress or problems. And maybe I'm being a retarded schizo, but "pinkpill" seems like an Inglourious Basterds wrong fingers moment. I thought feminism is the purplepill, and the pinkpill is moid discord/preddit tranny shit.

I dunno. Just seems a bit strange to argue we need to ban women for feeling miserable or suffering, and assuming an anecdote of a girl being harassed by moidlets is actually unrealistic anti-woman propaganda.

>>125739
There has been some complaining about "embarrassing" posts here on /feels/ but really I don't think this thread falls anywhere under that umbrella

>>125731
I’ve only ever seen men have this experience you’re right.

Does anyone else have the urge to gain the attention of only the hottest people to compensate for all those years that you felt like you looked like a monster? Because I think that might be the thing that's ruining my life

>>125779
just don't give it up
does open here imply the relationship is incidental?

>>127041
what i mean to say is: is he really just looking for sex?

tells you he’s never felt love before when he’s like thirty with half a dozen exes. that’s actually scary, baby, not a sign we are meant to be.

if he’s looking at his phone when he’s with you. he shouldn’t be online when you’re home ever. if he is he’s bored.

>>127061
and if he’s bored he’s monkey branching

>>126739
That's terrible!

it’s only been a few days. breathe.

>>126739
I hate this "nonchalant" precept that zoomers follow religiously thinking it makes them cool. Ugh

>>127029
We've also got Millennials locked into permanent Dave Strider coolkid lowercase into their 30s and 40s, too.

>>126994
Hey nona. The fact you're self aware about this is already a huge step. You don't need to save every animal or person that's in distress, it's another way to create a toxic environment. In fact you should be saving only yourself and people who won't inflict harm upon you. Many bad situations can be avoided this way, so hopefully you can find some solace and agency in this idea.

>>126998
those tik toks of animals with days to live have been upsetting me so bad lately. i keep emailing shelters near me to get in touch with them because i can’t have a dog on my floor and i rent. the amount of suffering in the world drives me insane. i guess that’s why i even care someone who hurt me is depressed. he let me suffer alone when he knew i was hurting. there’s just a part of me that can’t be like that towards someone when i know i’m part of it. i wanted him to say sorry and then for it to be over. not for him to be silently suicidal and think the situation is so far gone i wouldn’t care if he apologized and he doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. cos like the greater implication scares me. what if no one ever forgives each other for anything and we don’t fix climate change and the whole world is just backed into a corner and the whole earth ends.

>>127001
I actually understand you a lot…
Still I hope you remember that unless you take care of yourself nobody else will. Please put yourself first nona, and your loved ones if you have them
also these tiktoks are 100% made by manipulative mfers

>>127003
i’m glad at least for the ones connecting dogs on death row to people who have confirmed they’ve saved them at least. i tried to show my local shelter the shelter needing animals transferred out and i hope that eventually no animals have to be put down and they can just be moved to areas with not a lot of strays like where i live. it like destroys me inside seeing this stuff because there aren’t any kill shelters within driving distance of me at all so it’s hard to do anything when the most urgent need isn’t local. i try to focus on wildlife rehab and conservation stuff here. i feel like i obsessively need to focus on fixing things or the weight of the world starts driving me actually insane.

>>126989
he’s not secretly venmo-ing me and if he wanted me back it would be a temporary psychotic break. i think this might just be your best friends boyfriend.