/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>44898
Find it funny that no one seems to have replied to this with any type of come back. Some of the people here really just want to trick themselves into depression by believing that there is not a single man on this earth who could find a 20 year old or in general mature women attractive and dateable.

>>45545
I must've misremembered or conflated the numbers in this study

"study used 21,245 participants between 18 and 65 years of age who were not involved in a close relationship. As well as asking participants a number of questions on mate selection criteria, they also had to provide the oldest and youngest partner they would accept. It was found that for all ages males were willing to accept females that are slightly older than they are (on average 4.5 years older), but they accept females considerably younger than their own age (on average 10 years younger). Females demonstrate a complementary pattern, being willing to accept considerably older males (on average 8 years older) and were also willing to accept males slightly younger than themselves (on average 5 years younger)"

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/230783507_Sex_and_Age_Differences_in_Mate-Selection_Preferences

>>45556
Everyone loses quality of offspring with age, but once again I said that men don't lose the ability to procreate till their late age.

>>45556
Anon,eggs aren't taken from women after 35 either.

>>45632
Because it's stupid. No one has said that. If it's for sex, men will pick on the most horrible woman if she's willing. We were referring, rather, to the creepy tastes that moids have.

>>45644
Sounds a little weird you dislike men who are attracted to your qualities. It seems largely coincidental either way, if you had the opposite features you'd find men attracted to that but it wouldn't be any weirder either way.

Resuscitating this thread to say that online college learning (adapting from a traditionally taught class) is fucking awful and I expect to pass by the skin of my teeth or just end up repeating this semester entirely. Being stuck at home with nowhere to go in a place where fucking nobody wants to wear their masks and the cases just keep going back up is way too distracting.

Being the guinea pigs is a horrible feeling.

>>43907
lectures and especially online lectures are a waste of time. the OU (british open university - distance only for decades) doesn't have them. they just give you text/video/audio sources and lots of multiple choice quizzes for practice. hopefully more unis copy their style next year. i tried another uni's online course but after experiencing the "lectures" i quit after a week.

I feel like I'm finally experiencing a burnout, or at least expecting one soon, for the first time in my life.

I'm currently in my third year and fed up with this online school bullshit, all I do is sit at my desk, watch lectures, and complete assignment after assignment. I don't even feel relieved after finishing one assignment because I know I have a bunch more to complete. It's ridiculous.

I've always been really into my major and school, and really want to go to grad school and potentially get my PhD but lately that idea sounds worse and worse. I used to love looking up grad school programs, seeing what courses and work I needed to do to get there, and think about how fun it would be to get really into my field of study. Idk how much more schooling and assignments I can take. I really just want to get out of this cycle of never ending school work and actually go out, meet people, see new places, do new things, and experience life away from my studies, desk, and computer screen.

I usually look forward to weekends because I get to do these things but now it's just time for me to catch up on my lectures, assignments, and study. And when I don't do that on the weekends I feel so shitty cause I know I'm just making more work for myself for the upcoming week, but I really can't bring myself to stay up to date on my assignments anymore.

I'm doing pretty well in my classes so far but I'm so tempted to say fuck it and just let my grades be shit and take a break.

>>45576
Don't do it. We can suffer together on it. I was so fucking excited when I managed the concentration levels required to finish a fucking paper today in 3 hours, only to see two emails from my math instructor letting the class know that all of the assignment due dates and another fucking proctored test are moved up to being due the 27th.. an entire week earlier. So now I'm traveling 4 hours down, then 4 hours back for a funeral tomorrow, and scrambling back to do all of the stupid math assignments.
We'll do it. It's fine. Everything is perky.

>>45612
thanks anon.
wishing you the best. we got this.

>>45519
huh, don't know why my post was deleted but I was saying that they aren't any more misogynistic than CC is misandrist, it's just a vocal minority. You are right about them being pretty depressed though

I asked him out on a hiking date. I mean I didn't call it that, I just called it a hike, but I didn't invite anyone else and nor did he so as far as I'm concerned I'll either get murdered in the forest this weekend or married to him. Either way I am fine with it.

Oh fuck seriously though I hope this works out.

>>45525
What kind of moid? I hope you made the right decision otherwise yeah you run the risk of getting murdered.

>>45530
Well I've talked to him four times before and asking him out like this was basically the only way I could think of asking him out without making it obvious that I'm asking him out. I also really like nature so there you go.

If I get murdered at least my suffering ends.

>>45519
I was lurking around and apparently they were invaded by r9k moids and some pedos. How unfortunate… There were some nice guys.

Yes, although I was bullied a lot as a kid/teen I still had some friends to have good times with. I barely have friends now and don't know how to find new ones and either way I don't know if I'd be able to connect with them. I had more interests and hobbies in a variety of subjects while today I have almost none. Life seemed brighter and I had more trust people. I didn't feel the hatred that so many people/groups have towards each other in today's society. There seemed to be more fun subcultures to participate in back then which I don't see much these days. Even the city around me is becoming some shitty gentrified place that feels alienating and it's too expensive for most normal people to live there. I also have eating/weight problems that are just becoming worse every year and it makes me want to die.

I miss childhood but not my childhood.

I was forced to grow up quicker than I liked due to an early puberty and life circumstance but my life before that was frankly garbage as well. However, I’ve always been mentally “immature” despite my physical maturity. I relate to kids and young people more than other adults in my life circumstance and have always had immature interests compared to my peers as a teen/young adult.
In some ways I feel like I need to force myself to become mature for my future spouse and children but in other ways I think I’d make an amazing mom since I haven’t lost my childish side.

>>45360
I don't remember being a child at any point, so no I don't miss it.

>>45412
31 as well but I can't say I've had a traumatic pasted at all. I regret spending my 20's being a hermit and doing nothing with my life. At least I'll actually be starting a career within the next year so that's good I guess?

I've been thinking a lot about moving to a different state and starting fresh.

>>45443
Congrats for getting out of that hermit life. How did you manage to start a career after the hermit period? How did you explain it to your (future) employers?

You're in good company. I'm lucky that I talk to people every day because it's part of my job, l think it's probably the only thing keeping me sane. Are you a neet?

i was like that, then i lost my bf and there was no one left. please work on your self esteem. ugly people have normal lives. they have friends, bfs/gfs, jobs. i doubt you're even that ugly since you have a bf. please try to connect to other people. what about your family?

>>45478
I'm currently studying at a university. But the only time I speak to anyone at uni is when I'm doing TA..

>>45483
I'm definitely ugly I think my bf is just kinda delusional regarding my looks. my parents are my only family and I have a good relationship with them. I really want to connect with people but I have no idea where to go or who to talk to. I'm trying to work on my self-esteem - I started paying for a really nice therapist a couple of months ago and she has helped me so much I definitely feel that it's worth the money.. but my self-esteem is still so low

>>44312
Please don't let yourself get caught up in any of it, LDRs are almost always bad news

>>44339
truthfully im not that interested in her. shes cute and nice but i dont like long distance.
i also dont want to risk losing an irl over something like this.

>>44353
That's good anon, it sounds like you've got your priorities in check

OP here. this situation got even more ridiculous.
moid friend makes questionable decisions at times. out of the blue, he messages me to tell me he thinks our friendship is toxic because we "enable" each other to overshare, which sounds super dumb to me because that is literally what all of my friendships are like. he claims us oversharing is what ruined his relationship? i dont understand this logic at all. he then unfriends/unfollows me on all social media.

I had to admit I was quite hurt by this because it wasn't any flimsy online friendship. We were irls and had been close for 5 years. i considered him a brother. i hate men because they're all so violent and stupid, and yet i could tell you i trusted this moid with my life. it felt like betrayal

oddly enough, his ex gf even messenged me saying she thought his sudden decision was stupid and apparently even yelled at him for this, because there was no good reason for him to do this.

>>45480
wow heejin looks gorgeous here

>>45086
Train him so he beats you at arm wrestling.

>>45087
Why would I do that?

>>45086
Intimidation is just the first step to infatuation.
It's up to you to grab him by the waist and sprint him down this road.

>>45086
>a raccoon like this will most likely not date you if you're bigger and stronger
That's why you cover yourself up and act nice. They can only know once it's too late, and they're in love.

>>44718
It's probably more trouble than its worth

tinted moisturizer, tinted lip balm (like Fresh)

>>45426
This is an >>>/hb/ topic.

Moved to >>>/hb/9615.

>>45116
it just seems like low-level bait/screenshot material/gotcha’ setup.

>>44811
sorry OP for derailment—other anons are right that there is no “correct” way for how you should’ve reacted to that situation.

>>45111
hmm….ur logic is silly….i cannot find the correlation between the loss of a pet and a bullied child. that child would still be alive and bullying builds character anyway… our kitten is gone forever. im very much okay with him being sad over the loss, id feel odd if he shrugged it off lol

>>45161
anon said that these are both equally shallow things to cry over

>>44811
I'm sorry about your kitten. I think you're like this because you are shocked, and it's natural. Your boyfriend on the other hand…

>>45111
>god forbid a dirty moid dare cry over a kitten dying in one of the most tragic ways, when it seemed like it could be saved
You're just awful.