I remember me and my bf saw this a few months ago and joked it would be like us and we'd never argue.
Now we argue practically every day because I cause fights for no reason every single day.
Idk what's wrong with me, I don't wanna be like this but I get so mad for reasons that don't make sense I can't help myself anymore. I really really hate that I grew up in the house that I did because I'm pretty sure I adopted all these behaviors from my parents who hate eachother's guts but "stay together for the kids" and grew up watching nasty and violent fights.
Its sad because for our whole relationship and those before him I was worried I'd turn into one of them and I genuinly didn't think I could live with myself if I ever heard my husband say the things he said to my mom to me, or if I said the things my mom said to my dad.
Now I'm literally seeing it happen and I wanna kill myself.
How do you unlearn this toxic crap?
>inb4 "its healthy to argue"
Yeah I know this is supposedly true, and I know arguments are unavoidable for 99.99999 percent of couples, its still not nice to have pointless and toxic arguments everyday>inb4 "leave him"
No, I want to fix myself. If everyone dumped their partner every time they had a rough patch literally no one to be together. I'm not gonna listen to anyone who says this because more often than not its just paranoid and seething misandrists, so fuck off.