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Anonymous 62792[Reply]

Did your boyfriend/husband wait for marriage before sex? What is your experience with convincing men to wait? Is it worth it? Does it work? Do the good men also walk away? Is it even a good idea in the first place, if seemingly no one seems to do that anymore?

I am from Germany and this whole concept is basically completely foreign to young people here.
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Anonymous 96852

Technically the Bible strictly forbids “sexual immorality” and “adultery” and is kind of vague overall. In ancient Greece it was common amongst elite circles for adult men and pubescent or adolescent boys to have sexual relationships, known as pederasty. Early Christians were against this. In general, the church as an institution was against sex before marriage in the time you listed but the holy book itself just says “don’t cheat or be sexual immoral”. Idk I just think there’s more flexibility/growth in Christ than a lot of Christian’s think.

Anonymous 96855

Sex and society is a very interesting subject, it's my area of specialisation for my degree. Is sex before marriage an outdated concept because of contraceptives? The reality of it is much more complicated. Overall since contraceptives were created, out of wedlock/unwanted births have risen enormously. Something like 40-50% of births in the US, Denmark, France etc are out of wedlock.
>condom companies spread idea that condoms are 99% effective based on "studies"
>they were cherry picked results for perfect use under very controlled conditions
>actual effectiveness is about 70% chance of not getting pregnant in a year of protected sex
>that means in practice even with condoms, over 5 years your chances of getting pregnant are 80+%

But in East Asian countries like China, Korea and Japan, out of wedlock kids are almost nonexistent at 2-3%. They also have much higher rates of virginity before marriage and lower body counts.

Anonymous 96860

but it isn't vague nona,saint paul even "invented" (borrowed from hebrew) a greek word, asenokoitai, which literally translates to "men who lay (conjugally) with men". Its as explicit as one can be, Jesus also said that marriage is between a man and a woman, and that adultery is forbidden, then it also condemns that too

Anonymous 97046

Then you would be pressured to after that time was up.
If you said I want to wait a few months and a year passes, what then?
If you say marriage, then you can put it off indefinitely unless you're ready to commit.
Agreeing to marry limits his choices to you only, which also pressures you to fulfill your relationship responsibilities, which is to be that outlet for your partner because you agreed to for the rest of your life.
So don't get married unless you're comfortable with agreeing to carry that.
Marriage is also a great filter for guys who just want one thing.
Men who won't wait till marriage can just leave when they get what they wanted, with nothing to hold them accountable.

Anonymous 97072

Good for you, Anon


Traumatic Experiences Anonymous 34206[Reply]

What was the most traumatic experience of your childhood (before 20)? I'd say mine was losing my house and a lot of my belongings in a fire.
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Anonymous 96510


I guess, because even now as an adult I just see it as having messed around. Like how kids do the "Show me yours and I'll show you mine" shit. Nothing to go all #MeToo over, that's for sure.

>Am I traumatized? No. Therefore it wasn't abuse.

Some people can unconsciously experience abuse and not even realize it until someone points it out to them, though. Even if it's without serious trauma, it's important to identify so you keep it from happening to other people.

Anonymous 96543

Don't blame yourself, you weren't stupid or perverted. You wouldn't have placed yourself in those situations, it was all someone else pushed you to do. Those girls too were either victims of abuse themselves, or got those ideas from watching porn. Neither of those things should have happened to you or to those girls.

Anonymous 96555


Thank you, I don't. (Although I'd be lying if it doesn't make me feel at least somewhat slutty for having done things like that. I'm a virgin but these are the kinds of things that made me feel like I'm not as virginal as I would have been.)

>Those girls too were either victims of abuse themselves, or got those ideas from watching porn.

One of them, who was who first suggested it, I wouldn't have been surprised if she was closeted bi/lesbian and it was her way to expirement.

>Neither of those things should have happened to you or to those girls.

It was hilariously awkward and weird. I don't really care if they did it but I probably shouldn't have. Especially considering they had talked shit and were spreading lies about me and my family (Like that my mom was having sex with the hotel manager of where we were staying). They could have taken pictures of me while we were doing what were doing and used it to bully me more. Terrifying thought.

Anonymous 96941

Thank you, I’m doing way better now.

Anonymous 97055


my mum finding out my dad was cheating when i was 6. He left the house for two weeks and i was left with my baby sister while she pretty much stayed in her room all day sobbing. The neighbor would bring us to school and my grandmas would feed us but the long nights of sitting on her door's room hearing the faint cries were the worst.

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Something you wish someone would say to you Anonymous 21124[Reply]

Whats something you wish someone would tell you right now?

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Anonymous 96933


"I hate you and I constantly have to lie to you that I love you and appreciative you out of pity for your miserable ass existence. Now that I have confirmed your fears you can cut all communications with me like you did with all your previous relationships/friendships. Have fun (^v^)/ "

Anonymous 96966

"I've been wanting to talk to you, too."

Anonymous 97003

I don’t know if you need to hear this , but it sounds like you’ve dodged a bullet with that girl, her reaction does not make you any less lovable. There’s a saying in Chinese that I love, “if you don’t get rid of old stuff, better ones will not arrive in your life” i wish you happiness and I’m sure that by closing that chapter in your life you’re another step closer to finding your person

Anonymous 97004

“I have always felt that way about you, and I love you for not acting on it in spite of knowing… you’re a good person and we will always be friends”

Anonymous 97020

That i am authentic and i am unique


femcel thread pt.2 96689[Reply]

Last thread hit limit.
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Anonymous 96926

Please leave the virgin moids to virgin women. There's not enough to go around.

Anonymous 96932

Carpenter (2002) outlined 3 frameworks for understanding virginity: gift, stigma, and process.

According to the largest study on the subject of which framework is most valid ("Has Virginity Lost Its Virtue? Relationship Stigma Associated With Being a Sexually Inexperienced Adult," Amanda Gesselman, Journal of Sexual Research, 2017), female virgins are the demographic with the least sexual interest in and most contempt for male virgins, despite male virgins having a male-normative preference level for female virgins. Thus the framework of stigma is best used to understand the claim on male virginity by virgin women. This same framework means that any act of tenancy performed on this property constitutes a generally recognizable improvement, granting a legitimate claim of ownership by accession.

In the instance of virginities previously unknown and undiscovered, right of ownership and use formally belongs to the discovering sovereign civilization. This initiating discovery is legitimized by possession and settlement.

Furthermore, disuse of rightful property on the property or in the possession of another for a reasonable time without intention to regain possession constitutes relinquishment, making the moid in question a legal abandum and subject to claim with full and entire rights as derelict and abandoned property.

We can now turn to the other available frameworks, of gift and process, to see if they also substantiate the ownership of male virgins by experienced women.

The most significant article of research regarding male virgin with experienced female couplings ("I Took His V-Card: An Exploratory Analysis of College Student Stories Involving Male Virginity Loss," Sandra L. Caron and Sarah P. Hinman, Springer 2012) shows that male virginity as process and as gift were by far the most prevalent models upheld by experienced female partners, despite stigmatic beliefs held by said males. Obviously in a civilized society the right of a male to have or to confer property ought be extremely limited, but the legitimacy of conferrence as gift is based on acquisitional rights of the giftee, and only subject to specific prior claim by right of inherited ownership, discovery, and possession. Of these, the most relevant may be right by adverse possession in the instance of an unexercised pre-existing claim. "Adverse possesPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 96942

>Male virgins belong to nonvirgin women by right of discovery, by right of gift, by right of abandonment, and by right of accession.
This makes me feel like males deserve to be slaves.

Anonymous 96943

No, that feeling is called "wisdom" and it came from life itself, not from any internet post.

Anonymous 96944

I love you. I love you all.


Long Distance Relationships Anonymous 44204[Reply]

Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.
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Anonymous 96231

Btw, its not like me and my bf connected immediately or realized we were soulmates or best friends immediately, but we put lots od effort and time into our relationship and I have never felt more connected to anyone in my life. Love at first sight may exist, but companionate love is deeper and what lasts, and to get there you need to put in lots of effort.

Anonymous 96232

Yeah the guy had anger issues. Also shared too much stuff to me like how he was into being a sub and liked having a dom gf. Crazy people on the internet.

It’s fun meeting new people. Though there are some crazies who LARP and troll cuz they’re bored.

I made my own posts because I wanted people to know who they were adding. Plus the lurkers will have to make the effort to say something and get the conversation going as you have nothing to say at the start. I’d always say “why’d you add me” and then things would roll off that.

Yeah just ask what they’re into, what is going on in their life, if they have any funny or interesting stories to tell etc. Some like phone calls only or video calls because they’re into Omegle. I just talked to the texters.

Anonymous 96712


e-partner texts me 1-2 times a day
is this what they call a relationship

Anonymous 96713

That's what they call being cucked.

Anonymous 96907

My gf messages me like once every two weeks without even attempting to converse and only replying to my texts

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Mean teachers Anonymous 96162[Reply]

Has a teacher ever said anything to you that's stuck with you? Have you ever been bullied by a teacher? Have you ever held an emotional/trauma bond with a teacher?
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Anonymous 96523

"If you think your looks and personality will be enough to get by without every academic advantage possible, you are sorely mistaken." He was my math teacher throughout primary and high school and was a demanding, ruthless dictator. He'd make us stand up in pairs and do quick-fire times tables battles, which evolved into improv calculation competitions, and would occasionally make sure to pit the smartest against the dumbest. He was always so disappointed in me because I bought into the family line that I'd marry rich at 16 and wouldn't have to worry about school, which I interpreted as a personal hatred of me. When I came back home from my first year at uni studying STEM, he gave me a firm handshake and told me he was relieved I'd proved his fears wrong and later recommended me to an old colleague who gave me work placement in an incredibly prestigious lab for my final year.

Anonymous 96529

Once a teacher called me "retard" in a very harsh tone because he thought I was intentionally spoiling a joke (I accidentally answered a question without realising it was rhetorical and there was a punch line coming). I don't even care that he called me "retard" because he wasn't insulting my intelligence, it was the sheer hatred and disdain in the way he said it that stuck with me. He didn't do anything of the sort again and said to me "In 5 years you'll be earning more than me" at graduation.

I still didn't like him because he was touchy with the really tall, really skinny girls (supposedly he was helping them "stretch" to alleviate back pain). His wife happened to be really tall and really skinny. Go figure.

Reminds me of a kid in my class who got a D+ on a maths test, asked another teacher to look over it, and got it bumped up to a B-.

It has to be, there is no way you could train such a hungry predator to have that much restraint around so many eggplants

Lolwut? Nona that's bizarre. I wonder what must've happened to make her react like that to you missing a few lessons.

Quick-fire times tables are about the only way you can make times tables remotely fun; pitting the smart against the dumb is inevitable when you're trying to make the match-ups seem random. What he said was harsh, it's unfortunate that it stuck with you and will probably never leave. On a more positive note, what he said has affected your life trajectory for the better (seemingly). He probably saw your potential from a young age and didn't want it wasted. It's sweet in a f'd-up sort of way.

Anonymous 96535


>Lolwut? Nona that's bizarre. I wonder what must've happened to make her react like that to you missing a few lessons.

I think she had mentioned her and her daughter being on foodstamps before, so maybe that was a reason why she freaked out over the possibility of one of her students having food insecurity. Still no excuse to be so creepily intrusive and "buddy-buddy" with me though. I looked at her past RMP reviews and they're mostly positive, like about how supportive and friendly she is, but I saw some students have complained about her nosiness and rudeness as well so it seems it was not just me. She needs to mind her own business and remember she is dealing with adults.

Anonymous 96820

In high school I had to do a book presentation and the teacher straight up told me 'You're not good at it, you'll probably never be good at it but without the presentation you would have a good grade'. I don't really care now but when I read this this came up, I was so insecure about even just talking to people face to face for about a year.

Anonymous 96826

I'm filing him under "pedophile".

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I fucking hate my life 95857[Reply]

I haaaaaaaaaaaate being a woman of color. So. Fucking. Much.
And before you wonder why, let me make it clear that it has little to do with actually being a woman and of color. I'm not a fucking tranny, I appreciate my womanhood. And I don't see white as being any more special than the skin color I have.
But the reason why I hate my existence has everything to do with the male counterparts I'm forced to acknowledge by association. There is nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, I hate more than men of color. Out of all the men on Earth, they are the most openly volatile, most vocally aggressive, most physically aggressive. Anytime you see the face of a toxic red-pilling manosphere vlogger, they're 100% of the time bound to be a man of color. They breed hood culture from a young age, which instills the idea into men of color that they have to be totally incompetent soon to be convicts that drop racial epithets all the time as a form of comraderie and wear shapeless tacky clothing that denotes to the classless cultureless heathens that they are. They have a proclivity to openly woman bash and see women as their personal cum barrels, which is why many of these mouth breathers will open their lips and say the most vilely abhorrent things about women to anyone within earshot and what they'd want to do to a woman in bed. The highest amount of sex traffickers, drug pushers, domestic abusers, gang bangers are all: men of color.
At least in White and Asian culture, they seem to raise their men with a sense of dignity and pride. They instill honor by their name and what's the first thing they teach young boys in their culture to do? To honor their culture by honoring their women. They'll defend women and look out for their own kind. Even in message boards like 4chan, when I write something where I address my race, white men will jump on me like blood thirsty dogs and call me all sorts of things like shitskin and goblina. That's one last thing I'd like to add. Being a woman of color, my existence can't be left alone without people feeling compelled to mention white women as if I mandatorily must 100% of the time be dredged into a negative comparison in favor of white women. I would like to live my life in peace without having to be referred to as a "shit skin" or "ugly monkey" because a white man feels he has no other way of complimenting his pedestalized Aryan queen. Just please leave me the fuck alone already. My life can be perfectly fine without havinPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 96755

Not the same anon, but why did you post that screencap in this specific thread in the first place? It was all about non-white women ranting about men in their own communities until you came in and suddenly started making assumptions about the previous anons and talking about a tweet that has nothing to do with OP's thread.

Anonymous 96768

I am suspicious of this post. Did moid hands write this, I wonder.

Anonymous 96800

Because I felt like it. Feel free to ignore it if it doesn't ring any bells for you.

Anonymous 96805

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Aaaaaaand here come the white trad-thots to troll and shit up this thread that was innocuously made to allow minority women to simply vent.
And then women wonder why female solidarity will never exist?
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Anonymous Moderator 96806

This thread has derailed too heavily into race and stereotypes so I'm locking it. Please check the sticky thread at the top of every board to see what kind of topics are not allowed.


Lesbian Feels Anonymous 3502[Reply]

Discuss the difficulties and joys of being lesbian, whether it's related to your partner or how you're treated by society. Share your stories of when you realized you were lesbian, too!
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Anonymous 96708

A girl called me cute today (,:
I then proceeded to plan our entire life and marriage together.

Anonymous 96709

Are you me? I'm also from a third world country so maybe that's why our experience is so similar.

Anonymous 96710

>it's a sin to be a homosexual.
Religion is not a condition of morality. Think about it. It's nonsensical.

Anonymous 96711

> that would not make me any happier than dying a loner
Have you considered joining a religious order?

Anonymous 96827

it's so painful that i can't seem to find a lesbian girl irl i'm attracted to. there's always something off in their personality making them seem insane and i always end up feeling bitter like a fucking incel.

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What are giant red flags to you Anonymous 92412[Reply]

here are mine
>plays total war or paradox games
this can be explained by itself
>does roids
i have personal experience with this
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Anonymous 96169

literally me minus the sanrio and twitter parts

Anonymous 96193

Lmfao same except the lovebombing

Anonymous 96581

Would you prefer he smack talks women of other races even your own?

Anonymous 96610

>active on Twitter and/or Letterboxd

Anonymous 96611

Why does he have to disparage any woman of any race?


Hikki/NEET Diaries Anonymous 23206[Reply]

I wanted to make a thread to blogpost about being a Hikikiomori or a NEET, mainly to be able to talk about how you're progressing and to help with accountability.

I've tried journalling for a long time but I always fall off because it feels pointless to write long pages to myself that no one will ever read.

Post ITT: How your day has been, woes of being a neet/hikki, things you've achieved lately, your fears, and goals.
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Anonymous 96298

Screenshot 2021-07…

in 3 months i get to quit my job and be a neet wife for a few months before giving birth and then being a SAHM. i'm looking forward to it so fuckin' much, i'm tired of people.

Anonymous 96309

Lucky duck

Anonymous 96337

Im so jealous this is literally my dream

Anonymous 96371

I hope you have some money saved up and a good relationship with your family and friends in case shit hits the fan.

Anonymous 96553

good luck in the future, i believe in you!

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