/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>22932
Wait so he wanted to break up with you and you knew this? And he just never contacted you again? That's awkward and borderline creepy.
Should've dumped his ass before he ghosted you tho.

>>22969
I mean, how would she have any idea he could do this? Literally just suddenly ghosting has no signifying redflag.

>>22970
Sorry, just sounded to me like anon knew about the breakup in advance.

>>22410
Not everyone is as cowardly as you, my friend.

>>22409
Fear of commitment, emotional immaturity, you're not a novelty for them anymore…you name it.
It's never you.

>>23243
wish i had a means of removing the black background to the image but unfortunately that's beyond my current ability, guess i can't be your friend

>>23245
It's easier than that. You don't need special tools - other than the one between your ears. :)

>>23245
I'll give you a hint
sans.org(slash)ondemand/course/open-source-intelligence-gathering.
I might begin with the topic overview for Section 3. It's there if you look for it.

>>23248
other anon
jesus, you seriously find friends that way? that game is quite pathetic…

>>23246
yeah I think the special tool between my ears isn't smart enough to play your game :-)

>>22983
> I wouldn't propose killing them or being abusive, but clearly they're a dumb pitiful animal that can't survive on its own.
most of the greatest atrocities in history have been caused by men needing to hold dick measuring contests. a man doesn't value success for its own sake, just for how likely it is to get him laid. the male cannot go a single moment without thinking about his penis. they live or die by female attention to their penis. It's just pitiful. If they ceded their civil rights and became the property of women we'd all have better lives. all men should be turned into obedient catboys forced to wear kemonomimi headbands and frilly skirts. the fat ones will be put on a diet and forced to go to the gym. the ugly ones will be forced to wash their face and get a better haircut, or if truly necessary, shipped to korea for plastic surgery. men need a firm hand and strict discipline, but I firmly believe they can be quite adorable when behaving themselves.
Big words from somebody that requires a safe space board because they can't handle the "endless misoginy"
inbe4
>you're a peener
no I'm not. You're just as insane as incels.

>>22983
i see you, femdom-fetish penis-haver

>>22983
Who hurt you?

The only decent guys I've ever known were by at large genuine monk-tier asexuals who lived and breathed to work and/or be a good dad. They all went on to do great things and have happy relationships, or lived ascetically on a small patch of land somewhere adopting dogs.

Yet most of the guys I know orbit around women at the drop of a hat while most of the women I know live prettily successfully without a single prominent male presence. I don't know what to make of it. There's that statistic too that says women live longer and healthier without men, while men live longer and healthier with women.

>>22983
You had me until the second paragraph. Now that's just quality rp.

So wait you got mad for being banned on a male dominated site? Wow, if only there was a website for women to post…

I'm giving advice as someone who grew up very sheltered and in my own fantasy world.

There is a difference in men and women's brains and thought patterns. Guys look at a picture girls and immediately start eating their attractiveness /fuckability. I only realized this late in college after becoming friends with some guys, and really only understood it after getting a boyfriend whom I speak frankly about celebrity crushes /types with.

I'm pretty sure this thread is bait. But, if it's not: you need to tell your boyfriend you looked through his phone. From there, you two can talk it out.

>>23181
Do other women not do this? Am I a failed woman?

>>23182
Maybe I'm the failed human because I don't. I've never had a friend I could talk to honestly about these things.

But guys (in my experience) rate everyone instantaneously.

>>23181
This is right if your dating pool is only middle school to uni age manchildren. And truth be told, some guys never grow out of that phase.

>>23189
Nah, it's pretty much a universal thing. Gentlemen would never let it on though.

>>14997
never met one before, and I don't think they exist

>>23050
>men say sex is how they express affection and see hugs and shit as meaningless
>men also say emotions are never involved in sex
I'm done trying to make sense of this.
It's clear men really are just like glorified dogs in regards to how they relate, they can't match women at all in regards to love and emotional connection. But it's fine since they're so darn cute. I will continue to long for hugs and sex with men (well…just one man for life ideally) even if they see no value in it.

I think I've finally concluded this conflict within myself. Sorry for ot.

>>23058
>I'm done trying to make sense of this.

That's not the same man saying those contradictory things.

And the same man can want different things at different times. Emotions are fickle and can contradict each other.

And he could just be playing tough and pretending he doesn't have emotions because he's afraid of being rejected if he opens up.

And some people just demand maddeningly impossible and contradictory things from their partners without realizing it.

i was thinking about it and i think i'm particularly drawn to this kind of man because they seem more non-threatening to me than other men…

>>23058

Men say this about us all the time, but the reverse is certainly true when trying to understand their behavior; "pay attention to what they do, not what they say."

I had a bf once who was very quick to tell me he loved me, but treated me like crap, and I got my heart broken because I wanted to believe what he said.

I had a different bf who who was never verbally affectionate, never said out loud that he loved me even when I asked him if he did, but was always kind, considerate, thoughtful, emotionally available, devoted to making me happy, but I couldn't get over the fact that he found saying "I love you" to be difficult so I left him. He's been with his current gf for years now and they look so happy in all the pictures I see him post on fb.

My point is, don't listen to what people say. Does the person act emotionally connected to you? That probably won't just come out in one domain but not the other. Is the person cold and distance except when they want something from you (sex)? That's probably what they really want then.

I just realized that I met all of my friends through internet. But at least I have some irl friends. I used to live in a town far away of all of my internet friends and I guess life was way boring. I don't see them really often, like once a month or sometimes even less than that. I guess I could be called a hikki, cause I rarely leave home.

>>22566
Wanna talk anon?
Don't do it, fam, sometimes it seems like there's no way out, but then something happens and suddenly everything gets better. Just don't give up, I know it will sound like a cliche, but if something happens it would be because you make it happen. Good luck anon.
>>22694
Internet really helped me tbqh. I started understanding what people likes to hear, how to start a conversation, how to be nice, etc. And it also helped me in irl situations. The friends I made through internet were way more autistic than most people, so it's like a easy mode of how to socialize with people. And how to make them to like you.
>>22804
I used to be pretty much like that. I didn't had any friend tho, that's why it wasn't really hard to get isolated, to have a perfectly monotonous and scheduled rutine, etc. I eventually had to move out to study. Breaking with my rutine was so damn hard, and it really fucked me up. Especially cause I realized I was doing it to not paying attention to a lot of shit I had go through. I barely can leave home, I'm so fuckin depressed, and I have developed social anxiety, agoraphobia, and some other shit. But I realized I HAD to go through this shit, cause it's necessary. The lifestyle I had was untenable ina long term. I will work really hard this year for stop being a doomer and become a fuckin bloomer.
>>22854
I learned that having a bf/gf is great, but it won't solve your problems. Actually, you are the only one who can change your life. We are all gonna make it, lads.

>>23104
Keep on truckin'. It sounds like you've been through a lot of shit, but you're still trying to help others. Thanks for making me happy tonight. (And you don't have to use lads here)

>>22566
Please don't kill yourself. You are worth living. And that one friend you have? Will probably blame themselves.

I had 1 (one) frriend who, like you, actually had a social life, unlike me. Another friend of hers committed suicide, and it still fucks her up. Honestly, I think the only reason we're still "friends" is thst she thinks I'll do the same.

Please don't end your consciousness. I understand wanting to fade away, go back into the earth, and eventually jump off a stairwell. Every day I'm glad I didn't. You will be, too.

>>23104
ot, but this wojak makes me happy.

Trisha. It's not my name. Nowhere close to my actual name actually. It just has stuck for some reason.

I don't have any.
The only nickname anyone uses for me is that my dad calls me 'Madame Menstrual Musk' because 'you always smell like period blood'. Its a joke in my family that I smell like period blood because I have quite strong periods with lots of metallic blood smell. my mother quite likes to call herself 'Madame Menopause Musk' because she doesn't smell, she finds it hilarious.

My HS classmates called me sloth. Not because I was lazy, but because my face is as ugly as a sloth face.

>>23075
This is amazing if it's true
>>23105
but slothes are cute? yeah theyre a little goofy but ugly? nah

Spider girl due to hairy arms.

Did you actually expect a supportive response from a site full of femcels, anon?
We're going to take the side of the "ugly" girl. Don't try lolcow either, they'll have a laugh about how crazy you sound.

>>23039
>How do I turn it around now?

It's not that I don't care to help you. It's just that there's no clear way to turn it around right now.

Just wait for an opportunity to arise.

Or get over it.

Guys don't do things like this out of spite; they feel lucky to get any relationship they can get. Maybe you're overestimating his understanding of your feelings for him, and his value as a partner.

Maybe he's a blundering idiot when it comes to love who doesn't think about other people's feelings; maybe he's with her because it was easier and immediate.

He's better off without you, but maybe you're better off without him as well.

Interesting bait, but I'll take it.

The real answer to this is that, despite what men and women on the internet say, it's not actually all about """objective""" looks. Attraction is weird like that. Even if we assume he's actually more attracted to you on a physical level, the things that make a dude's dick hard and the things that make a good gf are two different categories.

This is the baitiest shit I've seen this us the type of bait that bait wishes never was related to it. Hell even the cheapest BBC /pol/ bait thinks this bait is shit.

HaVE YoU HEaRD aBOut THE cOol nEw THInG CALleD PerSOnaLITy ?

>>19259
We love you too, anon-chan <3

I wuv everypony here

I feel that still.
Please don't die.

I'm so glad I found this place. I love you all.

Thank you miners for reminding me that I love being a girl.

<3

I've never had a friend I could tell anything to without censoring myself, hiding my beliefs/feelings, etc. Thanks to all of you I feel like I finally have that friend.

My mental health is so much better for having found you.

These may be too specific but..
>"I think you're really cool. I know things might not work out, but I'm willing to try."
>"It's been a while since we last spoke, but I just want you to know that I've been thinking about you everyday since we stopped talking."
>"I came back to tell you that you're still the one I think about everyday."

"I miss you. I wanna be friends again."

>>23004
Oooorah.
You wanna be a ground pounder? I got mad respect for that.