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Alaska sounds nice ig Anonymous 125252[Reply]

>be me
>parents abused/ abandoned me
>grow up
>find a nice lady
>she becomes a mom figure
>call her mom
>discuss adult adoption
>make plans to move to the same city and be a family.
>get text saying she's moving to France to be with her gf.

Are you fucking kidding me? The two people who are supposed to love me no matter what fucking HATE me for being born or don't remember I fucking exist. I find someone who ACTUALLY wants me to be a part of their family and they decide to just fucking ditch me so they can get laid by someone in France?

Fucking really? I'm worth less than a god damn plane ticket.

I will sacrifice literally anything for love. I memorize every tiny detail of a person's likes and dislikes. I memorize their habits and patterns and I cleave parts off of myself to put them ahead of me constantly. I work for peoples love because clearly no one will give it to me without me having to mine for it. And I thought I found one fucking person who wouldn't do that. Who actually understood and saw me. I THOUGHT I had a mother for the first time in my useless fucking life but no. No family for me.
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Anonymous 125257

> I'm going to move to the middle of Alaska and just live by myself

mccandless maxing


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I wish someone would choose me for once in my life Anonymous 125251[Reply]

>be me
>parents abused/ abandoned me
>grow up
>find a nice lady
>she becomes a mom figure
>call her mom
>discuss adult adoption
>make plans to move to the same city and be a family.
>get text saying she's moving to France to be with her gf.

Are you fucking kidding me? The two people who are supposed to love me no matter what fucking HATE me for being born or don't remember I fucking exist. I find someone who ACTUALLY wants me to be a part of their family and they decide to just fucking ditch me so they can get laid by someone in France?

Fucking really? I'm worth less than a god damn plane ticket.

I will sacrifice literally anything for love. I memorize every tiny detail of a person's likes and dislikes. I memorize their habits and patterns and I cleave parts off of myself to put them ahead of me constantly. I work for peoples love because clearly no one will give it to me without me having to mine for it. And I thought I found one fucking person who wouldn't do that. Who actually understood and saw me. I THOUGHT I had a mother for the first time in my useless fucking life but no. No family for me.
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What hath befallen the race of bois Anonymous 125000[Reply]

>be me, le schoolgril
I feel the boithirst in my bones, but I look around me and the dating scene seems postapocalyptic
Practically every boy in my program and in the social milieu I've fallen into (I'm a passive-type Pokemon)
- literally has an Instagram account and actually uses it
- either already has sleeve tattoos or is budgeting for them
- is unironically trying to looksmaxx or this-maxx or that-maxx or doing some other modern horror from TikTok
- has no dreams and no personality and either wants to be some kind of influencer or youtuber or smth, or pour his entire person into some soulcrushing desk job and have no other interests aside from killing beers, watching sportsball and slaying sloots

Some boys have approached me but the average quality is in the pooper, e.g. one guy on my res floor has this creepy radar for upset females, literally every time some girl is crying he shows up to give unwanted hugs and follows it up by asking her to coffee, he's transparently following some reddit guide to dating for manlets and it's so cringe and awkward, especially since I'm a femcel and I have a hard time saying no and hurting people's feels even when they probably don't have any

The worst thing is that the dating culture now seems so mercenary, everybody's on swiping apps and I feel like so much online brainrot has lurked through them into real life, everything is so contrived and hypercompetitive and awful
I feel like there is no love out there anymore because people have had it burned out of them by the brain-frying 5G death rays that come out of any phone with Tinder installed on it

Many grils seem to be able to give boys a shot and then move on when they prove to be loosers, but that doesn't sound like me, I'd probably end up crying for the rest of my life over some guy named Gary who thinks having a favourite flavour of vape is a personality trait

So wat do ladies, do I just an heroine or spend the rest of my life spending my NEETbux on Hello Kitty Island Adventure furniture, watching my mom's Gilmore Girls DVD's and cryibg?
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Anonymous 125059

>>125053
>Call me whatever you want
You are not on any normal spectrum and don't have any authority on the topic. If you're a paranoid cunt (that loves to shit on everyone because it "feels good" lol) to everyone on here I shudder to think what you're like IRL. Now fuck off and lurk for 12 years before posting.

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>>125059
>>125059
Asking you to be honest about men in all walks of life, is not instigating ww3, but keep going nuclear over it, it's really convincing

Anonymous 125119

>>125000
Normalfags are awful in both genders. Can't stand 'em.

Anonymous 125124

>>125023
I could've fixed him
Those chat logs were pretty fucked
>>125024
I kind of see now why some parents are so strict with limiting screen time and socials for their kids

Anonymous 125226

Because fame, attractiveness and status works. People have preferences. You've almost definitely crushed on some hot/popular/famous guy before. What are you looking for?


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Anonymous 124510[Reply]

I want my parents fucking dead and I've been in no contact for a year

Anonymous 124700

>>124510
Ok well your parents are not the ones who raised you, the state did(through media), they were just the workhorses paying for your upbringing thinking they'll get a reward or at least a 'thank you' at the end. They got played and you're the prank.

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>>124700
>parents are not the ones who raised you
So they didn't do shit besides just bringing food home as they would without me (and god knows how much horrible shit to make my life unbearable) and they want to be praised? Cool. I'm glad your parents treated you like a God or however you conjured that innocent image of them.

Anonymous 125208

You should wish yourself dead. Autistic people have no place in this world. As a person with autism who mistreated her parents to hell and back, I can say God made a mistake making me.

Literally drink bleach first then drink vinegar.


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Dealing with getting doxxed Anonymous 124922[Reply]

hello nonas,
i hope you don’t mind me reaching out and i hope you guys are doing amazing, but i’m feeling really lost and overwhelmed right now a few months ago my pictures and personal information were doxxed and since then i can’t stop thinking about it every time i check the website they’re still talking about me commenting on my body and it makes me feel absolutely worthless i don’t have anyone i can talk to about this and the anxiety is constantly on my mind i’m terrified they’ll find a way to reach my family something i would never want to happen it’s been consuming me and i feel like i’m trapped in this cycle of sadness the fact that they post about me regularly makes it almost impossible to resist checking the site even though i don’t want to i keep blaming myself for trusting people online and sharing my pictures with them when i rejected them they started circulating my images and using them to hurt me i have their pictures too but i’m afraid posting them would only make things worse giving them more fuel i’ve been inactive for a while but i still check the site now and then each time i hold onto a little bit of hope that things might have changed but i’m always left disappointed because they still keep posting about me even after all this time what should i do i feel so confused and lost. i’m so scared this will follow me into the future especially as i try to build a career in a public role i can't stop thinking about how my past will always be there lurking waiting to catch up with me when i was 17 i made racist remarks and hurt people with my words even if i thought they were just jokes or satire i was wrong i was cruel and i was selfish hiding behind anonymity thinking it didn’t matter but it did and it does i can’t change what i did and i know that no amount of regret will take away the harm i caused i feel lost in this realization but i accept it i accept that this part of me this mistake is something i have to carry with me forever i wish i could take it all back i wish i could undo the pain i caused but i can’t all i can do now is be sorry and try to be better even though i know it might never be enough
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Anonymous 125181

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>>125180
That is strange they'd go on so long without you interacting at all… they sound like real freaks. It's not what you want to hear but without new material they're going to have to move on eventually. I understand the temptation to keep looking but the best thing you can do is put it out of your mind. Just because they refuse to get a life doesn't mean you should waste yours too.

Anonymous 125182

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>>125181
yes nona i feel uncertain about what steps to take i have been trying to distance myself from all of this yet i cannot help but think that filing a report may not bring any real change since they could simply dissolve this group create another exclude me from it and still misuse my pictures nona what troubles me further is the thought that they might somehow discover my current address my college or even my parents workplace though i think this is unlikely and perhaps i am being overly paranoid.how are you doing nona? i apologize if i am troubling you.
here's a deer for you ^-^
nona how do i keep my mind off of it, it has been really very hard im sorry to make this all about myself but it's extremely mentally draining (i do have "somewhat" of an ongoing social life but i am the very point where i keep thinking about it even if i am out with other people)

Anonymous 125183

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>>125182
When you're saying they could make another group and exclude you from it, makes me think maybe it's clear to them you still have access to this group? You should leave if they can see that. That might be prolonging the issue if they can see you still have access.

The best way to keep your mind off something is to get busy with other things, like calling friends or hanging out, watching a movie, listening to music, reading books, or doing something physical like crocheting painting running etc. Idk if many batting cages are around anymore but it's fun to go out and hit something as hard as you can. I understand if it still comes to mind when you're with people but don't stop making plans and doing activities. Just avoid being idle because that's when your mind starts filling up the blank space with things it can get nervous about.

It's ok to make it all about you nona it's your thread. I've stressed about stuff like this on the internet before and life has always moved on for me. I hope you feel better soon.

Anonymous 125186

>>125183
yes nona. they can see that i am in the group but i remain inactive. they cannot know for certain whether i have read the messages so they might only assume that i do. i feel a strong desire to leave the group chat but my anxiety convinces me to stay. it tells me that if i leave they might focus on me more or uncover something else about me?
i went out with friends to keep my mind off of it and ended up checking it again after i came back home. :\
i really need to compel myself physically not to check it again i genuinely should but i am unable to.
nona, could you share what happened with you and how did you get out of it?

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>>125186
You definitely should leave the group then. Make it a formal thing for yourself, it's time to start a new chapter and move on. Knowing you're able to see the messages can be playing a big role in why they keep going like this especially if people know you're anxious and the type of person who wouldn't be able to stop reading the updates.

For me someone unhinged got pics of me and posted them in many places insulting me. They also got my full name and where I work. They tried to threaten me at first but I blocked their accounts and left wherever it was happening. It's been years and nothing has happened irl. At the end of the day people move on, that stuff gets buried eventually and I don't care about what crazy people think. Let them waste their life with that, I have better things to do, and so do you nona


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boyfriend says he feels catfished by me? Anonymous 125071[Reply]

ive been dating this guy for about 6 months and its been really good until recently. he's super sweet, attractive, intelligent, very much a catch. ive never been with a guy who ive felt so happy to be with and i havent dated in a while.

things were going well until recently, when we were hanging out at his house and i was sitting on his couch sans makeup.

thing is, ive worn pretty heavy makeup when we first met, and i haven't taken it off until now. i noticed he was being really distant and i asked him why.

that's when everything came to head. he reluctantly admitted he felt really disappointed with how i naturally look and he was more excited to date me when i was done up. he went on to say he felt lied to and that i look significantly different without it.

i had no idea what to say so i just told him that he shouldn't be dating me if it was bothering him that much. he told me he wasn't sure how to bring it up to me and that maybe we weren't as great of a fit as he originally thought.

ever since then ive been replaying the event in my head and we're still together, but there's now an awkward distance between us. ive been feeling really down about the whole situation and have no idea of how to move forward.

nonas, what would you do if you were me? ive never had this problem with boyfriends until this week and i now feel pretty insecure about my makeup usage. i have no idea if he still likes me and we havent spoken as much after the conversation happened.

i'd appreciate any advice. thanks for listening if you've gotten this far.
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Anonymous 125149

Definitely sympathetic to you op, though I've never been in a relationship. People can't "catfish" by wearing makeup. Men who accuse women of catfishing by wearing makeup need to get over themselves, and I say this as a makeup free woman, they should stop guilt tripping using the term catfish. To men "catfishing" is worse than being a serial cheater so you know he doesn't respect you, and all his boy friends are pitying him because his woman is slightly less attractive than he hoped.

If he wanted a woman who wore makeup 24/7 or a woman who never wore makeup he should've made that explicit instead of feeling sorry for himself.

Anonymous 125150

>>125071
You intentionally artificially improved your appearance and he saw you with the mask off. Its the IRL version of using Photoshop. What did you expect?

Anonymous 125190

men and women both, but particularly men, are attracted to pretty / beautiful faces due to evolutionary psychology.

"If in our evolutionary past, information was present about a person's mate and/or social value (e.g. provisioning ability, genetic quality) in any way, then an advantage would accrue to those who used these signs and those individuals would leave more genes behind in the next generation. Theoretically then, preferences guide us to choose mates who will provide the best chance of our genes surviving. In many studies, this evolutionary view of attractiveness has been used to predict the specific characteristics of attractive faces."

Makeup is an arms race to level the playing field for those who don't have natural beauty and good looks. It's purposely obfuscated/obtuse by its users (men and women alike who use it, including people like actors) so that its "victims" don't realize whats going on.

You just pulled the veil off and now his evolutionary psychology has kicked in in overdrive saying "this is not right"

Anonymous 125194

>>125190
Horseshit

Men aren't any more visual than women. Anyone who says this is trying to con love and twist your arm into pretending you're attracted to apes, and therefore drop your expectations and standards to the point they're in a basement in hell.

Bury ugly moids a thousand feet underground for what they do to us collectively because they are repugnant

Anonymous 125197

>>125194
Relatively, they are. Men don't care about women's wealth or education, they care much less about non facial physical traits too (height, hands, etc). All that's left is facial attractiveness.


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Hate Thread Anonymous 118525[Reply]

What do you hate and why?
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Anonymous 124909

>>124907
:(…
I've managed to avoid that kind of hurt by never really making plans in the first place (bad solution lol)
If you're into this sort of thing, tonight's a New Moon. So if you'd set up for a group thing and everyone feels distant or unready, it could outgoingness at its natural ebb.

Anonymous 125187

I hate feeling disconnected from other people.
I hate not enjoying normie things.
I hate thinking two people are friends, only to realise later they hate each other.
I hate knowing that they gossip about me the same way they gossip about each other.
I hate that they have the gall to waste my time with faux-polite banalities.
I hate that having friends is difficult.
I hate that not having friends is harder.

>>124900
I think the prize is getting to experience love.
I'd question whether it's true love if they incessantly bring it up.

Anonymous 125188

>>125187
Not having friends is easy as shit if you know what people are really like

Its like vacation

Anonymous 125189

>>125187
The only person I interact with every day is my husband. So he comes up a lot the few times I have conversations with others. Maybe normies are the same.

Anonymous 125191

>>125189
Yeah it makes sense, don't worry about it


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Anonymous 125169[Reply]

anyone else genuinely painful to look at i stopped going to school at 12 because of total ostracization over my face getting harder not to blow my head off

Anonymous 125177

>>125169
I have a complex over my hair in public most days but…

Sounds brvtal, though, I'd hope as an adult randos would care less but the social developmental damage has been done, huh

Anonymous 125178

>>125169
how old are you now nona? do you go to work? i dropped out of hs due to the same thing. therapy and meds have helped a lot but it’s still a struggle.


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I hate myself Anonymous 124840[Reply]

What I'm about to say may sound retarded as hell. No, I'm not a tranny, but I don't like my boobs. I hate how they're just there to feed a baby, I hate how my entire body is just meant to breed, I hate how they ruin every outfit, etc. I feel uncomfortable with them, does that make sense? Like my body isn't my own. I wanna get them cut off, I wish I had a flat chest honestly. I have a B cup/average size, not too big or too small but I genuinely hate them. No, I'm not a tranny, I'm still a woman I just don't want tits. But I know if I said this anywhere else I'd get called trans. This is my first time posting here, usually I just look at posts but this is really the only place where I could get advice.
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Anonymous 125146

>>125145
Because your breasts are a constant source of unwanted attention, the reason people will be disingenuous just to get into your pants, a reminder many see you as an object rather than a person and someone to be pidgeonholed into a subservient role.

I mean, I don't hate my boobs and this is all put a bit dramatically but I understand where this may be coming from.

Anonymous 125152

>>125151
I mean, if you got a better idea why OP hates her breasts, speak away.

Anonymous 125157

>>125151
This kind of moid it's most likely to be a faggot

Anonymous 125164

>>125157
Don't lie. Attention is flattering if it's from a guy you are attracted to. Its only insulting if he gives you the ick.

Anonymous 125170

>>125146
>>125146
Huhhh I have huge boobs and I always ended up having intelligent conversations with nerdy men but I scare people off or piss people off who aren't nerds so I kind naturally have a psychological barrier to men likely to say misogynistic crap

Still yeah I have had horrible experiences with men but not because of my boobs

I'm sorry you got through that


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confessions thread 2 Anonymous 63992[Reply]

>>51270 previous bread

I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes
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Anonymous 124643

I always heard my Mom calling out "Bonnie" (my recently deceased dog) during the beginning of the 2nd verse of this song.
Idk why, it might be due to a chemical deficiency in my brain, as that same verse puts it, but it has disturbed me for the past 9 years, ngl…

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>>107666
So what if you can see
The darkest side of me

Anonymous 125137

>>63992
If this is the worst you have done, you're a saint in disguise.

Anonymous 125141

I wanted to like Ziwe Fumudoh because she's such a boss as far as showbiz goes, well educated and not a nepo baby etc. But holy fk her satire is ass. I've never liked the format of "intentionally uncomfortable interview" because it mirrors regular mundane bullying too closely. Whenever I see her shorts all I can think about are the dumb mean girls who think this is a legitimate interviewer. I just can't wrap my head around publicly embarrassing someone unless you hate them.


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