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Anonymous 109669[Reply]

nonas in third world countries and misogynistic patriarchal societies how do you navigate through the daily struggles of living in a such society without becoming extremely depressed and suicidal?
as soon as I started to understand the world around me as it is in my early teenage years and how women are looked down upon, objectified for their bodies, abused in my family and around me it took a huge toll on my mental health especially after I started getting sexually harassed and cat called whenever I went outside, so I isolated myself from the external world as a coping mechanism and I became chronically online which didn't help as I continued to delve more into feminism and how badly this world is fucked for us women. I've tried to speak about it to my mom and my friends but it I always end up feeling like the crazy one because nobody seems to understand what I'm talking about even if the endless struggles are very much real yet they're all brainwashed by our culture and religion to think that men are not the problem.
I'm just wondering if you're dealing with this too what are your coping mechanisms and how do you go on about your day hearing misogynistic and sexist shit from men and women all the time?
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Anonymous 109949

>>109877
Please understand that its just clothes, everyone is forced to wear clothes in public, headscarves are no different except that other cultures don't wear them.
>>109895
This, so much this.

Anonymous 109951


Anonymous 109963

I'm so sorry nona, life gets very heavy when we start to rationalize our condition in this world. For example, I haven't found a way to deal with it, and it's horrible. The shithole where I live is quite violent, misogynistic and with female hyper sexualization spread like a disease wherever you look; the feminist debate has been completely mishandled in recent years, to the point that almost no one takes it seriously. I did the same thing as you: I isolated myself from the world, using the internet as an escape. Currently I focus only on work and studies, exercise, the few things I still enjoy. I kind of live with a horse blinder on my face and I'm starting to become a completely indifferent person, having little or no hope.

Anonymous 110262

Its a painful experience indeed

Anonymous 111204

I never had a choice but to see the truth of men of my race and culture. I was molested at 4 years old by a family member. The entire family sided with him and from 1992 to 2002 I was forced to live with him. I never let this fucker near me again, he only had one time to show me his true nature. My parents separated and there was peace but then my mother let him move back in with her in 2007. I moved out for the first time from 2007 to 2008, then my mother's father died, my sister had a miscarriage and my mother got deathly ill. I stayed until 2018 and then I left on my own. All that time, I stood my ground, protected myself, and never let any of my family cross my boundaries ever again. I always spoke the truth, even if nobody agreed, even if I was the only one who cared, because that's how I've always lived bc I've always seen men for exactly who they are. Thanks to the internet, the news is spreading and communities are being created. You may have to be the first one to start one in your area. You may have to be the first one to speak up. But other women see the world and see men just like you do and they have friends, communities, hobbies, and they get shit done. I wish you the best. I've elevated myself in society, start business and make money so I'm financially independent. I also take care of my health when I can and travel alone often. This is why you need money. Money is also protection.



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i feel so inadequate compared to bf Anonymous 111194[Reply]

i don't know how to deal with it. he's just better than me in everything. it would be fine if it was in things idgaf about but now i get so envious. for example i've been trying to learn german for years while he speaks 5 languages. he's way more academically gifted than me, more extraverted and charismatic than me, a quicker thinker than me etc.


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Anonymous 110596[Reply]

>be me, 25
>old shitty car breaks down
>dropped it off at repair shop earlier today
>"it'll take about 4 hours to repair"
>okay.jpg
>walk around near by restaurants to kill time
>feeling hungry so i order some chicken and rice
>Dine in is closed
>take food outside and go down the sidewalk
>sit on the curb to eat
>just minding my own business and eating
>group of frat guys in their early 20's walk right past me
>they suddenly all get quiet
>can't quite hear them whisper something under their breath
>as soon as they pass me they all burst out in laughter
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Anonymous 110992

hah fratboys r trash i laugh my ass off at them all the time. don't sweat it nona

Anonymous 111153

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They're laughing at you because you looked like a bum. Did you look like a bum Nona? Sometimes it helps to know.

Anonymous 111157

>>111153
That cat has a strong bone structure and fine whiskers, it would definitely be a chad if it were human.

Anonymous 111186

>>111153
that cat looks like a fucking troon

Anonymous 111189




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I wish he could get a facelift, face fillers and hair transplant Anonymous 111158[Reply]

I'm a perfectionism obsessed with beauty however I contradict myself and don't care about being beautiful neither judge people by their looks, it's too primitive and I don't wanna regress to that mental state. I often don't even see "ugly" and "pretty" people as that different. Doesn't matter yet… It does… Whenever I see an almost perfect male I wish he could enhance his beauty with these procedures, male and female beauty is different so I mean enhance the masculine beauty till perfection. I dont want them to all look the same I just want their individual male beauty to be perfected. Beauty is my biggest muse and inspiration.
Pleasure get these face fillers, please get a jaw surgery, please get that double chin sucked off of your body, please lower your hairline, please make your upper lip shorter, please get a nose job, please lose weight cause it makes your face look more defined, please get that extreme chemical peel that burns off the top layer of skin then it all looks like a one big scab that gets taken off of your face, please get on steroids muscles fit you and if you have to be muscular then it has to be perfect and steroids make men look masculine, please start weightlifting at 10 everyday of your life and be on a diet to keep perfect physique. If youre a man that looks better as skinny then lose weight and never have too much fat. Get a stomach liposuction of needed. Stay close to underweight. Please whiten your teeth. Please get fake teeth. Please famous man who's almost perfect and has million videos filmed of him during his youth, travel in time and perfect your beauty even more with aesthetic medicine so you look more perfect and then I can look at these pictures and be inspired. Please get an ass liposuction if needed. Please get a different hairstyle. Please grow more hair. Ive been insanely inspired after seeing these looksmaxing transformion where an incel looking man gets turned into a Chad using just face fillers. They need to even exaggerate their masculine beauty features. Please get these procedures. Please get plastic surgery. Please get fillers in your dick. The title is about a specific moid thats over 50 and needs a facelift. Hes famous so he should.
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Anonymous 111170

>>111166
More surgery, less of telling sensible girls online that they are the devil. Tell your thin lipped Nigel to get lip fillers.

Anonymous 111172

>>111170
>Tell your nigel
I'm never going to get a nigel because I'm not retarded. Fuck men. Dating men is something you do in your 20s when you have no life experience and you're bored. Once you reach your late 20s you realize that they're animals and they should be put down like animals.

Anonymous 111174

>>111172
based.

Anonymous 111178

I thought this was going to be about how we should all be propellerhatmaxxing…

Anonymous 111183

>>111172
Agree but I like to look at pretty androgynous men especially when they do romance movies catered to female ~~delusions~~, they should upgrade their looks and exist as my fantasy. That hairline must go a little lower.



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therapy Anonymous 106040[Reply]

what is your guys' experience w getting therapy? would u recommend?
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Anonymous 110820

Literally got sexually harassed by a therapist as a child so yeah. They're shitty people, never had one help me. Just wanted to make my parents happy by putting me on medicine for a paycheck than actually helping me when I confided in them I was being abused.

Anonymous 111133

>>106040
I work in an adjacent field and have tried it. It depends a lot on the situation and on the people involved (Therapist and Patient)

Never trust a therapist's qualifications at face value. The field/market itself is fucked. Most of the 'therapists' that graduate are dipshits that just skim through their 'training' and just go at things either on a purely surface level or are horrifically stuck in what they were taught and either don't care or are too stupid to notice. The issue with 'great' therapists is that they both need to actually care and be intelligent enough to adjust what they do to fit the patient. (Especially if the patient is someone who is the type to post here as most of it is made for normies who do take everything at surface level)

Unironically if you're smart enough and can afford it/have the time/mental ability to, dig into the textbook they learned from and read it yourself.

But therapists do still have uses, having someone that you can vent and bitch to without any worry about em ghosting or damaging a friendship can be useful if you can use what you gain to help yourself, and sometimes you can take the simple crap one size fit all 'solutions' they try to peddle and adapt it to your own self in your own way. But I can only suggest doing that in good conscience if you still have some mental fortitude and abilities left.

TLDR
They suck usually but you can squeeze some good out of them if you know how to

Anonymous 111162

It’s my job right now kek. I thought it would feel meaningful to have a job where I could help people feel better or at least help them feel listened to and understood. And since I know what it’s like to have shitty mental health, maybe I also want to be the kind of person that I wish I had when I was going through hard times. I don’t know if I’m helping anyone, but I hope I am. I do feel really disillusioned with the mental health system though. I also don’t think therapy is the only way for people to deal with their issues, although that seems to be the common consensus nowadays.

Ironically, most of my personal experiences with therapy have been unhelpful kek. One of my therapists asked if I ever considered Christianity when I was talking to her about my depression. I can’t even remember much of what I talked about with the other two therapists I tried.

Anonymous 111165

>>111162
as a therapist, do you know resources for finding a good one? it sounds like a really mixed bag, and i want to find a good one that actually cares about people's health (like you)

Anonymous 111173

>>111165
I wish I could give some concrete advice, but I guess there's no way to guarantee that a therapist you meet will genuinely care about the work until you actually meet them. I don't know how helpful this is, but I think it's a misconception that therapists make a lot of money. Of course some do, but as far as I know it's mostly people who either own their own practice or have some super specialized degree. I imagine that if you find a therapist through a group practice (as opposed to someone who works completely independently), you might have a better chance of meeting someone who isn't in it just for the money because honestly you don't even make that much lol. The other benefit of finding a therapist who works at a group practice is that if the therapist isn't a good fit, they can refer you to someone else who works in the practice so you don't have to do extra work and find another person on your own! But yeah, your mileage may vary. I wish I could give more helpful advice.



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Anonymous 111154[Reply]

How do I get over my constant fear and pessimism about human nature? In this case I'm talking about males but it's true with women too. I feel like people are always judging and comparing.

My bf is so kind and caring, he says he loves me and tells me how attracted he is to me. I have no reason to be insecure. But I still am. I worry he's settling with me, that he wants better but he thinks I'm all he'll be able to get since I'm his first gf. I'm sure he sees cute girls online who are objectively more attractive than I am. Why do I think like this? I don't do that with him and other men, although I know there are women that do and I find that just as reprehensible. I don't know why i'm so insecure, he hasn't done anything to make me feel that way, I think I always would no matter who it was and what he said. I feel the age of social media has ruined us and what we see as a normal person anyway sorry about my schizo rant

Anonymous 111156

>My bf is so kind and caring, he says he loves me and tells me how attracted he is to me. I have no reason to be insecure.
Then don't. Your emotional needs are already being met and if you're his first gf he will always compare other girls to you if he ever breaks up. If all your bf has to offer are empty insincere words and no actions to back it up, then it's understandable to feel that way. Make yourself look and act perfect, attract the attention of other men so he doesn't get too complacent.



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pros/cons of your bf Anonymous 105405[Reply]

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!
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Anonymous 111039

>>111023
>all of us here basically therapists for our boyfriends
Therapists? You all sound more like pets to me. You sit around doing nothing while your boyfriends work full time and exist to serve you.

Anonymous 111041

>>111023
I'm not a therapist, therapists are emotional prostitutes. I actually care about him.

Anonymous 111050

>>111031
>>111033
It’s not a reference, that was my post.

Anonymous 111066

>>106204
>Plays league

I'm so so so so sorry

Anonymous 111269

>>111050
Anon break up with him NOW



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How do I not let what moids say affect me emotionally? Anonymous 111137[Reply]

I have stopped browsing various sites like 4chan because of the shit they say about women, especially Western women, it affected me emotionally.

Anonymous 111138

Don't listen to them. They are braindead people who don't understand how society works and what it means to respect someone or a group of people. Anything you've probably heard them say is definitely not true. Whatever they've said about women, actually says more about themselves.

Anonymous 111142

>>111137
The only person who can allow their words to affect you is yourself. Why do you feel negatively about what they say, do you believe it to be honest and truthful? As they admit there; "Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact."

Anonymous 111147

>>111137
Think about how completely asinine every other opinion they hold is and then ask yourself "why would this one be the exception"? It's probably not a silver bullet, but I stopped browsing 4chan for basically that reason myself; nothing I had read on there in years had held any worth whatsoever.

Anonymous 111148

>>111137
moids hate women, what's new

Anonymous 111152

>>111137
4chan moids say those things because they are a bunch of sour grapes. none of them will ever know the touch of a woman outside of sexually abusing one. surround yourself with people who speak kindly and respectfully instead of doomscrolling through ragebait.
>t. someone who should follow this advice too



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Does anyone else want to get married and have kids but feels like it's just totally hopeless? Anonymous 111091[Reply]

I literally have no idea how ppl even get to point where they kiss someone. Like how does that even happen. It's so hard for me bc I find anything moids say and do too obnoxious. On the other hand every woman I like just ends up becoming a friend.

Anonymous 111120

>>111091
in the same boat. it feels like to get in a relationship with a man you have to make yourself a complete doormat or look and be perfect. it's just not worth it

Anonymous 111146

>>111091
Same. You're right about moids being too obnoxious. Turned off immediately.



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rage Anonymous 110964[Reply]

Anyone just have lots of rage and general contempt for everyone around them? Ignore the random image
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Anonymous 110977

Yea, I usually get that feeling when I hear people laughing or talking to their friends. I don't want any because no one understands me because I don't understand me but I'm still upset. Why can't everyone just be sad and alone like me? Is that too much to ask for?

Anonymous 111111

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Negativity with everything is one of the most overwhelming feelings ever, whenever you feel that way yet again, remember that it's merely a phase and that the indominateable human spirit and the good feelings of life and effort are bountiful <3

Anonymous 111124

>>111111
Wow the magical number GET!!
Thank you monster arctic fox!!

Anonymous 111128

>>110964
95% of Internet is ragebait nowadays. If you're terminally online, you're training your brain to rage as the first reaction to any/most things. So yeah, rage is all you feel because that's all you feed yourself with.
tl;dr: touch grass.

Anonymous 111131

>>111111
blessed GETsteal bot



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