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Anonymous 123022[Reply]

how do u be a better person and develop empathy no joke. without speaking to anyone except my boyfriend ever (no glue no borax) i treated him so horrible i just want to give him everything he deserves hes helped me so much in life hes saved me but i keep lashing out at him and blaming him because everything feels so wrong in my head and idk what to do he said im a narcissist but idk how to fix that therapy isnt an option because every single time ive gone ive been completely enabled and it was horrible, im not conscious at all of my bad traits either i grew up isolated as fuck im too socially retarded to even realize doesssanyone else get that what do we do nonaz

Anonymous 123023

>>123022

How old are you nona? I'm an ex grippy sock and have healed in my relationship with my husband. Its not about being perfect but acknowledging when you're wrong without being told. That's the first part to doing better. How you doin?

Anonymous 123024

well you are on the right path if you're worrying about him.
what are you blaming and lashing out at him for

this is more so lack of emotional control than a lack of empathy, so maybe you need to learn to calm yourself down first. it wouldn't be much better if you started debasing yourself every time he gets sad

Anonymous 123032

>>123024

a lot of shit like my entire life situation i was huge hikkineet fuck up for a few years so i missed out on a lot of shit but iv been getting better thanks to him so i think it will be okay. and insecure how i look too and i always blame it on him that i feel like that but he is kind of the reason i hate how i look so much in the firs tplace but idk

Anonymous 123034

>>123032
i don't have a lot of advice for you nona, sorry. i know you can't just control emotions that bad when they do happen.

however, you can control how you express them and you need to pick a way to express them that's as least destructive as possible. you can't just blame things on people like that and make them that responsible for your emotions. especially since he has been helping you. (of course he may be manipulating you in some ways but that's unclear from your posts)

Anonymous 123036

>>123032
>but he is kind of the reason i hate how i look so much in the firs tplace but idk
how so?
blaming your bf isnt a bad thing if its reasonable, logical and deserved. you just need to distinguish between the two.
toxic people cant handle criticism and have no sense of responsibility, even if theyre objectively in the wrong.


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Anonymous 122975[Reply]

To the people telling this woman to abort: shame on you
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Anonymous 122978

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Ok, but who?

Anonymous 122995

who?

Anonymous 122998

why? wtf

Anonymous 123030

>just got married 2 months ago
>guy does not have a job
>both think they are not ready for kids

She was told that she knows what she needs to do.

You'd rather we advocate for poverty and single parenthood? Lol

Anonymous 123031

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>>123030
the baby is OP's problem until it gets born, unlike the mother's


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Anonymous 122513[Reply]

What is "good sex" like to you?

Anonymous 122514

the absence of men is the important part.
any sex is good at that point.

Anonymous 123009

>>122514
sex is short for sexual intercourse. there is no such thing as sex without men, nor without women. only a man and a woman can have sex.

Anonymous 123017

shuichi used to be my husbando.
but to answer your question, many women here including me are virgins but good sex would obv be w someone who is selfless and loving and romantic

Anonymous 123029

>>123009
DISGUSTING!!!
Fuck off to Discord you tranny


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How do I make friends that aren't brain rotted by TikTok Anonymous 123013[Reply]

I don't mind a lil brain rot myself but this is a very particular brainrot that involves medical misinformation and viral contagions. It's turned multiple friends from fascinating individuals into a frightening amalgamation of micro tends. I feel like I can't talk to these people on a true personal level and don't say 'just find different people' because they're everywhere. This has happened in different cities and states over the years but I've only really noticed it more during and after the pandemic. Wtf does a bitch gotta do to find a real one

Anonymous 123014

I’m wondering the same thing. I’ve found some success with befriending older people (I’m 24, I’m talking 30+). it does feel quite hopeless, though.

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>>123014

Damn, I'm in my 30s and having no luck. I feel like when I was younger I was more open minded or maybe this kind of thing has made it worse. Or perhaps my standards have changed…

Anonymous 123026

>>123013
my guess is they'd be just as interested in meeting you as you are in meeting them but they will be hard to find.

the mainstream internet is a battlefield, completely corrupted by various non-consensual interests so my guess would be it'd be easier in real life. probably not in big cities.


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should i delete a whole conversation? Anonymous 122303[Reply]

Ive ended up confessing to my friend, and we have been going back and forth these last two days.

I wanted to clarify some stuff he wrote because it wasnt clear to me if he didnt like me that way or if he was just scared of being in a relationship.

He told me that even though he did appreciate me, he wasnt looking for that in me and were just friends. I asked why he didnt look for that in me, that I could even change and be what he wants, but he hasnt replied or even looked at the text yet.

I wonder if I should just delete the whole thing and pretend it never happened, I feel like Im just pathetic and without dignity.

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>>122303
The idea of "confessing" is terrible course of action to begin with, but you probably fucked up in other ways too. If you aren't interested in friendship, just give it up.
I recommend keeping the conversation history in the form of an archive so that you can refer to it in the future if necessary.

Anonymous 122699

>>122303
Yeah, just forget the whole thing.

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>>122306
This art of Tomoko is very aesthetic

Anonymous 122963

Sometimes people need time to process stuff like that. When I pushed starting a relationship on my current bf he clammed up.

If hes like my guy he could just be afraid of failure and doesn't want to hurt you

Anonymous 123008

>>122303
>I asked why he didnt look for that in me, that I could even change and be what he wants, but he hasnt replied or even looked at the text yet.
imagine if one of your unattractive male friends wrote that shit to you. what's he gonna do, transform into a frog and then from frog into prince? how would someone unattractive "change" to be suddenly attractive? don't force this guy to call you unattractive to your face, it's not going to make you feel better about the situation.


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I am pregnant Anonymous 122619[Reply]

I found out a week ago that I am pregnant.
I am married, have been for 2 months to my husband who I have been with for 3.5 years now.
I am scared.
Right now I am the sole breadwinner of the house and I don't even make that much money. Enough for bills but hardly enough for anything else and slowly have been draining my savings.
He doesn't work. He had a good paying job but left it to pursue school 6 months ago. And what he is in school for I honestly don't think he has a future in.
Other than the financial struggles, neither of us are ready to be parents.
I think I could handle being a Mom, but I do not want to be a Mom. I am not ready for a lifetime commitment yet. I wanted to enjoy being newleyweds longer.
He is not ready to be a Dad. Emotionally immature.
The reality is slowly dawning on me on how hard this will be for us and I am really distraught. We are broke and I am married to a man who literally cannot handle fatherhood. I am terrified.
At first I thought I would be excited for a baby but I am more scared, mostly because of ny husband being unprepared. I know he couldnt support us but I know one of us will have to stay home with baby all day.
I just dont know what to do.
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Anonymous 122974

Hey. It will be ok. The terror of life does not stop when one is a mother. I've got two kids, one is only 3 months old. I thought I would die having a second child because my first was so wilful and crazy but she has defied every expectation in a most lovely way.

The truth is you will never feel "ready" even after you have kids. You grow woth them. Every age, stage, shoot every day is different. And men generally buck the f×ck up when they have children (i know personally, my husband is kind of a manchild, lol).

Don't let the terror win. You are strong, and the life within you wants to live. Give it a chance. Give yourself a chance, give your husband a chance. Motherhood is HARD and sometimes you have to scream into a pillow but it will mold and shape you into a different, stronger, more capable, more kind and loving person than you ever would have imagined. I dont know you, but I believe in you.

Anonymous 122986

Nona you need to realize something. The same way you now have to face consequences because you married a retard who was still trying to "find himself", if you abort behind his back you can (and should) kiss that relationship goodbye.
It's not worth living with the lies, the fear and most importantly the guilt it will drive you mad. Keep them both or be ready to lose them both and reroll again later.

+ nobody ever feels ready to become a parent

>>122641
I second this
he has to take back his job if he has to beg them on his knees to take him back.

Anonymous 122994

either abort now, make him go back to his job, or divorce(and abort)

Anonymous 122997

>>122619
Abort now.
And make him go to jail for forcibly impregnating you.

Anonymous 123002

Please abort. Don't give this thing a shitty life with unstable parents.


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Anonymous 122967[Reply]

how do i tell my boyfriend murdering me is bad for the economy?

Anonymous 122970

murdering you would actually be a net positive for the economy, if only because less people = less stress on a dire housing crisis

Anonymous 122971

The idea that removing individuals helps the economy by reducing housing demand ignores the immense value each person contributes through labor, consumption, innovation, and community. Economies thrive on human activity—not on reducing populations through violence. Ethical societies solve housing crises through policy, not by eliminating people.

Anonymous 122973

>>122970
but who buy cigarettes

Anonymous 122981

>>122970
this generally only applies to old people and people who own too much housing. zoomers don't have anywhere as much pressure

Anonymous 123000

Although the feminist movement has already come quite far in the past 150 years, some things (sadly) still seem out of reach for us.
Men will be men.


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i tried making small talk yesterday Anonymous 122664[Reply]

i'm a confirmed autist.
i know my parents want me to be more social, so i've been trying to at least make some small talk.

last night i went to eat dinner with them.
my dad asked how my day was. i said it was good and asked how his was.
he responded by mimicking my voice in a mocking tone.

i didn’t say anything, and just went back to my room.
i made ramen on my hotplate and went to bed.

this morning my mom told me she called him out for it.
he got pissy and said i was "disrespecting him" with my tone.
then he got angry at her for defending me and left for a while.

i asked my mom why she wanted to be with someone like that for the rest of her life and she just said "relationships have highs and lows."
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Anonymous 122670

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>>122668
I think I overdid it, but in your text, it seemed like your father was a bit of a pain in the ass. Well, it's a good thing you're going to college, at least you'll get a change of scenery.

Another thing that helps in dealing with people is not giving them too much importance, seriously. Most people are normies who will just pass you by, there's no reason for you to be too anxious about anyone in this world.

Anonymous 122673

At a certain point you'll be old enough that your parents stop giving a fuck about your lack of friends and social inadequacies. Some of us are just incapable.

Anonymous 122964

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>try to make small talk with mother about how I feel im falling behind in life
>berates and belittles me, tells me I don't need to improve at anything to work at McDonalds

Sometimes I wonder why this woman bothered having children she didn't want to love

Anonymous 122966

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>>122964
I'm sorry, anon. There's nothing worse than having parents, especially a mother, who you can't talk to or vent to. I have the feeling that most boomers and X's are completely insensitive. I don't even bother talking to any of them. But were you trying to vent just about work or about something else too?

Anonymous 122987

>get abused by asshole
>i must be autistic
?????!!


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Anonymous 122527[Reply]

I want an AI/robot bf so badly
>will not have any flaws, never make any mistakes
>will have perfect and pretty facial aesthetics
>will have a muscular build
>will never bald
>taller than average w a bigger than average dingdong
>will be completely loyal to me
>never cheat, can't experience attraction to another person than myself, has zero interest in anyone but me
>can never disrespect or abuse me
>completely honest and full og integrity
>will do all the household chores for me
>will never be contradictory or inconsistent
>never hypocritical
>will give me daily massages
>always tries to make me happy
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Anonymous 122560

>>122559
AI love is the purest form of love there is

Anonymous 122663

I always think about how the bots are not people, and eventually lose interest.
How can I find a more immersive experience? (besides real people)

Anonymous 122677

>>122663
drugs

Anonymous 122979

>>122527
whats the pic from

Anonymous 122983

>>122527
I don't think you could afford the METAcrosofTESLA subscription, and even if you could they will try to scam you with stupid excuses like "memory full, pay to upgrade your cloud plan", "upgrade needed, pay to unlock", "he is moody now, pay to unlock more kindness credits"
You would have to be a slave to have your own slave. There is no escape.


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Anonymous 105650[Reply]

Anyone else here schizoid?
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Anonymous 121063

Im extroverted, hate being alone, love being around nice people, love sex (who doesnt), love having fun and being happy.

Anonymous 121074

>>120910
No it actually sucks, it's a very miserable way to be.

Anonymous 122929

My mother told me she's always suspected I was, but I don't hate people. I feel more in my skin as an autistic and free when I'm alone.

Anonymous 122954

>>121063
I hate sex

Anonymous 122962

me… very


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