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Anonymous 118981[Reply]

Why do many people who offer social skills advice act as if simply listening and asking questions is the right way to go?

A good connection happens very naturally between people making a genuine effort to understand eachother. You can't just ask questions like a job interview, otherwise it's totally one-sided and there is not really a connection. If they only talk about themselves and don't care about you, then you should just walk away.
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Anonymous 119770

I kinda have an issue with that, I fail to 'connect' with someone, but my questions are so good they usually start opening up about very personal stuff with me. I've found stuff about people that they haven't said to their family or long-time friends after just talking to them for a bit.

It's a bit frustrating. At some point I get bored but I just keep asking well-placed questions and they're loving it, completely letting it all out. Like g'damn, shut up lol.

Anonymous 119792

I think its a good strategy but its a lot of work. if you keep asking people about them, eventually someones going to wanna talk to you also.

Anonymous 119803

>>119770
This is so funny, I don't get my moids have such a problem listening without cutting in every second with answers! like dude just shut up and listen.

Anonymous 121210

>>118981
You're supposed to ask questions until you find something you have in common and then talk mutually about that topic.

Anonymous 121217

>>119803
Moids are very problem/solution-oriented. If they see something as a solvable problem they will chime in with "advice" to feel useful and try to fill the void in their heart where an actual personality should be.
>>119770
I get the same thing but I use it as a tactic. If I don't feel like talking about myself I just ask the guy something related to one of his personal interests and he will just keep yapping until I need the conversation to be over.



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I can't make friends Anonymous 120990[Reply]

can't really make meaningful friendship with other girls and it's been getting to me tbh. no one in my area has the same interests as me, and friend groups NEVER work out.

there's always some stupid petty drama that has the whole thing fall apart and has everyone hate each other until the end of time.

and other friends that i've had were always passive aggressive or in one-sided competition trying to "one up" me in any way possible to fuel their egos.

another friend i had just straight up started dating a known rapist from our old school and thinks life is all sunshine and rainbows.

idk, everything just feels kinda fake. i don't like how fake it is and have honestly just started removing myself from social spaces or groups entirely. my only friends are probably just my mom, sister and boyfriend of 2 years and i'm happy and fine but i still feel as though i need to have some kind of 'girlhood' or 'connection' in my life but i cba and dont know what to do at all because everyone in my area is just so boring and lame it feels like talking to a brick wall at all times.

hopefully when i travel abroad shit is gonna get better and i get to meet new people but man where i'm at right now just straight up fucking sucks and everyone is a copypaste of the next "big thing" online it's killing me.
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Anonymous 120999

>>120995
Oh wow…I really like reading comics western or eastern. I'm also a lot into films …horror films to be exact

Anonymous 121000

>>120990
>idk, everything just feels kinda fake. i don't like how fake it is and have honestly just started removing myself from social spaces or groups entirely. my only friends are probably just my mom, sister and boyfriend of 2 years and i'm happy and fine but i still feel as though i need to have some kind of 'girlhood' or 'connection' in my life but i cba and dont know what to do at all because everyone in my area is just so boring and lame it feels like talking to a brick wall at all times.

Most female friendships are competition, drama, talking behind each other's backs.

Try to make friends with women who aren't bitches.

Anonymous 121003

>>120991
>>120990
>cordial relationships with people irl like my peers and have friends online that I discuss my interests with
Real. The only adult women I have ever managed to be good friends with have been sourced from the computer. I've since met all of them IRL and know that women that I vibe with DO exist in the 3d space but I feel like girls like us in particular are cursed to never have local friends.

I also think that having close IRL friends as an adult is oversold to us as common and normal so we start to feel bad when we don't.

Anonymous 121004

>>121003
> I also think that having close IRL friends as an adult is oversold to us as common and normal so we start to feel bad when we don't

This part is so true. I feel like as an adult having friends is too risky. One and two are absolutely needed but more than that is annoying to everyone. I feel like as an adult your family is better and that should be your focus ( obv if your family is good )

Anonymous 121203

>>120990
I feel you on all that. Every time I try to make friends with my roommates or coworkers it seems to fall apart and im back to square one. Ive tried the online friendships too but they dont seem to stick around either. Had a rather traumatizing experience with one of the last girls I tried to befriend with her posting about me for months on end hating me behind my back and pretending to be my friend till I found out and called her out for it. Now im always concerned its gonna happen again so I dont even know if its worth it at this point



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Are lesbian relationships more empathetic and loving than het ones? Anonymous 119649[Reply]

Bisexual nona here, since being pinkpilled and observing male behavior ive wondered if lesbian relationships are more kind and understanding than heterosexual ones. It seems like women(myself included) to prioritize bonding and emotional intimacy and a deep bond.
(talked to moids before never gotten to even dating just some interest ig and self inserted into f4f fanfic and have sexual/romantic feelings for other women.so i have no experience just wanted to put that out there.)
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Anonymous 120788

I remember when I was a child, and my sisters were in HS. One of them had a bi phase with this dyke girl, and she came over one night while my parents and other sister were gone. They started arguing and her "gf" fucking takes a knife from our kitchen, and she started threatening to stab herself while my sister kept trying to take to take the knife from her…pretty manipulative.

Anonymous 120984

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>>120788
This. Definitely can see more fights happening. Imagine both being super emotional and since you’re about the same size you’ll be more inclined to start fighting.

Granted with a moid, a fight is way scarier unless he’s a twink or old

Anonymous 121039

>>119649
Unless anyone can pull up good statistics, I'm honestly not sure I have much real reason to believe there to exist any disparity. >>119778 for example is good support of that.

Like, you'll see stuff like men are more likely to be violent, and thus violent to women than the other way around, test and all that, which is all true. Then you got stories like >>120788. So then you might say, "Oh, men are more violent, women will be more manipulative" - but are stories of men gaslighting women or using them not manipulation? And those things surely aren't uncommon.

Then you also see something like for some reason, when LGBT couples go to therapy, for some reason lesbian couples are way worse than gay or het couples in therapy. But like, they're going to therapy - aren't all couples in therapy gonna obviously have issues?!? And what metric is describing this, that lesbians are worse?

Surely there's more violent men than women, but will sticking to les/bi women gonna keep you safe from violence? Of course not. Whether it be violence, manipulation, empathy, things like estrogen or testosterone aren't the clear determinant of an individual's behavior. Can we really say that women are more empathetic and loving than men? Lots of people may say that (not gonna put my beliefs on this), but will this mean you're sure-fire gonna have an empathetic and loving partner should she be female? Have you never met a shitty woman, cause I have! Or a woman who sorta uses people cause she's pretty and she can and they let her, cause I have (not judging, go get em honestly).

I myself do my best to surround myself with decent people, and that includes both women and men. There are amazing lesbian relationships, and there are amazing het relationships where both individuals are empathetic and loving towards each other. If you notice the people around you which are loving and empathetic tend to be women, then great! Keep to them and treat them as well as they do you. But if they were male, I would've said that same thing. Slightly changing the words from the critic from Rattetouille, not everyone is empathetic and loving, but an empathetic and loving person can come from anywhere.

Anonymous 121164

Not inherently, but the average moid lacks empathy

Anonymous 121176

lol. lmao @ thinking lesbian relationships don't turn even more sour. been there done that don't fall for the meme political dykes try to push.

You don't need to lez out, get a support group for your shitty bfs



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Help (?) Anonymous 121056[Reply]

Nonas, I don't know how to really tackle this topic but I feel I need people to judge me and comment on my situation. I'm really not the brightest person around. I'm in my mid 20s and I still act like a 14 year old most of the time (I'm trying to work on that despite my mental illnesses which still, I'm self aware enough that I'm using it as a crutch to justify my problems when I'm perfectly aware I can work on them).

I dated someone for four years (he was my first partner ever), everything started great but eventually after the second year he became really abusive and I stuck around despite that with the whole retarded mentality of "I can make it work maybe, I can fix him, maybe I'm the problem (corny garbage in that same vein in general)." Eventually I managed to finally snap out of it and broke up with him. I am still hurt by that break-up and it still causes me a lot of emotional distress. However recently I just find gravitating myself towards people that are similar to my ex and I just keep getting hurt over and over again. I don't even know how end up across these people, I've been trying to isolate myself more and more and yet.

Is there any way I can start tackling this issue to stop with it? I want to work on this. I'm tired of dating abusive retards and yet somehow subconsciously I do end up seeking them out. Feel free to call me retarded or whatever, I need any sort of external judgement at this point.

Anonymous 121057

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I dont know what you’re talking about but good luck with it :D

Anonymous 121078

>>121064
Its not just childish media, I do like acting out for attention sometimes. Sometimes I like to fish for attention by being overly-cutesy with people.
Either way I have no idea how to socialize properly. I relied on my ex and the other failed relationship I had to meet people. Its really awkward and painful having to share a friend group with those idiots, their friends are the only people I have. The only other human interaction I really have with my step-sister but she now works and I barely get to see her and do stuff with her. Before dating my ex I literally had 0 concept of a friend group which is certainly something.
My hobbies are kinda niche currently and dunno, do you just suggest I kind of just look through some pisscord or something?

Anonymous 121096

I don't know how to solve it but I know a girl with similar issues as you. She got married to a nice guy after a lifetime of being with crappy people. I don't know how she did it but I heard it was hard getting adjusted to. But I do think it's about recognizing your own patterns, behaviours, reactions, and making conscious decisions to do differently. Stay strong

Anonymous 121158

>>121056
i mean just think like this: you already broke up with your boyfriend because he'd hurt you. so why get into a relationship with another moid who has similar personality flaws when that was the very reason your last relationship ended? its kind of like just speedrunning a breakup. but im sorry that your first bf changed/showed his true colors after a year of kindness. thats honestly really sickening and disgusting. seek therapy i think



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Anonymous 120650[Reply]

>have bf for 2 months
>cute and romantic, caring, sweet, never pressured me to do anything
>lots of eye contact
>we had sex for the first time last night
>don't really want to, but follow his lead because it's what he wants
>it's over
>he didn't look into my eyes the whole time
>no cuddles or holding me
>cold and emotionally distanced immediately after sex
>things weren't the same after that
>doesn't really be caring or romantic the way he used to
>we don't talk or text as much as before
>ask if he is feeling okay, if anything is going on in his life, if i can help in any way (even if it's more sex)
>get nothing back

Why are men like this?
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Anonymous 120672

>>120656
marriage is a horrible word, imagine having to see one certain moid every single day until the very end, that’s so depressing

Anonymous 120677

>>120672
>imagine having to see your loved one every single day until the very end
Sounds great

Anonymous 120899

Didn’t do anything weird or nasty?

Anonymous 121040

>>120650
Likely he's a pos but you could just talk to him about it before making the conclusion definite

Anonymous 121154

honestly, confront him. if this isnt larp or a lie or whatever. like meet up with him in person and be aggressive and put your foot down and just ask WHY. then decide what you want to do afterwards, but you first need to find out why and you should also tell him why he shouldnt treat someone that way.



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Anonymous 119842[Reply]

When was the last time you went out on a date and how was it?
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Anonymous 121139

>>121138
Show me a man who is honest about their usage of social media and I will show you a liar.

Anonymous 121140

>>121139
How does having an insta account prevent him from talking to women on tinder?

Anonymous 121141

>>121140
How does saying you don't use social media prevent you from lying about using social media?

Anonymous 121142

>>121141
See, now you get what I mean.

Anonymous 121151

>>121142
We're on the same side so I don't know why you think you were arguing with me



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Is it worth being happy? Anonymous 106348[Reply]

I want to have a family, I have wanted it since forever. I met a moid who I loved but despite his radfem single mother upbringing, he turned out to be an abuser.

All I want is a family. I am straight not stupid. I know that I will never get a moid that acts like a woman, like a human but I will be equally miserable with less and with nothing.
>pic unrelated
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Anonymous 120744

>>120740
>india
>1%
jesus

Anonymous 120747

>>120740
These statistics are fake tho

Anonymous 121122

>>106378
>moids usually end up screwed up because of a lack of sane father figures.
Which is hilarious because that means a moid's humanity banks on the one in a million chance that their dad either is in their life or at the very least isn't a monster himself, which is probably why men in general are completely fucked.

Anonymous 121123

>>106385
I don't know if I buy this, I think it depends on how you teach radfem to your son. Guys literally throw a shitfit if you tell them that rape is bad after all, so ingraining it into them from a young age seems like the only viable solution.

Anonymous 121124

>>120740
Left: countries that make divorce illegal through real or soft laws
Right: countries that acknowledge that women deserve at least one or two rights, maybe more

Anyway you can't honestly be in defense of a slave institution like marriage, what fucks kids up isn't step parents it's bad parents. Always has been.



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Anonymous 121044[Reply]

>meet boy on reddit
>funny boy, finds me funny
>somehow in 10 days' time we are exchanging nudes and talking about getting married
>i want out

what do. i feel like such a whore.
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Anonymous 121047

>exchanging nudes in 10 days

Have you never heard of the rule of 3s?

Anonymous 121048

>>121047
i don't know why i went along with it. every time it was "hm ii went this far it's ok if i do more". i ama such a retard. what do i do.

Anonymous 121049

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>>121048
It's a lose-lose situation. Either you have to live with some random moid having pictures of you nude, like becky in picrel, or you have to marry him, which you've said you don't want to.

Anonymous 121052

>>121044
Just stop agreeing to send your nudes. Make it a rule for yourself.
Talked to several moids when they're horny and I always tell them the spiel of "Oh I'm sorry but I don't really feel comfortable with sharing intimate pictures online :( I hope it's ok" and even so they still send me theirs no problem. A few might beg a little but if you remain firm with your decision they'll eventually give up asking. However the only way for this to work is for them to fully believe you're a woman, and if you did a good job at sweetening him up with your previous messages the easier it will be for you.

This has worked especially well so far on 2 moids for me. One of them I kinda miss, he was really cute, had a nice dick and knew how to send spicy messages. But he got a girlfriend so that was the end of that. And if the moid you're messaging says something like "Do you not trust me? I thought we were close" when you tell him you won't share nudes then maybe let him go because that's a manipulator trying to guilt-trip you. Never forget that being wary and exercising privacy measures online is your right so don't feel bad about it.
And no offense but how the fuck do you start having marriage talks with someone at 10 days of knowing them??

Anonymous 121090

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>meet boy on reddit
>boy on reddit
>reddit
Well that's your first problem..

Cut your losses. You have put yourself in a monkey trap situation, and the longer you hold on, the harder it will be to get out. You have a lot of losses to cut, so take a breath, have a drink, and start planning.



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Anonymous 105650[Reply]

Anyone else here schizoid?
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Anonymous 120955

schizotypal

Anonymous 121010

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double diagnosed schizoid at 17 and 22, my life is boundaries of decade old acquaintances and strangers, people who call me their friend feel distant and they all wither away eventually, which I know is my fault but whatever. I have a bf thats helped a lot in being more normal dragging me out into the ''world'' but at 28 I feel im pretty set in my ways.

Anonymous 121053

>>120910
schizoids don't seek validation retard

Anonymous 121063

Im extroverted, hate being alone, love being around nice people, love sex (who doesnt), love having fun and being happy.

Anonymous 121074

>>120910
No it actually sucks, it's a very miserable way to be.



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i hope everyone had a wonderful day and if you didnt i hope tomorrow will be better Anonymous 120601[Reply]

:)
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Anonymous 120619

>>120601
thank you nona i hope you had a wonderful day too~!

Anonymous 120635

Thanks nona, you too.

Anonymous 121068

Kill me

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