/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>120541
Yes, my family. My friends too, but only delayed because we don't spend a lot of time with each other. I know they'd also be devastated though.
But it'd affect my immediate family the most, it'd be a mental health crisis on all of them, I wouldn't want to do that to them, especially not my little brother, he's only a kid, I couldn't do that… If I got into an accident, I'd fight so hard, not just for mine but also for their sakes…
Thinking about it like that reminds me that I really should take better care of myself in general…

Unfortunately, yes.

Most of my family would

>>120541
Yeah, it'd be a bigger burden on my family than my life already is. Not just emotionally but also funeral costs and other stuff. I ought to write a will in case anything happens:
>The last will and testament of Anon Y. Mous
>"Just throw me in the dirt and call it a day."

Family and some online 'friends' i guess

>>121700
The only outcome of this will be darwinian selection for a need to reproduce regardless of propaganda, ability to provide for oneself and cultural norms.

I've managed to live my entire life up until this point without a single partner, so I think it's safe to say I don't need a moid to be standing next to me because I can do perfectly fine by myself, and I don't think there's any possible argument that would convince me into thinking I need one

>>121707
I've only had short fleeting relationships, but I definitely want a relationship

Personally I want children one day. But even if I didn't, I would still want a partner. We're all different though of course. Some people don't want a partner and that's fine.

I’ve been alone for my whole life, so I can probably survive the rest of it alone. I still wish I could know the feeling of being held or holding someone I loved and who loved me back.

oh and i should add that i only get these thoughts with men tbh

I read violent yaoi because in my head men are also not safe and the stronger ones than them will give them the same violence they can give to women

I only get those thoughts with my bf. Might break up with him.

>>121687
And what does the violent ones get? Poison?

>>121713
Shot to death by 33 bullets

>>121614
her hurting your feelings a little was worse than fucking hacking someone? it’s a serious crime whether it’s illegal there or not. you’re a creep whether you’re a man or not. i literally don’t believe you hacked her and then looked at nothing. who would? that’s clearly not what happens. and who would spy on someone and obsess over someone they think is a loser? you were both clearly jealous of something and interested in SOMETHING to HACK HER.

>>121615
yeah it’s pathetic. this is the creepiest thing ive seen a nona confess to and they do it defending themselves? like they want us to forgive them and no?

>we got along and she made me realize that life isn't always about your final sat score or your gpa. that maybe its about the little things that happen.
caring abt ur gpa and sat is more valuable than softbullying and uhh hacking a girl

>>121628
i love the correlation between both of their gpas falling past caring about them as their obsession with this girl they stalked grew. karma.

That's not how grabify works. Shit bait 0/10, you need to be 18+ to post here

>>120906
Thank you, I'll save this
>>120905
I know my life is pathetic

>>120904
You aren't losing anything. Let him be that way. Stop caring about fake pixels on the screen.

My e-bf always keeps his status off and it makes me mad

>e-bf
lol

Your brain keeps changing and evolving as you get older. The younger you are, the faster you change. People are expected to marry young…

It's a recipe for disaster. You will change. He will change. You divorce if lucky. If unlucky you end up stuck hating each other in a loveless performative measure with cheating as your only personal outlet.

My dad cheats but will not divorce because he thinks it will be the social death of my mother and that is more cruel to her than being cheated on. This was true maybe like 30 years ago not right now. My mother stays because they own stuff together and dividing it is a waste of money. The marriage was over back in 2019-2020 but the illusion must continue.

>>121617
If you ever hear my mother talk about love , marriage and kids you will get the feeling that you are talking to an unmarried woman in her mid 20s waiting for the right man.

A lot of moids marry with an implicit desire to cheat. Sometimes, they do it because they're too unattractive for regular hookups. Sometimes, they genuinely believe that it's somehow okay when moids do it.

thats why my bf proposed to sign a contract upon marriage that will make him bankrupt if he cheats or mistreats me

This might be shit advice but I just try to find things to get excited about, it doesn't have to be anything big, sometimes I try to get obsessed over media or something so I'll be excited to spend time consuming it. Could be a hobby or some little treat you grant yourself on a certain day. lowkey jealous of the yumejoshi bc they always seem to get excited about doing things related to their waifu/husbando, way better than getting obsessed over someone real since you can't get hurt or disappointed either

Sounds like your family is just being a big bitch and making shit dificult for no reason.
Instead of a motel, maybe try renting a cheap air bnb, you may have to be willing to drive out to find something affordable for a week long stay. I did this a few times years ago and helped me destress from my families petty bullshit.
Otherwise you could try spending all your time at the library, but I'm a nerd so I like quiet spaces

>>120113
Go outside and get lost. Look around and just look out and see something that makes you go "I want to go THERE. I want to see THAT." Wander out, preferrably walk there, it helps you internalize and appreciate the trip.
Treat it like you're an RPG protaganist, because your really are

>>121259
Just people on the internet. You know, the most credible source of info out there haha

Glad our advice helped you nona, hopefully that other moid kills himself so he doesn't leach off another naive nona

You want too much for a world that's crashing very badly. You should be grateful you can pursue any career at all and are not forced to protest on streets about the price of wheat. I am not from USA so 90s and 50s were all equally horrid. My mother and my grandmother all of them worked multiple jobs to feed their kids, and even though grandma's husband was military man he just ate too much so that kids had nothing left after he had his part. Being a caretaker IS being a breadwinner. As a mother, you will be the only one who cares and the only one who will have to actually sacrifice something for them. Whenever that's fulfilling is another question, but you seem to have an idea that having kids is supposed to be easy way out, when it's not. Get a perspective. You were not born to laze around, you were not born aristocrat. You can still have kids if you want it but given how you think about your whole situation, you actually don't. You really aren't ready for the lifelong labor that it entails. Men don't really care about children, they lie when they claim to do; and thus they will betray you one way or the other if you expect them to help you with raising kids. Some will lose their jobs, others cheat, third ones beat and drink, the fourth one will be escaping family relations with work and your children will never see him and have same mentality as single-mothered children. Et cetera, the ways men betray their children is endless. There is no winning here because they really REALLY do not care. In any case being a sahm is privilege, a dream; not a right. Having a job however is a right since that's what your own survival depends on. A lot of people nowadays can't even get that much and are forced to be forever their parents dependants with no way forward. Back in the days in European villages there was a custom to keep youngest daughter tied to her parents to take care of household when they are old; she would never have a right for kids or love and when the parents eventually died she was 45-50 out of commission for marrying, growing old and weak herself, forced to be a beggar and abusestock at her brothers family (if they took her at all). Would you like to be born to be that type of "caretaker"?

>>120115
it's really hard econonically right now. honestly, people like to say if you work hard you'll make money and live well, but the truth is, that the wealthy are making 5-10% a year on their assets while the economy grows at 1%. and with that money they buy more assets, increasing that rate. that means houses and rent will continue to go up, services will continue to get worse and more expensive. ordinary people get poorer when the rich get richer. you and your bf would have done enough to own your own home and live very comfortably in the mid-20th century. so don't feel like a failure in a system that makes it extremely hard to just get by.

>>120406
Retarded literally means being behind in development. Kids aren't retarded if they're well developed for their age. That said, emotional isolation from either of the parents leads to at least partial retardation.

>>121522
I disagree the whole reason I have an inflated sense of worth is because I know people are often shitty. No more than anything they live to poison your mind, mental health, gaslight you, or just drive you off the road at any opportunity.

I have like one solid rock in life but holy fuck people are filthy. I think theyre frequently below me YES because I'm often proven right. They prove they are cannibals one way of another. Why should I care what they want or believe ? Why should I believe what they say ?? A person has to prove who they are before I give a fuck about them.

I won't stop looking down on people until they give me a reason not to.

What do you mean, bad things? Robbery? Battery? Cancer? Rape? Getting felt up in a crowd?

I'm certain sexual assault is way underreported. I'm just an ugly weirdo who never goes out or talks to anyone and even I've been groped, and when I redeemed my free scrotoid thinking a romantic relationship would alleviate my loneliness, he pressured me into sex, held me down, tried to control me financially, all the usual things men do to socialize.

>>120729
My hot and controversial take is that you're not wrong. Who knows what's good or bad?

>>120729
you’re probably not even an actual sociopath, just an asocial neet who never leaves the house. nothing bad ever happens to you because i’m guessing very little at all happens to you.

>>121556
women with male friends and partners, women who go to school, women who go to social events, women who use substances, women are socially naive or shy or easily pushed around, autistic women, any kind of woman who struggles with boundaries or are socially isolated.. like what do you think happens to shy lonely women who hang out with very few people and end up alone with a creep who sees they would lose everything socially for speaking up? do you think most boyfriends are patient when waiting to get laid? men will push women to over indulge on substances or pretend they are more wasted than they are to come on to women inappropriately. it’s fucking constant and most women at high risk have multiple risk factors.

>>108538
Nothing stops you from calling moids sluts

He is misandrust and only makes exception for you on the height of emotions. He is kind and caring right now as means to earn your trust.
Do what you will with that.

>>121379
i think you mean misogynist right?

>>107458
>>Says that the same body count means differently in a relationship for men & women
But… isn't body count is different for men and women tho?
Its much easier to accumulate a high body count as a woman than it is as a man.
Everyone who's ever experimented with making a mans fake profile on a dating app vs a womans fake (or real) profile will know its true.
Doesn't mean men with a high bodycount are therefore better, absolutely not.
Just because its hard and takes a lot of effort to drink an entire bottle of vodka without falling over blackout drunk doesn't mean its a good thing and something to be proud of, its not.
Its still degenerate and I wouldn't want a manwhore with a high bodycount.
But I'd say it IS a different dynamic.

By the way this post is only about the pure number of "bodycount" without any context, just the simple act of having s*x with multiple different partners.
Because, at least for me and I assume a lot of you, its obviously NOT about s*x, its about getting an actual relationship with a loyal caring and kind BF, and thats just as hard for us as it is for them, if not harder (because I haven't managed to do so yet).

>>107476
>“biological instincts” is definitely a red flag
I probablly agree with that. Would need to ask the BF to clarify and explain first before jumping to conclusions tho.

>>121529
>a different dynamic
Just because it's easier for women (supposedly) doesn't mean the overall meaning of the bodycount has changed.