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Holy Ship?! Anonymous 124264[Reply]

When I was 5 or 6, my stepgrandfather came to my house to paint my room. He said "holy shit" and I repeated him, but I said "holy ship" because that's what I thought he said. Anyone else make this error?

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massive used laptop almost for free Anonymous 122991[Reply]

when i see allegedly intelligent people at university with their stupid 1000€ to 2000€ laptops it gives me the creeps. they pay so much to have the latest tech plus they subscribe to programs and apps and services. screens at ridiculous high resolutions, that's how they trick em. these laptops are designed to be difficult and expensive to repair.

meanwhile i bought a used thinkpad with a large screen that even has a numpad, which i appreciate for typing numbers🥳🥳🥳. how much did i pay you wanna know of course: 150€. that's a tenth of what the average hoe or hustler is paying for theirs and what can they do with their machine that i can't? nothing. i can't think of one thing. i don't get it. i guess they don't know. anyways consumers gonna consume, hooray for me. i am currently writing this on the big screen.

would love to hear about your wise techchoices but please don't talk about your apple products or your other consumer-grade disgraces
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Anonymous 123684

>>123681
Making laptops thin and lightweight brought us here. An extreme example is the 2015 macbook that one that introduced rose color scheme and in a later iteration the butterfly switch keyboard that was btfo by mere dust. Corporations hid their ill intentions you mentioned under the guise of thinness and people fell for it. Think about the thin smartphones that were bent because people had them in their pockets and sat on them

Anonymous 123717

>>123684
>under the guise of thinness and people fell for it

yeah. the manufacturers act like they are innocent and were merely trying to reduce the size and weight of the load the poor students had to carry in their backpack. that's not all they were doing.

i love how my old laptop battery type does not use pouch cells and instead has the round 18650 typical battery shape. i have seen so many pictures of pouch cells being swollen.

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>>123363
You asked lmao
Why are you so angry?
>>123684
>>123717
Are you guys unaware that you don't represent the majority of consumers? Normies want "big screen" and "thin computer" and nothing else. They will just buy whatever gives them the most social points.

Framework is neat, but at the end of the day, it's just more gimmicky consumer-junk designed to be a fashion statement. They're just appealing to "tinkerers", because they realized that people LARPing as computer nerds are an unexploited market. For example, their desktop line is an absolute joke.

There's more to "repairability" than just being able to take it apart and buy parts (albeit that is a big hurdle for some products). Framework laptops are "repairable" but at the cost of a greatly overpriced ecosystem (For the cost of one of their laptops you could've bought multiple old thinkpads, for example) and there's more to repair-ability than just being able to take it apart and having the company sell you spare display hinges. The build quality is supposedly pretty mediocre, especially for the price. You're also fucked for spare parts when the company inevitably keels over because their volume is shit compared to something like IBM or Lenovo which shit out millions of thinkpads for enterprise use which can all be cannibalized for parts and the Chinese factories keep making off-brand spare parts because they have a ton of tooling and leftover stock with loads of demand for parts from nerds with thinkpads. That said, for what it's worth, framework is certainly doing better than something like ARA/Phonebloks.

I realize that a lot of the "right to repair" shit has people dogpiling against modern consumer electronics which are difficult or impossible to open up with firmware that refuses to accept new parts, but the solution to that isn't a violent reaction in the other direction, but to reform product demand. People love to shit on manufacturers because they think "the consumer" is people like them (individuals, home users, etc.) but the real force behind the "thinner and lightweight" trend is enterprise users. It is the "big companies" at fault, but it's not the manufacturer; it's the procurement bPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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Bnwo full movie.PN…

>>124016
I’m not reading this all

Anonymous 124216

>>122991
nona why are you being so hostile to everyone ITT


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Broken Computer - Please Help Me!! Anonymous 124156[Reply]

It's broken in a weird way. One day, out of the blue while I was typing code in Visual Studio, the monitor turned to grey static all of a sudden and the computer wouldn't respond to any inputs. Then, next time I tried to turn it on, it made a weird buzzing sound and wouldn't show anything on the screen. I have worked with lots of computers but never seen anything like this before.

Technical specifications:
- HP Desktop Slim 2021 Model
- 16 Gigabytes of RAM
- 1000 GB m.2 drive with Windows 10
- 500 gb m.2 drive inside a PCIE16 adaptor with Linux Mint Cinnamon
- I was on Linux when it crashed

Please let me know if you have further questions or solutions. I use this computer for professional purposes and need it for a programming project.

Anonymous 124157

I'm not a tech wizz by any means but it kinda sounds like it could be faulty components and you should try testing to see if your pc will work without a video card or with a different psu etc

Anonymous 124183

^
Try taking out your OS and running through the components one at a time until you get to BIOS. Start with the RAM. That sounds like it would be the culprit. Take one out and try booting, if the problem persists try the other one. If that doesn't fix the problem start replacing components one at a time until you get some signs of life. I doubt it has anything to do with the CPU, those things are super durable. Just my process, you're on linux so you almost definitely know more about these things than I do.
Good luck and please give updates!

Anonymous 124186

>>124183
I tried to boot into the bios in all sorts of ways but it didn't do anything. I tried swapping out the drives too, same thing.

Anonymous 124187

Additionally I scanned the whole system for malware but didn't find any. I ended up wiping the Linux drive just in case.

Anonymous 124201

I fixed it! I ended up reseating the ram and fixing the Linux system and it works like new now!


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moid completely destroyed my sense of self Anonymous 124097[Reply]

For context, A lot of men have been asking me out ever since I moved to a new city for college. I'm a bit lonely in this new city so I've been trying to make new friends.

Last week, a 40 year old man asks me out at my job. I kindly reject him (as I already have a girlfriend) but I ask him if we can be friends instead. He says yes and I get really excited. We end up going to a restaurant after work and this guy starts telling me about how he "only asks out ugly bitches because once you fuck 'em, they'll never leave" and that "they're desperate so they're bound to say yes".
So I asked, "Why don't you just date attractive women then?" and he responded with, "You forget ugly bitches are ugly if you hit it from the back".

After I heard all that stuff, I just felt like an ugly peice of meat.

Now I'm wondering if all the men who have asked me out before think I'm ugly asf too. Now I look in the mirror and cringe.

Is this normal?? Is this how all men view women? Or is this just how they view ugly "bitches"?
Has anyone ever experienced this sort of thing?
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Anonymous 124110

>>124097
How are people real. Anyways >>124103 is obvious

Anonymous 124111

>>124103
>>124106
He is trying to get into her head to eventually fuck and destroy her and it seems that asshole is starting to get a grip on OP. This >>124104 is where OP fucked up first. Never drop your guard. Her second fuck up was not immediately leaving after the guy showed his true colors. There is no use in arguing or trying do understand moid trash

Anonymous 124150

I don't wanna be that person but maybe don't take the comments from a guy who is presumably tried to hook up with you despite being at least a decade (probably two) older than you. Like this isn't the guy you should base your entire perception of men off of. He's just a creep.
Look the fact that a decent amount of guy have tried asking you out show they your not considered "ugly" by them. If they just wanted a hookup they'd use a dating app or actively go for a girl who is known to be easy, not, you know, a girl in a committed relationship like yourself. Your probably a decent looking girl nona it's just that the guy whose opinion your taking so much stock in is a creep.

Anonymous 124162

>>124097
Ick.
If I were you I wouldn't EVER offer to be friends with a man like that. One who asked you out randomly and doesn't know you, because they probably arent interested in friendship and think they can redeem their chance. Also, men with bruised egos can be DANGEROUS. Dont go out with strange men.

He might've said that to make you feel bad for rejecting him. Like men when rejected will say something like "whatever, ugly bitch, i wouldnt fuck you anyway".

Something similar happened to me. I was at work and some old dude asked me when I got off. I said "why do you ask?" because I didnt wanna be rude but also I would never tell a man when I get off. He said he was joking.

He then told me about how he asked a "homely" girl the same thing because he felt bad for her because she was ugly. She told him when she got off and he said hed be waiting outside. Apparently the girl got mad and said "dont you dare!" or something. And he said he was like "jeez, I was just kidding".

Anonymous 124179

>>124097
Why does it matter to you what they think?
Moids who see you as meat will stop trying to date you if you make it clear that they won't get you without a massive investment of time and effort. Just make them do that and you are set.


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Anonymous 122454[Reply]

how did you meet your boyfriend?
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Anonymous 123676

4chan guild in a MMO

Anonymous 123678

Hinge

Anonymous 124038

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>>122454
I met my husband many, many years ago when we were both 8 or 9 years old. We had recently moved in and his family was visiting the old lady next door who turns out was his grandmother and things started when he accidentally kicked his ball over our garden fence. I was just in the garden playing on my swing set. His little head popped over and smiled at me and said hi, he asked for his ball back and then invited me over to play with him. Turns out we were the same age but he lived around an hour away which was why he only appeared on weekends and spent the entire day at his grandmothers.

Every time he visited from then onwards I'd get excited when I saw their car or he came to knock on our door inviting me to play. In the summer we'd ride my bike around the neighbourhood and through the park, we shared ice creams, climbed trees, fed ducks at the parks pond and in the winter we built snowmen and igloos.

I quickly became infatuated with him. Looks wise he was nothing special back then, he even had a goofy haircut that looked like he lost a fight with a pair of scissors but his radiant personality and boyish charms more than compensated for his looks. I found him to be friendly, outgoing, caring, kind, excitable, sporty and above all else considerate. He encouraged me in our games and never got impatient or mad. He used to hold my hand a lot. Originally it was only when crossing the street because I wasn't allowed to cross by myself, but then whenever we were walking to the park or to the shop to get drinks or snacks he'd extend his hand and I'd take it.

Then, one day he stopped coming over. Turns out his mother had a really bad argument with his grandmother and they stopped visiting her. It really hit me hard because unbeknownst to him, he was my only friend. I didn't have any friends in my school and was being bullied pretty badly. Our playtime on the weekends got me through a lot of rough weeks at school and even after he stopped coming over the memories and things he'd said to me allowed me to just about brush off the childish and mean insults the kids threw at me. I figured if he liked me and he liked playing with me and he thought I was cool then anything they said were just stupid lies. I clung to those memories and even on really, really rough days I'd remember zooming down hills with him on my bike or him cleaning up a graze onPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 124078

>>124038
So Beautiful.
Thank you for sharing that story.

Anonymous 124163

>>123649
"haha we met on online gaming" which is somewhat true since it was on a thread looking for gaming buddies


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Anonymous 123633[Reply]

ithink my boyfriend is starting to actually hate me. it seems like he goes out of his way to do, say, or show me things he knows will hurt me. and he just doesn’t care. he doesn’t listen to me at all. he also just hasn’t been as kind, gentle, or considerate with me lately. i honestly think he’s just given up on me. i want to cry it hurts so bad.
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Anonymous 123695

>>123693
This is how a lot of moids act nona. They silent breakup so we have to break up with them and they feel ok. Moids today are disgusting and have zero sense of accountability. When this happened to me I wrote a really long letter and broke up with him and then he kept apologizing like a madman. I didn't take him back and now I am with a much better moid who does treat me like a human being.

Women need to stop wasting their time with these moids who play games.

Anonymous 123696

What kind of things does he do that would constitute abuse nona? You should keep a tally and confront him about it.

Anonymous 124057

Men do this all the time. When they dislike their s/o they'll just start torturing her with no remorse. I wish a lot of suffering upon him, maybe you could do it. Why don't you drug him or something?

Anonymous 124074

Fuck his father

Anonymous 124101

I hope he fucking kills himself

Save yourself nona

Save yourself and leave that man


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Anonymous 124015[Reply]

I look like this what should I do?

Anonymous 124025

Brr Brr Patapim

Anonymous 124027

>>124015
Move back to israel?

Anonymous 124071

>>124015
Assuming you're just a girl with a bigger nose it really isn't a big deal, yes that beautiful boy with the beach bod running female firmware wont be eagerly approaching you unprompted. But if you get out there and get to know people on a personal level you may find a guy you never knew could exist. Happend to my older sister who inherited my parents huge noses (stereotypical italian nose). They simply got to know each other and fell for each other over time at work. They've been married 10 years now. Now I hate a moid like you wouldn't believe but I hold out hope that I'll find one that actually talks and connects. Good luck, for me I'm an introvert unlike my sister so I doubt I'll ever interact with the few non terrible men that exist.
>>124027
thanks for visiting and giving your sage advice /pol/fag, please exit through the gift shop.

Anonymous 124096

Your Proboscis Is Beautiful


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Are men evolving to a sociopathic hivemind? Anonymous 123286[Reply]

This is a genuine question, because I can't fathom any other reasoning. Courting is dead, it's gone. In no particular order the following occurs: love bombing, ghosting, mirroring, hot/cold method. Even my friends who fit the patriarchal male gaze to an absolute T (virgin, quiet, submissive) are getting stepped on. It seems like all or nothing, there is no slow progressional vetting before a clear decision is made. Many other girls around me in my career and academia have given up on the idea of marriage and children. The ones that haven't tend to have a man-child tier boyfriend or they're accepting to be chronically cheated on.

The ideology that women have to be top 1% of females to deserve a male counterpart that doesn't wreck havoc on livelihood and minds is insane. I've talked to many boomers and they agree something is universally wrong; we are no longer just homemakers, but we have the ability to be that and MUCH MUCH more, how are we all fundamentally somehow "never enough" for them?
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Anonymous 124089

>>124077
No one makes fun of trump for dating a gold digger, though.

Anonymous 124091

>>123286
>When people have an effectively unlimited dating pool and casual sex is normalized, sex and relationships become increasingly cold and transactional and the basic standards of inter-personal intimate behavior change and/or vanish.

It's not just a problem with men either, sadly enough. Between cheap and effective birth control and medical treatments for STDs, social atomization and increasingly relaxed sexual mores, women can and do reward this kind of behavior as much as men do - what is the incentive for delayed gratification when instant gratification is all of a tinder match away? This leads to a mutual increase in bitterness as women perceive men (even the ones who don't practice this lifestyle) as being cheaters and emotional cowards only interested in sex and men view women (ditto) as whores. And for the unstable or immature, these same factors make cheating and/or bailing on relationships trivial because the supply of easy sex remains.

And again: this basically didn't exist ~20 years ago. Smartphones changed everything and everyone is now suspect until proven otherwise.

Anonymous 124092

>>124091
Tinder has, like, 8 million US users out of its 72 million young adult population. (many of them never using the app for real probably) People grossly overestimate how much of a grasp dating apps have on society for some reason. If anything zoomers are having sex less and less.

That said, I'm not sure OP stated where she meets her men, so maybe this is true for her.

Anonymous 124093

>>124092
>If anything zoomers are having sex less and less.

This is an observable fact, and in general, society is way less sexualized than 15, 20 years ago. People just percieve otherwise because it is easy to look at porn on your phone and because they grossly overestimate how many people use tinder, onlyfans and so on.

Anonymous 124094

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>>123286
Men don't want you to be much much more. They want you to be their servant. They want to impregnate every woman they see (yes, all of them) and they want to keep 'the best' around as domestic servants.

99% of them can't do that, but they all get as close to that ideal as possible. You choose where on the scale of 'too much of a loser to pump and dump' and 'chad enough to pump and dump' you wanna land.


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Anonymous 124041[Reply]

What does it feel like to cuddle with someone you truly care about?
Without it just being about sex?

Anonymous 124043

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>>124041
To me it feels like a calm restfulness that you can't really capture with just a nap, or meditation.

Anonymous 124053

safe and warm and content and connected

Anonymous 124082

like you are flourishing. like some rich treasure you have long travelled to find anywhere in the earthcycle. like your body is warmly consumed with spirit ardour. and then you freeze alone


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I’m a terrible sister Anonymous 121483[Reply]

I’m the failure of my family. I think my upbringing was pretty rough, but out of my 4. other siblings, I’m the only failure. My younger brother and sister are both well adjusted and normal human beings with jobs and houses. My older brother is kinda a weirdo, but he is super nice and makes a lot of money as scientist. And my eldest brother is the coolest and best person I’ve ever known. He literally took beatings on everyone else behalf and practically raised my siblings and I after a certain point. He always protected me and helped me out, even though I’m a worthless person. One time he beat up a kid who hit me and his girl friend always talked to me because she knew I had problems making friends in high school. He was the kind of guy who would stop on the highway to help cars on the side of the road or lend everyone else money. He even started a few side hustles for my other siblings and I, but I never really got into them.

A few years ago he got married to his girlfriend and was promoted to an amazing job . He had the perfect life, perfect friends, and perfect relationship, and he deserved it. I was always super jealous of him and my siblings even though it’s my fault my life sucks.

About 2 months ago my eldest brother’s wife and kid died so he started drinking. Because his job involves cranes and boats, he got fired when he showed up to work drunk too many times. His life has gone to complete hell and I’m pretty sure he is going to kill himself drunk driving.

All my other siblings and his friends are doing everything they can to cheer him up, but there is literally nothing I can do. My sister and younger brother keep taking him out to eat. His wife’s family is helping him clean up his house. Even my weirdo shut in older brother is driving 300 miles a week to hang out and work out with him. I don’t have money to do anything for him and there is literally nothing interesting I do to talk with him about. I don’t have a family of my own for him to be around like my younger siblings or share any interests with him like my older brother. I can’t even help with all the side hustles that are falling apart without my eldest brother, because I have no real skills.

I wish I was nicer to him and I wish I could do something for him. The last time we talked, he told me he was sorry for not helping me more to have a better life before his friends had to carry him out of the bar.
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Anonymous 121637

>>121636
So, we start a fire in a firepit in the backyard and just hang out. We talked about some childhood memories and our family. It was pretty calm and nice. Eventually, my eldest brother gets messed up and My brother carry him to his room. Only my older brother came back out since my younger brother decided to pass out too. Things became pretty awkward since we weren’t talking, and he kept going over to the stick pile to keep the fire going. I don’t remember how, but we started talking about our lives and what we were going to do about our elder brother. He told me something about his old job being willing to taking him back, since he was one of the few people at the port who could get things done. I suggested we try to find him someone else to start a family with, but he said that it would be a bad idea. He also poked fun at me about being too alone myself to be a good wingwomen anyways, but I thin he wasn’t being mean since he doesn’t really have any relationship experience either. I have a lot of trouble reading him, especially when drunk. I remember asking him if I should go to the gym with everyone else and he told me I could but that I probably wouldn’t like it. He said he was going to try to find a beach or hiking trail this weekend, but I said I probably couldn’t make it. Not sure why I said that, but I did even though I never have anything going on. At some point we just start throwing asmany sticks and leaves as we can on the fire to try and make it huge. Then I remember sitting down and resting my eyes and waking up on a couch.

I’m 90% sure I was carried inside but I can’t remember for sure. I don’t know if this is weird, but I enjoy it when you smell like smoke and wood after being around a fire. I called out of work today because I was still kinda buzzed when I woke up and I hate my minimum wage job. I’m still at my brother’s house and I’m probably about to play zombies again in a few minutes as of writing this. I already cooked up some dinner with the help of my younger brother. I want to tell them I will go with them to the beach or whatever. My sister is coming too, so it would be super fun, I think. Idk, this whole situation feels weird, but I think I’m happy. I’m going to try and talk with both of my older brothers some more.

Anonymous 121692

>>121636
>>121637
So it sounds like you were actually useful Nona, you did very well! I'm sure they all appreciated having you there. And yes, you should totally go to the beach with them.

Anonymous 121880

Updates?

Anonymous 122001

>>121637
Sounds like it went way better than you expected

Anonymous 124080

Girls cannot be failures, only boys can be


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