I live with my younger sister who is 20. I am 24. She has always had weird mood swings since she was a kid but every since she became a teenager who smokes/drinks/does drugs she goes absolutely off the wall if you tell her something she doesn't like.
for example, if someone asks her to clean something up she will go into a screaming fit, arguing with you about how she already did something a few days ago, or how you're "so fucking annoying and retarded", going around slamming doors and sometimes breaking my things.
If I ask her nicely, she ignores me or tells me to shut up. If I tell her to do it, she flies off the wall. If I wait for her to do it on her own, she doesn't do it.
She says it's "the way I ask her" but when she asks me to do something, and I say no, she flies off the handle too. Recently I told her to stop talking to me that way when she started screaming 3 sentences into a conversation and she told me
1. That I started it
2. That I piss her off
3. That I need to watch how I talk to her and ask her things
I told her it's her choice to get so angry over a simple question and she said it was my fault again.
I know for a fact that I did not raise my voice once when I was talking to her. I specifically kept it down because I didn't want to feel insane again, because these fights always get warped in my memory and she starts using things against me that aren't true, but I can't prove wrong.
Maybe I do have an "attitude" when I tell her? Am I just the mean older sister?
I want to figure out what I'm doing wrong. I don't want to get in fights with her anymore, we're adults and I'm sick of it. I don't know how to predict these moods, and they don't even compare to dumb sister arguments we have. But it's very frustrating that I can't ask her a question if she's feeling "off" because it'll turn into a screaming match.
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