Mother hate thread Anonymous 88562[Reply]
I get that parents are people and they make mistakes blah blah. But honestly I’m done forgiving my mom and acting like I don’t absolutely hate her. I can’t keep excusing her shitty behavior because she had a bad childhood. She’s the reason I had a bad childhood and I’m not a dumb drunk slut. Like she’s had chances to grow up and be a better person and she actively chooses not to. She’s making active decisions that make her a shitty person. She does all this horrible stuff and still expects sympathy from me. I just don’t have any left to give. She’s wasted it all. 47 posts and 4 image replies omitted. Click reply to view.
Anyways post about your shitty moms and what they’ve done to you.
My mum completely neglected my emotional needs as a child. She is completely incapable of empathy or any form of genuine positive emotion, and all she really used me for was her own personal therapist and would constantly pour poison into my ear about my dad, who actually loved and cared about me. She would constantly undermine me, scream at me, call me every name under the sun, etc. on a daily basis.
She tried to abandon me interstate with family (that i didn't like at all) and screamed at me and went off her rocker when i didn't want to.
She's hit me, slapped me in the face, threw a cooler at me, and a bottle of vodka, all of that, most of it always over really minuscule shit. I'm not combative, i don't fight people, so it wasn't because of me.
I suffered pretty immensely in school cause of my ADHD and autism, she absolutely refused to accept i had neither, so i wasn't offered any assistance or counseling and she'd just gaslight me into thinking i'm a stupid lazy cunt for almost my entire life.
my mom blamed it on me when my older sister sexually abused me when i was like 6, called me a sinner and "kicked me out" of house (she let me in after shortly a.k.a me crying hysterically which attracted neighbours), also regularly took her anger on me physically whenever her shitty husband shit on her mood. years passing, physical abuse eventually stopped but not emotional. she still defends her husband's abuse on me and others by pulling out "he's still your father" card. when we had that talk on how my sister used to rape me, she cried and told me "why haven't you told me this before". this was the moment i finally gave up on her, and focused on my comfort instead.
she also had a shitty childhood but that doesn't excuse anything. i sometimes feel like i'm somehow still emotionally attached to her to the point that it hurts really bad. aside from those abusive cunt moments, she was also being stereotypically lovely parent so i'm really torn apart between grief and deep hatred, i don't know how much longer i can take it.
picture a dearly loved friend of yours. if you do not have one then envision this anyway.
what would you suggest her to do?
I could never understand the way my mother treated me, she is better now but the damage is done.. And it's extreme lol.