/feels/ - Advice & Venting

i hate the expectation that women are supposed to constantly compliment other women. especially on their looks. i’m a straight woman… i don’t view women through physical attraction at all. so complimenting their body or features feels unnatural to me. but if a woman doesn’t do it, people immediately assume she’s envious, insecure and sometimes even anti woman. men never face this. straight men aren’t expected to compliment other men, and when they don’t, no one questions their character or motives. women, meanwhile, are pressured to provide nonstop emotional validation. not complimenting a woman’s appearance doesn’t mean i dislike them. it just means i don’t feel obligated to perform a role society unfairly forces onto women. i don’t find women physically attractive. sorry not sorry.

how are we going to do it guys

dating ppl you don’t find attractive is actually one of the most selfish and cruelest things some ppl do to each other. i can’t stand how some ppl actually think this is a virtuous act and think this makes the love you have for someone more valid. stop doing this. you’re way better off alone than doing this to another person.

>>51270 previous bread

I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes

Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.

>Discord will ban you if you don't like trannies
>Reddit will ban you of you don't like trannies
>/r9k/ supports prison gay men and attention seeking fakeecel ethots but will shit on you and exclude you for being a lesbian
>/lgbt/ will shit on you for not being a Goldstar
>radfems will shit on you for not finding fat hairy ugly bitches attractive or for liking anything that isn't holding hands and kissing bc anything else is "male gaze-y"
>right wing twitter shits on you for being homosexual
>left wing twitter shits on you for being transphobic, aka for being an actual homosexual
>Bluesky…. Why are you on Bluesky?
>I don't know any secret tags on Tumblr for lesbians, but the fact if there were any it would be annoying to have to walk on eggshells else-wise the tag gets raided for not liking trannies
>third world countries… You don't even have any rights.
>Most of the western world will arrest you if you publicly say you don't like trannies
>Even in America, trannies are allowed in female only spaces even if its prison or a domestic abuse shelter
>Growing up having to learn in school that you were treated as inferior in every way all throughout history up until very recently

Not to mention having to deal with the rhetoric against lesbians being so mind-numbingly dumb and illogical.
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I'm stuck in a weird position.
When I newly turned 17, I met with a 30 year old guy from 4chan because I was lonely and wanted a friend. We had some common interests in games. We hung out at the arcade and in the same year, I went to his house to play co-op. However, the friendship was short lived as he asked me to be his girlfriend right after. I was young and stupid, I saw no issue with him. He was unfit and never had a girlfriend before, I never had a boyfriend before. So I thought I should give him a chance.
It's been 1 and a 1/2 years now. Due to feeling unsafe at home, as soon as I turned 18, I moved out to this dude's house. He said he'd support me. So I moved and enrolled to a highschool near his house.
Over time, living with him, I began to pick up on things that do not sit right with me.
Firstly, he has figurines of some anime girls that troubled me from the very first time I came over, but I thought I should just overlook it. Figurines of miku, vtubers and Fate characters. He has plushes of vtubers, his profile picture is a vtuber. He admits that he likes vtubers but doesn't watch them anymore. Yet when I criticise them for milking money from men he opposed me.
Things that disgust me include him loving the anime 'yuru yuri' a show common among lolicons, loving the soundtrack of 'yuru yuri', he downloaded all of them and calling the government 'woke' because the age for marriage is 18. Other than this, I told him I do not use twitter, but everyday, I check what he has posted and who he recently follows. When I checked his following for the first time, I burst into tears. It was anime porn artist after anime porn artists. Most of his following was that. Yet checking his recently followed, he still actively interacts with these anime porn artists. When he shows me something on twitter, he's very wary and cautious of ever scrolling too much, and when he accidently does - it's all vtubers and ecchi drawings of anime girls. Last night, I checked his following again, and I cried again discovering he followed 20 more disgusting anime artists.
The worst thing is, these anime porn artists also draw porn of underage characters… in other words loli. It's a trend I've noticed across the artists he indulges in.
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I'm 19f, with 24m boyfriend and I met him online, knew of him for months until we started talking. I don't know if I am making the smart move with being with him, he one day called me his girlfriend and "i love you" without even meeting me or even asking me to be his girlfriend and he's being too silly by saying he's going to marry me and mind you this is 2 weeks into "dating" unofficially.. I am meeting him for the first time on Sunday and I do not know what to do because part of me does like him and have an interest in him, but his insecurity, and ego gets in the way. He doesn't have a job and I feel like this isn't a good investment because in all honesty I think everything is a red flag but I can't do anything because he has given me so much money for things I feel so bad but he wants me to meet his family and in my head I'm like chill I havent even met you, why your family?! WHAT DO I DO PLEASE. I feel like I've gotten myself stuck in the middle of things. I just think he is seeking a relationship to marry, whereas I want to experiment and date for fun and not for longterm as I am literally 19 brah… pls help

is it ok to lose 15 lbs if u entered a relationship 15lbs heavier yes or no ????