He doesn’t sound like a friend to me. I’d ghost him after that.

Sorry that happened to you anon. I’ve learned the hard way that you should never mention that you spent Xmas/birthday/etc alone to anyone nor let anyone see you alone on these days. People are so weirdly judgemental about people being alone.

>>71369
I'd bet my liver she was hoping it'd go like:
>boo hoo nobody loves me I have no one in this world.
>nooo my queen I love you so much (as a friend haha) you're so perfect.

OP, I think you overestimated your relationship with the guy, he clearly doesn't see you as more than a casual acquaintance.
Also, you're never going to be a part of a group by being a bitch towards people, and you're only being a bitch so that you'll have an EXCUSE as to why you're not included.
You're terrified of being rejected despite trying, which is why you act like a bitch so that you have something else to blame, it's a coping mechanism.
t. been there

All male discord "friends" I made never gave a single shit about any of my problems, they only wanted to vent at me about their life.

maybe he doesn't want to do free emotional labour

UPDATE
we are still together and it's going great but I still don't have any pics and at this point it is WAY too late to ask. I'm considering asking my friend to stealth take a pic of us if we ever hang out together

>>70651
Losing my mind at this anon. Please just ask him, I don't think it's ever "too late."
You do sound like a sweetie though.

UPDATE

He dumped me, thanks for being part of this thread with me everyone <3

Just say what you are thinking. Don't try to find the right words. Just share your stream of consciousness with him. Just be very simple and straight-forward.

>I like that movie. Do you want to see it with me?
>I am not comfortable with you doing this. Please don't be angry at me.
>Let's take a picture of us

>>71345
woah okay
my condolences
I guess asking for a picture was bit too bold after all. lol

>>71345
i was similar place anon my ex dumped me yesterday. u will find a guy who you’ll be comfortable around (－‸ლ)

>>71164
I have a loving partner who wants sex regularly, but I'm addicted to porn, I prefer masturbating to it than sex. I thought I'd want sex but I don't. I'm similar to you, I got addicted when I was about 13. I never actually masturbated til I was 16 because of weird puritan things my parents told me about. Actually I used to just watch videos of sexual acts that didn't involve sex, because my parents never outlawed that, just sex, they always made me avert my gaze from sex scenes in movies.

But yeah I'm addicted to porn, I've 'given' it up a couple of times, but I always come back. The only way I managed to stop was just to become so busy and tired that I had no time for it. With a partner now, it seems even harder, because I can't forget about sex or masturbation. The only other way to stop is to just stop, I know this as well as it's psychology 101. As soon as you 'forbid' yourself from indulging in an addiction, you want it more. All you have to do is tell yourself "just one day without it, I can have it tomorrow, I can have it whenever I want, but I want to go one more day without it today". That's what I'm currently trying. Sorry for the incoherent ramblings.

>>71207
>i can't even get a hookup on apps (i know they're bad but i don't have other outlets)

Why can't you meet men organically, may it be irl or online ? Are you socially isolated ? You may want to work on that first, before being able to feel healthy attraction towards males (or women), and get rid of the porn addiction. Always remember that having an addiction is a symptom of several life issues. I only believe in holistic recovery from addiction. If you don't fix, one by one, the other problems you have in life, you will never be able to get rid of that addictive behaviour. Even if you manage to get rid of your porn addiction, you will probably replace it with another.

>>71229
>I have a loving partner who wants sex regularly, but I'm addicted to porn, I prefer masturbating to it than sex
You're right, having a partner won't magically cure your porn addiction. The "manic pixie dream boy" simply doesn't exist. Do you feel more pleasure when masturbating than when having sex ? If yes, your addiction is correlated to this sexual frustration. Ofc, watching porn only exarcebates the initial problem, it's a vicious circle. The problem is that the easiest way to have more pleasure during sex is to mimic porn acts… it sucks.

>>71267
>Why can't you meet men organically, may it be irl or online ?
not into men, dykes tend to have small dating pools especially when words like "lesbian" have been watered down to include transvestites and whatnot

>Are you socially isolated ? You may want to work on that first, before being able to feel healthy attraction towards males (or women)
i work full time, but am too busy to do things like go to clubs or the gym or hobby meetups. i am capable of visual attraction to women that isn't rooted in fetish but it's not explicitly sexual, but i figured that's something that would take time to develop

>and get rid of the porn addiction. Always remember that having an addiction is a symptom of several life issues. I only believe in holistic recovery from addiction. If you don't fix, one by one, the other problems you have in life, you will never be able to get rid of that addictive behaviour. Even if you manage to get rid of your porn addiction, you will probably replace it with another.

i agree with you, but i am >>71181, and in that post i mention i never touched live-action porn, i avoid those things now unless i see it accidentally on twitter, and tried to mask my shame with radical politics in the past. i also don't fit the typical description of a "porn addict" since i never masturbated or orgasmed to it, and i'm not reliant on porn to orgasm, it's just that my past indulgence in it has tainted my mind and therapists either didn't understand or thought my thoughts were "valid coping". i did trade my sexual obsessions for purity politics and trying to think for myself is something i'm working on now

>>71267
>Do you feel more pleasure when masturbating than when having sex?
It honestly depends on the day. Sometimes sex feels great, but I'm never able to orgasm, it's like I psychologically choke. I think I prefer masturbating because it's more comfy; sex takes more effort and if I'm not in the mood then it's hard to get me in the mood.

>>71164
The thing that stops me from looking at porn is the fact that there's a 50/50 chance that a random porn video is infact rape, childrape, nonconsensual videotaping or revenge porn.

>>71247
Samefag but I have the same discord troubles. I feel like I move from group to group always feeling like a drifter lol. Lots of places give me "secret sex dungeon" vibes.

>>71248
Heh, glad you found friends on it though… maybe if I weren't so terrified of meeting people online when I were younger I wouldn't be so lonely.

>>71249
Exactly the feeling I get lol. I join and everyone's already good friends with each other and I feel like the third wheel while they discuss stuff I don't care about.

Maybe I need to try Bumble BFF again. Last time I checked, it was all hyper normie girls looking for party buddies. I'd be fine with an introverted friend, or anyone other than a party-type normie, but with all this covid stuff no one wants to meet, and if they do they want you to be vaxxed.

Pretty much this tho. I'm in my mid 30s, married with 3 kids, and as far as I can tell I'm the same person I was when I was 12.

>>71255
I think this is normal and how most people feel. Most people feel like kids trapped in an adult body. My grandma complained to me that she feels like a teen but she looks in the mirror and sees an 80 year old.

Everyone at every stage of life feels kind of out of their depth and like a fake adult. I think it's cos we spend our first 20 years as a kid, so "kid" becomes our identity.

>>71151
Wow are you me??? Turning 21 in a few days and I'm going through the exact same situation :/

you sound underage

>>71312
and what if i sound underage are you mad because ur 30???

>>71314
Cringe I almost hope you're a larping male

>are you mad because ur 30???
>waste of space whore
>:3
kek are you a troon who got rejected by another scrote?

stalking your ex on social media is not a good idea for your own mental health, OP …

>>1362

Pet owners disgust me.

>>1331
You got a sensible chuckle out of me, I do so doff my cap to you m'lady.

Why do you hate a nosy pepper?
>It gets jalapeno business.

>>68300
Just do it anon. I blocked and ghosted one of my only online "friends" who would insult me constantly and yeah I was lonely for a bit, but it felt so much better than being put down every day.

>>68294
You're OK anon

>>68449
who would want to be the same as you dumbass lol

Parasocial relationships aren’t real
Everyone has forgotten about this
With in person, real interaction, the person has to talk behind their back using other means which now includes technology
They have to try to mask their emotions when you can see their face
They are in front of you
On the internet there’s none of these restrictions so all the worst behavior is easier

These people are not real friends
Seek out friends in real life

>>71260
That's not the definition of a parasocial relationship.

This sounds like you should talk to someone and figure out the root cause.

>>71120
I have a therapist, it didn’t help

Its probably because your fathers an alcoholic that they're worried. Maybe they see him in you. Thing is that's not even very much alcohol. Maybe try drinking more regularly to even things out? Drink they way normal people do so you stop being this repressed guilt-ridden obsessive. I think not drinking the way normal people do is going to make you even worse.

1 -2 drinks a day.

>>71115
So you’re saying I should drink more often to even it out?

It's probably not good for younger people either. That's why I refuse to touch it until I'm older. I'm already retarded as is, and I don't want to make it worse.

>>71203
You can become addicted to anything in a habit forming way. People get addicted to gambling and there is no substance being consumed there.

I hate that everyone is so lax about it these days and ignoring how much it fries your brain just because it's now being monitised as a medicine. It's still substance abuse. I don't understand why it being accepted for medical use has now made it acceptable/legal for recreational use and self medication.

Plus everyone ignores how much (modern) slavery is involved in these things if it's not legal in your country.

>>71212
good, stick to that! I started at 16 and regret it a lot. at least wait until you're 25 before taking any substances

>>71214
>Plus everyone ignores how much (modern) slavery is involved in these things if it's not legal in your country.
can you elaborate on this? it's legal where I am so it's not something I've ever thought about

>>71218
Here's an example:
https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/cannabis-farms-are-a-modern-slavery-blind-spot-for-uk-police-study-suggests

It's not legal in the UK