I see where you're coming from. Let's agree to disagree.
For context, I was sexually assaulted when I was younger in my teens. I've only told 3 friends, even my family doesn't know about it because I feel shame about it. I can only say this stuff because it's anon, ig. But I do plan on getting therapy for it in the future.
That whole experience fucked me up so I'm sex-averse and I have really low libido. Sexual contact makes me feel really nervous, like even if my brain knows my SO wouldn't hurt me, the body still triggers the fight or flight response.
It’s stressful for me. Given all that, I can only see pros and no cons for being sexually unattractive, yk? Because then it means it will be less likely that I'll be sexually assaulted again.
I know that's not really true though. It's a fact that men as a whole commit more rapes and sex crimes than women, and the people they victimize aren't necessarily Stacy-level beauties. Deranged perverts aren't picky, they victimize children, relatives, strangers, disabled, etc., people that a normal sane person wouldn't consider sexually attractive.
said, women automatically become sexually attractive after puberty - it's not really special to be sexually attractive to men because that's kinda a low bar. Most men aren't that picky, and yes, this is infused with personal bias. If men were only attracted to Stacies then someone like me who isn’t one should have been spared. :/
As for the more normal part of the population, not calling it exactly science journal-level research, but OKCupid did a study a few years ago on how men and women rate each other's attractiveness and messaging/reply rates. For women the attractiveness and message/reply ratings were evenly distributed, while for men it was more skewed, only a minority were considered handsome and got more responses, while most men were considered "meh" or unattractive. Anyway yeah I don't think you need to worry about something like that, because men statistically find women more physically attractive on average than the inverse.
Besides, if you're the gf/wife of a guy they're highly likely to already find you sexually attractive too. Considering most men are horny af, plus the emotional bond, very few men would be unhappy/disgPost too long. Click here to view the full text.