/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I remember when I was a child, and my sisters were in HS. One of them had a bi phase with this dyke girl, and she came over one night while my parents and other sister were gone. They started arguing and her "gf" fucking takes a knife from our kitchen, and she started threatening to stab herself while my sister kept trying to take to take the knife from her…pretty manipulative.

>>120788
This. Definitely can see more fights happening. Imagine both being super emotional and since you’re about the same size you’ll be more inclined to start fighting.

Granted with a moid, a fight is way scarier unless he’s a twink or old

>>119649
Unless anyone can pull up good statistics, I'm honestly not sure I have much real reason to believe there to exist any disparity. >>119778 for example is good support of that.

Like, you'll see stuff like men are more likely to be violent, and thus violent to women than the other way around, test and all that, which is all true. Then you got stories like >>120788. So then you might say, "Oh, men are more violent, women will be more manipulative" - but are stories of men gaslighting women or using them not manipulation? And those things surely aren't uncommon.

Then you also see something like for some reason, when LGBT couples go to therapy, for some reason lesbian couples are way worse than gay or het couples in therapy. But like, they're going to therapy - aren't all couples in therapy gonna obviously have issues?!? And what metric is describing this, that lesbians are worse?

Surely there's more violent men than women, but will sticking to les/bi women gonna keep you safe from violence? Of course not. Whether it be violence, manipulation, empathy, things like estrogen or testosterone aren't the clear determinant of an individual's behavior. Can we really say that women are more empathetic and loving than men? Lots of people may say that (not gonna put my beliefs on this), but will this mean you're sure-fire gonna have an empathetic and loving partner should she be female? Have you never met a shitty woman, cause I have! Or a woman who sorta uses people cause she's pretty and she can and they let her, cause I have (not judging, go get em honestly).

I myself do my best to surround myself with decent people, and that includes both women and men. There are amazing lesbian relationships, and there are amazing het relationships where both individuals are empathetic and loving towards each other. If you notice the people around you which are loving and empathetic tend to be women, then great! Keep to them and treat them as well as they do you. But if they were male, I would've said that same thing. Slightly changing the words from the critic from Rattetouille, not everyone is empathetic and loving, but an empathetic and loving person can come from anywhere.

Not inherently, but the average moid lacks empathy

lol. lmao @ thinking lesbian relationships don't turn even more sour. been there done that don't fall for the meme political dykes try to push.

You don't need to lez out, get a support group for your shitty bfs

I dont know what you’re talking about but good luck with it :D

>>121064
Its not just childish media, I do like acting out for attention sometimes. Sometimes I like to fish for attention by being overly-cutesy with people.
Either way I have no idea how to socialize properly. I relied on my ex and the other failed relationship I had to meet people. Its really awkward and painful having to share a friend group with those idiots, their friends are the only people I have. The only other human interaction I really have with my step-sister but she now works and I barely get to see her and do stuff with her. Before dating my ex I literally had 0 concept of a friend group which is certainly something.
My hobbies are kinda niche currently and dunno, do you just suggest I kind of just look through some pisscord or something?

I don't know how to solve it but I know a girl with similar issues as you. She got married to a nice guy after a lifetime of being with crappy people. I don't know how she did it but I heard it was hard getting adjusted to. But I do think it's about recognizing your own patterns, behaviours, reactions, and making conscious decisions to do differently. Stay strong

>>121056
i mean just think like this: you already broke up with your boyfriend because he'd hurt you. so why get into a relationship with another moid who has similar personality flaws when that was the very reason your last relationship ended? its kind of like just speedrunning a breakup. but im sorry that your first bf changed/showed his true colors after a year of kindness. thats honestly really sickening and disgusting. seek therapy i think

>>120656
marriage is a horrible word, imagine having to see one certain moid every single day until the very end, that’s so depressing

>>120672
>imagine having to see your loved one every single day until the very end
Sounds great

Didn’t do anything weird or nasty?

>>120650
Likely he's a pos but you could just talk to him about it before making the conclusion definite

honestly, confront him. if this isnt larp or a lie or whatever. like meet up with him in person and be aggressive and put your foot down and just ask WHY. then decide what you want to do afterwards, but you first need to find out why and you should also tell him why he shouldnt treat someone that way.

>>121138
Show me a man who is honest about their usage of social media and I will show you a liar.

>>121139
How does having an insta account prevent him from talking to women on tinder?

>>121140
How does saying you don't use social media prevent you from lying about using social media?

>>121141
See, now you get what I mean.

>>121142
We're on the same side so I don't know why you think you were arguing with me

>>120740
>india
>1%
jesus

>>120740
These statistics are fake tho

>>106378
>moids usually end up screwed up because of a lack of sane father figures.
Which is hilarious because that means a moid's humanity banks on the one in a million chance that their dad either is in their life or at the very least isn't a monster himself, which is probably why men in general are completely fucked.

>>106385
I don't know if I buy this, I think it depends on how you teach radfem to your son. Guys literally throw a shitfit if you tell them that rape is bad after all, so ingraining it into them from a young age seems like the only viable solution.

>>120740
Left: countries that make divorce illegal through real or soft laws
Right: countries that acknowledge that women deserve at least one or two rights, maybe more

Anyway you can't honestly be in defense of a slave institution like marriage, what fucks kids up isn't step parents it's bad parents. Always has been.

schizotypal

double diagnosed schizoid at 17 and 22, my life is boundaries of decade old acquaintances and strangers, people who call me their friend feel distant and they all wither away eventually, which I know is my fault but whatever. I have a bf thats helped a lot in being more normal dragging me out into the ''world'' but at 28 I feel im pretty set in my ways.

>>120910
schizoids don't seek validation retard

Im extroverted, hate being alone, love being around nice people, love sex (who doesnt), love having fun and being happy.

>>120910
No it actually sucks, it's a very miserable way to be.

>>120601
thank you nona i hope you had a wonderful day too~!

Thanks nona, you too.

Kill me

>>121068
Bang!

>>121069
Ty

thats a lil random

>>115900
I believe that I could accept it, if my husband would love someone else
You never know until it happens to you and it probably won't make you feel great. It's good you are going to a therapist.

>>115900
I know it's hard, but if you want to save your relationship with your husband it's the best thing to do. You might find yourself hoping to get back in touch with the other guy, but it's for the best.

>>115819
pocket him as a backup husband, men will die unexpectedly in their late 30s/mid 40s and its weirdly becoming more common

>>121009
is this actually true?

>>121027
Partly. Male deathrate in the 30s is conventionally 2x female but the younger age cohort is dying faster at an accelerated pace.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/241572/death-rate-by-age-and-sex-in-the-us/
Age Male Female
15-24 126.9 49.3
25-34 251.2 108.6
35-44 373.3 201.2
45-54 668.4 393.9
You don't really have to worry though, it's typically unmarried and especially never-married men that make those numbers happen.

I think you should stop giving a fuck and live your life. Adults should learn on their own …specially men