>>63261>Usually I get a bit into the person, then as I end up knowing them it gets cold really quick.
Relatable. I liked flirting with guys but when they confessed to me it was like getting a trophy and I wasn't interested in them anymore. I thought I'd try dating one once because I thought I'd love him more over time, but it always felt like a fun game or playing around or something.
Then I met a guy and actually fell in love for the first time. With my current boyfriend I actually think of getting married and staying forever. With other guys I always thought "we'll have fun together until we start arguing too much or fall out eventually." Because I believed finding someone to love like in fiction was impossible, there would always be some part of me that didn't match the other person and we'd argue over it and such, and I did not feel the need to have a family so I would never settle with a relationship like that.
So I met my boyfriend who is extremely respectful, modest, kind yet firm, understanding and balanced, and I ended up loving him before I even knew it. It felt totally different from anything, and it wasn't dramatic like in movies either, I can describe it if anyone wants to know.
I used to think "falling in love" was like talking to a cute, fun guy and getting super excited over him.>>63256
OP, since you have fantasies and want romantic relationships, but you can't fall in love with real people, you probably just have high standards, and that's ok. It's just going to take effort, time, luck, or all three to find someone to match you. I came across my boyfriend by total chance, and before him I was 99% sure I'd be alone forever because of my specific standards, I was totally fine with it. I also don't feel "physical attraction" like "I wish he'd date/fuck me" unless it's a polished celebrity or something, most of the time I just go "wow, pretty person" in the aesthetic sense.