/feels/ - Advice & Venting

you're probably 15 or in high school. I think this is how most people, or at least girls, feel then. I recommend reading books or finding a really nice hobby you enjoy. the books will help you see different perspectives and hobbies are good for you.

just try to take it easy and do little things you enjoy. i'm sure you're not fat or ugly but work on your looks if you want to, though everyone becomes old and dies anyway so it shouldn't be a priority.

I also really recommend saying a Rosary everyday. :)

How old are you? Do you work or go to school?

>>117423
It's entirely possible to be both kind and firm. You can see it in good teachers and good parents, among other people.
>being a nice girl…
Stop right there. Being a genuinely good person does not equal being accommodating and a doormat. It does not even equal being nice because some of the kindest people I know often come off as rude. Set your boundaries. Defend yourself whenever you need to.
>How
You grow up, bit by bit, learning how to be selfless at the right time and ruthless at others. You learn self-control, you reflect. Think a lot, keep improving your mindset, and it will come to you.

>>117424
Yeah! Just stop bending over cause it gets results and attention. If you let people take advantage of you they will. Obviously you are looking for the wrong qualities in yourself and moids see those as the perfect qualities to exploit. I really didn't get it until I relized I was basically letting myself be used and abducted and was totally chilling with it until I finally figured out what self respect means. No wonder I didn't have any friends. I still catch myself dropping my guard around the wrong guy.

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consider

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>>118701
paw
>>115527
When I don't know what to do or where to go I think that maybe I could grab a book and go read somewhere comfy, like a park or a café. I tend to have issues thinking where can I go that can be free, since I don't have a lot of money.
I like being comfy in my house, but I wish really hard to interact with people, but the internet feels so dead lately.

>>118715
After a bad relationship months ago after I am really afraid to leave my house or interact with people other than gaming and have basically stayed to myself since covid. I started reading fiction alot but I'm getting delulu and I think I just need to touch grass and be myself again. THEN I realize thats how I got here…
I keep thinking I want a moid so he could pay for stuff but I honestly hate myself for how much I feel I need one and talking on Discord to them just makes me realize that even more.

Have you looked into DBT? It focuses on a few things but the most important are building tolerance to stress and not acting on emotions. You absolutely can better yourself, but it will be hard work & there’s no magic pill or quick therapy fix. It’s a lifelong project and there will be setbacks. But the rewards are a better life for yourself and people around you

>>118712

I looked into it a little bit. Is this effective for someone who has bipolar disorder?

>>118714
It was originally created for borderline personality disorder but people with ptsd or generally struggling with overwhelming emotions have found it effective. I’m not a great believer in talk therapy but DBT is more about building practical skills you can use everyday

>>118711
>> I'm afraid it is already too late to prove I can change

How old are you? It's rarely too late for change

>>118602
I mean… its a GAME? How can you be shit at pushing buttons and joysticks around? If you play multiplayer games you need to stop they are shit

>>118641
Your problem is playing an multiplayer. They are full of losers who spend 17 hours a day playing leveling up and hoarding items. Then they act like psychopath towards every other user. You need to just play metroid, or zelda or something. Stop playing with other people. Unless you can find women to play with. Then fine.

>>118665
Yeah online games are cancer. Just full of children and man children and they’re all insufferable. If you want to play games with other people then do like some 4 player online game with people you know.

>>118666
True, the most fun multiplayer I've had recently was Lethal Company, without using a mic and Deep Rock Galactic, while occasionally using a mic. Those games have pretty chill audience and don't have people disappointed at you for being slow and new at the game. Not being a competitive game also helps

Moved to >>>/media/35925.

It seems we are in the same boat, Nona. My mother has been equally as horrible to me. I'm sorry to hear you're forced to endure this same torture.

Does your mother have a history of any drug abuse? Is there anything that causes her behavior?

For me, my mother has been abusing drugs since her teen years. Her brain is all fucked up and she's just a degenerate "human" being. Most atrocious, heinous, whoreish, sinful, corrupted, appalling sorry excuse of a woman.

Are you asian?

>>118568
she doesn’t even drink, she’s just an asshole kek

sorry for what you are going through right now, I hope things get better

>>118646
latin american

yay

I don't want to kill my mom but I cannot wait until she is dead. She's had untreated mental illness and narcissistic main character syndrome all her life. It's who she is and will never change. Every bad thing she has ever done, if she can admit she did it, had a reason that absolves her from accountability. Her problems are always bigger than mine, even when objectively not so. She is always the victim unless her mood flavor is pretending to blame herself to milk sympathy.
I could go on but she's sick in the head and didn't give me a very supportive nor good life for it.

>>118644
yes but i dont think my school-age friends remember

>>118595
I'm 29
Fucking 29
Might as well be 50 my life is over

>>118595
>>118598
I’m 29 soon…
Death is coming for us all

>>118604
Did you fall for the "hitting the wall" psyop or something?

>>118616
No I just notice that I learn new things slower, my back neck and head are in constant pain, and I’m gaining weight faster (lower metabolism)
These changes make me feel like I’m mortal when previously in my youth I could learn new things so much faster and lose weight by just walking around, now I actively have to run on the treadmill for 60 mins straight (which is pain and torture)

>>118601
I wish this was true. But sadly moids want to infiltrate everything. I have joined places made by yumejos and it goes one of two ways:

1: the yumejo is 'inclusive' so they will allow shit like cuntboys and masectomy scar pooner fake yaoi. This inevitably leads to troon moids shitting up the server.

2: The yumejo hates tranny shit and makes a server with only pure, real yaoi, you would think this would bring in terf true fujos, but in actuality it mostly brings over scrotes. The scrotes wont even be into yaoi and will actually get angry if yaoi is posted there, but usually the terf yumejo is too much of a pickme to ban the shitty scrotes because they were ostracized by type 1 false fujos.

It's fucking awful.

>>118605
Why the hell would a yumejo run a yaoi server?
The only yaoi spaces I visit are on reddit and even THEY don't have trannies. The yaoi and BL subs are golden. What the heck are you even on about?

You sound like a larper mixing up fujos and yumejos. Are you even serious about larping though?

>>118606
No need to act so abrasive. I've been into yaoi since before the terms fujo and yume even existed and tend to avoid modern yaoi culture because of what I stated in my previous message.

I thought yumejo meant a mix between fujo and yume. You could have told me that politely.

Reddit also fucking sucks for everything because half the time shit gets banned/censored before I can even see what the hell it is.

>>118607
Yeah it really depends on the subreddit, most hobby subreddits are absolutely fine. Some are full of moid scum and tranny mods. You don't get any of that in the fujo subs though. Sure you have have male and female fans. But the trans presence is only heavy in places like r/witchesvspatriarchy.

>>118605
Also a huge fujo since 2001 and I've honestly never seen anything like that in all my days.

>>118574
Why do you seem to base all of your political views on gender?

I hate videogame puzzels. I always get stuck, give up or use a guide.

>>118577
If you're a citycuck just ride a bike. I used to live in the city, and when I did biking was hands down the best mode of transportation. I remember one week I needed to drive a car to work and I actually found that driving took me longer than riding my bike by like 10 minutes, and this was 6 miles away. But looking back at my route it made a ton of sense. I would bike roads that weren't directly accessible to cars, and I never had to wait in traffic.

I know the trendy thing to do is to hate cyclists, but there's a huge culture difference between entitled sports cyclists and bike commuters. I was always mindful when biking to the point where I had a driver once thank me through their window because I gave them the right of way (which like… you just do anyways.)

Biking is also turbo comfy. Even in cold weather.

Anyways, self driving taxis seems like an expensive nightmare. You'd be just one computing error away from the thing going into oncoming traffic. Also musk is a creep who does babyfur erp.

I hate lolcow but go on there occasion because it’s more populated than here. I mention my husband in passing in a post and how he had a positive impact on a situation I was going through, and all the replies completely ignore my entire post (which is like 5 paragraphs long) to shit on my husband (which was one sentence long and barely provided any context on what type of person he is)

The man hating is ridiculous on there. I know how shit men can be, which is why I didn’t marry a loser coomer, but goddamn you can’t even talk about a life situation without them ignoring everything you write and frothing at the mouth at a man, like holy shit. He wasn’t even the point of my post, I just happen to mention him in a sentence because he’s a big part of my life and was helping me out.

Not sure if the posters there are loser men who shit on other men to feel better about themselves or just overall mean and want to fight and nitpick anything.

I like cc /feels/ because you can talk about men in your relationships and life situations and you won’t get dogpiled on for dating a man or having a man in your life helping you out kek

>>118603
As much as I prefer women over men, I know girls are also deeply fallible creatures, and there's a loud minority of them who are cunts who have about the same level of empathy as your average scrote.

Shitty men deserve ridicule, but yeah, that doesn't mean women can't also hold themselves accountable and do better.

I genuinely believe you are probably could be getting harassed by men as well as women. You might be right, there might be some pissy scrotes mad that you don't follow the stereotypes in their feeble minds of what a female exclusive anonymous imageboard user is like.

Like, I have nothing against a woman who opts out of marriage, and any woman in their right might should opt for being single over being married to a useless loser. But if someone is happily married, then they are happily married.

I really hate that mindset. As women, we should prioritize wanting women to avoid shitty men like the plague, but if they want to get married, we should uplift them and encourage them to have high standards in their partner, not shame them.

I'm a moid hater, I think a lot of them are entitled misogynist incel rapist pigs who deserve to be put out of their misery like the dogs they are, but yeah, there ARE legitimately good men out there who will help better you.

Anyways, I support all nonas, single or otherwise.