/feels/ - Advice & Venting

What is "good sex" like to you?

Every moid in this world is disgusting, they are all pedophiles or rapists.
They're all disgusting and boring, their social skills are zero, and I'd have a better conversation talking to my own shit than talking to a man.
They are the only "people" who would spend hours explaining why it is okay to impregnate 14 year old girls.
It's not worth being nice to any dangling penis, since I treat every XY in my life badly I'm happier.

Does anyone else feel like they are too sensitive for the internet? Like I cant handle being on it for too long lol. I went on 4chan once and was sad at how everyone talked to eachother.

ohhhh my god i think my body is trying to faucking kill me My Hips Hurt So Much my uterus is Attempting Murder

anyway, does anyone else get cramps mostly in their lower back & hip bones? cuz isnt it, people mostly feel cramps in their lower stomach?
i saw someone else claiming that the cramp location could be due to the uterus' position in the body- like if it's retroverted/retroflexed or something. (i think mine might be… idk)

lets take ibuprofen together and get violent over our cramps I am holding out my hand to yoy

ibuprofen ACTIVATE

i'm not gonna get into a lot of details about my personal experience with her because it's years of information that's not actually important and i was not her main victim.

the fact is that i had a negative experience with her, she exposed me on facebook (you can track how long ago it was just because of that) and since she had a lot of simps they all attacked me. it really affected me since i was already insecure and depressed, it made me isolate myself and since we shared social spaces i preferred to simply abandon them just to not face her again. objectively what i supposedly did to her didn't deserve such response on her side since it was ridiculously minimum.

its been years of that, i matured but that event was always stuck on my mind like something that just happened and from time to time I checked her on socials to see what she was up to.

last year she became a famous meme in my country for saying she had a korean relative (false), so that lead to her being exposed for lying, SA, animal abuse, trying to sell content to minors, filming content with a minor and the list goes on.

People make fun of her, she had lots of YouTube videos dedicated to her, also she has a lot of health problems who had lead to develop necrosis on her fingers and lost part of them, she's going through a tough time right now. she's still very delusional but she's doing really bad health wise and had a lot of people making fun of her on the daily.

and im happy about it lol. what she did to me is minimal compared of what she did to others, but i can't find compassion inside of me to empathize with her, seeing her struggling and having a harsh time makes me feel better, so i constantly check her socials since she call herself and influencer and it's chronically online checking on her haters. i also check all the pages dedicated to expose her on IG.

I'm a bad person for that ?

i really want to know how to stop but i might be the most prone to person to have parasocial feelings towards people. sometimes i just get obsessed with people i have never met and that is terrifying. lately ive been obsessed with a certain guy i DO not know nor talked to but i am so inlove and interested in him, i even stalked his friends socials so i can find something.
i am crazy jealous of his girl best friend and it pisses me off cuz i do not know any of them, but i want him so bad even tho in a few months the spark will fade away and i will get tired of him
sigh, how to stop being like this nonas

I’m looking for fellow victims of a man named Randall Mosey of Ohio. He should be 32 by now. Blue eyes, white guy, computer nerd who loved starcraft. He molested me when I was 13 and I know there are others, because I tried to reach out to his girlfriend through her tellonym and she got really upset and deleted my messages after responding to one saying she’s “tired” of people trying to ruin his reputation. So that is not the first time someone’s tried to tell her that her boyfriend’s a pedophile. She accused me of lying because I hid behind anonymity. Excuse me that I’m not exactly jumping at the idea of hopping on a skype call with you guys.

I wanna know if y’all have any advice on finding other victims too. I just keep remembering.

Basically a girl hit me up sending me an unverified profile of a dating account with my bf's name and photo on it.
He hadn't had the app installed on his phone since 2022 nor did he have an account when he redownloaded the app to check the profile.. but it still weirds me out that there is a dating profile with my bf's details on it?!?!

It feels so scary, like a bad omen as we've only been dating for like a month..
what would you do in my situation?

i'm led to believe that it's either an ex trying to split us up, or maybe an enemy of his also trying to achieve the same thing…. but in the back of my mind i feel like an idiot and the wool is being pulled over my eyes but i just don't know what to think.

I do believe my bf is innocent because when i confronted him he seemed worried rather than angry so idk

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!

I’ve come to a brutal but necessary conclusion: kindness is overrated when handed out like free samples at a grocery store. I’ve spent years marinating in people-pleasing, thinking empathy was some kind of moral currency. Plot twist — it’s not. In practice, being an open nerve ending only gets you exploited. People don’t respond to kindness; they respond to boundaries. Harsh truth: excessive agreeableness is not virtue — it’s social self-sabotage.

I simp for validation like a lab rat pressing the dopamine lever, and it’s pathetic. It’s classic intermittent reinforcement — a core concept in behavioral psychology — where unpredictable rewards (a compliment, a message back) condition you to keep chasing. It’s the same mechanism that keeps gamblers at the slot machines, and I’ve basically been gambling my self-worth on other people’s approval.

I’ve also been stuck in a victim identity loop. That’s where you start romanticizing your suffering, treating pity as a currency, and staying small because pain becomes familiar. It’s textbook learned helplessness with a side of digital masochism. No more. Self-pity is a trap disguised as self-awareness. I’m done wearing trauma like a personality badge.
A few days ago, I trusted two people on a new account — max security, minimal exposure — and still got doxxed. That’s not just betrayal, it’s stupidity on my part.
Bottom line: Empathy without discernment is emotional self-harm. Validation-seeking is a rigged slot machine. And kindness? It needs a filter, not a floodgate. I’m done being a walking weakness detector for predators online. New arc: ruthless, aware, emotionally sovereign.
How do I stop compulsively empathizing and people-pleasing when I know it’s just a maladaptive trauma response dressed up as kindness, and how do I unhook my brain from chasing validation like it’s crack? How do i stop caring?