Male Gaze :((( Anonymous 70037[Reply]
When I was a tween I was at that stage where I was mentally developing but had a sense of leeway for my self expression. I got my hair chopped and wore the clothes I wanted, and basically looked like a dyke and didn't care about what the men around me thought because I wasn't at a sexual stage yet. But now that I'm older I can only see myself through men's eyes. I forget who said this but this problem really applies to my situation:12 posts and 1 image reply omitted. Click reply to view.
>Men see women, women see men seeing women.
I hate this mental attitude because I force myself to look "hot" in a conventional way but it doesn't feel like the real me. Like its sinful for me to not look hot. Before I turned myself into a basic bitch I was told stuff like "you're wasting your beauty" and "you'd look so much more attractive if you did xyz". But fuck man. It isn't me at all.
Erm I once had serious depression and since I got away from the source I've improved massively but this is the way I am now. Just because I rarely feel attraction to men doesn't mean I have mental illness.
Also sorry but by feelings I meant feel attraction. I hate typing on my phone but my computer died.
Anyway you're not responding to anything specific that has made you upset so i dont know how to respond exactly feel free to whenever you like.
I never get a chance to talk about this so I'll just spergpost here: I don't care anymore. I see all of it as cosplay.
If some cosplays net me better treatment in the world, nice. But imagine having your body, an entire doll all for yourself, and all you ever do is customize it based on how men might treat you. Boring and lame.
Even if you're feminine, scrotes will never really understand what an "aesthetic" is. They're not capable. If you really pay attention to what "styles" they idolize on women, you'll notice that male gaze is very simplistic, and that's because styling isn't what really matters. It's not really your clothes or your lipstick (or lack of it), it's your existence as a woman that's the main point. At best, they may fetishize some things (like pantyhose, chokers, or heels), but they simply don't have the brain for analysis.
In the end, they just want to put something inside of you, and they'd take the opportunity even if you wore a garbage liner. The reason people talked shit to you for being tomboyish is because society gets uncomfortable when you won't play the appeasement game. It bothers a lot of women when they're forced to remember that they don't have to wear foundation, and it makes men mad when you won't pretend it's important whether or not your hair is long and in a ponytail or whatever. They need women to be insecure and constantly changing shit, the inherent power gap between being a woman vs some male who is constantly thinking about reproducing and sex whether he likes it or not is just too much lol.
There's also the aspect of wanting to assign you a uniform to more adequately cast the "type" of girl/woman you are (ie are you fuck, marry, or ignore material). You confuse everyone if you look too "boyish" but you're not a lesbian.
You can either take all this shit as a prison, or as a reason to shrug your shoulders and stop fucking worrying. It's out of your hands, why be mad?
Sometimes I want to look like a "dyke". Sometimes I want to look like an anime character. Sometimes I want to look like a generic hot girl, or a hippie, or a guy. All fun costumes. Doesn't fucking matter, just have fun
>>70121>>They need women to be insecure so they're constantly easy to intimidate, and tell what to do, for easy access to sex.
im sorry but you sound shizophrenic, how you are talking about getting stuff planted in your head and you trying to extract it…
literally this, realized this after i started talking to my male friends about fashion (im into costuming) and they literally had no opinions on dress styles and hairstyles beyond "gay" or "hot". as long as your tits are visible and your eyes are defined it doesnt matter to men. i think this is why they view heavy makeup as "black magic"