>>90225
I appreciate your many insights and based taste in nerds.
It’s probably that he thinks I won’t fit him as a partner. I don’t think it’s my appearance because I look weirdly similar to his celebrity crush.

For a bit I thought he was only dating within his ethnic group/ religion like you since he’s Brahmin Indian and practicing Hindu- but apparently he like does not give a shit about any of it and is just vegetarian because he grew up doing it.

It’s probably relevant that he’s autistic so he might not be operating on standard moid rules.

Anyone had any success forcing themselves to move on from an obsession?

I have a story:

I think of the guy I met in 2020 March a lot. I now have a boyfriend and we're getting engaged soon, but every night I secretly listen to a playlist he sent to me years ago. I've never met this man let alone know what his real name is, I just know we shared a genuine bond over 3 months that year.

I was stuck in my room a lot, and used to text him all the time. Texts turned into calls, calls turned into feelings both ways. We had so much fun just talking and exploring, I can't really describe how it was back then. Something silly happened and we stopped talking then. I remember his laugh a lot, it always sounded like he was on the verge of tears. He spent some time in hospitals and I didn't really understand how I affected him. Things happened, we tried to reconnect this year earlier but didn't work out. I think I'll think of him forever secretly, but I would never approach him in real life. It was a special connection I shared only once with a stranger on the internet. I hope he's doing okay and I always think of the music I used to listen to, which caught my eye here as well - Yves Tumor has a track called Limerence that takes me back everytime I listen to it. I've destroyed myself over him and rebuilt it, and now my boyfriend and I are open about everything thanks to him. I learned to love people for who they were.

>>91000
I have had countless of limerent episodes. The only thing that really helped was this self help book that focused on Limerence. Do check out Lucy Bain’s The Limerent Mind, and actually try out the exercises. Personally I found that the visualisation exercise sped up the recovery process for me. But besides that I also set clear boundaries with my LO (never hanging out alone together, keeping conversations to a minimum and non-intimate, etc) and focused on nurturing other existing relationships in my life as well (this helps a lot with feeding your needs). Being away from them physically really helped me heal too, out of sight out of mind sorta thing

>>91000
Yes. I had a bit of an obsession with a coworker from a different department. Being away from and avoiding our common workplace helped me move on because that's the only place where I saw him at. After my company decided to relocate me to another building, I've been thinking of him less and less.

>>91743
Nothing wrong with it imo especially since you're the woman. But you'd prolly have to see him a lot afterwards, right? Just don't do anything you'd regret nona.

I support this fully. Give an update after you do it nona

>>91860
not worth it honestly he fucked me for 40 seconds than proceeded to cook food

>>91861
Did he cook you food?

>>91235
Been there </3

>>91235
It's a game they play. I'd just ghost. Fucking hate men who think acting uninterested is attractive in any way. I wanna be chased and cherished!

Our friendship ended months ago, but after seeing him I'm still left longing for what I wanted when we first met a few years back.

It's complex because I don't want to sleep with men, but in my ideal world we could just have kept going on as platonic/semi-romantic partners. I wanted us to be each other's only person; we'd support each other, we'd buy a house together, I'd paint him pictures and write him poetry, we'd hold each other when we were sad, and we'd die together. This is what I wanted so desperately but it was impossible. Even if he felt strongly about me, this deal wouldn't work for him and I know that.
But I miss him and I'll always love him to some degree. I hope he can find comfort, safety, and happiness. These emotions I'm feeling just prove why he can't be in my life, though. Not to mention the dishonesty between us, and how he'd also manage to make me feel awful. Ah.

In a way maybe I hope to never see him again if it will hurt this much each time. And I'm afraid to love someone again because of it ending like this. There is a woman I know who I can feel has the potential to summon such things within me, but who knows if that's a good or bad idea right now. At least I can offer a woman a normal relationship and not just super best friends.

I don't feel like finding the LDR thread plus I'm late for work, but I wanted to have a quick vent.
I promised not to get into a LDR but I fell into the trap anyway because I can't find anyone IRl who would be attracted to me
It's liek torture. You crave to be touched and there's this person who is willing to, and tells you he loves you every day, but there's a million miles between you and him so you just have to pretend to hug and kiss him.
I know I'll meet him eventually, probably during the next year (that is if I'll even be able to fly to his country), he's even saving up money for my ticket. But I've never been on a flight so I feel like it'll be a huge pain in the ass to go through, but I can't stand being lonely anymore

>>91883
I know this feel. Just got out of an LDR bc I couldn't take the distance. But weirdos on the internet are the only people I can connect with.

>>91416
We were close friends for a few years, but we flirted and the trust between us was uncommon for a woman-man friendship. He thought things were leading to something more, which was the logical step for how things were going, but then I started to feel doubts because of my last relationship, since I got really hurt and I told to myself that I was never going to date another guy. Instead of explaining things I started to get distant and cold, I spent some time acting like that until I tried to explain, he understood me but at the same time told me that he's not sure about wanting something with me anymore.
Now we're trying to stay as friends but I don't think it's working out. We're so used to being close and cute to eachother but now it seems like he's avoiding that. I'm afraid it's just a matter of time until we stop talking

Maybe it was a good thing, since I managed to avoid dating another guy, but I miss feeling so great with him

I don't care about getting a bf. I just want to have friends. Every year my only resolution is to have at least one friend by the end of December, and every year I fail.
I'm mentally ill and too socially retarded to talk to people, even on the Internet. It's hopeless and I hate myself.

Fuck bf, I wish I could find a decent job

>>90899
>>90904

Typically, companies freeze the hiring process until January so, things should pick up by January with regards to open positions etc. Do not give up on yourself. You will be employed soon.

s do not listen to people who never got hugged as a child and other types of desperate virgolinos (>>91681, >>91691, >>91396)

Your soulmate is NOT on 4chan

>>91715
Where is she then nona? Where is my based gold star lesbian neet radfem soulmate gf?

>>91724
lolcow

>>91749
>galaxy-brained moid will take ballet classes
You mistyped gay.

>>91426
I'm sorry if you really are a nona who found 4chan's one true moralfag but we know there are moids lurking here, we know they're from 4chan, why the fuck would we trust any post telling us to find partners there. As >>91440 put it, we've been on 4chan, we know what it's like.
Op if you're really desperate there's always tinder, I guess. It's not great, but you can talk with them and stalk their social media at least.

I've seen what it takes in being an amazing mother like my mom is, and I feel like I just don't have what it takes. I love my mom, she is my best friend, but she has so much willpower, strength, energy and unlimited patience that I lack. She gets up at 5 am, gets home at 7pm because she visits her parents every day, she makes lunch the night before or in the mornings, she does hard work in my grandparents garden, she's extremely capable. On top of that she reads books, has a social life, stays healthy by exercising and she still had time to talk with me and my sister growing up, and to raise us well.

I'm still on a maybe if I want to have kids or not, and I'd rather adopt if I ever were to have them. But first I'd make sure I'm financially really secure with enough free time to raise a child properly. On top of that, while my husband would make a great father, he loves his job a lot and while he can afford to work a lot and still have time for me specifically, if we had a child he would have to work less.

"I hate children" is a covert way to say "I hate myself"

>>91737
Did you even read through the posts?

>>91738
Gymbros have terrible personalities

No.
Go to the gym, do your workout and go.

fuck him lol but if u still want advice do "squat jumps", cardio is really good, running and swimming are ur easiest options

>>91673
some people gain more body dysmorphia the more weight they lose, it doesn't make you stupid and you're not fat. it probably has to do with negative self perception which is something in your head not with the way you look. hope you'll be ok

U are making awesome progress and dont develop an eating disorder just find recipes with yummy food that r somewhat healthy