/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>133052
subtle brag lol

obligatory viewing

do you ever wish you were straight?

just been having some depressing thoughts lately.

i've recently matched with this cute green haired alt girl on tinder. i thought she'd be a great fit since she wrote she likes submissives and i've been lookin to not be the top for once. turns out she is actually bi and into timid twinks and feels bad about domming women since "they're precious and don't deserve that". I don't think she got over her exbf yet tho, despite being broken up for a year now, she keeps mentioning him and all the shitty ways he treated her. I wish she was more affectionate and called me pretty and asked more about me, i want to connect with her but she also is slightly autistic and sometimes comes off as cold. On our second date we went to an ice cream shop, we get in line and i whisper to her that i'll pay for today, and she says she was gonna, i say "lets rock paper scissor for it" she agrees. we both throw scissors, and says "i shouldve known…". she did paper second round and i went scissors again lmao. Shes so cute , and fashionable, and soft and kisses nicely, but i hate that this probably won't be anything more than FWB type situation.

dated a guy for a while and hated kissing him, got back with a girl and i didn't realize how much i missed not getting scratched while making out

This photo makes me want to goon

should be obvious. it's very, very lonely even by everyone else's standards. majority of women are straight, even if you hate men you're still attracted to them and at some point you'll still yap about them in some form.

you deal with all this suffering and for what? to have a smaller dating pool that has the same problems that the hets and bisexuals have because too many women are picking up the same bad habits and traits that moids have.

>>133323
i'm vry feminine and so is my girlfriend– it's lovely and amazing (we're the type that have cute picnics and braid each other's hair)

also, her and i both hate men, but i don't think anyone should date women just bc they hate men… you should LOVE women too

i was vry vry lonely and had never dated until meeting her so i guess that is a big issue…

>>133332
it seems like it's not necessarily about gender but about compatibility, connection, respect and liking each other

>>128474
updates?

hoping op is well

tell us how it's going op

op will stay with this man until he kills her. the end.

Op got tired of making shit up for (you)s

>>133321
sounds similar to me. having a "good life" didn't help.

have you tried psychedelics like mushrooms? they really helped me break through some heavy depression. dont buy the fake gas station gummy kind either, grow the real thing (assuming it is legal in your state)

>>133321
I think your life is missing spirituality. I used to avoid even discussing spiritual matters but I've since realized some people are simply not mentally strong enough to exist without a spiritual reason for being. They could have everything in the world but without a reason to live and go on they break down and end up doing something violent to themselves or others. I would really suggest getting more in touch with your spiritual side and that can mean many things as spirituality looks very different depending on who you ask but I'd just suggest exploring around and seeing if you find something you connect with.

>>133324
i haven’t tried any kind of substances since my dad is super anti-drug and still checks all my packages to make sure it’s not anything i can hurt myself with. maybe if i eventually move out ill try something like that

You're definitely depressed op. Have you gotten a therapist?

>>133321
i too would half agree with the spirituality thing the nona on top said, but i would also suggest you to start an hobbie!
Absolutely anything that can keep your mind off your daily life, maybe better something you can see grow each day that you can see in hobbies like sewing, gardening, drawing, making something in general.

I'll always suggest sewing because it's so versatile and it saved my life, but it can be anything.
I wish you the best of luck nona, even better times will come!

>>133302
I'm sure it'll blow back into their faces, aside from peoples random ass bodies its pure egoism to imply any version of yourself can be enslaved. maybe its a projection from being already enslaved by other noids

don't be scared of them. arm yourself and never again be afraid of a scrote.

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>>129722
Me too, I've only been with a woman once online and I'm terrified of men at this point. I find it hard to click which women are bi / gay that I'm embarrassed to ask and pursue irl. If anyone who's dated girls has tips please send them

i relate. straight men are like sand on a beach but getting a gf is so much harder if you don`t like dating apps. maybe try to add something to your appearance that shows you`re into girls? like a pin or keychain from popular yuri or straight up a flag. are there any queer spaces you can go to like lesbian bars? otherwise its rough out there as a shy woman, at least irl. good luck to you!

The black pill is realizing that none of your revenge fantasies will ever come true.
Especially this one that people keep promising you:
>The best revenge is a life lived well and happily.
That's the one least likely to come true of all.

>>132542
You have become one of them!

They don't like what you always liked, they actually do something much more worse and sinister: they normiefy and enshittificate the things you liked, and even the band you used to like has mostly lost its soul and style

Being mad as this is like being mad at mold that ate your bread, yeah, it is upsetting but it's also pointless to be mad at something that doesn't possess a brain or consciousness

>>132542
spoken like a true bully right? it's not even true because my best friend was bullied by her own brother and sister and yet her life now is great and the siblings life is shit so

>>132547
this 100%

I'm going there as a part of "working on myself" to work on my avoidant attachment but I'm not sure I expect progress. anyone have a good experience with it?

therapy is only helpful if you need coaching on how to make healthier decisions, but ultimately you need to get to a place where you can do things independently and don't have to pay for a support system.

i feel like people who are in therapy for 30+ years a re being scammed, unless they're like severely ill and have no one.

i only work with psychiatrists that are very, very conservative in their prescribing and take what i need help with into consideration, and do not have some sort of weird narrative about me.

it takes time to find the right provider unfortunately, but i am grateful for my current shrink because he actually listens to me about my PMDD and mental afflictions.

he doesn't view me as broken, just someone who could benefit from some medical interventions so i'm not suffering all the time.

i hate ssris tho. those are kinda scammy if you take them longterm. good habits and sobriety will get u there imo after ur baseline is sorted with learning how to be disciplined. discipline is a skill rooted in compassion and takes time like any other. you can't really force the process.

lamictal has helped me a lot, as well as gabapentin and a minipill for my pmdd. i feel lowkey halfway cured and i just started everything like 2 weeks ago. i just need to build better habits.

i'm 1.5 abstinent from drugs too and it helped to not complicate my brain as much.
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Licensed therapists are a lot cheaper than psychologists and psychiatrists. Started seeing one after my mental break in January. Doing a lot better now but had two instances of near relapse so I'm continuing with it for now. The one I have is actually conscientious about cost and whether or not I actually need to keep going at the same rate. She was the one who suggested I might be good to drop from weekly to biweekly and we've discussed going to monthly but I don't feel ready for that yet.

I'm too scared to go to one honestly

if you`re scared of judgement you might end up like me. almost 2 years in therapy now and i hide most my problems to appear as competent and functional as possible and even lie sometimes out of shame like a retard. luckily i have public health insurance so its just a waste of time and not money.

>>133133
Maybe you smell strange

>>133133
Own it. Bitches hate you cause they know you're the prettiest and they're scared.

Either you're making them jealous, or you have a weird funk.

they might smell your autism

Twice so far. First time a few weeks, second time a few months, both times for psychosis and against my will. First time I was way more chill and cooperative, food was good, interesting new people to meet, made a few new friends and felt like a summer school camp only in winter. Second time they had to wrestle me into the isolation ward as I just wanted the fuck out of there. Then they injected some strong shit in my butt and I can't remember the next two whole weeks, then I came to my senses again after being catatonic and it was just boring wating to be released. It's a necessary evil in my book, at least in the case of psychosis.