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BPD Anonymous 45577[Reply]

Post in this thread every time you did it again.

Anonymous 45756

I did it again.

Anonymous 45778

Past couple of days. I want to kill myself. Is it more BPD to go through with it, or to do end up doing it? Kek.


Anonymous 45526[Reply]

>be me
>21 years
>just don´t happend
>it's ok
>think how it will be when it happens
>no cute
>no soft
>no magic
>tears come out of my eyes

I am doomed, my first time will be with someone with more experience than me, it will not be sweet and gentle, it will be hard and wild.
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Anonymous 45691


Fuck yeah imo

Anonymous 45728

Anonymous 45759

I'm in the same boat, 21 yr old virgin. I used to feel a little bad about it but not so much anymore.
I started attending university this year (was at a community college before) and I find my days are a lot busier, studying 7-12 hrs on the weekdays and 4 hrs on the weekends about vs half that time when I was in the community college. So I have to think more about how I want to spend my time. If I got a bf I would have to start cutting things out of my life, like spending less time with my friends, less time to watch my animu, going on bike rides by myself, drawing, etc. From looking at my friend who has dated a lot the majority of guys just don't seem good enough to give up those things for.

Maybe you can find fulfillment in other things, there are plenty of other fun things. Men just seem like a huge hit or miss, I would rather do stuff that gives me a predictable amount of happiness.

Anonymous 45770

Try to be a 25 year old kissless virgin neet, nerd.

Anonymous 45777

See you in 4 years. How long have you been NEET for?


Truth not dare Anonymous 45689[Reply]

Weird stuff you’ve done?
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Anonymous 45740

Before I became an atheist I made a deal with the devil that I'd sell my soul if Sucker Punch got less than 60% on Rotten Tomatoes..

I'd laugh, but then Snyder's family tragedy occured, so I respect.

Anonymous 45753

Anonymous 45754

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Anonymous 45755

i masturbated in my workplace's bathroom twice when i was just an intern. no regrets, i was just really fucking horny at that time

Anonymous 45776

I just took a massive shit


Anonymous 45698[Reply]

>be me
>have no passion for anything in life
>currently studying something I hate
>no friends
>no social life
>no motivation
>can't even talk to a neighbor because of the anxiety
>currently unemployed
>too old to change my course of life
>no experience
>no family to rely on

Whats the point of living, if each day is so stressful? I have no friends, no interests, no hobbies, no work, no money, no one to talk to. There's just no point in life. I hate every single day and I can't stand being along but I also hate being around people. It's like I can't win at anything.
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Anonymous 45739

I feel deeply sorry for straight women

Anonymous 45741

What's that thing called where you don't find enjoyment in any recreational media or activity? Maybe OP has it.

Anonymous 45747

lmao I was so confused. I thought the other anon just really liked raccoons, as in the animal. Thanks for explaining. I haven't heard of that term before.

lol Are you raccoon anon? Thanks for the suggestion but I don't really like dating. I don't like the idea of being with someone. kinda makes me more suicidal if I think of it. but thanks anyways!

I don't even want a boyfriend. I don't really trust men and also I don't think its necessary for me to feel happy. I'd rather be happy by myself but I can't even accomplish that, then add a male to that, I'd hate myself.

There's a thing for that? I never knew it actually had a name.

Anonymous 45749

anhedonia, but honestly, op doesn't seem like she's doing that much to help herself and not that interested in relief from it either. if you're really suffering, imo, you try whatever the fuck you need to try to rule it out or relieve your troubles.

Anonymous 45771

I'm sure that at the very least cuddling with a guy you find cute would definitely make you feel better.
Even more so if he felt the same way about you, or at the very least is extremely comfortable around you.
As a piece of advice, turn down the temperature before you cuddle with your moid so he has to cling closer to you for warmth.


Fuck Tinder Anonymous 43008[Reply]

You know, I want to get out, meet people, hopefully get a nice boyfriend, but I feel like Tinder is just for easy hookups and one night stands.

I feel that 99% of the guys that go on Tinder don't care about having a long term relationship.

Am I wrong?
Disclaimer: I haven't used it yet.
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Anonymous 45339

If you aren't in super-conservative yee-haw country then there would be no one who would tell your family you were on tinder.

Unless you are already in a relationship.

Anonymous 45340

Yes and no?
Australia isn't really conservative, but family is.
I'm not dating anyone currently but the guy I'm planning on marrying is more upper class and wouldnt want to marry a slut. So don't want to ruin my future for some casual dick.

That's what I'm thinking, either that or use a fake name and just grab profile pictures off facebook
Maybe make it look like I'm a catfish to people that know me?

Anonymous 45345

I meant that they don't care about virginity or anything else they say they care about. I'm a virgin, I'm tender, I wear women's clothes, I'm not even ugly and I've never had a bf. Instead, whores have had an average of 20 or more bfs, plus all the orbiters they have.
And when do they want a relationship? I haven't met young men who value virginity.

Anonymous 45346


Having sex and not being a virgin doesn't make you a slut.

Anonymous 45721

The text would read a million times better in white.


Anonymous 45579[Reply]

Does anyone else ever get annoyed that the people who did amazingly in high school or even college just don't seem to be achieving much after that?

For example, if I think of all the people who would win all the prizes at prize givings, they just seem to have graduated and found a job and that's it. A few, especially from college, have gone on to get PhDs but then have just gone into regular jobs. Some of the jobs are ok and are related to their field but nothing that strikes as a dream job.

I look at their Linkedin pages and all their achievements are from high school or college. It's like they just gave up when they found a job. They don't seek achievements anymore. Why is this?

It's even worse if you look up people from Oxbridge or the Ivys. Someone will graduate top in their class in something like Chinese or Archeology but then everyone goes into finance positions with no relation to the incredible education they received. I'd expect someone like that to be UN interpreter or something like The Vintage Archeologist. It's like they gave up on their dreams, or even worse they were never there.

I realise that they might actually like what they are doing and they probably pay well, but it's just weird that none of them seem to go into something that is objectively considered to be a dream job and would be easy for them to go into to. What am I missing?
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Anonymous 45692

They don't self disqualify, they think because they didn't get position X in company Y they aren't good enough. When in actuality, position X in company Y was given to the friend of the son of the manager doing the hiring. Intelligent people may be intelligent as far as abstract pattern recognition, but it is incredibly difficult to get jobs without some level of networking. A lot of intelligent people assume because, in High School and to a certain college, people got put into classes based on merit that this applies to the real world. While it is true that actually being good at your job will make it easier to get said job, the nepotism and networking involved is far far more important. They then have their fancy degree and their proud valedictorian sash and apply to all the places they want to work, usually in incredibly over saturated fields (made worse by the fact that, now that so many people are getting college degrees, it isn't a bonus but a necessity), they don't get any jobs in the field they want. The obvious conclusion to come to is then "If the system hires people based on merit, and I am not getting hired, then I do not have merit." Then, the obvious conclusion is to get a job elsewhere.

This all precludes the fact that all middle class college graduates can't survive off daddy's money to go through unpaid internships to network, nor can daddy tell his underling to hire his sweet daughter to that programming position.

Anonymous 45699

That makes sense. My partner and I both work in one of the fantasy job fields. We got into it by networking and self education, neither of us has qualifications in the field. We’re good at our jobs but would never have gotten hired without connections. No nepotism though.

I guess I assumed that people who had a fancy degree would have their degree used in lieu of connections or that they would have gained connections through their degree(s).

Anonymous 45700

Connections is by definition nepotism.

Anonymous 45714

I think nepotism is more like friends or family. In my partner's case, it was someone he met at a conference. I later joined through him, though I did a bunch of free work first, so not solely nepotism I think.

Anonymous 45716

Nepotism can be through family or friends. If you had a friend who made it easier for you to get a job, you enjoyed the benefits of nepotism. People only use the two terms differently because the negative stigma surrounding nepotism.


Anonymous 45666[Reply]

Are you following your heart?
What changes would you need to make to your life for the answer to be yes?

Anonymous 45715

>Are you following your heart?

>What changes would you need to make to your life for the answer to be yes?



changing what you are attracted to Anonymous 45302[Reply]

I think the short guy fetish I've always had completely ruined my (already very slim) chances at losing my virginity. I live in a country where average male is 6'1. The rare short guys I've met were visibly disgusted by me and reacted negatively when I approached them/asked them out.
Is there any way to get rid of your fetishes/standards? The only thing I can get off to is art or hentai w short men. I've tried masturbating to stuff with taller men but it's like fapping to the thought of a chair. Completely unappealing. I can read romances featuring taller guys (like Kamisama Kiss), but they never get me feeling really excited, I never get the "God I wish that were me" feeling while reading them. Honestly, lots of tall guys I've met irl were super cool, and I'd be all over them if they were short. I'm rlly angry at myself for being so shallow. I know some manlet chasers miners here struggled w the same problem, how did you manage to resolve it? I'm so tired of being constantly rejected by men. Let's help each other out.
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Anonymous 45683

Threads like this really support my theory that the vast majority of posters on this site are just male incels LARPing as their ideal woman.

Anonymous 45684


For real. No woman ever talks this shit. Those are just dudes, it's clear

Anonymous 45704

seriously, what is with the "i won't be able to lose my virginity!!!" posting on here? like, women are definitely far more disadvantaged and genuinely marginalized, but if you consider the ability to lose your virginity an "advantage" (that does virtually nothing for us, so, not an advantage at all), we do have that virtually regardless of how we look. if these posters are not men, are they just fishing for compliments or what?

Anonymous 45707

The only way you will get a shorter moid to accept is by dating younger (but legal) and if they have a dommy mommy fetish so go look them up.

Since you are so tall it must be that you are from Europe some of the Scandinavian northen countries or the Netherlands, you need to look for him on the internet definitely and it's really good to date younger moids since they grow up with you, you can form them however you want they will adapt to your taste. The only failed boyfriend, cheating uncommited older moids aren't even worth your time. You need your pet boy and guide his life path so he doesn't spoil himself like many moids do.

Anonymous 45760

Bigger woman size difference is super hard to attain in hetero relationships. Not to mention men just suck in general, so you're really out here searching for a cryptid if you want a manlet who is a) secure enough to date a taller woman and enjoy it and b) a quality partner.
Luckily I'm into women and live in a liberal country so have no heavy pressure to be bihet, but if I were stuck being straight I'd search for a LDR after failing to find luck irl. Maybe lurk in some communities where men vent about height and message the ones who seem to have interesting personalities otherwise. This almost worked for me but I chickened out when we were going to actually exchange discords though I'd do LDR for a woman which makes me wonder if men were ever even my preference…that's a me issue, tho

Gl, op. Rooting for you.

>women who have fetishes I don't have don't exist!!!!
Did you never interact with weirdo fujo girls growing up who had femboy/"uke" fetishes? I ran into a lot online and was one myself. It's not farfetched to see this preference as an extension of that.
And femcels exist, angsting about not being able to get a relationship because men have absurd standards (and suck). It's rarely about getting laid itself, but the context.
Are ugly and/or awkward women not women now?


Anonymous 45567[Reply]

The idea of men being essentially women hopped up on take-over-the-world hormones aroused me
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Anonymous 45671

No, I'd prefer moids and trannies stop spamming their degenerate fetishes here. And if you do, at least go to /nsfw/ where so no one else has to see it.

Anonymous 45672

Ah, so you were arguing in bad faith from the start, got it.

Anonymous 45679

You know how you know that isn't true? There are no trans men in positions of power.

Anonymous 45688


I want to grow a cock & balls but stay looking as a girl. I love the idea of impregnating my enemy.

Anonymous 45690

Hanfu was when China was at its apex. Must be nostalgia of the Han Empire which was much better than the current dictatorshit. They had the best prince boys, these guys need a world wide comeback nothing even comes close non-balding cute moids should use this aesthetic to its full potential since to me its a 10/10 type of beauty. Nobody else will give you more beautiful children than them, the angel face is what matters the most in this world.


The strength of men scares me Anonymous 31526[Reply]

I am a caddy for my part time job (best job for an unskilled highschooler or university student btw). There is this cute guy there I have a crush on, but he seems quite shy and just likes to read his book while waiting for a golfer. The few times we’ve talked he seems quite pleasant.

I’ve always known men were stronger than us, but it’s another thing to see it in person. I’ve noticed that when he caddies, he carries the entire golf bag with one arm by the handle up and out to his side, kind of like the pose when flexing your bicep, and he fucking SPRINTS with it. He runs ahead on each hole to see where the ball lands, and he runs significantly faster than the golf carts.

He doesn’t even look like some sort of muscle beast from /fit/. He’s just a tall, thin, toned guy who might lift a few times a week. He could probably kill me with a single punch, and then follow up with 80 more without running out of breath. I would probably have a panic attack if we got in an argument and he got angry and started shouting. I don’t even know how you could have an equal relationship with someone when the difference in power is so immense. They say it’s borderline rape when a CEO fucks an intern due to the difference in power, but what about physical power?

I was already a little afraid of men’s predatory instincts and behavior, but to see it reinforced that whenever I’m around men I’m only alive because they permit it freaks me out. How do you cope with this?
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Anonymous 45628

I mean it might not be sexual but I can still imagine a few girls would call sexual assault. So the refs bring in rules where guys can touch a girls "private areas"

If that's not the case though, why do girls do well in wrestling, but get destroyed in everything else?

Anonymous 45636

No one was allowed to do whatever they pleased, sure women had duties so they couldn't just take off but they were not forced to marry unless by their parents. Who's parents don't force their children to do things against their will?
Men had to serve 10 and then later on 20 years in the Roman army, everyone had duties so they couldn't just take off. Women weren't forced to labour any more than men were, in fact it's easier to argue the other way around.

It's easier when the sexual dimorphism has yet to mature. The boys at that age have yet to put on the strength and weight they'll get from 16-22. Please do not encourage women towards thinking they can beat any guys ass if they train hard enough, you're endangering women.

Anonymous 45657

You can't call assault in a sparring match cmon. That would be like complaining that you got punched in a boxing match. If someone did that they'd be laughed out of the gym.

As for girls doing better in wrestling than in other combat sports, Ive never heard about it, wrestling isnt much of a thing here so I dont know about it. As a general rule grappling sports are better for women since most women cant strike as hard as men, but they can learn grappling technique just as easily, which is surprisingly not THAT dependent on your strength. Also if women have a lot more success in wrestling than other sports Id be willing to bet its mainly because more resources are poured into wrestling for women and more girls are encouraged to do it than other sports. Part of the reason men do so much better in contact sports than women is that there are a lot more resources poured into mens sports and a lot more guys practice them than women.

Anonymous 45674

Anon i don't know about you but i would rather be forced to work like 99% of people already are or even be forced into a career than be forced to marry, be raped, birth as many children as possible and still work just as much at home.

Anonymous 45681

Even as a man you'd have been forced to marry anyways, the groom is as much a victim of being in other people's control as the bride is. Regardless of gender people were forced to labour and marriage, main difference is men carried the burden of warfare while women dealt with childbirth. This obviously lead to women staying at home, but also because of a lack of tampons, and birth control pills.

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