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Never been attracted to a man irl Anonymous 78676[Reply]

Does any other anon have this problem? I have never found a single guy I met irl attractive, they're almost all super repulsive to me.
Even the guys I was involved with romantically were only ok in my book and it was their personality that drew me in but I don't want to tolerate that anymore. The only men I'm attracted to are bishies and pretty boy models with soft features and nice hair. Some actors too before they start looking like gremlins from all the coke (pic rel).
Meanwhile even if I do find a guy with a pretty face he's ALWAYS fucking balding and I can't deal with that, it's like a goddamn curse. I remember the last guy I was with and even before things got bad I was still dissatisfied because he didn't visually live up to my expectations and it felt awful. Seeing ugly men makes me angry, opening a dating app never ceases to make me seethe. And when I see ugly moids with decent/good looking girlfriends? The rage which falls on me is indescribable.
How do I cope with that? besides looking at plastic kpop boys and cute models
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Anonymous 78956

>>78937
You want only what you can’t have, lol?

Anonymous 78958

>>78945
You’re missing the point.

Anonymous 78991

>>78956
Maybe? Idk it’s like they’re cute and everything but then they show their animalistic urges by wanting me and see them for what they are. Disgusting apes with monkey fuck brains

Anonymous 79419

>>78948
>subhuman genetics
so 80% of moids, nona?

Anonymous 79426

>>79419
Closer to 95% but you get the point. The average male is irrelevant when it comes to beauty.



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On living together pre-marriage Anonymous 74733[Reply]

Why do so many women nowadays agree to live with their boyfriend before getting married? This post isn't as much directed at those with no interest in marriage, but particularly girls who move in with a moid hoping he'll propose later. Still, I've met women who previously didn't care about marriage, but wanted it later when it became embarrassing to still be "the girlfriend" after buying a house together and even having kids.

Living unmarried with a moid only ever benefits him and never the woman - and they know it. I think women are selling themselves short when they agree to such an arrangement. Literally the reason he hasn't popped the question is because he thinks (consciously or not) that he can still do better, and is keeping you around for easy companionship until he meets someone else he wants to commit to. If a man wants to marry you, YOU WILL KNOW IT, he will not string you along with a carrot on a stick for years.

Throughout my dating life, I weeded out SO many dudes when I told them I refused to live together premarriage. They didn't like it? They fucked off and didn't waste my time. When I started dating my now-husband, I again made my intentions clear. He was totally fine with it, and proposed after a year and a half. He's amazing and treats me like gold.

A friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend for his commitment issues. The guy moved across the fucking country to live with her. They had a 3-year relationship, yet he somehow couldn't even DISCUSS marriage, saying it made him uncomfortable. Turns out he didn't actually see her as wife material and just didn't want to be alone. I have another friend who has had at least 3 live-in boyfriends and wonders why she's still unmarried in her mid-30s.

I've only had ONE friend who lived with her boyfriend and ended up marrying him. The rest were unhappy, broken up, or in a constant state of waiting. Men already hold this shitty "power" over us by being the expected gender to propose. Why give them more power by agreeing to live with them first? If money is an issue, just get a roommate, it's more worth it than the hell of not feeling good enough.
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Anonymous 79799

>>79798
It should be noted I am not advocating for just jumping into a marriage with any random moid. My one and only point is that any who says "Cohabitation prepares you for marriage" are backed by zero empirical evidence in the long term.

Anonymous 79823

>>79798
>Institute for Family Studies
Keep in mind this site has a clear right wing bias for promoting "traditional" households and has been known to push studies with faulty methodologies. I would be skeptical that this site gives you a very clear picture of the literature.

Anonymous 79953

How else are you going to know if they're a man-child at home? You don't truly know someone until you live with them and by marriage it will be too late.

Anonymous 80054

>>79953
Right? I can't imagine marrying someone before ever sleeping with them, without seeing what it's like to live with them, or meeting their family. I want to be comfortable with all of those things for at least a year before I'd even think about accepting a proposal.

Anonymous 80068

>>74733
This post is completely nonsensical since marriage only benefits men and is a stupid thing to do.



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Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability Anonymous 34633[Reply]

Part vent, part desperate plea for help…

My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)

I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.

I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.

And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.

Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
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Anonymous 79368

>>79331
How are you doing, OP? Did you husband ever take up that part time job?

Anonymous 79817

>>79368
I'm doing okay, thanks for asking. He hasn't gotten a job yet but he's making some side money with investments, and we finish the last payment on the old apartment next month so my paycheck will go further. Things have been stressful at home because of his grandma's illness and on top of that the family pet is hospitalized and dying. So I haven't been pushing it but I guess I should. Despite the stress things are kind of comfy. Idk maybe I'm just deluding myself. I'll try bringing up work again this weekend.

Anonymous 80046

You need to VENT. You need to YELL at him, give him a good SLAP and tell him the truth about him. You need to tell him that there are many many men who don't go so far into cleaning, that 99% of men would not order you to take a shower after taking out the trash, and that yet YOU are the one who has been doing 99% of the job in this relationship even though YOU are the one with very low standards (clearly, sorry). You need to tell him that YOU are the one who keeps trying to get out of this horrible situation and that every time you let him a chance, he wasted it despite begging you every time to come back. You need to tell him that either he should show you he actually wants you in his life, or he doesn't get to have you.

Anonymous 80047

or simply STOP. You want to stay with him but you don't want to have a shitty life with him? stop letting him make the rules. why should you obey to him despite being the one who holds most of the responsibilities ? MAKE THE RULES. MAKE. THE. GODDAMN. RULES. IN THIS HOUSE.

Anonymous 80051

>>80047
Lmao. You've lost your mind if you think the woman makes a single rule in the house. I genuinely can't tell if this entire board is bait or not.



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/tfw no bf/ - general Anonymous 71974[Reply]

Can we have a no bf feels thread? I'm tired of pretending to be single and happy. I want a man, dammit.
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Anonymous 79708

>>79612
>we'll never find a guy like leon
it hurts

Anonymous 79709

>>79612
Step 1: be extremely attractive and work at Abercrombie, modeling etc
Step 2: See step 1

Anonymous 79710

>>79504
>leaving an email in the field
I saw that thread too. Did it work?

Anonymous 79715

>>79710
Which thread?

Anonymous 79956

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Nostalgia General Anonymous 79857[Reply]

What eras and aesthetics make you feel like you're in your happy place? Recently I'm missing the pastel goth and vaporwave era of tumblr.
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Anonymous 80012

Late night lofi vaporwave

Anonymous 80013

V best of mallsoft

Anonymous 80015


Anonymous 80025

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Pixel art dolls in the style of picrel. I used to make alot of animations of them in Animation Shop 3, back in the day.

Anonymous 80043

I was struggling to sleep, having anxiety crisis cause I was working in a shitty job and treated very poorly by my mother, then decided to see something on youtube and it recomended me this. Since then vaporwave had been a healing to my soul, it calms me down in a way I can't explain



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Advice and Support General Thread! Anonymous 68781[Reply]

Come here, wayward souls, for any matter big and small. Insight to comfort can be found here for your issues or conundrums.
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Anonymous 79519

>>79511
I don't want to cast aspersions on your mother, but I would strongly advise completely removing any parental involvement in… well, anything. Even if she hasn't done anything malicious, purely anecdotally, my own mum likes to use my name and date of birth for about 98% of her passwords so I think it's fair to say our parent's generation might not be the most cyber security conscious.

Anonymous 79521

>>79471
I mean OK but that doesn't really tell me how to stop feeling this way

Anonymous 79548

>>79511
if he's older i wouldnt be surprised if the answers to all his questions are somewhere on his facebook if he has one

Anonymous 79744

>>79480

I got my money back! Woo-hoo!
It was relatively fast. Even though they seemed pretty unhelpful over the phone (I had multiple people pick up on me that kept telling me conflicting information), they were surprisingly helpful at the actual branch. I'll still be switching banks though, because the lack of communication in alerting me before the transaction went through is unacceptable.

>>79511
Yeah, he is pretty technologically illiterate so I wouldn't be surprised.

Anonymous 80027

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Want a reality check. How dumb is it to buy from wholesalers and resell things?

I've had 100s of sales with everyone rating me 5/5 but I still kind of feel like a failure because most of what I sold was what I already have and I'm running out. I've made back money on everything I bought for the store tho I don't really know if I should start buying a lot more and testing the market. Or, if it's a "everyone wants to do this, therefore, it's a waste of time" thing. I'm probably going to spend some time researching different markets in any case.

I otherwise really like selling stuff so I don't want to throw in the towel.



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Coworker Hate Thread Anonymous 79948[Reply]

Vent about your annoying coworkers. I'll start:
>constantly sniffles and doesn't blow her nose
>when she answers the phone, her speaking voice becomes a yelling voice for literally no reason and i can hear her from across the office
>answers the phone by my desk one day, and i had to stop myself from covering my ears in front of her because she was yelling so loudly.
Fucking why.

Anonymous 80024

i had the most annoying coworker at my last job.
>approaching his 30s
>atheist
>redditor
>constantly sperging about why god isn’t real
>triple vaxxed and boosted
>constantly whining about capitalism and how he’s being exploited by having to work at a sandwich shop
>calls dogs “doggos” and says “heckin’”
>would wear a mask but keep it below his nose or lower it to talk, which i thought was funny because according to him he was “super scared of covid”
he threw cheese at me and would always show me “cute doggos” while i was trying to work. glad i only worked there for a month because i wanted to tell him off so bad.



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tips on making online friends? Anonymous 79856[Reply]

How exactly do you make friends online nonas? I have no friends irl and it's driving me crazy recently. I never really cared about that but suddenly I'm tired of being alone. I don't really know how to start a friendship since getting to know people irl is quite hard for me so I decided to start online, since I spend a lot of time on the internet. Any tips? I don't really use social media, which one is best for making friends/interacting with people?
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Anonymous 79939

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>>79907
I guess mostly just jokes or if i post my thoughts or things about my life I try to present it in a humorous way so it's not so boring, like you said. Though I have tons of mutuals who just post mundane stuff like "eating oatmeal" and still get likes lol. Posting makes me anxious sometimes too and I delete stuff if I feel ignored or embarrassed, but unless you're like a porn blog being creepy under people's posts I don't see why anyone would make fun of you unprovoked.
>>And then when I do see people blog post on twitter/tumblr they already have a lot of followers and a group of people who interact with their every post which I obviously don't have
Nona that's not hard to get at all! ^^ If you follow people you share similar interests with and reblog/post about that, I don't see why they wouldn't follow you back. I think posting your art is a great start, do you post fanart too? Imo thats a good way to make your art and blog gain some traction if you put it in the fandoms tags.
Don't worry, It took me a while to get followers and make friends too. And maybe I was lucky that they dmed me first, but if you wanna befriend someone and feel too shy to interact directly you could try sending her an anon ask! Not everyone online has a huge friend group, a ton of people are lonely and want to make friends too<3

Anonymous 79967

>>79939
Thank you so much anon, bless you

Anonymous 79971

>>79939
and for those of us that don't have accounts, or followers, or any of that? what do we do?

Anonymous 79978

>>79971
You make one, thats how you connect with people

Anonymous 79991




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Suicide Support Thread Anonymous 79315[Reply]

Post in this thread if you're thinking about suicide and would like some non-judgemental love and support.

CC is always here to listen to anything on your mind.

You are important to us and we love you.
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Anonymous 79866

>>79862
I do have hobbies and projects i wanted to do, but i’m too miserable to enjoy any of it. I tried so hard for 3 years to do something about it but my mental state and current living situation is debilitating. I’m broken and i have suffered from familial narcissistic abuse and still do, Its really vicious and i can’t get on with life because narcissistic abuse especially from a caretaker makes you feel like an empty shell of your former self. My future prospects are looking very bleak, i might actually be in danger if my parents die and they are very old. I think i died a long time ago and its time for the flesh suit to follow suit. It’s just not for me, i don’t like this script. Yknow? Sometimes we can’t help ourselves and no one’s willing to provide us the help we need.

Anonymous 79934

>>79866
I'm sorry to hear that anon. I'm sure you've already considered these, but have you thought about reporting your abusers? Or working towards building up an online business so you can move out and hire carers? Or looking for government support?

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>>79315
Thank you for being my frens. I'm ugly and weird in real life so I don't have many friends and (obviously) never had a bf despite being in my late 20s. Online friends are the best because they tolerate my spergness and don't judge me.

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high body count rant Anonymous 78832[Reply]

My boyfriend of one year is really nice, i love him a lot and he loves me back. I really really like his personality but the thing i despise the most about him is his body count, i know it's unreasonable and mental to be upset about it but i feel like he's kind of choosing me out of no other choices.
it's not an astronomical number (5) but by how he told me his first time was i just felt disappointment and kind of disgusted.
I am an open person but i have the mentality of saving myself for the one i feel the most connected to so having a partner with that number feels wrong…

doesn't help that sometimes he says something that really icks me, the last time i saw him we where cuddling and talking about sex, and he said "yeah i miss it (fucking), can't wait to do it with you" at the time i brushed it off but now i keep thinking about it and i was thinking about talking with him about this thing he said…i might be exaggerating but i'm literally loosing sleep on this…
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Anonymous 79834

>>79829
You can't actually be this retarded.

Anonymous 79850

>>79834
I see a struck a weak spot, kek.

In any case, those anons seemed to simply leaning into the idea that forcing people to devalue sex, intimacy, etc., to comply to others' desires is, uh. Not good. And you coming in to frame them as literally just waiting until marriage, despite marriage not really being mentioned, is in line with what a lot of people trying to pressure others into putting out do; subtly tear down other people's boundaries based upon a hyperbolic strawman or deflections. Chances are, some of the women that'd comply to such a thing literally aren't waiting till marriage but don't want to feel obligated to put out on, idk…the third date. Or don't want to be subject to a guy that treats her body like a gas station drive-through–which was the primary topic.

So…don't be surprised if the word "fuckboy" is pinned to your argument style.

Anonymous 79851

>>79850
And let me add: after a while, most posts stopped being about "virgin", yet it being brought up again, like marriage, is more of a sign of this fuckboy-logic where the issue is one thing but it's bastardized into being some puritanical anality about someone requiring a literal virgin and marriage.

Anonymous 79935

>>79850
>>79851
They stopped being about that since now I'm talking to a different person. You may be reasonable, but they aren't.

Anonymous 79946

>>79935
You are the only unreasonable person. Pay attention, read.



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