smth smth relationships Anonymous 130847[Reply]
why are guys so indifferent and aloof? by that i mean, why do most guys not even try to put up a front that they care about what you’re saying?
im honestly so tired of the dudes who claim to “want an autistic girl” and shit, but then act completely uninterested when you want to ramble about your interests. i know this is a thing for a lot of ppl, not even just moids and you can’t force someone to be interested in what you say, but i just think it’s stupid when you’re actively trying to get into a relationship. personally for me, i’m schizoaffective, not autistic, but i tend to latch onto my interests and they consume most of my time.
im the kind of person who likes talking about random stuff, so the conversation doesn’t have to be centered around what i like, but why claim in the first place that you care when you really don’t? i know why, it’s just frustrating— especially when you have less typically “feminime” or cool interests. as a girl i feel like it’s only cool to guys if you like their shitty taste in music or you pretend to enjoy rlly niche films to put on your letterboxd. ik that sounds hateful, and i dont dislike anyone who genuinely enjoys that stuff, i just wish guys tried to be interested in what their gfs liked as well. it’s really easy for me to talk about it with girls, most of them care beyond having a specific self-serving reason to listen, and some nerdier guys as well. but 90% of men won’t even try, unless they can pivot the conversation to something sexual or about themselves. if anyone has experienced the same or has advice, pls lmk. i enjoy reading replies anyways.
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They don’t like autistic girls because of their neurodivergence, but because they perceive them as naïve. They can’t maintain relationships with neurotypical women because they miss social expectations that have nothing to do with neurodivergence and everything to do with being poorly raised, emotionally immature, and unwilling to take responsibility for being a decent person. So they prey on you instead, hoping you’ll be gullible enough to take on all the domestic and emotional labor while they ignore you until they want sex. In their ideal setup, you stay occupied with your hobbies, ask for very little, and only exist when it’s convenient for them.
Anonymous 131437
>>130870Assuming the worst about people's intentions and reasons is why people become miserable like this. People generally want "autistic" people to date, simply because they want someone passionate with hobbies who aren't normies. That's it. Making up evil or insecure reasons for others actions just isolates you more.
Anonymous 131439
>>131437Without love, it cannot be seen…
But to be fair this is still a pretty retarded(superficial) reason to want someone autistic.
Anonymous 131441
>>131439Slightly autistic people are simply easier to love.
If they were the type of autistic that snapped at everyone because they were over stimulated it would be a different story.
Anonymous 131442
>>131441Liking someone for “not being a normie” and “having special interests” is not liking them for their autism. It may sound better than the previous example, however it’s still just as superficial - only the image of autism.
If you are autistic yourself, if you had a lot of close experience with autistic people (and so learning to accept them, as you would do with any other person) and just get along with them better, now this is the type of reason that has meaning. You may actually love the person themselves.
“Slightly autistic”. “Easier to love”. A childish idea.
