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i hate work i hate i hate work i hate work i hate work i Anonymous 130572[Reply]

>girlboss it in the trades nona! rosie the riveter, nona!
>lots of money there nona!
>learn skills nona!
>it's not like the old days anymore nona!
>you definitely won't end up face-down ass-up on a disgusting man's disgusting truck floor like the world's least expensive prostitute nona!
If there are any other nonas in trades here - how do you put up with this world???
i could rant for HOURS but basically while i actually enjoy fixing things and being active and i don't mind getting a bit greasy, i just cannot deal with the people in this business. 95% of guys in trades are literal stone age far-left-of-the-IQ-bell-curve cavemen who salivate at any useless shiny bauble that says "Milwaukee" or "Snap-On" on it and THROW their money at the salesman offering 50% interest financing plans, condemning themselves and the GFs and wives they often somehow have to a life of debt slavery
My sister is like "oh at least there are hot guys" lmao these guys inhale hot dogs and soda and "self-medicate" totally avoidable bad knees with weed and vape. The soundtrack to every day is my colleague's douchecore spotify algo playlist (literally Nickelback, late Eminem i.e. "Ass Like That" and Thong Song and Kid Rock). Not attractive
The couple (literally 2) cute and possibly interesting boys I've met in this business have been taken and too painfully shy/awkward to get to know well respectively
Everything is filthy and disorganized and if you try to be a bit more orderly and organized yourself, apparently that makes you a princess
the vehicles are all disgusting because apparently guys who drive them all have no self-respect
I feel like my friends are slipping away because we can't relate to one another's daily lives and when I get home I just feel exhausted and like time is passing with no way to differentiate one day, week, month from another
Anyway that's all, just getting older with a wrench in my hand and my ass in the air and my face in the dirt

Anonymous 130604

I did a bit of tradie type work for a little while and it inspired me to go back to college. The work itself wasn't bad but I can't stand the type of people who do manual labor. They are all egotists and/or have huge chips on their shoulders. Tons of low iq out of shape people who are always trying to posit themselves as better then someone else and put each other down. That, or they're drug addicts, or maybe both. I knew that if I had to spend 40+ hours a week around these people for the rest of my life I would eventually snap and shoot up my workplace. I feel genuine sympathy for any intelligent decent person who just likes carpentry or whatever and has to deal with this all the time.

Anonymous 130861

>>130604
I live in a nice area and a manual labor guy helped me jumpstart my car I wish I bought him a coffee or something

Anonymous 130862

>>130861
Im gonna think about my mishap here the rest of my life

Anonymous 130955

>>130572
no advice but I just want to say I read your post and I want to say I feel for you. I wish I could give you a hug. <3 maybe you could try talking to that shy guy again? in my experience, they say they really like being talked to but can't express it in the moment.


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¿What can I do if I'm in love with my proffesor? Anonymous 130854[Reply]

First I need to clarify that I'm already eighteen, and that I'm not stupid enough to try anything (I don't want advice to flirt with a middle aged man who is starting to bald a little)
I don't want anything to happen. Even though I feel attracted towards him in a way that I have never felt towards any other man, I know that: A)I don't want to get raped. B)he won't notice me (if he's not a fucking pervert).
But I just NEED to hear it from someone who has been through the same situation. He's kind, walks around with his dog, is confident and well-spoken. GOD I have written a shit ton of poems for this guy.

He doesn't seem to be married or in a relationship, but in some ways, I feel like it's weird how his entire body language shifts when he's talking to a girl (am I going crazy?)
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Anonymous 130895

>>130893
Expired moids is all you can get as a sub5

Anonymous 130897

>>130887
So you only tolerate men when they’re approaching the male pattern baldness stage of life? Interesting.

Anonymous 130898

>>130895
You still did not explain why you consider late 20's and early 30's moids "ancient."

Anonymous 130899

>>130897
That's what you get for picking moids with shitty genes. Do you go for moids with autism, too? Would probably more matched for a shotafucker because spergs have the mentality of a child.

Anonymous 130912

I'm a little tired of repeating myself, but I really want to clarify (once more) that I don't want anything to happen between me and him.
CAN SOMEONE TELL ME HOW DO I MAKE THESE FEELINGS GO AWAY INSTEAD OF FIGHTING EACHOTHER?!


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smth smth relationships Anonymous 130847[Reply]

why are guys so indifferent and aloof? by that i mean, why do most guys not even try to put up a front that they care about what you’re saying?

im honestly so tired of the dudes who claim to “want an autistic girl” and shit, but then act completely uninterested when you want to ramble about your interests. i know this is a thing for a lot of ppl, not even just moids and you can’t force someone to be interested in what you say, but i just think it’s stupid when you’re actively trying to get into a relationship. personally for me, i’m schizoaffective, not autistic, but i tend to latch onto my interests and they consume most of my time.

im the kind of person who likes talking about random stuff, so the conversation doesn’t have to be centered around what i like, but why claim in the first place that you care when you really don’t? i know why, it’s just frustrating— especially when you have less typically “feminime” or cool interests. as a girl i feel like it’s only cool to guys if you like their shitty taste in music or you pretend to enjoy rlly niche films to put on your letterboxd. ik that sounds hateful, and i dont dislike anyone who genuinely enjoys that stuff, i just wish guys tried to be interested in what their gfs liked as well. it’s really easy for me to talk about it with girls, most of them care beyond having a specific self-serving reason to listen, and some nerdier guys as well. but 90% of men won’t even try, unless they can pivot the conversation to something sexual or about themselves. if anyone has experienced the same or has advice, pls lmk. i enjoy reading replies anyways.
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Anonymous 130849

>i just wish guys tried to be interested in what their gfs liked as well.
I honestly write a lot and even show it to my bf but he doesn't care to read it and then complains that I don't tell him much… but tbh I cannot express myself irl quite the same as I do on paper… but he doesn't want to read…

Anonymous 130850

>>130847
honestly I got bored halfway through this boring ass rambling post so i can't blame other guys for tuning out when you speak

Anonymous 130851

>>130848
awesome!!!! ive been sorta inactive on here for finals but i saw your thread literally today while i was making this, haha. super cool to see another schizo, i dont see many ppl talking about their experiences on the schizo / psychotic spec!

also yea, even though it’s a slop pov video made for engagement, she’s just borderline ageplaying and nobody in the comments is saying anything 💔

my interests r pretty underwhelming; mostly into transformers, modding and emulating, newgrounds and old Internet forums/sites, and im trying to look into linux… one of my friends has been encouraging me to make the switch but i honestly dont know too much about it rn. there’s plenty of other girls in all of these but my point still stands!!

Anonymous 130852

>>130851
Oh that's cool I also made one mod too. What ws your mod like? I want to study this stuff a bit further because I simply enjoy learning and this relaxes me. Anyways nice to meet you nona

Anonymous 130870

They don’t like autistic girls because of their neurodivergence, but because they perceive them as naïve. They can’t maintain relationships with neurotypical women because they miss social expectations that have nothing to do with neurodivergence and everything to do with being poorly raised, emotionally immature, and unwilling to take responsibility for being a decent person. So they prey on you instead, hoping you’ll be gullible enough to take on all the domestic and emotional labor while they ignore you until they want sex. In their ideal setup, you stay occupied with your hobbies, ask for very little, and only exist when it’s convenient for them.


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Anonymous 130074[Reply]

I am a schizoid woman. I spend most of my time thinking about nebulous stuff in my head and doing solitary activities such as diy stuff, tinkering with computers, trying to make various stuff and all. I do not enjoy talking to other people unless they’re invested in my interests. Usually if I speak with someone I just wait for the conversation to end and for them to go away. I have little clue as to why other people are entertained by what they are. I prefer interactions where I don’t need to adapt to the other persons sense of normal. That’s why I dislike groups and often end up antagonistic towards them unless I have a big presence. I don’t have strong attachments.

That is just who I am.
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Anonymous 130752

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Ok here’s the last one
Someone offered to compare us to ow character and here’s mine
I wanted to post this
> You're Sigma, or Sybren de Kuiper. A self-absorbed old man with bare feet. Totally insane. One day, your life's work drove you mad, and music became a permanent fixture in your once-clear head. It might sound creepy, but madness actually suits you. A rather aloof character, it seems he can only truly feel at ease when alone, which, I think, resonates with you. You're comfortable in your own world, pieced together bit by bit, often excluding any unnecessary connections. I think you're a thoughtful and engaging conversationalist, but you have issues that prevent you from opening up to people. But the question is, do you really want to?

Anonymous 130786

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Interesting. I remember being an extroverted, lively, and talkative child, good-humored and sociable, but very naive and easily impressed. I remember being constantly reprimanded by the adults around me, especially my mother and teachers; the other children and teenagers around me were also awful. Because of this, I became increasingly withdrawn, preferring solitary activities similar to those I was interested in. Due to this, over the years I simply lost the habit of interacting with the people around me, I just remain silent, I arrive at places without speaking to anyone, and I've reached a point in my life where I simply don't miss it. I only have my fiancé as a friend, and my younger brother, as he's immediate family. I wonder if I might really have some kind of disorder or condition, or if being completely solitary and unsociable was just a habit I acquired throughout my life.

Anonymous 130787

>>130786
A disorder is really about a state where a person is distressed by their condition. The personality disorders don’t exist physically in your brain as a unit, a schizoid or a borderline does not exist, it’s just a loose group of phenotypes, that are usually pretty idiosyncratic.

Um, what’s my point… I think we’re both the same. And whether we’re disordered by the DSM or not, that may be beside the point. My goal in this thread was to share my experience of what it is like to be me and how I came to be. Do I have a disorder? I don’t know. But I had serious issues with functioning. I know my environment caused this in some way. I still don’t know what I am, but I can describe the phenomenon of myself.

Um, thanks for replying. Sorry I just woke up so I may be incoherent

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Oops meant to say egosyntonic not idiosyncratic


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i think my ex is gonna take his life Anonymous 130574[Reply]

i am 20 he is 24 he wanted to break up with me yesterday and i agreed, he then switched up and wanted to get back together and has apologised. i have ignored because he has done this before and i am really worried because he tried to force himself into my house whilst i was sleeping but my mum came to the house and she told him politely to go away so he gave her gifts for me. i did not want to break up with him but he never listens to my boundaries and has done loads of things to break my trust like reaching out to his ex and although ive moved on from certain situations because i am forgiving i have overtime built up resentment against him which is why i agreed to him breaking up. he is extremely emotional and is manipulative/gaslights when he wants to get his own way but i checked his twitter today and he has posted self harm on my tattoo i made of him and all over his arm and he has told me if i broke up with him he woudl take his life and so i am really worried because i still love him but he is destroying me mentally and draining me, the reasonwhy i didnt want to see him is because last time he flipped out he came tomy house and took this £600 mirror we both paid for but it was partially a gift to me and i took it badly as i wanted that mirror for over a year i am so worried for his wellbeing because recently he has completely changed his mentality and i am scared i told him i am worried to see him because i am scared he is going to harm me because he told memany times he could kill me and i believe him because he shares the same mentality of someone that would kill a girl because the girl has broken up with him and i love him a lot so sorry if i am not typing normally i am just really worried for him and for me too and im scared hes going to take his life wether intentional or not because he has done heroinin the past to try and kill himself im so fucking worried man
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Anonymous 130578

>>130576
he is basically your wartime enemy with how much he hurts you, so him dying should be a good thing

I mean he's just exploiting you fuck that guy

Anonymous 130580

Post hands, this whole message is so tranny-coded

Anonymous 130688

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely not your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats just a manipulation tactic. he has hurt you before and he will hurt you again when he has the chance. fuck this guy.

Anonymous 130696

>>130574
his life and deaths are absolutely your responsibility. if he threatens suicide, thats a genuine cry for help. he has hurt you before but he definitely will not hurt you again when he has the chance. save this guy.

Anonymous 130712

>>130696
What the fuck are you talking about. This faggot moid needs to get over himself and stop manipulating this poor girl. Did you not read the part where he threatened to kill her before? Handmaids like you should stay quiet.

>>130574
Any updates?


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I hate how invasive troons are. Anonymous 129459[Reply]

A few days ago I was contacted by a troon asking to be friends, I thought it was okay since I don't have any female friends.
I talked to him for a while until he asked me to do VC, his voice was that of an effeminate man.
The worst part is that I can't even stop talking to him or ghosting him because he could expose me as "transphobic".
I feel stupid for not noticing it sooner; it was so obvious. He was acting very "feminine" in a forced and performative.
If I don't answer he starts spamming me, also he asked me if he could do "yuri" with my character and his (I'm an artist btw).
I have to live with this torture if I want to live, I hate modern society.
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Anonymous 129489

Just stop talking, if they or others whine then you can tell them you're not comfortable with the things theyre saying and leave it at that. Don't let others run your life for you, spend time with people that add to your life and want to be around

Anonymous 129519

>>129459
Just admit that you don't want anything to do with them and who are if they use a word against you?
They want to gain power over you, you don't have to respect them.

Anonymous 130624

>>129519
last year my gay dorm RA tried to stay in my bedroom while I changed tops because he's gay and that apparently makes it ok
i got really anxious because i'm socially awkward and it was really hard to get him to leave in a way that sounded like friendly banter and not like i was extremely uncomfortable because literally all my friends and everyone around thinks he's a great guy, and i didn't want to seem homophobic or make things awkward
so, i think i can understand where OP is coming from here, if this person actually can create social consequences for her

Anonymous 130649

>>130624
Is this an NA thing? In my region gay men never stay in the room when you are changing even women leave, what in the lack of privacy you all have going on?? Your nakedness is your own to share with who you choose. It is one thing if you are in an area where nudity is common, we do have such areas but seriously??? In YOUR bedroom??? Know your rights. You have the right to personal space it is in UN rights of a child and an adult. You also have the right to have relationships or the lack thereof. Don't be letting people talk you out of your rights as a human or call you evil for exercising them.

Anonymous 130653

>>130649
same poster as
>>130624
it's a virtue signaling thing, i think anyway, at its root, maybe the influence of social media and tv as well, the idea that girls and gay guys are on the same team or smth and that they're automatically good people because of oppression
for example, the girls' bathroom on my dorm floor was literally declared "girls and gays" in the first week of first semester, they even put up a sign on the door lol
and kept letting the guys use it even after the two gay guys on our floor continually left the toilet seat up, left pubic hair on the seat and even left the toilet unflushed a few times, and left the sinks a mess, and that's not to mention the shower situation
obviously i wasn't comfortable at all and i started showering at like 5 am to be as sure as possible there wouldn't be guys in there. at least there were no trannies, thank god
and i think girls (like me) who are actually made really uncomfortable with gay men overstepping boundaries still cooperate because of social pressure. i'd love to say that i stood up for myself and said something, but if i had that kind of self-confidence i probably wouldn't be posting on crystal cafe


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Long Distance Relationships Anonymous 44204[Reply]

Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.
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Anonymous 121925

I see my post about him from a long time ago was deleted. Much to think about.

Anonymous 127271

I know this thread is pretty dead but has anyone gone through the CR1 process without a lawyer? I'm worried my fiance is about to piss away thousands on something we can file for ourselves.

Anonymous 127299

>>127271
post on reddit maybe?

Anonymous 130271

You didn't have to bring them back. Hashtagfail for me but I know they lurk so I can't say which but don't listen to some of these.

Anonymous 130650

I think I am finally at the age where my brain cannot put up with LDRs anymore. I was reading a dating advice book because I saw an excerpt I found interesting and I saw in the text the exact same reason why my mind cannot stand it anymore. I am kind of annoyed about it because it used to work so well for me. At least this realisation came after the break up and during the time of peace while single. Men in close distance to me are not people I want to date so I guess it is single from here on out. I guess I can try an hour or two out but I cannot be bothered. Plus the odds of finding someone who isn't embarassing in someway lookswise UGH. Well, it is what it is. Had a good time in my dating life.


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bf didn’t follow the three month rule Anonymous 127558[Reply]

i was proposed to but there are a lot of red flags and i’m really having some doubts. for starters it was an impulse proposal and i wouldn’t have wanted my engagement photos where i was dressed the way i was. he let me leave the house looking like absolute shit and only posted the ugliest photo. the other photos i don’t have a double chin. other girls have best friends that take them to do nails and secretly get them ready. a female friend was there and knew and didn’t do anything to help me with my appearance beforehand. he bought the rings there. i don’t know if he thinks i’m fat but my ring is sized so poorly i can’t wear it and we’ve been turned down so far at the shops we’ve taken the rings to because they don’t work with cheap metal or rings they didn’t sell there. like it’s not a size too big it’s dangling off my finger and i have no idea why he thought my finger would be so huge it makes me want to cry. my friends are all furious for me. he doesn’t make that much money it’s true but he could have gotten me a real ring. and then i came home. and i found out his ex got proposed to the same day. the same. day. and she had been aware of it and had a spa day with her friends and a gorgeous engagement shoot and party with loved ones. and it’s not even her real engagement party. hes talking about whether or not i think she’ll send him the announcement “to rub it in”. they have mutual friends and i can’t help wonder if my engagement was a last minute response to her engagement so he could post ours first? she had a professional photographer and mailed out announcements before she posted online about it. my engagement photo shoot was also an impulse - we were on a walk with a friend and he snapped some pictures and we called it an engagement shoot. my ex had been talking about his exes prissy snobby etc engagement and i think our friend felt bad for me. since then, he’s disappeared inside himself. he’s on the computer all day. he wouldn’t even pay attention to me right after at my dads birthday party, just sat in a lawn chair in his stupid yellow shirt drinking beer after beer scrolling on his phone occasionally hiding his phone screen trying not to make eye contact with me. we had a talk about it and i said i wasn’t insecure and my friends have been supportive and game with me when he won’t. he got jealous and has been making an effort to join in now and NOW he has a problem with screen time and wants to go out. to places he used to go with his ex or placePost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 127768

>>127732
you need to gtfo NOW. i don't want to learn your name from a true crime podcast. nothing you have said about him makes him sound like he is remotely safe to be around, especially not now. you should tell his exes mum to buy a gun, too.

Anonymous 127769

>>127733
>>127740
>>127768
everything in this entire relationship was about her. she called him out and they had a friend group destroying fall out as a break up. he was alone for years. she mocked him when he bugged her. he suddenly gets inspired to get the exact job, move out, get a girlfriend, try and change his facial hair, fix everything she mocked him for and he even told me he had her to thank for his self improvement. i thought lucky me he grew. until i found out what he’s really like and that he’s still stalking and obsessed with her. i found out he has weird private messaging apps he deletes and puts back on his phone. i can’t get past the password. i think he uses it to spoof a number so he can text her even when he’s blocked or something. i found out so many things we did together were about her - she made fun of him for a certain unromantic date he took another girl on and be posted pictures of me on the same date and talked the entire time about how she wouldn’t like it but i’m okay with it. he said something similar about my own proposal. they had a niche motif throughout their entire relationship he’s suddenly made ours about. as she’s getting married with the same theme. only her wedding is a fucking destination wedding. i wouldn’t be surprised if when i walk out he finds someone else and in half a year i’ll see he did this same wedding with someone he views as interchangeable just to try and make people compare it the one woman who was apparently one of a kind to him. i think he’s going to try and get her to stop the wedding. i wish she didn’t have me blocked and i could talk to her. i don’t know how to find her like he does. i’m going to look over his shoulder more and hopefully i’ll catch a glimpse of something on one of his apps that will help me locate her. i have a feeling i don’t even know the half of it and talking to her while reveal how fake this entire thing has been. we also got engaged after barely knowing each other. a year and a half when his ex took 5-6 years of dating her husband is crazy. i had a sinking feeling when it happened when we were on such bad terms and the only thing that saved our relationship was planning the trip he proposed on. on a walkway nPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 127773

>>127769
after a certain point of having so little in my relationship to talk about i started making content about how we eat different foods from each other even though we both have ARFID because there was literally nothing else in our relationship to make content about, including both of us gaming but none of that ending up as usable content because of his personality. maybe i deserve an affair where it feels like there’s blood in my veins again. the sitting around watching a man unable to eat vegetables rotate through the same five junk food meals that make his cum taste like battery acid has me thinking maybe there is more to life than meal prepping for a 30 year old toddler and watching him fart and disassociate staring at a screen.

Anonymous 127942

>>127773
What the fuck do you mean an affair. Run away ASAP nona, nothing will fix him. It will only get worse, get out before it's too late.

Anonymous 130648

HERE LIES NONA
???? - 2026
she died as she lived; in a relationship with an awful man


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Anonymous 130046[Reply]

Why should I have to settle for an ugly man just because I'm an ugly woman? I hate ugly men.

Men can impregnate multiple women at once so all women should just be able to share the few actual good looking men.
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Anonymous 130637

>>130636
I mean there’s Iceland that aborts every downie technically I guess

Anonymous 130638

>>130636
>>130633
What will socially outcasted ugly retards will know about muh eugenia. Focus on posting anime you wageslave faggot

Anonymous 130639

>>130638
Shouldn't you be getting mugged by children somewhere.

Anonymous 130640

>>130639
I'm sorry nona he is gone…

Anonymous 130641

I'm actually surprised how bad most of you are at recognizing posters


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Anonymous 130386[Reply]

Do you guys ever just stop mid goon to cry? Like seeing people have sex and wanna have sex with each other just makes me want the same thing so bad.
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Anonymous 130558

Consider that most moids want to abuse and degrade you in bed, what they're watching is far less wholesome than what you're watching

Anonymous 130560

>>130386
Just have sex with another girl.

Anonymous 130562

>>130391
what's the reason behind ur celibacy

Anonymous 130573

It takes active effort not to sit down and cry when I'm out and about and I see cute couples holding hands

Anonymous 130635

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i have a parasocial tendency to only be able to get off on people i have been connected to in my real life which i can't even tell if thats better or worse than just being a porn addict. when i do think of a real person i used to think i could have had a life with and i feel immensely guilty and upset. sometimes i cuck myself by letting my mind wander and think about how they have a partner that loves them and i'm not in the picture at all.


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