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College is an isolating experience Anonymous 132499[Reply]

college has been such an isolating experience for me, at the beginning i had a lot of friends because im naturally extroverted, i would talk to pretty much everyone, then i realized the same people i interacted with every day were talking shit behind my back, after that i just lost interest in being part of big groups, later i mostly hung out with two of my best friends, then i found out they were talking shit about me too, during all of this i kept trying to self reflect and figure out if i had done something that made people treat me like this, i genuinely couldnt find anything, i was always kind to them, i would help them however i could, even with my closest friends, i know i have flaws like everyone else but i honestly tried to be the best version of myself

then i had a guy friend catch feelings for me, i rejected him, after that things got even worse, now i basically have no real friends in college and every day just feels weird and isolating, im lonely most of the time, i feel like most of my class doesnt like me and it sucks because i havent done anything except be kind to people or stand up for myself when someone treated me badly, a big reason people dont like me is because the guy i rejected spread rumors about me and everyone just believed him because hes popular and basically a microcelebrity, then i found out some girl in my class was telling a guy that i wear makeup every day because i want attention and that im nothing without it, its just exhausting, it feels like no matter what i do people will come up with some reason to hate me, after a while you just stop wanting to bother with anyone, sorry if this sounds like im victimizing myself

Anonymous 132504

Join clubs! I went to the board game club and found friends there.
After 3 years I still talk to 0 people in my classes.

Anonymous 132506

>>132499
Go talk to that guy who had a crush on you. It's easy.

Anonymous 132507

>>132504
My college doesnt offer clubs except for singing and dancing, i dont reallly enjoy any of those :(



>>132506
he's a big time retard and wants to fuck me, i donot like him and i can bear his retarded personality he's all about flexing

Anonymous 132508

>>132504
>board game club
Fuuuuuuck no

Anonymous 132509

>>132499
So you expect me to believe there's some conspiracy to hate on you for no reason? I'm not that gullible. There's something you're not telling us


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are women meaner or nicer when you look good? Anonymous 131767[Reply]

Since I've moved to a big city I've had this problem where I'll be minding my business in a grocery store and some crackhead middleaged woman will try and start a fight with me. It happens a few times a year. I never instigate, I always keep to myself and stay far away from people. They'll throw insults usually, but last week a woman tried hitting me with her cart.

I always look like a bum when I go grocery shopping. My friend suggested I dress up when I shop so that these women will feel inferior and leave me the fuck alone. Does that work? I thought they'd get jealous and the opposite would happen.

Idk. Let me know what you guys have experienced.
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Anonymous 131807

You probably seem harmless and kind, and that type of thug really likes to hit on women. If you dress better, they might think you have more money and want to ask you for more things; the best thing to do is walk around with a serious face, homeless people and drug addicts like to intimidate people who seem excessively kind.

Anonymous 131809

>>131808
No milf for canadians

Anonymous 131826

>>131772
Nod and walk away.

Anonymous 132434

Update: maybe it hasn't been long enough to make a real observation. But it seems like people are ghetto around me and not toward me lmao. I also got a job. Have had zero crackhead encounters or middle aged women try and fight me. My theory is that I look rich enough to sue them.

Anonymous 132480

>>131767
ladies are nice to me because they can tell that i am kind of autistic by my penetrating brown-eyed gaze and don't feel threatened by me. i also have a baby-face.
in general, i think most people are nicer to you when you look better. in my country i have high trust features (i am pale) so that makes people trust me quickly and be nice to me.
i think you should fight those ladies back. show them how a real schizo fights.


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i am sad Anonymous 132452[Reply]

for whatever reason, i could not stop hurting myself and making bad choices since i was a teenager. always doing weed to try to fill the void of being alone. i never just slowed down or took a rational approach to fix the problem. like simply taking care of my body and working hard. instead i coasted by and am now haunted by regret. i hate feeling envious over people in a relationship. but its a constant dagger in my side everywhere i turn. i failed to do simple things that others can do without thinking. i am a loser lol. my brain is legit damaged with severe memory problems now because of escapism with some trash drug and i've been ready to rope because of that for a few years. my life is now 90% more dull than it already was, which was already bad to begin with. i try to ignore the hurt and embrace the absolute joke of a human i am. and i am sometimes okay at it by just stop caring/searching for stuff outside of myself and needing anything from the world. but every shitty music song practically is about love and i am always reminded that i am worthless and defunct. even with my dog who looks like the puppy in pic rel who is the best thing ever i still feel like i am not enough. but not only that, an existential curse of the feelings i have rid myself of. its this transcendental void that kills me inside. i can barely concentrate or do anything with my life because i just rot in a perpetual state of regret. but i try to not be so harsh on myself and dwell on the sad cloud that keeps following me everywhere i step. my mom tells me to move forward, but its so hard your entire life and mind has been irreversibly ruined. i need to let go of this negativity.

Anonymous 132453

>>132452
I feel like that when i run out of weed too.

Anonymous 132456

you can quit, I promise. it took mea really long time to taper down until I finally stopped but I successfully did and I feel like a different person now.

Anonymous 132457

>>132456
i stopped doing weed a while ago
but i am deeply destroyed on the inside there's no recovery
going to delete myself from the earth server eventually too much shit haunting me

Anonymous 132479

>>132452
I used to feel like this a lot of the time when I was younger. I'm not much older now, but somewhere between 22 and 23 my brain finished developing and I decided that suicide wasn't an option. That made me consider how everything else was possible. I had recently survived a suicide attempt around that time, too. I've also struggled with pill addiction, and I still will do most pills I get my hands on… I can tell you that the pain will stop, and not only when you die, but it can stop now while you are still alive. I tell you this because I was once you. I think I also got some slight brain damage from pills and I don't remember a lot of things. It's not too bad. Is your mom supportive of you?


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bf clothes smell like ferret Anonymous 131785[Reply]

i love my boyfriend desu
but clothes that hang up in his room smell like ammonia-y ferret droppings. not musky, like cat pee if it was even worse, and without actually coming in contact with the pee. he has to wash his clothes when he comes over. when i go over i have to keep my clothes shut in my zipped suitcase. my dumb ass just hasn't told him that i know the source of it
we're ldr and idk how to broach the topic that it is gonna be me or the ferrets if he wants me to move in with him. i have migraines and my ocd already makes me think i'm stinky
also it's bad for animal welfare i think
wtf i do
(i already am bitey when he doesnt do stuff to my standard in my home, he just says ok and does it tho)

Anonymous 131787

build a decontamination chamber in your house

Anonymous 131788

>>131787
do not worry
there will be no house if this is not dealt with somehow

Anonymous 132339

If they're not spayed and neutered, then doing so should help a lot. If they already are and they stink that much… they are susceptible to human illnesses; you could try to give them the flu.

Anonymous 132451

>>131785
kill yourself bf haver


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

Previous thread >>>/feels/115657
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Anonymous 131718

>>131717
Wym to gain status. You are assuming that. Status is definitely one of those things I don’t care for. I don’t like people glorifying and justifying the behaviors that had been harmful towards me.

Anonymous 131719

>>131718
1) tf is a vector?

2) what happened?

Anonymous 131720

>>131719
In computer security, an attack vector is a specific path, method, or scenario that can be exploited to break into an IT system, thus compromising its security.
In health and disease transmission, a vector is a living organism that carries and transmits an infectious pathogen to another living organism

Anonymous 131722

>>131720

So nona either broke security protocol or transmitted a disease by bullying someone?

Sounds retarded af

Anonymous 131887

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Why do you have to keep showing up in my dreams? Not only that, my subconscious humanizes in a way that isn't true to you, setting me up for disappointment again and again.
It's like I miss something that has never existed.


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Vent Thread Anonymous 132418[Reply]

I need some form of advice in this situation because its making me feel like i'm in a forever luteal mental state

I befriended this girl at work early last year and we got along really well. She was a bit shy and hard to talk to at the beginning but I saw a lot in her that I liked so I persevered in forming a friendship. As time went on we became really good friends and I thought she would have been a friend I would have for a long time. She hadn't really had much life experience but that wasn't an issue to me as I was more than happy to introduce her to my friends and guide the way and point her in a good direction as she isn't from my city.

I started to notice her saying weird things, villanising our other co workers, talking about the way her body looks which I would obviously be like oh don't be silly you're so pretty, not thinking much of it at the time.

I started dating my boyfriend a couple months after her and I started being friends and that hadn't changed anything at the time. She was very happy for me and all was well. A few months after that so around 8 months after her and I started becoming friends we decided to move in together.

The first month was great and there were no issues at all, the second month rolls around and at night when my boyfriend would stay over she would start slamming the doors and stomping around the house, I talked to her about it immediately but nothing changed snd she only did and does this when my boyfriend stays over. The first time this happened it marked the down hill spiral of this friendship.

I continued to be nothing but nice to her even though she was displaying really scary behaviours that to me are the most violent you can be without causing physical harm. I would continue to invite her to outings, share music and interests with her, invite her to hang out with my boyfriend and I, Cook her dinner occasionally.

Work changed for me, over time she would tell me all these "nasty things the girls were saying" which I later found out were not true and she had forged a story to stop me from finding out that she was complaining to them about me. saying that " I expected more from moving in with her, I expected to go out more"

She started to express extreme levels of jealousy that made my boyfriend and I feel guilty for being in a healthy relationship, we felt extremely policed, we were too scared to talk over a whisper at night not to upset her.
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Anonymous 132422

Socially isolated people are isolated unfairly and because of it they know no boundaries, social morality or other things that are a consequence of effective socialization.

Because of it, anyone who assumes the responsability of socializing with those people have the responsability since they are smarter socially to actually introduce them to proper social cues.

Such as properly stablishing boundaries.

This is awful to say, but if you are befriending someone who does not have much life experience, introduicng her to your friends and expectingh er to behave is too much.

Since there is a high probability she will not be socially capable.

The best you can do is treat her for what she deserves, and do the correct thing, put your boundaries.

It means basically learning to put your limits.

"Hey I think you do this and that" if she says that just treat her like you are teaching her boundaries.
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Anonymous 132426

>>132422

This is the issue I am facing, I am someone who is very clear about boundaries no matter the situation or person and I have nicely talked to her about the door slamming and stomping but that didn't change anything. The "fact my boyfriend and I are too loud" makes me feel like I can't have intercourse with my boyfriend when she is home because it will upset her.

She has never been in a relationship so any time any couple including myself and friends of mine are in her vicinity she will get really upset, leave, cry or yell at a family member on the phone about it. Its really uncomfortable and I don't know how to help, Ive been more than nice about it, Offering to help her get herself out there and take her out to pubs etc, being a wingwoman etc etc.

I digress, when I have very civil conversations with her about boundaries it will always go the same way, she will not be receptive of what I am saying and start telling me "you think I am a bitch, I am self centred, i'm a bad person, you hate me you hate me" and it becomes really hard to talk to her because she won't take accountability for anything. Last time we talked about something that was upsetting me this happened but then she said " but I let you have your boyfriend over" which really frustrated me because that isn't something she gets to decide, then she revealed to me that she had been complaining about him to her therapist, as if he doesn't do anything around the house, which is quite the opposite he does more than she does and contributes a lot to the house. She has villanised him and myself and the relationship between him and I.

No matter what I say to her or any boundary I set she creates something new to be angry about, Im the past at work she had yelled at me, she only shows this aggressive and destructive behaviour with me and no one else which is really upsetting

Anonymous 132432

Alright, so what I will say is very rude and probably not moral for some people, very much not ethical or some stuff and not woke at all.



I understand that you are not a therapist, or at least might not be one or a psych, or anything related to the sciences of the social and the mind. I will continue with what I want to propose to you after what I said.



She might be intellectually impaired. Yes, I know it sounds rude, and awful and sad sometimes that you can assume that about others. Yet what if she is? You should prepare as well for another social circumstance that is even if not as hard, a bit harder to deal with sometimes.



Perhaps she is just a narcissist. I remember if not wrong you said something like that, that perhaps she is a bad person and that is why people isolate her. The problem is it's hard to teach people like them actual limits.


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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132030

>6 months
This is not worth it
Please block him or something he’s manipulating you

Anonymous 132031

>>132028
>he used to treat me so good
This is exactly how it starts. It is also a pattern with moids from conservative culture that I’ve noticed. They treat women like queens but then also like shit because of how they objectify us or something. So he really doesn’t love you even though he fills some sort of unfulfilled emotional need.

Anonymous 132323

>>132028
This is a common tactic used by narcissists. The "old him" didn't exist, it's a facade.

Anonymous 132360

>>132323
If she is in love with the facade of a narcisist and is ready to pay the price, let her be in love with what that man pretend to be. The choice belong to her.
I somehow find it beautiful.

Anonymous 132431

you deserve better and you will definitely find better. leave this relationship before it messes you up long term. being alone is hard at first but it's a kind thing to do to yourself over facing abusive bs like this


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Anonymous 106726[Reply]

post yr ideal partner
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Anonymous 128224

>6'1 and above (I am tall)
>Intelligent, has goals
>Treats me like a princess (not with materialistic things, but in how he takes care of me)
>Similar music tastes (to go to shows together)
>Enjoys art (so I can paint for him)
>Likes nature walks
>Likes small boobs
>Kind of mean
>Will wash my hair in the bath
>Possessive

Anonymous 128228

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>>128224
>>Treats me like a princess
>>Kind of mean

Anonymous 129173

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>honest
>likes me
>eats pussy
>gentle
>5'2-5'5
>doesn't have a long head
>likes cats
>dresses cutely
james madison or:
>very buff not too lean no abs
>long curly hair and mutton chops
>deep voice and lets me lay on his tiddies

Anonymous 129174

>>129173
forgot to mention
>virgin
>listens to what i say

Anonymous 132394

i got this weird thing about wanting a brother i can get with, but ive already got a brother and i hate him n find him very, very ugly. im attracted to forbidden, lustful love, n currently got a bf i keep partially secret (and so does he about me) because we met at work. i love keeping secrets. n feeling chosen and special. so i guess my bf is ideal but i wish he were a bit less normie lol.


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Cant stop having terrible thoughts and overthinking, advice? Anonymous 132248[Reply]

Hello nonas, im really sorry for annoying you with this post but i need a strong answer.

Every time im not listening to a video or music, my mind cant help but ramble about random bad shit about me, my friends, and my loved ones.
I think i have a pretty good and fulfilling life, but i cant help but to overthink every single step of mine, throwing down my achievements and thinking that people actually hate me.

anyone ever got a similar situation? Got any suggestions on how to deal with it? Postal 1 dude just because he's cool
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Anonymous 132272

>>132262
thank you very much nona, i've tried doing this exercize but i'd always fell anyway after some time, but maybe that could be just me not trying enough!
Also yes, it has happened to me that i thought many time about people hating me and i talked to them about it and the response was exactly like this, so i agree with you!
Thank you again

Anonymous 132273

>>132266
i dont really know, i think i have something wrong with me but i've never checked

Anonymous 132281

>>132274
I got some of the feeling you listed, but i've always thought that theyweren't too many to justify an effective thing going on. In the same way, i relate a lot to some OCD symphtoms but i still think there are too little of them.

Thre's also the thing that im not really sure if i want to do some testing to see if i indeed have something, on one hand it would help me solving the things i've going on but on the other it will become part of me, i wont ever think of myself the same and also the people around me would do the same.

Thank you a lot for the advice nona!

Anonymous 132318

Do you have ADHD? My mind is never silent, when I'm stressed the constant onslaught of thoughts can become rather dark. One thing you have the power to do immediately is to surround yourself with wholesome stuff. Disconnect from politics and misery, watch some cute cat videos or comfy shows instead. I started birdwatching a couple years ago, it's brought me a lot of peace during troubled times. Just going outside in general can change the whole feeling of a day.

Anonymous 132381

>>132318
hello, sorry if i respond only now!
I dont think i have adhd, never checked but i think its too rare for me to have it. Althoght this advice is interesting! I might get to see some more videos of beavers to distract me maybe, but i'd also like the feeling to disappear completely


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Are my "friends" sabotaging me? Anonymous 132098[Reply]

Hi nonas! I am a 29 yo autistic woman but even though Im awkward and bad at socializing Ive managed to keep some (girl) friends on my social circle, some of them Ive known since HS. Anyway fast forward to today and for over a decade none of them have managed to help me bag a boy/moid (whatever term you prefer). So I decided to try to find out what the moids had to say about it and several of them told me that I have friends who are gatekeeping me out of relationships with men. This honestly shocked me a little because I think it could be true I dunno. How can I tell if my friends are driving away moids (even the good ones)? I have no social skills and this is frankly eating me up on the inside, if this is true I do not know how to react to this or how to confront any of my friends. Please help me I am so confused I don't know what to think. I don't want to be in my 30s with no boyfriend experience, I dont need a super handsome moid just one who will love and respect me to some degree at least. Thanks!
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Anonymous 132141

>>132119
>Its just weird that theyre all doing great romantically (well most of them some have shitty bfs but oh well) while Im just left by myself
if people have the social skills and looks to find a boyfriend, they will do so. socialisation can only be taught to a certain point, and you haven't even asked for their help. why would they be thinking about your love life, and how is it weird that they have more success than you? are you even trying at all

>I feel hurt, besides I also want a bf experience.
they won't miraculously find you a bf, you're the only one who knows what you want, and it's your job to try. they can't carry you through your love life. the most you could even ask is for help with outfits, texting back, flirting & hangouts with scrotes that they know. it takes quite a bit of mutual involvement, and naturally, most people don't jump to do it without being asked

>>132120
socialising isn't your strong point? that explains the not-dating thing, much easier than the possibility of sabotage. but yes, we can't write off the chance of sabotage entirely, even if a lack of social skills could be a more obvious answer.

yes, they could be keeping you as an autistic jester (if you're asking about whether or not that's real, it is.) but it's tiring to keep around an autist just for this reason though, and there are generally more glaring signs that people pity you rather than like your company (ignoring what you say, speaking over you, friends breaking off into smaller groups where you're not included, forgetting what you've told them, etc)

>they basically said that my friends think that I am romantically incompetent or they want to have a "poor, sore loser around"
you didn't question them further about whether your friends said or implied these things directly behind your back? what are they basing these assumptions on? putting up with an unsociable autist just for an ego boost isn't as likely as your friends simply not knowing how to help you or breach the topic, for example.

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Anonymous 132142

wait, don't tell me you asked moids that have never met your friends

Anonymous 132145

>>132098
You should use a dating app.

Anonymous 132161

is your moid better than theirs and are you prettier or maybe have more going for you in life? if so then absolutely yes. they probably have you around to humiliate you or look better despite you having a lot of value that you haven’t been allowed to recognize. they infantalize you and have a boxed in notion of who you are because it serves their own insecurity. this has happened to me before and is what i take away from it. the women in question were not ugly but didn’t take care of themselves or have style and were poorer than me with family issues.

Anonymous 132344

>>132119
it's not actually your friends obligation to get you a boyfriend, and they probably struggle with romance like everyone else, nothing you've said indicates they are bad friends, you're a groan woman and if you want a boyfriend your going to have to find one yourself, or at the very least explicitly ask your friends for help romantically → and even if you do that it's not their fault if they can't find you a mate.

the 'gatekeeping' thing doesn't really make sense at all, like they have exclusive access to the moid store or something, no that's not how any of this works


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