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Ugly Vent Thread Anonymous 124874[Reply]

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.
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Anonymous 125136

>>125098
lol cry moar

Anonymous 125320

>>124875
>My boobs fucking sag at 18, it's worse that they're large as it gives an illusion that my body is short and stocky whenever I'm braless (they look like they sit on my fucking ribcage)
I'm confused. where else would they sit?

Anonymous 125379

Uhg I’m actually ugly
My jaw is too far back and my face is crooked, like I have a squirrel face.
I’ve had sad-looking wrinkles since I was 10 years old, a wide nose with a hump.
A thick mustache and eyebrows, droopy eyes that stick out a little from the side.
My underdeveloped jaw made me look like I had a double chin even when I was skinny.

I was always bullied.
And I always knew I was ugly.

My teeth were crooked but I managed to get braces treatment.

I would never hesitate to get aesthetic treatments. Never.

Anonymous 125395

There was an older guy who slightly paid attention to me at work. Until he saw the night audit girl (she’s as tall as a fucking man). Now I’m just chopped liver I guess. I hope she falls down and bashes her face open. It’s fine tho I work before her and I can leave her all the extra work. Enjoy you dumb bitch

Anonymous 125396

>>125395
How old are we talking? Also, moids don't normally like tall women. If your only problem is being short, I doubt you can relate to the problems shared by other nonas itt.



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Anonymous 125378[Reply]

For a few months I was eating very few calories, and that turned into a whole mess that made me feel and somatize every single emotion to the extreme.
Sure, that was probably one of the triggers, but what really hit me was realizing how much time I was wasting—day after day—just endlessly scrolling for hours with no purpose. Not even the energy to reply to simple messages, let alone hang out with people. All this while I was still trying to keep up with my university classes, hit the gym, learn a language, and cook my “low-calorie” meals.

I ended up feeling completely paralyzed. Everything I once loved was just gone, and I had no interest in anything anymore. My days revolved around chasing dopamine through dumb reels and TikToks. I couldn’t even finish ten seconds of a video before skipping to the next, or saving it to “watch later”—a moment that never came.

I got totally obsessed with how I looked, constantly thinking about how skinny or “good” I looked. Which was stupid, because in the end, all that worrying left me unable to even look at myself in the mirror or on my phone camera.
I felt empty, dumb, my brain completely fried, like life was slipping away inside a virtual world.

And that’s why I’m here—because “normal” social media eats me alive. It feels automatic, something I do out of boredom in dead moments, scrolling endlessly just to avoid making any mental effort. I literally remember saving long texts to read “later” because they demanded too much focus and brain power.

After all this, I finally went to the university’s psychological services. During the interview, they asked me what I thought a “normal person” was. My answer: someone who’s actually present, who can tell what’s happening around them, and doesn’t have thousands of random thoughts or get lost in daydreaming all the time. Their response? ADHD.
I don’t want to take medication—and it’s kind of absurd to think that all of this gets pinned on something like that.

Honestly, I just want to go back to enjoying and learning from the things I used to love. Very few things spark my fried brain now. I don’t push myself to do anything, though I still try to take on longer activities even if I keep falling back into doomscrolling.
You can laugh, but I know a lot of people are going through the same thing right now.
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Anonymous 125389

>>125387
>>125383
I don't scroll slop, but I related to losing productivity in a haze more than a bit.
OP, try programs that lock your devices at time windows like night/morning

Anonymous 125390

>>125378
Im a real noma wtf, I’m just really addicted to doomscrolling and yeah I feel so pathetic cuz I’ve lose half of my life doing this
I guess the situation sounds too stupid so I even sound like 17 years old moid.
Sorry for sounding like a man while venting my phone addiction nona

Anonymous 125392

>>125389
I don't think OP is necessarily pathetic, but the problem is their life has a lot of issues going with it, not something productivity apps will help with. Nona's life is what happens to people who get raised by computers - directionless and too clueless to do anything other than scroooll. Probably lonely too.

Anonymous 125393

>>125392
That’s exactly what I’m trying to say. I know a lot of people have been through the same thing, but this is eating me alive. I feel dead inside, nothing moves my brain or makes me feel anything. I can’t even watch a damn movie or read anymore, I feel completely drained

Anonymous 125394

>>125393
Phone goes into toilet



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i am the worst person in the world Anonymous 124716[Reply]

most women are deluded when they think they meet a good man. all my life i've never met a good man. until i met this one. his behavior was akin to Jesus Christ. it seemed as if it was physically impossible for him to do anything which even mildly inconviences anyone, let alone hurting anyone. as for me, it seems like i am physically incapable of doing anything but hurting people. to cut it short, he absolutely did not deserve what i did to him. i met him online and within less than a month of dating i got blackout drunk and cheated on him. like an idiot i talked to my friends about it because i cant keep my mouth shut about anything. i talked to my best friend about it and what we decided was since it was so early on and i genuinely saw a future with him i should just move on from it. forget about it. so i didn't tell him. we kept talking.

we decided we wanted to see eachother in person. he spent $5000 on a plane ticket and an airbnb for 25 days. i started birth control- the Opill, 3 days before he came. the first 2 days were heavenly. then on the 3rd night we shared a bottle of vodka together. i was doing okay until i put on his boxers. i was reminded of what i had done to him. i grabbed a kitchen knife and started to cut myself in front of him. i cut my neck. then we went to sleep. the dream was over. over the course of the next couple weeks i just wanted to stay in bed all day. i kept arguing with him over the tiniest things. it was like i was constantly on edge. he said it felt like i was never actually there, never "lucid enough to have an actual conversation with." we only had sex a few times because he said he could only have sex with someone who he felt loved him and he didnt feel like i loved him. we didn't go out a lot, not a lot of "cute dates…" we went out to fast food joints a few times. then he broke up with me. he said we could still stay friends and he could keep "taking care of me" but we couldn't have a romantic relationship anymore. he said i should leave the airbnb for a few days. my best friend, who lives nearby where we were staying, asked for his discord tag because "he's a foreigner trapped in an airbnb alone and we (her and her roommate, an acquaintance of mine who also knew what i had done to him,) want to be there for him incase anything goes wrong." then i left to go home.

then it gets worse. basically to cut it short they told him i have something to tell him and i threatened suicide over it. i video cPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 125200

>>125014
>>124770
ive been talking to him a lot i just called him at work today and i dmed him a few days ago but it doesnt go anywhere. i keep wanting to somehow get something more from talking to him but i cant because our relationship has been so utterly decimated all i can say is the same things over and over (i'm sorry…i miss you…i'm so stupid…i wish it was different…i wish it wasn't like this i wish I wasnt like this) its so hard to let go i dont know whats wrong with me i was such a collossal idiot to throw him away he was perfect i know i'm not a victim and i'm not pitiable but its so fucking hard. i just cant imagine how hard it is for him thinking about it makes me sick imagine this girl you trusted who lied to you for months who looked you in the eyes and lied to you over and over keeps pestering you even calls you at work i wish we could double suicide but i asked him and he said no. a double suicide would be embarassing on his part anyways he doesnt deserve to die with me

Anonymous 125242

>>124716
Okay so
>he’s a saint a man of principle!!
>he’s actively asking for and accepting money from your part to stay there talking to you
Wake up. Wake up now. He’s not “traumatized” and he’s not Mr. “not like other men”.
The sad truth is when you’ve meet a man that isn’t like the others, he’s probably like the others but 1) hasn’t drop the show 2) involuntary performative to cope with his bad childhood or whatever. They will take the mask off sooner or later.
Yeah you need to stay away from him and the other drama addicted people and be alone for some time. Get fucking out and stop wasting your money on this scammer.

Anonymous 125260

>>125199
it’ll be okay
just accept it happened & the more you push the more you make yourself look crazy & no one wants a desperate partner…
maybe in a few years you can go back to him, if that’s even what you want. i know that i’ve been in a similar boat and no amount of begging or pleading made him come back to me.. i just took time. and then when he finally reached out i didn’t want him anymore lol :p
young love, you’ll get thru it

Anonymous 125385

>>124720
She is textbook Borderline. You need to see a professional. Any other advice is wrong.

Anonymous 125386

I have no patience for bpd bitches especially as its very treatable with dbt. See a therapist nona you're a retard, till then literally everyone is better off avoiding you



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Anonymous 121601[Reply]

Why do people get married only to cheat or divorce? Shouldn't they know if they're happy to be together BEFORE they get married?
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Anonymous 125323

>>125321
It's just self evident they're domestic/life energy parasites. You can do the math on your own if you're not a man. You actually need it spelled out ?

Anonymous 125324

>>125323
No fault divorce and alimony means there is literally zero downside to getting married as a woman. You can end it at any time for any reason and the government forces the man to give you half his money for the rest of his life or else go to prison.

Please tell me how the woman is the scam victim in this arrangement.

Anonymous 125336

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>>125324
Having thrown away any portion of you life to live with a scrote parasite is the colossal loss. if they wasted even a portion of their life to domestic slave labor, child reading. Jesus fucking Christ especially if the woman got pregnant ???? Might as well assume your life is in the gutter if you're that woman. You have essentially destroyed her life and she should throw you in a human meat grinder as punishment, not get paid. Payment doesn't even cover it. They should honestly just cut off your dick AND take the money.


Marriage to those life sucking parasites is a fucking scam money doesn't cover the damage remotely.

Get it through your worthless fucking head. Everything about a scrote is a liability if you have to live with them. EVERYTHING. You are not the catch you think you are you are more akin to a potential tapeworm coming to destroy my life if you're male. ROFL the fact that you think money even matters is cute

We are essentially avoiding 99.999 % of you shits. It's akin to getting cancer to live with a moid.

Anonymous 125339

>>125336
>domestic slave labor

What,doing chores? Laundry and dishes? Tasks you'd already also have to do even if you're single?

That's your idea of slavery and torture? You sound like a very spoiled and whiny person.

Anonymous 125346

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>>125339
Hell no I'm not talking about that. That shit is damn near fun to do when you live alone. A moid is basically a full grown demanding entitled child that multipli a every horrible thing x10. Makes your life a guaranteed living hell. And then the added horror of children ??? Virtually all the women I've known endure the same thing living with one. Their life quality took a giant nosedive they became shells of themselves.

You couldn't pay me a million dollars to put up with a sack of shit like that. You only bitch that I'm "spoiled" because I'd have nothing to do with you taking over my existence and pretending everything under the sun belongs to your insufferable parasitic ass. Commandeering every bit of joy and sucking it out of my life. Holy shit I would chase your worthless ass out of my house with a portable wood chipper so fast I'm not even kidding.



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How do you all cope? Anonymous 124938[Reply]

I struggle daily with finding meaning in anything, and feel so alone in all things. I recognize that so many people are just doing things to cope with that same dread and loneliness. It seems like no one knows what they are doing or why. It all seems so pointless to me. Why does anyone keep going? What is the point? How does someone even find real purpose? How do you all do it, nonas?
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Anonymous 124955

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>so many people are just doing things to cope with same dread and loneliness
I don't think so. I've experienced failures after failures, and also I'm not normal and my frontal lobes are genetically fucked up. Meanwhile, you can see a glow in normies.
They still believe in god, they still believe in materialistic consumption, they still believe in looking good, they still believe in the lies that is peddled by capitalist consumerist culture on TV and mainstream media, they still believe that earning money and buying products will make them happy, they still believe that they too have a chance to get back at the world that has "failed" them, only if they tried hard enough, and anyone could become like the celebrity they worship, they still believe in a lot of things, and this drives them.

Maybe purposes don't have to be the same thing throughout your life. My primary purpose right now is so basic - to be "functional" (getting a job and becoming a responsible (tm) adult) and learn / develop systems to cope with my problematic behaviors. It's too narcissistic and navel gazing but this itself is a huge struggle to me.

Try some questionnaires (in picrel it's self-direction, stimulation, and security for me), online or with the help of a therapist. There's something in you that already intuitively tells you what you want to do, but years of inaction, suppression and failures has buried it. I once sat down for 3 or so hours and really thought about it, and came to the conclusion that I want to run a cat shelter and make the world a better place for cats, but unfortunately it's not sustainable.

Anonymous 124963

>>124955
>My primary purpose right now is so basic - to be "functional" (getting a job and becoming a responsible (tm) adult) and learn / develop systems to cope with my problematic behaviors.
Good luck nona!! It may seem basic but I think these goals are respectable anyway, it takes a lot to get over a nonfunctioning lifestyle for most people.

Anonymous 124966

>>124963
Thanks!

Anonymous 125371

I feel the same nona :(
Right now I tried playing new games after feeling an awful depression. I started exercising, as well as enjoying hobbies and indulging into some of my interests.

Being yourself is being alive, everything you do is yourself. We are our actions.

You cannot just "be yourself" you are yourself already.

Real purpose is to find a goal, something you like, small perhaps.

Plunging something, pumping or doing a flip

you train hard
you fail you do it again
until you do it you process it
you move on
you do something else

Anonymous 125374

>>124938
Art is the only thing worth thinking about for me. It beings me joy that compares to nothing else.



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How do we save female socialization? Anonymous 124400[Reply]

I'm tired of making female friends only to end up being ignored or excluded because I don't share their political opinions. Female friend circles seem to be built on fear, and I'm done with it. I made a decision not to pretend anymore—but now, I don't have any female friends left, just because I don't believe that anyone who identifies as a woman is necessarily a woman.
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Anonymous 124659

>>124489
Tbf Rowling is just as obsessed in the opposite direction. I don't get why they take up so much of people's mental energy. OP and her "friends" sound like they deserve each other.

Anonymous 124682

>>124659
I think the reason she talks about it so much is because other people refuse to drop it, she's basically know as "the terf author"

Anonymous 124756

>>124682
We're all 100% real women. It's the truth.

Anonymous 125210

>>124401
Just let autistic people transition. They are a self-solving problem, they'll castrate and eventually kill themselves and no more trannies will be alive.

Anonymous 125369

>>125210

It costs money, they should intern them in a ward instead, or enslave them to force them to work.



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Help me Anonymous 125213[Reply]

I just turned 27. I’m a high school dropout who has been a NEET since leaving school at 16. I’ve been a shut-in basically this whole time. I don’t have any social or life skills. I can’t even drive. I’ve also never had any sort of relationship or intimacy because I’m ugly as fuck. Not even a friend. Is it over for me? I want to change, but I feel like it’s all just too far gone. Even if I do change, I don’t feel like I’ll ever truly recover from all these lost years. How am I supposed to go out there and relate to people? I feel so stunted
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Anonymous 125261

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Don't disappear nonita. You'll definitely have to finish school. I don't know what country you live in, but in most places, without a high school diploma, you can't do much of anything, not even get a minimum-wage job. Is there an adult education program in your country? You'll have to look for it.

Anonymous 125262

>>125261
obviously I'm going to finish school. Im doing all AP's and honors and plan to go to a prestigious university. My family lineage is full of doctors and lawyers. I just spend my free time on imageboards. And yes, I plan to do premed.

Anonymous 125263

>>125262
sorry I'm retarded I thought you were replying to me kek

Anonymous 125330

You need to finish school before anything

Anonymous 125368

You have it harder.
Some are lucky.

You are lucky with the basics.

First rule.
Do not lose time dating men.

Men are like dogs. Men bite if you approach.

Second rule.
Finish school. You need the diploma.

Third rule.
Find something you like and do it.
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Do MBTIs really affect personality? Anonymous 125268[Reply]

I did the quiz multiple times and ever since I was 16 I got the same answer - INTP (logician). this personality type isn't very common for women and is predominantly men, which makes me feel even more like an outcast.
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Anonymous 125289

>>125268
God you need to grow the f up op

Anonymous 125290

>>125279
The fact that you care what people think is p-a-t-h-e-t-i-c

Anonymous 125291

It does NOT take much to soak in your interests and personality and not be socially awkward. Its extraordinarily easy. Jesus fucking Christ you guys are pathetic

Anonymous 125299

>>125291
>It does NOT take much to soak in your interests and personality
not sure it helped you nona

Anonymous 125311

>>125290
you sound extremely unemployed.



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Are men evolving to a sociopathic hivemind? Anonymous 123286[Reply]

This is a genuine question, because I can't fathom any other reasoning. Courting is dead, it's gone. In no particular order the following occurs: love bombing, ghosting, mirroring, hot/cold method. Even my friends who fit the patriarchal male gaze to an absolute T (virgin, quiet, submissive) are getting stepped on. It seems like all or nothing, there is no slow progressional vetting before a clear decision is made. Many other girls around me in my career and academia have given up on the idea of marriage and children. The ones that haven't tend to have a man-child tier boyfriend or they're accepting to be chronically cheated on.

The ideology that women have to be top 1% of females to deserve a male counterpart that doesn't wreck havoc on livelihood and minds is insane. I've talked to many boomers and they agree something is universally wrong; we are no longer just homemakers, but we have the ability to be that and MUCH MUCH more, how are we all fundamentally somehow "never enough" for them?
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Anonymous 125258

>>125253
>>125247
I found your posts thoughtful, if it helps.
There should be a third Hedonist type, too, but maybe alcohol and meth have given way over the last dozen years to weed, rolling this kind of person into the apathetic crowd

Anonymous 125287

I have this theory it's both genders are mentally fucked due to living in economic duress, but since they don't know it, they just waste away flinging shit at eachother

Anonymous 125292

>>125287
This. It’s not men vs women, left vs right, black vs white. Those are distractions. It is and always has been the people up top vs the people down low. And guess where we are.

Anonymous 125302

>>125287
We are living a better life than every generation before us except the two last.
I think what cause so much tension in society is how everything goes down. Even owning a house is a dream now.

>>125292
I do not care what somebody have in his plate, if what is in mine is fine I am happy. And I am not. The problem is not that some people have more, it is that I would be fine with what is in my plate if there wasn't so many people who just took food from it.

Anonymous 125307

The world screeches to a halt if a man dies but millions of women and young girls die and are subjected to sexual violence and physicals violence every day and no one cares. They're sociopathic towards anything without a penis



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Anonymous 125343[Reply]

Most people don't really like me and I don't really enjoy their company either. That's sad but I have come to accept it.


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