>be me, 25 y/o
>check mail one day
>get letter from guy i used to know back in high school
>address listed as a prison
>what
>this guy was always a little awkward but nice, no way he could've done anything that bad
>open letter and read it
>he says he's been looking for me for 2 years, calls me his best friend and says to write back as soon as possible
>am now extremely suspicious and concerned since we were just friendly classmates
>do a bit of googling
>he's in prison for kidnapping and rape of a middle school girl
>mfw

what the fuck do i do? we were only in the same friend group and never spoke again after graduation… i live in a different state now, how did he even find my address? do i write back and tell him to not contact me again, or just ignore this and try to forget it happened? i feel gross just being remotely associated with him.

>invite some people to join a study group with me for a very difficult course
>they all enthusiastically agree and join a gc with me
>invite them to study at a well-known location at a clearly specified time days in advance because we had an exam coming up
>also post a reminder in our gc 30 minutes in advance
>studied at [earlier specified location] for 4 hours alone before going home
>they all ghosted me
>didn't even tell me they couldn't make it
>nobody even bothered lying to me to save face
Why is it so hard to make friends in current year +7? I don't think I acted autistically in this situation at all, and I'm always outgoing, friendly, dressed nicely, not fat or hideously ugly, etc, so what gives?

does anyone else non-sexually age regress?

i’ve always been considered somewhat “childish” and my mom makes fun of me for watching my little pony and still buying stuffed animals at my age but its honestly so comforting to me and is one of the few things that helps me relax. i have this constant nostalgia and longing to be a little kid again, and indulging in these things makes me happy. i think my mental illness does play a part of it too, especially given that i was sexually abused at a young age, but you can still age regress without trauma.

any other anons experience something similar?

Greentext traits and how lovely your partner is

what's the cause of your anger?

Part vent, part desperate plea for help…

My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)

I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.

I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.

And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.

Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?

My first boyfriend turned out to be a porn addict. He was also generally a loser. I wish I had the confidence I have now.

>has a foot-fetish and wanted footjobs
>wanted me to watch porn with him, which was one of the most mood-killing experiences I ever had

I broke up with him not soon after he asked me to try anal. I hate how that's a thing now. I hate how so many moids can't enjoy normal sex anymore and demand these weird things from you.

how do i stop feeling jealous and insecure with the previous women my bf was with? i was a virgin before i met my boyfriend so i've shared all my firsts with him. first date, handholding, kiss, hug, sex etc. i have been thinking about my relationship with him and reflected on what i have always wanted, which is to share firsts with another human and explore intimacy. which has led me to the heartbreaking feeling that i am not his first. i love him deeply that it pains me to not have been there with him when he explored love and romance for the first time.
i feel like i missed out on all his first intimate moments with a girl, and that girl wasn't me but someone else. i never got to see his nervous demeanour on his first date. i never got to see his reaction when he first hugged a girl. held hands with a girl for the first time… first kissed a girl. touched intimate body parts of a girl, viewed a naked girl's body for the first time… i never got to experience all those 'firsts' with him and i feel so depressed over it.
i often find myself wondering who these girls were, and i fantasize about the moments he had with them. was it magical? what were they like? how did he interact with them? did he kiss them the way he kissed me? was he attracted to them physically? what did they talk about? what interests did they share? does he miss them when he's with me? does he regret not waiting to share all those moments with me? i want to ask him about his past, about these girls, to give me peace of mind. but i am nervous and scared. what if he liked some aspect of them more than he likes me? what if he misses one of them?
would really appreciate insight from anyone who also went through a similar thought process or fear and got over it. is it a good idea to ask him about his past, or to be blissfully ignorant?

Do you ever just over hear your parents/relatives talk about you and its like they don't even consider the possibility that you might be mentally ill or autistic and that's what's stopping you from having a functional/fulfilling life
They just think you're lazy and you have to get over it