Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability Anonymous 34633[Reply]
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My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)
I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.
I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.
And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.
Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
>>34680>the germs are laughing at me and trying to kill me
but in all seriousness, best of luck op. others here have already given great advice, stop enabling him. maybe make some plans so that he doesnt spend that time cleaning.
IT'S BEEN A YEAR
FOR A YEAR people told you here that you were an abused girl and that ou should dump him
you make me so mad, it's unreal, why can't you just dump him and take back your life???
I don’t feel bad for OP anymore. She is choosing to stay in this situation.
Rooting for you OP. Please keep updating.
jesus fucking christ just leave?
youre acting like a textbook abuse victim, like the way you backpedal and keep making excuses for him "he grabbed my neck guys" "oh nvm he was just surprised hehe"
what the fuck, come on. hes a lost cause and you're wasting your life away.