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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 72007

this was me and i have initiated the plan. everything will be good again

Anonymous 72013


I'm going on a mountain hike with bf today. I never really want to, but I know I need exercise and fresh air. I'll see some pretty views too. It's cute how excites bf is for our weekly hike, he fucking loves mountains so much. I wish I was that enthusiastic about anything. Oh well, at least it's sorta infectious.

Anonymous 72257

ohhh i totally relate to the getting sad over seeing girls way prettier than me in public. actually im not sure if you cried because you were sad, but for me it can feel like pure shit

>my day

pretty much spent the whole day watching and chatting with this girl who i orbit on twitch. i had coffee, a cookie, and blueberries for breakfast; meat and cheese for lunch; chips, chocolate cake, and mochi for snacks; and pizza and dark chocolate for dinner/dessert. i think ive been gaining a fuckton of weight from the holidays so before dinner i went for a run for the first time in a while and it was super cold and i felt like shit. now im just staying up online, learning about random things and listening to music. i have to go to the lab to do internship work tomorrow and i don't want to… but overall today was a pretty good carefree day

Anonymous 72296

I don’t know where to ask this but I need your help, should I tell my psychiatrist that I don’t want more meds to treat my anxiety and insomnia but focusing on a conductual therapy instead or she will take it as a threat to her business?

Anonymous 72304

Annoying entitled boomer moids at work selling fruit


/tfw no bf/ - general Anonymous 71974[Reply]

Can we have a no bf feels thread? I'm tired of pretending to be single and happy. I want a man, dammit.
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Anonymous 72286

that loser scrote was just projecting

Anonymous 72288


Anime boys are real and they love you anon

Anonymous 72289

I am literally only attracted to ONE 3D man and the second he gets a gf I’m going full lesbian

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Anonymous 72300

Came back to say that the new bladee and ECCO new song is bad, and they don't look cute


Relationship General Anonymous 68927[Reply]

Paradise to trouble in paradise. Come here for:


>?s about romance, love, potential partners, etc.
>experiences and wishes

Play nice!
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Anonymous 72185

Jesus Christ anon I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Never forget what he said or let him convince you it was a joke

Anonymous 72193

I'm glad you dumped his pedophile ass on the spot. I hope his dick rots off.

Anonymous 72253

Ex texted me the other day. Does this mean what I think it means or is it more likely he just wants to be friends.

I do want him btw. But I don't want to be an autist and misread the situation and get the wrong idea.

Anonymous 72293

It depends if you would like to stay friendly with him and if he's stable enough or the type of guy to get obsessed with his ex.
My first bf and I still message eachother everyone once in a while, just to check how we're doing and all that stuff. I'm fine with it because we used to be friends before dating, but I don't think I would do it in any other case

Anonymous 72298

>No idea how long you've been with him but maybe ask him about it when you get the chance and talk about it. I think there's still quite the difference between making a joke in foul taste with the boys, and genuinely being a bottom feeding degen.
If he's pressed about it, of course he's going to lie. You think pedophiles value honesty or something? They don't even have the human empathy or dignity not to rape children. Even saying something like that shows that he is a worthless piece of shit who should just die.


work thread Anonymous 65868[Reply]

ITT: we discuss frustrations at our jobs whether you were wronged or you yourself messed up

NEETS need not reply
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Anonymous 72008

FYI the car market is completely fucked right now due to shipping disruptions caused by covid and chip shortages used in car electrical systems. Used and new car prices are through the roof.

Anonymous 72011

To be your own boss, you need smarts or talents. But I will always be just another cog in the machine. By the way, I came home an hour ago and now I'm going to play vidya for 6 hours straight until it's time to go to bed again. And wake up again. And go to work again. Shit.

Thanks for letting me know!

Anonymous 72224

>have to transcribe patient charts that look like they were photographed by a daguerreotype camera
>doctors' handwriting looks like hieroglyphics at times
>have to make daily presentations for all the admissions for the past 24h
>residents and post-graduate interns fill out charts incorrectly or incompletely
>60/M with heart failure somehow doesn't have bipedal edema
>43/F with a 4x4 cm thyroid mass on ultrasound somehow doesn't have a palpable or visible neck mass according to the chart
>get yelled at by chief resident during conference next morning for not knowing the patient's physical examination findings despite me literally never having step foot in the hospital because COVID is cockblocking my med school

Why is my dad even paying so much for my tuition?

Anonymous 72230

I don’t get the joke, what is Activision and what does this have to do with Iron Man?

Anonymous 72295

I'm a freelancer and I'm tired of it. I always feel anxious because I don't know if I'll make enough money and I hate having to talk with stupid clients all the time who pretend to know something about what I do. I always need to explain everything like I'm talking with a kid for them to understand.
God, why nobody told me that being a freelancer wasn't as magical as just working from home.


Depressed about being in university too long Anonymous 65894[Reply]

I started uni 4 years ago for a bachelors, but because I changed my minor and general laziness I'll need 2 more years to actually graduate.
I feel so depressed and anxious about my future, I was supposed to be done after 3 years, but while everyone I know is out looking for their first real job or going on vacation before their masters I'm still stuck here.
I feel like a failure and despite them saying otherwise I feel like I'm disappointing my family.
By the time I graduate I'll be years behind my peers and I don't know how to deal with that.
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Anonymous 69210

Because girls are conditioned to worry more and doubt themselves, males are naturally competitive and will not admit any failures due to fear of appearing weak

Anonymous 69215

Pick which one suits your ideology more. Girls are the subject of an overwhelmingly powerful social force that shapes and molds the very basis of their thinking, or there's a genetic predisposition for difference in personality vectors depending on if you're a moid or a woman.

Anonymous 69217

I've never had an A in university, my grades are average at best but probably below even that.
It's not like I'm especially anxious about academics, rather I'm really anxious about everything including my bad performance in uni.
My degree is probably gonna end up being beyond useless because humanities major + bad grades + taking twice as long isn't exactly gonna be desirable.
So I'll end up in my mid twenties just as qualified for a job as a new high school graduate, except way more depressed and cynical.

Anonymous 69501

Fore some weird reason I'm really anxious about fucking up the paperwork to graduate or that I misunderstood something.
I'm having actual nightmares of turning all my stuff in and being happy to finally be done only for staff responsible to tell me I fufked something up and can't graduate.
I read the information about what courses I need and what exams dozens of times but I can't sake this fear.

Anonymous 72294

I can't stop thinking about just dropping out, I have zero idea what i'd actually do afterwards but I'm so sick of university.
There's clearly something wrong with my head, I spend all day coming up with bizarre delusions of how I'm gonna fuck up my life instead of actually studying or even trying to have fun.


Anonymous 72002[Reply]

If I can't be normal I don't want to live.
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Anonymous 72010

If I am normal I don't want to live.

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Anonymous 72281

oops the site glitched when i posted this! it was unintentional spamming.


Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability Anonymous 34633[Reply]

Part vent, part desperate plea for help…

My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)

I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.

I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.

And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.

Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
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Anonymous 72179


Jesus Christ I just read through all of this in one go.

Leave him, even leave japan for gods sake! He's clearly a manipulating abusive dangerous man. There is nothing left but lies and pain with this man. Grab a little money, your passport and buy a ticket out of the area or country, cut off all contact! HE IS SHIT AND THERE IS NOTHING BUT LIES AND PAIN FOR YOU THERE.

God fucking speed OP, please update!

Anonymous 72191

Dove Pink

Anonymous 72218

I bet she's either dead or the social experiment/troll is over

Anonymous 72219

I bet she's either dead or the social experiment/troll is over

Anonymous 72252


I just read this all in one go too, its like and entire fucking season of a soap opera in this one thread. OP needs to leave Japan but everyone has been begging her to for a year now, there's nothing we can say, no matter how much we're rooting for her and want to see her out of this situation. I'm so invested but so sad… any updates from OP recently just depress me at this point.


Anonymous 72110[Reply]

does anyone else suffer from chronic DPDR?
how does one escape this suffering

Anonymous 72130


>does anyone else suffer from chronic DPDR?
Failed suicide attempts gave me that feeling
>how does one escape this suffering
Although i don't recommend it, but fantasizing about death makes me feel better.
also, ive found healthier coping mechanism is philosophy, stoicism or nihilism, although considering the latter is a "temporary state" i want to invent my own philosophy, eternal nihilism

Anonymous 72134

>does anyone else suffer from chronic DPDR?
yes as a part of another disorder
>how does one escape this suffering
grounding techniques (strongly stimulating your senses in the present time, such as listening to loud music, eating something really spicy, etc etc)

Anonymous 72137

After I watch porn, see gore or something else disturbing, or have an argument or confrontation with someone, I get really bad DPDR, I go completely numb and out of touch with my body. I can't imagine how hard it must be to feel that way chronically, you have my sympathy.

Anonymous 72249

yes. it has been here since i was 13/14. im 20 now and havent felt real since then.


Girl friends Anonymous 71701[Reply]

I haven’t had a friend in a long time. I’m not really the whiny tfw no bf/friend type but it really sucks a lot. I started uni this year thinking that I could make friends with other weird girls but no dice, lonelier than ever. The lack of social interaction has contributed a lot to my mental state which is already awful, I’m prone to psychosis and I keep having #crazygirl moments all the time. The only people who interact with me are men who want to take advantage of me sexually and it’s extremely depressing. Wish I had an empathetic female friend to talk to and cuddle and be weird and have fun with. Le sigh, why does life have to be so cruel to anyone who is slightly different. Pic unrelated.

Anonymous 71703

Are you on the spectrum anon? Maybe seeking out a female autism group might help?

Anonymous 71706

idk if im autistic, some people have said i seem so but i dont really think i am. think i would probably get on better with autistic girls than normal ones tho

Anonymous 71724

You could post in the friend finder thread. Not to sound insane but what time zone are you in

Anonymous 72246

sooper late but gmt


Can't cope with aging Anonymous 71892[Reply]

I never cared much about my appearance before, I never did makeup or invested in fashion or anything but as i'm nearing my mid twenties i'm starting to dread the day i no longer look youthful. I just can't accept that someday I'm gonna start wrinkling and sagging and that there's little I can do about it no matter how careful I try to keep my body healthy. I think aging is the cruelest thing because humans constantly thrive to be better versions of themselves as time passes and yet our bodies betray us, whenever you're a model or an athlete your body and performance is gonna start degrading because of aging and that's just a fact of life. I think about this several times a day every single day. I'm not looking for health and beauty advice, I have probably seen them all I'm trying to find solace in hearing from others who have this fear. I also want to know how older miners feel about aging and how they deal with these thoughts.
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Anonymous 72212


im so sorry you are feeling so worried about this anon. i think media and the internet does a good job at telling girls that they are worthless, irrelevant, and ugly past the late twenties. all of the stuff you described is going to suck, but i guess what helps me cope with aging is remembering old women that i really respect in my life for their wisdom and demeanor (teachers, professors, grandmas) and hoping that i will be able to be like them or better. i also hope that with age i'll be able to help younger girls like my future daughters or grandchildren. there is always so much more to do, experience, and learn in life and the amount of wrinkles or how saggy your skin usually has nothing to do with that.

for me, basing my self worth on things other than appearance is a constant conscious effort. but i know i'll feel ugly no matter how hard i work on myself, so i might as well stop trying to do the impossible and focus on other things. being able to not think about it as much definitely helps

Anonymous 72220

I've had bad health since I was young. I would love to grow old.

Anonymous 72234

i'm a lot more worried about the aspects of ageing that may interfere with my ability to physically function, but it's understandable to be worried about looks too. it sucks that worrying about it is often a taught/conditioned thing. i tend to feel that people are, lookswise, most attractive when middle-aged though, don't know what's up with me. just never understood the preference for youthful features, maybe it's because i've always been told i look younger and have been taken less seriously because of it. i've just wanted to look older since i was in my teens

Anonymous 72237

I feel this OP
I recently watched american psycho (yea yea memes aside) and was like wow Reese Witherspoon is a beautiful woman, and then saw a gifset of something she was in last year and the stark difference (even though it's a solid 20 year gap) shocked me. I can't imagine looking in the mirror and seeing so much volume lost from my face or so many wrinkles. I'm kinda scared

Anonymous 72240

Reese aged well for a white woman, I'd kill to look half as good at her age unfortunately we're gonna look so much worse when we're older because we can't afford personal trainers and dietitians or whatever the hell these celebrities are doing to keep themselves looking somewhat youthful

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