/feels/ - Advice & Venting

no

Yes

>>119649
lol no

>>119649
Absolutely not.
That's just anecdotal but my only domestic abuse experience so far was with another woman, so I would also point towards >>119778

Your face will change with time. I felt the same as you as one point. My nose didn't fit my face, fat face, my lips seemed too thin, my eyes were all fucked up looking. As I began to age my nose got smaller, my lips got fuller, I lost a lot of face chub, my eyes got sharper.

A lot of my skin care consisted of using products that were meant for my skin condition and now my skin is clear and soft. Find what products work best for your skin, see a dermatologist.

I was unhappy with the way my body looked. I got on a routine. (I had an eating disorder, don't recommend this "method" of weight loss to anyone). Put effort into changing your body if it truly bothers you.
You mentioned have a strawberry body shape. I say start working out and build muscle in the places that you "lack".

Sorry you're struggling with your appearance nona. Remember that you look the way you do because someone loved whoever has your appearance enough to create your beautiful life. Biggest part of feeling beautiful is loving yourself.

trust me, it is impossible to look male. I thought I had "scary dead male autism eyes" but expirementing with simple but flattering eye makeup and shaping my brows to be thinner fixed my insecurity. I think my eyes are beautiful. You probably need to fix your diet and wash your face. Your brain is mean and you do not exist to be eye candy to dusty moids.

I feel the same, I can't even use makeup because im scared i'll look weird, i always got bullied at school as a kid and now i can't even look at myself without feeling disgusted. I just want to be ok with myself

it doesn’t even matter

Most people have peach fuzz. Everyone has texture on their face.

Leave. You feel unsafe around her for good reason.

All you ever did was try to cut me down to your level. You say I was your best friend but you were only nice to me when we were both miserable. I hope you are still watching, because I am going to become better than you in every way. Your jealousy will rot you from the inside out.

Why am I weird for liking Sex and the City, I put up with your Chinese dramas

>>119769
but I neeeeeeed you!

>>119808
then let’s do this tonight. run away with me and never look back

>>119815
name teh place and ill be there :)

>>118687
I take advice from one of my favorite feminist characters and I say "If you are going to kill yourself, at least die doing something cool."

I welcome death when it happens, just not today.

lift weights

it'd helped me lately

>>118813
YES I was worried deadlifts would make me mannish but I have a bubble butt and thick thighs instead. I feel powerful.

>>118687
try getting off the meds, I know this is super controversial but medicine keeps us sick, some meds really do help in certain circumstances but it seems they just push a bunch of stuff on you if you feel slightly bothered by anything

>>118687
What do you hate about yourself?

I do this to try and get to know people and their social lives a little better. Mostly coworkers by asking them what they like to do on their days off.

I kinda have an issue with that, I fail to 'connect' with someone, but my questions are so good they usually start opening up about very personal stuff with me. I've found stuff about people that they haven't said to their family or long-time friends after just talking to them for a bit.

It's a bit frustrating. At some point I get bored but I just keep asking well-placed questions and they're loving it, completely letting it all out. Like g'damn, shut up lol.

I think its a good strategy but its a lot of work. if you keep asking people about them, eventually someones going to wanna talk to you also.

>>119770
This is so funny, I don't get my moids have such a problem listening without cutting in every second with answers! like dude just shut up and listen.

>>119325
my theory is she was only "less popular/respected" within the context of your friend group (i.e. maybe the rest of you are kind of shitty?) and outside of this hierarchy she might thrive, especially in the context of relationships with greater intimacy (marriage) which of course would set off the person or people who internally know how much they're lacking in that department or feel the clock ticking on traits they might've felt were their ticket into social success.

>>119325
also, how "unpopular" is she really if she's still being talked about to this day? even respected. no one punches down. not really.

So what are the signs or red flags of subtle pick me women?

I think WWII veteran worship and viewing the 1950s in an overly positive way are some red flags a woman could be a pick me. Of course there could be exceptions, but its a pattern Ive noticed.

But Im sure there are other red flags that show pickmeitis, such as?

>>118781
there's no way you're here and can actually sit through monogatari

>>119328
>No one punches down really

most bullying is done when the ugly girl evolves or essentially 'steps up' in the social ladder like mentioned in this post >>119325

>>119784
>being repulsed by a guy
That's the exact opposite of the problem she described.
She said:
>i only rly had sexual attraction to my most recent ex when we argued or when i was just mad at him
Now, imagine someone who has sexual attraction triggered specifically by shitty and abusive behavior. Is that person going to avoid shitty and abusive people and situations that make them mad? Is that person going to take every bit as much care with their personal relationships to select only people who are good for them and heckin wholesome adequate frienderinos? In real life?

>>119799
thank you yes i was not sure how to explain better 2 that nona

you're struggling to do something as simple as that because it's not simple. your online habits are probably filling an emotional need, so if you try to stop suddenly, it's like you're trying to walk on a broken leg without support. if you want to get off the crutches, you'll have to heal the wound. it might be worth introspecting about what you get out of being online. is it companionship? distraction? attention? solitude? security? if you're like me, it's probably all of the above.

the way you/we get out of it, as far as I can tell, is deciding to be someone who fills her needs in a healthier way. someone who loves herself enough that she'll brave the discomfort of change, knowing she deserves the better life that comes after. sometimes I imagine my ideal Nona, and try to really step into her mindset and do what she would do, even if it's something small like not skipping daily self-care. sometimes it even works.

I've been in this situation. I haven't left my house for a year,
I didn't see anyone other than my parents, my brother and our cat, long before of the pandemic. Today I'm studying for a university entrance exam, and I work at a job that's kinda crap, but at least I don't spend the whole day at home and have my own pocket money. There is no magic solution, you need to make an effort and create small rituals to create discipline; I just got tired of my situation, I couldn't bear to live like that anymore.
I started by just taking a shower when I wake up in the morning, tidy up my bed and exercising also helped a lot,
you need to set small and simple goals, do it little by little, every day. Another thing is to give daily updates right here on
CC, I think it can help you monitor your own evolution.
On the issue of work: I don't like working either, but I also don't like asking anyone for money; I'm trying to find a way to make money without being a wagie, but I think it can be very bad for you not to have your own money, even if is not a lot.
As for being online all day: what do you usually see on the internet? Are you really having fun? Because I used to waste a lot of time doom scrolling on social media often seeing only things that I didn't even like, maybe you are in the same situation.

Anyway, don't forget to update the thread, keep telling us how you feel about what you've been able to do,
perhaps more people will appear in a similar situation who are also tired of this

>>119788
good job! academic work is way more effort than other things. you should try getting your blood checked. low iron or vitamin d is common in women and could be why you don't have a lot of energy.

>>119795
you seem really sweet. i'm in college too and I think its more work than people give students credit for. i'm glad you seem to be doing better.

sorry nona

>>119497

shit nona, seems from what I read we have the same issue. I'm paranoid schizo. I don't have many people because I shut everyone out. When I do allow someone in, I am quick to ruin it because of my paranoid episodes that they are out to get me like everybody else. I was a lonely child growing up, had early diagnoses of conditions that impaired my ability to stabilize and understand my emotions. Nobody enjoys being around me because one wrong word can and will set me off into extreme distrust and make me spiral. Everyone feels as if they are walking on eggshells around me. I'm working on this issue with my partner. Your paranoia is just that, paranoia. Whatever happens, happens and that is what needs to be accepted. It's true that everything happens for a reason. I wish you luck!

I used to have the same issue. Getting a bf cured my loneliness, no joke.

>>119513
I don't want a boyfriend. I don't think I'll even want a friend.

>>119513
NTA moids can only take so much.
I lost mine due to my paranoid episodes.
I also lacked confidence completely so we had little to no sex life.
I am my own worst enemy