/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

You are wasting both his and your time

>>127058
will someone PLEASE think of the man grooming a teenager online.. puhleeeaassee guys we have to caaarrrreeee about men’s time and feelings… please he must be so lonely having his entire social life over discord plssss can anyone help HIM

>>127059
HAHAHHA

>>126912
but yes nona pls get out asap while you still can. you are literally 19!!!! you deserve to meet and date people if you want that and have actual real connections. not get lovebombed by some guy 5 year older than you tf. And definitely don't feel guilty bc he spent time/money on youu, because be fr he's a grown man and those are his choices.

If you don't end it soon it'll just keep going and it'll be harder to get away from him. Think about your future. You do NOT want this man to be your husband !!!

Yikes, normally I dont about age gaps but the fact hes already suicide guilting you is a giant red flag. Block,run and hide and never look him up. Most likely hes bluffing…and on the 5% chance he does its not your fault or even worth thinking about. Its not the job of a teenager to "fix" a grown ass man. Gurantee you he'll try to baby trap you as well.

Sometimes weight gain is hormonal or genetic. You can eat less and still hold onto fat because some of your ancestors starved at some point in time.

>>128510
serving sizes are bs, counting calories is more reliable

>>128587
No one stays fat after war prisoner's diet.

>>128587
Somehow every North korean except glorious leader is immune to that.

Moved to >>>/hb/22658.

Then don’t be mean.
Problem solved.

they want to brainwash you to become a mother

>>128528
Chances are they see good leadership or compassion. Since you're a woman all they see is your potential to create life.

it genuinely feels this way because i got dumped this morning before work and he said he did it because he didnt want to cheat on me. the world is fucking horrible. and now hes going to flirt with other girls.

men are not capable of romantic love

men are not capable of romantic love

men are capable of romantic love

>>128538
False
>>128539
True

i know it's not that easy but if you're walking out on them anyway, tell them to keep their phones in their bag or smth while you do. one friend 5 years after we left that school i'm still talking with only because i told them off on their phone usage while trying to socialise

it's the mRNA I put in you

Source I'm bill gates

>>128043
If that is true, you have impressed me. I have wanted to know this for a long time.

>>128028
People have to balance work with constant time wasters thrown at them from every angle. Meanwhile all sorts of behaviours are stigmatized as "cringe", "red flag", "trauma dumping", "performative", "insensitive", "awkward", "toxic positivity", "pickme" etc. so it's safer to say nothing.

People will have to detox their brains from a decade of excessive meme consumption.

So? I don't know how to socialize properly, is it my fault that I was born like this

My dad is an alcoholic who behaves like a child. I used to love him as a child, but I grew completely desolated from him. He's more like a roommate, actually.

>>128513
Does he throw tantrums?

>>128513
He does that a lot. It is very stressing to have someone like him living in my house. From time to time, the relationship seems to somehow get better, but once he drinks alcohol again, every progress goes down the drain

yes. both of my parents had deep addictions. i separated and moved to a whole different town when i was 20 and haven’t spoken to them or any family since. the hardest part is when people try to probe into my past and ask questions regarding family, not because i’m sensitive about it or anything but because it usually elicits a “aww you poor retarded baby” response.

Yes I had a really crazy upbringing and lived in a few different households with different family members. Very unstable. My mom left when I was a baby, then my stepmom disowned me recently. Really bizarre way to live.

There are benefits to being unattached. I am much more independent than my peers and have an easier time with rejection. Growing up this way definitely gave me some problems but I count my blessings.

>>128546
>negative people are psychopaths that need to be cut out of their life completely because it's "toxic.

there isn't another way to be visibly happy because visible happiness makes psychpaths thirsty.

>>128546
Not sure how that is relevant to what I said

>>128548
You said how is negativity not draining. I said how is listening to toxic positivity not draining when you are experiencing suffering. Idk how you don't see the relevance there.

>>128549
Because we’re not discussing toxic positivity at all? There’s a middle ground between being a whiny bitch and someone forcing positivity?

See this is the problem with people like you. You’re bringing an irrelevant issue here when you could just create your own thread, but instead you need someone to regulate your emotions like a toddler. Like do you really think you’re the only one with a shit life? Most of us are, you aren’t special.

>>128550
You sound like a gaslighting narcissist who tries to make everything seem good so people won't notice how shit of a person you are. Optimism is cowardice. You are a coward.

>>128443
is it really that bad? i have a crush on a guy 4 inches shorter than me and this is my worst fear

>>128471
it was BRUTAL in high school and college people my bff was 5’11 and she would get ghosted and have the boy she dated pretend he didn’t know her when his friends started taunting him about the height difference. idk how it is with adults. i will say she said the same thing about being even a little larger than the man sucked for cuddling and she wasn’t big enough he could be a good little spoon so it just sucked overall. she likes dating much taller men now.

>>128473
>idk how it is with adults
Adults are just older highschoolers these days.

>>128475
yeah in hs a lot less people would have cared over stuff that like. go into work with a shorter bf and every old lady is gonna mock him to your face once he leaves

>>128498
Brutal

whats the letterboxd ?

>>128522 I go by Sehkmet on Letterboxd, obvs I’d friend you back, but you don’t have to at all, I was just ranting about things I know are minuscule and not that deep bc there is never a space for it irl.

>>128495
have you ever had an abusive partner? that’s how they are. it doesn’t mean date them or it’s normal. they’re maladjusted freaks but yeah they like you. they ignore ugly girls not obsess over them.

>>128491
Wow what a barbarian culture UK is

>>128497
Oh I see, you're doing a bit

>>128505
abusers will call beautiful women ugly to abuse them and make them stay

>>128506
That is clearly not the situation I'm describing