>>25487>To this day it's hard for me to understand how to strike a balance.
Social interactions are good at correcting errors. Meaning making error (going too far, or not far enough) is not a bug, it's a feature. Corrective measures (such as making sure your joke wasn't offensive afterwards) are part of the interaction; they show you care, and they give an opportunity to the other party to show they care by reassuring you. It's also an opportunity for both of you to make sure you share the same social rules. Believe it or not, these are strengthening moments in a relationship. Obviously, it can't happen every hour of the day, but it is not an error, a problem. It's just a hiccup on the road, and everyone is driving Jeeps.>>25542
Do not overinterpret what other people think or say and do not give that much power over you to people's opinions. Especially if you're coming from an abusive background: you tend to hang around other abusive idiots and not seeing it (yet). I mean, what kind of asshole would criticize the style of a message asking for help?