>>676> expecting what
I didn't really have expectations so much as curiosity. I certainly didn't expect literal systemic oppression because of my gender. I hate hypocrisy but only other people's hypocrisy
and I fully expect other people to be the same, so whatever.
I clearly said in the OP> I appreciate what you're tying to do here
and my point is that you're going to have to have the discussion sooner or later - and it's probably going to be a lot harder to come up with a cohesive solution later.
But by all means, if the mere suggestion of the discussion is too offensive, stick your head in the sand instead - that'll solve it.