/hb/ - Health & Beauty

I got the exact same. Penetration burns/cramps/stings big time. It hurts on the inside, especially after 2mins with the fibger inside (couldnt fit a benis even if i tried). I can also feel my cervix when im ~2 knuckles deep, although i read thaz thats normal. But shouldnt the cervix go up a bit when youre aroused?
I dont remember any sexual assault during childhood though.
I think it also might be bc my muscles are totally unused to anything down there (never even used tampons before my first time, which failed spectacularly, and masturbating feels as pleasurable as rubbing my arm).

can i just ignore the pain and have sex anyway or would that lead to an infection or something?

I posted this before in another thread but since this topic comes up a lot and doctors are useless I'm reposting:

I had it. Some background:
I went to the doctor (who didn’t even examine me) and got told to see councilors, who were useless and only recommended some weird 70s sex book that included a section on armpit sex (yes you read that right). Another doctor just gave me a lube prescription. Went again a couple of years later and saw a sex therapist who did examine me but was also useless and just wanted to talk about the times I had tried to have sex and criticising my choices. She couldn’t seem to grasp why I thought losing your virginity wasn’t a big deal (virginity is a man made concept) and couldn’t find anything in my childhood so I stopped going. Aside from an examination, I don’t recommend involving doctors at all.

How I cured it:
I went to another doctor and asked about a treatment that is basically inserting dildos of varying size until you are ok with a normal size. While men can get viagra as a free prescription, I was going to have to pay $$$ for a dildo set. I didn’t want to do that so I did the following instead:

1. Stop dating completely. It just put pressure on me to put up with the pain and made things worse.

2. When masturbating, right before climaxing, insert my pinkie finger for a few seconds, then remove and continue as normal. Gradually I built up to having the finger for longer, using the finger for stimulation, larger fingers, multiple fingers, etc. One you can bunch your whole hand together and insert that you’re pretty much fine.

3. During sex I now insist that I masturbate or my partner gives me oral until the brink of orgasm before anything is inserted into me. My partner can lick my nipples, kiss me, stroke themselves, while I do it. Also, if it hurts even in the smallest way (which basically never happens now) I stop immediately. No more pretending.

Hope this helps.

>>8549

I used to have problems like OP and did stuff like in 2. and 3., I can't remember exactly what though since it's been a while. I don't have those problems (as much) anymore. I thought it was probably me just growing out of it, but it was probably those tbh! Super weird to know I wasn't completely autistic in my self remedies for once

>>8551
Glad to hear something similar worked for you anon.

>>8549
Regarding the cure, I should add that this isn’t a quick fix and it took me at least a year to work my way up. When you do start having sex again, push out with your vagina muscles when you try to insert something. It sounds counter intuitive but it makes insertion easier (a gyno friend told me this). Also don’t be afraid to close your eyes and let your thoughts wander to other sexy scenarios if it helps you relax (e.g. the things you think about when masturbating). If you’ve had a lot of bad experiences, trying to be in the moment can make you tense up and more likely to feel pain. Gradually work up to finding the situation sexy and not just the stimulation. Turning the lights off can help too.

i bathe regularly

>>8515
I would hope so.

am: wash my face with gentle soap, moisturizer, sunscreen, and light mascara/eyebrow pen.

pm: double cleanse, moisturizer.

Hado Labo Gokujyun is doing wonders for my skin. I just started using an aha this week…. I’m starting slow with once a week even though I’m itching to use it again since it seems to have helped my super congested skin.

I wash my face with normal hand soap in the morning (I don't have any problems from it so I stopped buying specialized face soap for no reason) then I put acetylsalicylic acid and moisturizing cream on my face. In the evening I do the same, my skin is better than ever before and I don't have to buy a lot of stuff. Maybe I should use sunscreen too but it stings my face (I will try again when I buy one that isn't 3 years past expiry date though)
If I put on makeup I take a little bit of purple eyeshadow and paint it with a small brush on the outer edges of my eyes because I'm not skilled enough to do anything else with it and eyeshadow is the only thing that doesn't burn my eyes

>>8451
skincare (the most important part of your beauty routine)
>cerave cleanser
>(2x a week in the morning) apply biologique recherche p50 with a cotton pad
>(morning) timeless vitamin C serum or (evening) tretinoin gel 0.1%
>hada labo gokujyun premium lotion and a tiny bit of cerave moisturizing cream
>(morning) la roche posay sunscreen

makeup
>nars radiant longwear foundation, tarte concealer in the stick
>anastasia brow wiz
>muted shimmery brown cream eyeshadow and a bit of tightlined black eyeshadow, urban decay perversion mascara
>peripera lip tint

I'm looking for base makeup with lighter coverage now that my skin has leveled up. considering korean BB cushions, but I don't know any that are the same shade as Missha BB cream #13.

>>8490
Felt it might be a bit tmi for some was all, idk. Probably you have a point that I'm used to censoring that stuff because it's not usually in women-only spaces that I'm posting it or sth. Also I've never heard of anyone else having painfully swollen labia as a period side effect, but I guess if I never talk about it I'll never find them lol.
Yeah, I'm not one to say that disposable pads are horribly toxic or whatever, but I do find them a little irritating now even though they have saved me in a pinch a couple times.
I've actually never had an issue with textile pads shifting around too much- I actually like them better than the disposable ones because I can adjust them back to the right spot (discreetly of course)

>>8494
ADHD lol. Also tampons are pretty small, I couldn't feel that there were 2.

>What strategies are you using to cope with it and to feel better?
Overdose on painkillers, medicine for stomach cramps and also some stuff my doctor prescribed me. I have extremely low blood pressure, so every other month I'm rendered useless for like 2 days, while I lay in bed and pray to whatever I can that I won't faint while walking to the toilet. After these two days it gets better, but I still envy girls that have 3 or 4 day long periods, a week of this shit is way too much.

I used to suffer from bad cramps but in recent years they've calmed down a lot. I used to use a hot water bottle. Btw ladies, anyone take iron supplements while menstruating? In general, we have to consume more iron because of blood loss.

Not sure how many people this will help, but I've stopped myself from feeling any anticipation of pain, which sometimes causes the pain to be even worse. I tend to treat myself with less discipline if I anticipate being in pain, and there's really no reason to do that. To deal with it, I close my eyes, breathe deep, and repeat to myself "it doesn't hurt" or "it feels good" and that takes away ~80% of it on bad-but-not-awful days.

On days that my cramps are really horrible, I take ~1300 mg acetaminophen, put on a heating pad, and usually I will be knocked out and fast asleep within 30-ish minutes.

>Which one are you?
Average? I'm 5'6"/168 cm.

>Do you wish you could change your height?
I used to do modelling but was an inch or two too short to do it professionally. Recently I've been thinking that short women are cute. I guess I feel the same as this anon >>7810

>Does it even matter that much when it comes to dating?
No one has ever mentioned it so I guess not.

>And for guys, do you have a preference?
I think 6'0" can be hot but it's not a dealbreaker for me. I haven't dated someone smaller than me but never known any guys who were.

>Which one are you?
Tall, about 5'9.5"/176 cm.

>Do you wish you could change your height?
No. I love being tall and I used to wish I was as tall as my mom who's 6'. Now I'm glad I'm 5'9" bc my mom has the figure to pull it off but I'm gangly enough as it is, and it's hard enough to find well-fitting clothes.

I do feel like my height has impacted me socially, I worry a lot about how people will perceive and treat me as a female who's the average US male height and it's a factor in why I'm so fucking self conscious. >>8014 has a good point, I've never thought about that before but subconsciously I think that's maybe a reason why I feel weirdly ashamed of being tall around other people sometimes? I also got a lot of comments as a kid like >>8011 about being tall and slim and it's shitty enough when kids do it but adults need to learn to not comment on children's bodies point blank period. I think hearing that shit through my childhood and tweenhood contributed to my anorexia which developed out of a fear of not being thin/gaining weight. I had heard my whole life up to that point that being thin/"modelesque" was a valuable thing about me, which wasn't the straw that broke the camel's back but it didn't fucking help.

>Does it even matter that much when it comes to dating?
I'm not sure, my adult relationships have both been people I already was friends with and knew well so I've never been in the "dating world". Both men I've dated seemed to appreciate my height.

>And for guys, do you have a preference?
For both men and women, dating someone around the same height as me would be ideal. My bf and I are literally the exact same height and I love it it's adorable, but the absolute ideal would be a partner who was an inch or two shorter than me. Taller than me is good, but I'm not sure how I'd feel about dating a guy or girl who was significantly shorter than me. I'd like to say it wouldn't matter but I haven't had the chance to test that hypothesis so I'm not sure.

What do you guys think of this video? Boggles my mind that some of these Japanese girls are so short (<160cm) already and want to be even shorter.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/263765529_Mock_Juror_Gender_Biases_and_Perceptions_of_Self-Defense_Claims_in_Intimate_Partner_Homicide
The influence of height on this study is really, really weird. Basically, if a woman is being abused by a significantly taller man, and kills him with a weapon in an act of self defense, a jury is likely to send her to prison for a much longer time than if she killed a man who did not have such an overwhelming physical advantage over her. She is more likely to be considered either not guilty or only guilty of a lesser degree of manslaughter if she is significantly taller than him.

That is crazy. The second hypothesis listed in the study was exactly the reverse of this conclusion; it was hypothesized that women would be convicted at similar rates across all height disparities, but a man who was abused by a taller woman would be viewed more sympathetically than a man who was abused by a shorter woman. That's what I would have expected, especially since I've heard tall girls say that they're seen as "ogres" or "monsters" by shorter men and sometimes women. If the "monster" perception were real, then taller women who killed shorter abusers would have a much higher conviction rate than women who killed taller abusers.

In the study's own text:
>Height Interaction:The abuser gender x abuser height interaction provided a significant contribution to the logistic regression model onverdict at step 3, Step χ2(2)= 6.72, p=.035. However, the interaction was not in the predicted direction.
>Participants exposed to a male abuser were 2.68 times more likely to render guilty verdicts when the male abuser was taller than his partner (OR=2.68, p=.025). When the abuser was a woman, a logistic regression with participant gender, ethnicity, and age entered on step 1 and abuser height entered on step 2 was not significant
>Specifically, when the abuser was a man, a woman defendant was seen as guilty more often when she was shorter than he was.

>the female defendant was more likely to be convicted when her abusive male partner was taller rather than shorter. This finding is somPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>Which one are you?
tall, about 180-183cm
>Do you wish you could change your height?
not anymore. sure, growing up you had to "suffer" through quite the remarks but I was either to autistic to notice most of the times or I just wasn't really bothered by what other people were telling me. that's probably a me thing tho.
I can very much imagine how others would be seriously hurt by the social stigma. in any case, I've come to like it in recent years, reason being
>Does it even matter that much when it comes to dating?
I've got a thing for cute subs, so being fairly tall is a blessing:^)
>And for guys, do you have a preference?
preferably shorter, no limit to how much shorter. if they're the insecure manlet type we're probably incompatible.
im bi but with girls I'm not into subs. they can just be equal, or some power dynamic, I'm fairly open there.

>>3386
nta, but
>what type of exercises should I do, anon?
Usually running/swimming/skipping rope can help, but it's all gonna be useless if you dont eat less and/or better.

I've been obsessed with this girl I follow on Tumblr. (Pic related) she's my ideal body and aesthetics. Even though this is a older picture and she has way more tattoos now. It's just nice to see someone who is my height and my ugw. It helps to feel more motivated to lose weight.
I just hate myself for ballooning as big as I did.ughhhh….and I'm still overweight. :(

>>8084
I forgot to spoil the picture

for motivation, resistance training out helps with..

reducing cardiovascular risk
Cornelissen VA, Fagard RH, Coeckelberghs E, Vanhees L. Impact of resistance training on blood pressure and other cardiovascular risk factors: a meta-analysis of randomized, controlled trials. Hypertension 2011; 58:950.

reducing metabolic issues
Ross R, Janssen I, Dawson J, et al. Exercise-induced reduction in obesity and insulin resistance in women: a randomized controlled trial. Obes Res 2004; 12:789.

Cuff DJ, Meneilly GS, Martin A, et al. Effective exercise modality to reduce insulin resistance in women with type 2 diabetes. Diabetes Care 2003; 26:2977.

Aune D, Norat T, Leitzmann M, et al. Physical activity and the risk of type 2 diabetes: a systematic review and dose-response meta-analysis. Eur J Epidemiol 2015; 30:529.

Holten MK, Zacho M, Gaster M, et al. Strength training increases insulin-mediated glucose uptake, GLUT4 content, and insulin signaling in skeletal muscle in patients with type 2 diabetes. Diabetes 2004; 53:294.

Almenning I, Rieber-Mohn A, Lundgren KM, Løvvik TS, Garnaes KK, Moholdt T. Effects of high intensity interval training and strength training on metabolic, cardiovascular and hormonal outcomes in women with polycystic ovary syndrome: a pilot study. PLoS One. 2015; 10(9).
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Muscular with low bodyfat is the ideal form. I would put the time/effort into it once I can afford exorbitant amounts of chicken and a gym membership. I'm not willing to hop on any steroids to get the varbie look though.

>>8437
>”I’m going to wait until X happens to start working out”
Just start now anon

>>8441
That isn't what I said. Learn to read.

>>8342
>go to the place full of people obsessed with fitness to see if men generally like girls obsessed with fitness
Thats like saying you know guys generally love girls who are into anime because the people on /a/ told you so. You want to see what men actually want? Look at models, actresses and mainstream porn stars. Men like fit girls, but generally they dont like muscular girls.

>>8455
Other femanon here.
Can't agree with that a lot of guys like muscle girls but they often don't talk about it because of stigma.
I didn't even know for years that by bf was into that. Still I am too lazy to be a muscle girl anyway(but maybe someday).

>>72
I'll try to update you guys! Although, I have no idea how many months it will be until I have a stable job, so it might be a while before I can afford to throw my money at pole classes

Seconding the other anon, thank you for sharing with us!

If any anons ITT like HIIT workouts like me, I highly recommend this one.

First because I was never bored; it moves quickly and the moves are pretty energetic. I had to stop at 13 mins because of period cramps, but I didn't even noticed I went this far to begin with (I was betting on about 7 mins), so that's a big plus for me.

Also, while doing the exercise, I thought I it wasn't that hard and that probably I wasn't getting "results" from it (I like to sweat and feel exhausted lol) but boi o boi, once I stopped my whole body became a fucking waterfall, and I mean that in the best of ways. It actually motivated me to finish the workout when my cramps get a bit more mild.

10/10 will do again.

I recommend Chloe Ting: https://www.youtube.com/user/ChloesAddiction

>>8423
I started using Chloe Tings Videos four weeks ago and I think they are amazing.
This is the first time that I'm exercising but I finally reached my goal of having a flat belly when relaxed. It was great to see how fast you can actually improve your performance. I needed a lot less breaks during the videos after the 5th day.

My next goal is to get a nicer butt.

Just trying to find a way that works for me. Before COVID I was going to a local gym 2x a week to do one TRX class and one intro pilates and then yoga about 2x a month. I was also really busy back then and not trying to add much more and just focus on making those things a habit.
Since the pandemic I did nothing for months and then one day I snapped and my sister and I started getting up at anywhere between 6-8AM to do … something. My parents have a lot of gym equipment so we use that if it's raining, mostly we bike (it's not too hot out that early), sometimes we do general strength training (what I remember from TRX mostly lol) or use the treadmill. And now the pilates gym is open again and I'm so excited, and I can go back to very small yoga classes too.
It's been really helpful for me to keep the focus OFF of weight and body changes. I'm doing it for mental health and physical health to improve my cardiovascular fitness and maybe build some strength and improve my posture and flexibility. Also to have fun and make my days better. I have this mindset where any exercise>no exercise and if I don't enjoy it then I won't do it so I might as well have fun.

>>8432
>>8433
should try putting a couple drops of mineral oil in your ear and after a couple days try and use a syringe with warm water to try and squirt it out

>>8432
Visit an ENT (ear nose throat doctor) if you can afford it

>>8432
There's some solution that you buy without prescription. I had a clogged ear a few years back and after using it every day for a few days it went away. I cant tell you the exact name because I'm not from the US but I'm sure you can find something similar if you search around a bit.

>>8432
hydrogen peroxide. it's amazing, all fizzy. dirt cheap too. also removes stains from clothing

>>8432
Get this: https://www.amazon.com/Elephant-Washer-Bottle-Doctor-Easy/dp/B005M2B5P0
Mix one part hydrogen peroxide to three parts warm water and blast it into your ear. Make sure you do it over a sink because the wax will shoot out.

>>2668
Giiiiirl you are rockin that dress! Have fun on Boxing Day~

>>2668
what's your height/weight?

>>2668
omg it looks so good on you! Thanks for sharing with us <3

>>2670
>>2672
Thank you both!! <3

>>2677
Thank you. And I bet you could, anon. I am the least confident person ever but sometimes you just have to.

>>2681
Aww thank you!! Have a great Xmas :)

>>2684
I'm 5 ft. 5, and I'm not sure how much I weigh. I think last time I was weighed I was 120lbs? It fluctuates quite a lot.

>>2686
Thanks so much!!! <3

>What are your favorite shops?
Target, TJ Maxx, Amazon, and thrift stores. I'm trying to get into the habit of shopping from small businesses more.
>What are you buying right now?
I have no monies.
>Wishlist items?
Okay I have a lot on Amazon, but recently I found some small shops that I would really like to purchase from in the future!

I really want to buy her floral knife:
https://sweetesttangerine.com/

Jewelry:
https://www.etsy.com/shop/BreasJewelry
https://www.nectar.jewelry/

Press-on nails:
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As far as I know, guys only care about saggy breasts as long as they are small. The bigger they are the less they care about shape.
Pretty sure they won't care if you're an F-cup like you mentioned, OP.

>>6747
I also have saggy c cups. doesn't seem fair. I've been increasing my bench press lately and it seems to have helped a bit. Mostly it's just like >>6748 said and you have to just accept it.

Kinda wish I was saggy so I would have an excuse to get a boobjob. I have the pyramid shaped pointy breasts so it would seem weird that I want to get implants out of nowhere. Saggy breasts with an implant tends to give a really natural look. I’d love to be able to be super busty from implants but kinda too embarrassed of what people who know me think to do it. At least if I was saggy I was have an excuse to tell people.

>>8402
Girl you don't need an excuse to get implants. You can do whatever you want and you don't need to explain your choices to other people. This genuinely is a case of my body my choice.

>>8403
Yeah, I get that. Most people would think it's very out of character for me and I don't want awkward looks or mentions.