I can't say I feel the same about such women though I half agree with the other stuff.
A lot of this shit involves society making false promises to women, then it feeds off their undervalued caring/labor afterwards. And you might not like it, but this says more about how efficient the system's conditioning can be…more than how "dumb" such women are. Yes, even the ones that choose it, willingly.
So many of these women are actual technically well-adjusted people that just…buy into what they've been taught and then they might suffer the consequences much later on in their lives. A lot of the stuff we here take for granted is taboo elsewhere. And this isn't without function–
A woman that starts realizing how tenuous and entropic having a child, succumbing to anxiety is…probably going to crash and burn sooner than a woman with conviction and little doubt–even if it's founded on copes or ideology, it can work.
With you, it seems like you've actually kneeled to the "blame women" angle that's pushed heavily. Yes. Some blame rests on women over getting into bad situations, but most of it is simply that the system doesn't want to tell women what is likely to happen–and wants to suppress this information and frame it as the words of just a random few instead of, say…admitting stuff like how most men viscerally devalue women when they have a child, or won't function as a good dad, or how much of it is simply extremely devalued and underappreciated labor….which society absolutely loves. Of course it does.
It's already common for groups of mothers to discourage themselves from speaking freely about the worst parts of being a mother (be is brutal specifics or damage to their bodies, or how they no longer have time for themselves. Or, how their partner never stepped up). And this isn't really just about conforming but…that reality is brutal, so brutal that it disenchants and disillusions so the people that have a vested interest in it conceal it to protect their own mental health. We're thoroughly toasted here so we know the worst, lol, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone that already has a child.
Oh. And your read on "if her partner is a subpar male" is more awkward than anything because, like… in real life, many or most people that are earnest and devoted won't fraPost too long. Click here to view the full text.