/hb/ - Health & Beauty

op here to give a bit of an update. first of all, thanks for all of your thoughtful responses i appreciate them. i've started on an antidepressant and been going to a few therapy sessions. i just feel numb instead of sad and my apathy has increased tenfold. i still want to die. i thought therapy would be helpful but i don't really feel that i'm getting anything from it. this is mainly because i think that i don't want to even be there or put in any effort. i'm only going because my doctor told me to and i realized i don't like it. i'm open during my sessions and give information, but it seems like a lot of what i say is maybe too heavy and my therapist is more commonly at a lost for words.

i don't really know what i'm doing at this point in my life. i had to take leave from work and start this treatment plan because i reached my breaking point. i don't have a plan or direction and am hoping my eating disorder slowly kills me

i'll continue to go to therapy and take my medication though. take care everyone

>>19073
which antidepressant you use?

>>19075
sertraline

I've tried so many antidepressants and other classes of drugs in my life that I've lost count, and none of them ever made a difference for me. In fact they were a net negative because of the side effects.

But that was years ago, and nowadays I'm genuinely way happier and emotionally resilient. I haven't had suicidal thoughts in a while and I feel generally content with just existing.

For me what changed was stuff like eating better, getting away from abuse, developing more independence and confidence in doing things, developing new hobbies (I like cooking and fashion), adopting religious beliefs, working on self-esteem… But I know these are all sort of meme suggestions, it's hard to really put your finger on it when you come out of that sort of thing and I think that's maybe why people sound so retarded and unhelpful when talking about how to get better. Like on a surface level, taking care of yourself helps, but it's really more of a deeper philosophical thing where you have to find intrinsic meaning and value in your life. For me it started with stuff like "I hate my life but I sort of want x goal so I'll work towards that."

I'm not good at advice but I hope that maybe it would help someone to hear that someone who got nothing out of any medication or therapy was able to get better. (also if you have specialist issues like trauma, it might help to see a specialist therapist rather than a normie one who just helps people deal with stress)

>>19113
It did help me to read that. My problems aren’t really fixable. There is nothing wrong with my life. It’s just me existing in this world and the agony I feel in existing. But it’s not constant agony. I have done a lot and nothing really worked but reading about your experience was kinda soothing. I hope my brain can fix itself somehow

Get some excersise in that's easy on your joints and not too daunting to start. Taking a walk around the neighbourhood or local park is probably the easiest thing you can do. You can listen to some music or a podcast and treat is as a break from your studies, get some fresh air. And being around some nature every day boosts the mental health too! If you can afford a subscription, swimming at the swimming pool is great too. You also don't have to do keto to lose weight if it's difficult to fit in your budget. Gl!

>>19079

Theres zero evidence for this. Your arteries clog up when you have excess calories leading to fat being stored. Keto is actually healthy, before agriculture humans ate keto and we've existed for a lot longer than since the agricultural revolution.

Obviously avoiding carbs like the plague isnt good ESPECIALLY if you lift weights and or do cardio.

>>19077
calorie defecit + excerise even if its just walking, swap out drinks for water or tea, and look at pop as more of a dessert, work on portions sizing more, prioritize protein in your daily cals

You can try doing exercises sitting in your chair with light dumbbells like the ones designed for seniors or people recuperating from injuries

>>19077
keto is just another fad diet
youre going to end up binging if you cut out carbs completely, i see it with my diet obsessed family all the time. maybe try getting a job or some sort of volunteer position that could get you out of the house. your family probably taught you unhealthy eating habits and you should try to move out if you can, its hard to change eating habits if you're in an unhealthy environment. you may not know what healthy eating habits are. perhaps see a registered dietician if you have the means.

>>7849

What direction do you wipe in? It should be front-to-back.

For years I wiped back-to-front and didn't realise I was smearing poo into my vagina which made it stink.

I don’t think green is a healthy color for discharge. Maybe you’re wiping the wrong way like this anon is saying >>7853

Those types of farts shouldn’t be causing an issue (unless maybe you’re not wiping yourself clean enough after pooping? Sorry to pry, but just throwing some possibilities out there). It’s pretty normal to get farts that travel in front like that.

Don’t use soap or special washes. That messes with your pH level and could actually cause issues like this.

>>7853
Front to back. I use wet wipes too.

>>7854
But if I don't use something to wash it smells bad. It's soap designed to clean there and keep your ph right so I don't think it's causing this. I've also used different soaps throughout the years and it's always been the same.

I forgot to mention, I started having sex and it's the only thing that seems to stop it for 1-2 days.

>>7856
>>7849
it's obviously because you're washing too much and using soaps and fragrances down there. vaginas are self cleaning. you should wash the folds with water or mild unscented soap/wipe, but never get soap/wetwipe fluid/etc near the opening
the healthy bacteria have been killed and the bad bacteria are proliferating in your vagina. the foul smelling discharge is your body trying to fight against the bad bacteria, or the bad bacteria growing in there…

>19096
male spotted

>>19004
yeah knowing some people, shit upbringing like lot of trauma/stress or growing up neglected/in a biohazard kind of house.

>>18999
I don't feel like I'd make it through the scrutiny of the process and if I did I think I would feel too guilty for exaggerating how chronic the debilitation is.

>>18972
EDS is real but can be faked. I know a high school girl with EDS and autism and I might assume she was faking it but you should see how easy it is for these ppl to dislocate their joints and contort themselves. Sometimes the physical symptoms seem to cause the mental, idk.

As for endometriosis, it is fairly common and a real physical overgrowth of endometrial tissue. But it can't be diagnosed without surgery or laparoscopy. I get period pain is bad but holy shit just cope if you think you have PMDD and there is nothing physically wrong.

There's a hilarious study out there showing supposed celiacs having severe "reactions" to GF foods that they were tricked into thinking had gluten.

>>18965
i have no idea my dad has it and scoliosis and he was a chef and then for most of his life worked in construction so i assumed it was from that, though he also just smokes weed for it instead of taking opiates

>>18972
Crohn's is diagnosed using biopsies and tests that show inflammation markers

I think my bf stretched me out, but everything I’ve read says that’s impossible. Why do I feel so “open” down there?

>>18897
Do kegels

>>19034
your bf is gaslighting you

>>19036
Smells like bait tbh

How normal is it to break out in hives before menstruating? I used to not have this issue it's only recently I noticed that my skin itches and gets red right before my period.

This sounds scary and isolating, I send good wishes to you, mama.

>>18547
Thanks anon. I just hope I stop sleeping so fucking much. Like I currently am falling asleep at 5am and walking up at 5pm it’s so annoying.

It’s not scary as much as frustrating and annoying. I wanted this. It is isolating though bc I do feel alone. I don’t have any friends where I live. But I’m used to feeling isolated and alone (it’s nbd).

Really, I just want the 9 months to be over so I can stop feeling icky and get the annoying painful part over with if that makes sense.

>>18544
How are you doing anon? If you still come here, of course.

>>18544
Damn, that sounds bad. What age is advanced maternal age? I want to wait until 30. Maybe I should just let it be, idk

Iktf, pregnancy sucks. I hope you enjoy being a mom anon. :)

>>18548
What trimester are you in? I slept a lot in first and second trimester but couldn't sleep much in 3rd trimester because I was so uncomfortable.

>>18931
35. Before it was called advanced maternal age they used to call it geriatric pregnancy. If you can have kids earlier it is better, being pregnant at this age js considered high risk in obstetrics.

>>19016
retinol cream? or in general

>>17871
I love smile lines, I love to see other girls smile. There’s nothing wrong with smile lines. I’m 18 and I have had them my whole life, I guess because I’m always smiling. Embrace the face

>>17864
I know this is really late advice but you shouldn't really be developing these type of wrinkles at that age. Your best bet is orthodontics. Weight loss and sculptra can help too.

Assuming you don't have BDD, there are fixes for these wrinkles as other nonas have said

>>17920
the side with the line is likely the side that you sleep on at night. Sleeping on your side deepens these lines even further. Try to sleep on your back, if you can.

>>18950
tracking my monthly progress with a habit tracker and painting my nails daily helped a lot for me

>>18950
Thank you, I am desperate enough to try it.

I have anxiety and adhd that causes my life to be neverendingly stressful (even going to the grocery store or dealing with mundane shit is enough to trigger it) so I can't really reduce stress to try and fix it.

I chew my fingers/inside my cheeks when I am stressed but I also do it when I am playing games or reading. Maybe the hypnosis stuff will work, I will try anything.

i’ve been a chronic nail biter since i grew my teeth as a toddler. for as long as i can remember i can’t stop, the only time my nails will grow is with acrylics, but even then i can’t stop gnawing at those too. recently i began to pick at my skin a lot, especially any acne that might show up, and now i have bad bacne scars from it. it really sucks, i wish i could stop all of these things.

>>18906
I was asked about skin picking at my adhd interview dumbass

>>18880
ive been a compulsive nail biter all my life, but i managed to kick the habit and my nails are super long these days. my tip is to use nail polish and replace the habit of biting with picking off the polish. had to reapply nail polish several times a week, but it worked

>>18948
You can take T, it's why the bodytype is called "adrenal" anyway

>>18949
going to have to turn to the black market for that. i'm glad there's a demand for testosterone already because of bodybuilders.

>>18948
pullups, trap, and delt exercises?

>>18942
The ideal male body isn't really a thing because nobody cares how men look - they don't objectify them, they see them as subjects and evaluate them on traits like their personality, achievements, intelligence, humor etc.

>>18939
You're better off losing the weight. Don't fall for bbls, they look stupid.

>>18725
I'd check out Emmiol's website, they have a good selection of baggy jeans and shorts, as well as graphic tees. Thrifting's also great, I like getting my baggy tees from the mens section, and getting jeans/cargo pants from both mens & womens section. If you have access to a printer, you can use iron on transfer sheets and add your own designs to plain clothes to make them look like the left 3 images.

I feel like the best way to find stuff like this is in thrift stores. I spend a lot of time in the men's section in thrift stores and buy XL or XXL men's stuff. You can make your stuff into a little project too if that's your vibe, painting on it or adding some "crafty" things like in picrel.

So oversized sweaters/hoodies, graphic tees and baggy jeans? You can find that at mainstream stores on the high street, you just need to be able to see past the outfits on the mannequins and how the store has styled them but look at the individual items instead. And like >>18997 said thriftstores.