Sudden Hypersexuality Anonymous 13471[Reply]
I've known my partner for 3 years and we've been dating for 1 year, so I know him pretty well. Our sex life has never been dull, but we usually only have sex 2 or maybe 3 times a week and will get handsy with each other every week. For the last 2 weeks, his sexual appetite has been changing and ramping up. It started with him being very seductive and asking to eat me out as we made dinner, then having sex the day after, which is a little odd but not that unusual. From there he ramped up to wanting sex every day and now having sex TWICE a day as he wakes up desperate for me each morning. He NEVER wants to have sex in the morning usually, and previously couldn't understand why people did, but now every morning he starts feeling me up like we're teenagers. Even more unusual is now we LIKES blowjobs, whereas previously he was never interested in them and actually requests them (not often, but 2 in the last couple of weeks is equal to the number I've given before this point). Most strange of all is that now we can cum in under 10 minutes and his refractory period is about that, too. Previously, all our sex was long and very slow, because it took him minimum 30 minutes to cum, which was a little frustrating because I only take about 15 minutes, and if I wanted to go again I had to wait an hour or so. Now he will just start kissing me, testing to see if I'm in the mood, then hoist me onto the nearest surface in the house and we can fuck like rabbits and cum together in under 10 minutes, then rush to bed, make out and go again.
I'm by no means against this sudden change, as I actually love having 2-3 orgasms a day and the rush of intimacy, but it has me worried, curious and a little sore. People have told me it means he's cheating on me, but unless he has a stealth mistress on 24/7 standby and speed dial, it doesn't seem possible with our lifestyle. Others have suggested he intends on leaving me or that he may have an illness. Can anyone offer any insights?
9 posts omitted. Click reply to view.Anonymous 13495
Could be anything really. He could've stopped taking some medication, steroids cause increased sexdrive if you have a gym bf. Possibly he might've gotten over some trauma or might be less depressd/stressed lately.
Anonymous 13542
all of you are always like, "HES CLEARLY DOING SOMETHING BAD" while youre clearly just jealous that somebody has a nice BF
Anonymous 13550
>>13471have you tried asking him?
asking usually works.
Anonymous 13647
>>13471If he is cheating right now, then you wouldn't be having sex as often. I don't think you have to worry about that. It's rather strange though. I guess people's libidos change depending on various factors. Perhaps he was depressed or something before, or maybe he was two timing you and now he isn't, or maybe he was masturbating and stopped for you. I don't know, could be a change of diet or activity that changes his hormones. That's a thing too
Don't stress about it too much, I think you're good
>>13481Do men do that?
Anonymous 13711
>>13471>>13484Update: So he had some tests done and his testosterone levels almost doubled between last year and now, which a doctor basically just shrugged at and put down to a change in diet (we just started eating more fish and legumes). Another possibility we explored was his change from listening to music during the workday and reading mostly non-fiction history at home, to listening to fiction audiobooks at work, some of which have sex and romance. Personally, I think it may have been me taking more of an interest in learning skills. He refuses to admit it, but I think he has some pretty deeply buried negative views about perceived incompetence in women (helplessness and laziness was encouraged in the women in his family and community) and I think learning to cook, use tools for home DIY and car repair was actually deeply attractive to him. Of course, he'd never admit he was ever any less in love with, or attracted to, me than he is now, but those demonstrations of competency in things he's good at coincide almost perfectly with his sudden leap in sexual appetite.
On the bright side, I know what really turns him on now, we've set a hard limit of 2x penetrative sex per day, and we learned we're both in peak physical and reproductive health so now is the perfect time to get started on baby-having.
