Rejected for being a virgin? Anonymous 13266[Reply]
I am feeling out of place for being a virgin woman. The most recent man I tried/attempted to go on a date with told me mid date that he wanted to stop seeing me (mind you we only had started talking a day or two prior) just because I had no prior sexual experiences. I feel like theres no hope lol, I want a man but men honestly treat me like shit. How do I focus on myself and stop giving a fuck?
And its so odd. All online I see this bullshit rhetoric that its supposed to be easy and im supposedly supposed to have all these options because im a woman, but hardly anyone is ever into me it seems. And the men that ive been bold enough to approach outright reject me or stop fucking with me a day or two in. We don’t even date. And I know that hookups are an option or whatever but I don’t want to participate in the hookup stuff. I feel like wanting just a simple relationship isn’t asking for too much, but maybe it is I don’t know. Its like men don’t even view me as being an option.
Overall have had very weird experiences with men.
14 posts omitted. Click reply to view.Anonymous 13281
My best guess is that by having no sexual experience in your (presumably) 20s, you're not easy enough for them. In your stead they can be dating 10 other women who will put out by the 2nd or 3rd date. On the flip side there's men who fetishize virginity too.
Regardless, dating as a woman when you're actively looking for a serious relationship isn't easy.. Low quality men are abundant and standards for taking you on a date are low. Women who have plenty of experience get ghosted too, that's just the reality of dating in our time, especially if you're on apps (which I don't know if you are). Just keep dating, you'll find a guy who you like and who likes you and has patience for you.
>its supposed to be easy
Getting sex is, if you have no standards.
Anonymous 13282
>>13281Then thats the flip side of things though. Like I know I can’t be too picky but am I wrong for wanting a dude who hasn’t slept with a shit ton of people as well? Im just rambling, but I feel like in this scenario if he had then we wouldn’t have the same values. Like a few is fine I understand im in my 20’s and people fuck, but I would prefer less than more.
And I absolutely am irritated at being dropped over not putting out soon enough, although I know theres not much to be done about it. I don’t know anymore.
I guess all I can do is keep trying and dating like you said.
Anonymous 13283
Same thing happened to me and I'm still so confused by it.
This guy I was talking to: awesome, kind, affectionate etc. We would cuddle together, he would give me forehead kisses, and hug me so hard that my feet weren't touching the ground. Then he realizes I'm a virgin. He continues to act normally, but apparently is not okay with me being a virgin. Though we are not officially dating, our dynamic is almost that of a couple.
He sleeps with another girl- I don't find out because he told me, but because his neck is covered in bruises.
He then goes two days without saying a word to me and avoiding me at all costs. The third day comes around, and he's at my door ready to talk. "I still see you as a great friend and care about you so much, I just can't commit to this and am not ready for a relationship", is what he roughly tells me.
From other people, I find out that amidst us spending every day together, he said there was no way things were going to work out between us because I don't have "experience".
I am still so lost about it? I feel like I always hear about how men want "pure" and "modest" women. That they like virgins because they've been untouched or whatever. And yet I was entired rejected because of just that. I could see how it may be overwhelming for someone with a lot of experience to be another's first, but the whole thing just stings so bad.
I'm sorry you had to go through a similar thing.
Can't stand moids. Thank God for bisexuality
Anonymous 13284
>>13283THIS omg. Everything you just described encapsulates how I feel exactly. This guys would hug me and cuddle me too!! And its just all so confusing and at the time it made me feel very empty and sad, although at the moment im feeling better. I just think about it often since it happened somewhat recently.
Anonymous 13285
I'm going to guess the turn off isn't that you have no experience, but that you won't put out easily. Sounds like you've dodged a bullet