Media/Entertainment (especially Japanese media) and self esteem Anonymous 30600[Reply]
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The idealized beauty is also there on western live action movies and television, but not as much since at least for my personal taste 2D people look far better.
Is it stupid if I feel that media, especially Japanese games and anime , ruins my self esteem?
>watching some random anime show
>every single girl look gorgeous
>everyone has a waist long perfect hair
>everyone has the hourglass body with a big butt, wide hips and huge firm breasts
I dunno, I seems like people in their world are, on average with prettier than in ours as we just seem to consider them as just everyone treat them as they were at most above average.
I know it’s silly, but I sometimes I keep wishing I was prettier even if I’m not inherently ugly or anything. It is amazing how reality is dull and 2D people are ugly, I don’t even care about what others think, I just want it for myself. It’s not that I forget that people like these are very uncommon IRL, it’s just that I think I’m not enough, or worse, reality is not enough.
I mean, I hate those idiots who whine about muh race casting, we need fatties and trannies on TV too and pretend they are healthy!, and I know it’s my fault to look for something I cannot achieve but I sometimes even think about stop playing games and watching anime because of that, but’s it’s still my favorite form of media so I don’t know what to do. Anyone else with a similar problem?
I just wish I was 2D. We need to transfer our minds to machines so we could create our own worlds ASAP.
Comparing yourself to cartoons and feeling like shit is crazy, anon. I know because I sometimes feel it myself.
You have organs and a human body, anon, which is fine.
Personally what helped me is watching western animation instead (which has uglier characters) and drawing my own art of girls who have a similar build to me. I believe in you, anon.
By "crazy" you mean retarded or just something bad that drives you crazy?
But I originally meant that it's just irrational and senseless. So, retarded.
I have a slighty different problem, but first I wanted to say that even if it's a totally comercial show Love Live! is IMO a bad exemple since except Eli, Maki and Nozomi and to a less extent Umi no girl is regarded in-universe as being a total beauty, they all have the very same problems of normal girls that affects their looks (Nico being plain and flat, Honk and Hanayo were a little overweight, Rin looks a boy and Kotori has a scar). The show that made me feel just like OP was Clannad.
As I said my problem is a bit different (Clannad was the exception. I still can't deal with how how our life looks dull when compared to fiction, and mine looked even worse.
I was a very sad child during high school and watching movies like Breakfast Club, Dazed and Confused, Ferris Bueller's Day Off among others made me really jealous because I knew people who (at least I thought) had those very same lives full of parties and fun while I was shut at home almost every weekend. What helped me was realizing that 1 no one actually have lives like in those movies and 2 even if I had a huge social life full of parties and whatever that would mean a huge tradeoff since I would lose my time and stop doing things I really love, but I still regret not having friends when I was young as this is an opportunity lost forever. I mean, I'll never know how is to have a bf at school, that really sucks.
Girls in otaku-oriented anime like Love Live are literally created to be “perfect” in an ideal way to sell merchandise, figures, etc. Real people can never become like that. Our faces have blemishes, we have body hair, etc., and that’s ok. It’s what’s humans are naturally supposed to look like.
Honestly, in your case, I would just try to watch less anime and more live-action TV shows (and this is me speaking as an anime fan).