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Anonymous Admin 68356[Reply]

I've been seeing users requesting more general/containment threads on /feels/. Please leave your suggestions here.
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Anonymous 68928

>>68925
ended up making it; hope it cleans things up a bit in the future.

Anonymous Admin 68964

How about one of each:
>dating advice (how to meet potential partners, early stages of dating, "is this a red flag" etc)
>relationship advice (established relationships)
>long-distance general
>singles general

Anonymous 68989

>>68964
I think this sounds good admin!



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Vent Thread Anonymous 69156[Reply]

Previous thread >>66074
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Anonymous 69688

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>>69683
I think we should normalize face paint and dyes.
If we're going to paint ourselves, might as well go all out and make it look awesome.

Anonymous 69689

>>69687
You really got very lucky anon. Computer science these days is becoming ridiculously competitive. It's almost impossible to get a good job in the industry without a PhD or tons of research experience plus strong recommendations (ie nepotism) from big names, while for getting a PhD you need almost post-doc level experience and published papers/conference abstracts.

Anonymous 69690

>>69686
the fuck, anon? I didn't say shit about makeup. I was mostly referring to hygiene and how many men don't even scrub their nasty bits.

Anonymous 69691

>>69690
as for "grooming" I wasn't referring to body hair besides armpit hair–which, yes, I am hypocritical about because for some reason mine picks up a smell a few hours after washing.

Anonymous 69692

>>69687
Yeah, but where online?



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confessions thread 2 Anonymous 63992[Reply]

>>51270 previous bread

I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes
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Anonymous 69510

I consider myself a very committed and loyal person, but knowing I will never get to experience the honeymoon phase of a relationship again depresses me sometimes.

Anonymous 69517

I move sidewalk snails out of the way when it's raining. I hate stepping on them it is depressing. Why must they be so dumb!! I 'll do this til I'm 89…

Anonymous 69519

>>69517
Hah, I hate snails, I am irrationally afraid of them. I'm so lucky to amost never see them where I live.
When I was little I saw a slug in the bathroom while I was on the toilet. My parents came rushing to take it out because I would keep crying and screaming "A SLUG!!".

Anonymous 69520

>>69502
Men only shower because they get to jack off there

Anonymous 69673

>>63992
I hate people that don't pay taxes as offshore accounts contribute to so much inequality but all my money is offshore in someone else's account. I'm not trying to doge taxes I just don't know how to pay them as I was working a sketchy job before and now I'm afraid what will happen if I do try to pay them.



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Relationship General Anonymous 68927[Reply]

Paradise to trouble in paradise. Come here for:

>advice

>?s about romance, love, potential partners, etc.
>experiences and wishes
>venting

Play nice!
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Anonymous 69661

>>69656
A decade now.

>>69659

General stress is of course important, but it's really avoiding physical exertion in my case. Having someone to get groceries, scrub pots and pans, do laundry ect.

I've known him for a long time, and that change to a more functional person has been a slow process. If i thought he could give those minute adjustments, I'd push for them, but that kind of change is measured in years for him.

Anonymous 69662

>>69661
>General stress is of course important, but it's really avoiding physical exertion in my case. Having someone to get groceries, scrub pots and pans, do laundry ect.
Are you worried he'll leave you in that case?
>I've known him for a long time, and that change to a more functional person has been a slow process. If i thought he could give those minute adjustments, I'd push for them, but that kind of change is measured in years for him.
Can't tell if I'm talking to someone who is ESL or reading an elaborate wordplay. I am using "minute" as in "incredibly small amount" did you think I meant as in a minute?

Anonymous 69663

>>69662
>Are you worried he'll leave you in that case?
Not at all. I could be the biggest prima donna in the world and he'd still keep me around.
>Can't tell if I'm talking to someone who is ESL or reading an elaborate wordplay
Completely unintentional wordplay there. Getting him to make the changes to put me at ease would take him years of slow adjustment.

Anonymous 69664

>>69663
>Not at all. I could be the biggest prima donna in the world and he'd still keep me around.
Well good to know I guess.
>Completely unintentional wordplay there. Getting him to make the changes to put me at ease would take him years of slow adjustment.
You make "the changes" sound large. Are you saying it would take him years to fulfill a task as simple as "do not leave power tools in the hallway overnight"?

Anonymous 69667

>>69663
idk, how does he react to a system being suggested? i.e., you won't touch something or do a chore unless it's in your way/impedes you from doing something.



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/fcg/ - femcel general Anonymous 59574[Reply]

post all things related to your involuntary celibacy

thread prompts:
>when did you realize you were a femcel and how old are you now
>what does being a femcel mean to you
>vent about celibacy
>what are your interests ? ( just curious, not necessarily related )
feel free to add more
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Anonymous 69609

>>69600
maybe cuz cuddling is more emotionally intimate and sex is just about cooming

Anonymous 69614

>>69609
hard disagree. sex is technically more vulnerable/intimate, it's just people have normalized it so much than honest human contact that people think otherwise.

I think people that think sex is less intimate have gotten too used to dehumanizing/objectifying others.

Anonymous 69628

>>69609
Male spotted

Anonymous 69629

>>69600
This. The context of desiring sex is an easy and understandable urge which can have easy to understand mutual benefaction spelled out for both parties. Saying "I'm emotionally vulnerable and need reassurance" is far more difficult, as there's nothing understood to be gained by the other party.

t. has husband and no friends

Anonymous 69651

>>69629
nah, you just seem like you were brainwashed by the system.



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what makes you feel feminine, cozy, cute or whatever Anonymous 69617[Reply]

do you like a certain shade of red lipstick? A cute sweater? a certain song? activity? Post the things that make you feel pretty, comfy, flowery, and snazzy
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Anonymous 69621

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Oversized knit cardigan + skirt or wide pants with face flushed and hair messy from the chilly air. I feel the cutest in big, warm layers and maybe with legs visible in a miniskirt at most. Also feels not specifically for men since my shape is hidden.
I never get harassed, but this combo just feels very "feminine but for the girls to admire" you know?

Also stupid, but eating cute food makes me feel cute, too.

Anonymous 69623

Sweaters and leggings or hoses in the fall and winter seasons.



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Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability Anonymous 34633[Reply]

Part vent, part desperate plea for help…

My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)

I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.

I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.

And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.

Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
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Anonymous 69567

The apartment was looked over and I returned the keys. One less thing to worry about. Now I'm trying to figure out how I can leave with some clothes and a winter blanket. I might have to say I'm going to the laundromat and leave.

Anonymous 69575

>>69567
Good luck OP!

Anonymous 69576

>>69567
you can do it op!!!

Anonymous 69586

>>69567
laundromat excuse sounds like a good idea. you can do it op. remember that you deserve better, and that you don't owe him a final conversation or anything at all

Anonymous 69620

>>69575
>>69576
>>69586

Thank you. Honestly I just want to go to my own sharehouse room tonight after work and be done with it but then I'd just have this one pair of clothes. I'm on edge and ended up raising my voice ar my boyfriend during breakfast in the common kitchen. No one else was in there but the windows were open and now he's upset. I'm just sick of being treated like a pet, having orders barked at me. It's annoying, he always tells me I'm angry in the morning. But when I'm not with him, I love sleeping early and waking up early. I just hate him ordering me around and making snide comments about me. Ugh.



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Advice and Support General Thread! Anonymous 68781[Reply]

Come here, wayward souls, for any matter big and small. Insight to comfort can be found here for your issues or conundrums.
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Anonymous 69566

>>69562
Yes. Hang out with me for 3 hours. I could probably get you laughing and we'd be on a roll after a while and you'd see yourself do it and snap out of it.

Anonymous 69568

>>68781
long story short, i met up with a group of internet friends i didn't know super well. all male (i was naive) things seemed awkward but okay until the next day i was shunned from the group, kicked from servers, and i came to find out almost a month later they talk about me every day insulting my appearance and cracking such nasty jokes. not to mention one of the guys assaulted me while i was drunk. i let it slide because i knew that being a female would help my case. when i did share my side to some of the group, they feigned understanding and empathy then were chatting with the others making fun of me for it.

i never even wanted anyone to know he assaulted me, but he ended up telling people i came onto him etc. etc. and it hurt to be lied about.

i know people are shitty, but the advice i need is WHY? is it because i am ugly? due to me being female? is something wrong with me and i'm not sure what? i've been so kind and caring to them, i just wish something like this didnt happen. i've never been called fat since i had a chubby middle school period so i truthfully want to know if im the problem. why do they talk about me daily when i havent been in contact with any of them for nearly a month now?

Anonymous 69571

>>69568
In online circles, obviously there aren’t a lot of new events that happen where stuff from a month ago is considered old news. You’re a woman who engaged herself with low quality men and misogynists who equate a woman’s value to her beauty. They saw you as unattractive and think that’s funny… I’m sorry but please try to make some female friends and stop meeting people you don’t know too well from online. The truth is that you will always be a joke to them but you have to just move on mentally.


- girl who spent a chunk of her life in discord circles

Anonymous 69590

>>69568
advice: cut off any way you have of hearing about them talking about you or any news of them. I have no idea how you're still able to see it.

and also, the other person is right. a lot of men see women like sport–and a lot of male friend groups are dying for an opportunity to sadistically tear down a woman so they can brag about it over and over again to their male friends.
they honestly seem like they have no life and are incel-adjacent thugs.

side note: please stay away from male friend groups. literally if I had known you back then I would have warned you away from such a group.

Anonymous 69607

>>69571
>>69590
thank you anons. im not grateful i was sexually assaulted but im grateful that i am less naive now.



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Has isolation disturbed your social skills? Anonymous 69578[Reply]

I am not as good with talking as I was before the lockdown. Anyone else?

Anonymous 69579

Isolation makes me want to go outside more. It makes me exciteable, which makes me fun to be around. Usually I don't want to. I didn't see much difference.

Anonymous 69584

Yes
lol
It has also made me more terrified of leaving my house on my own and of my parents/sibling going out or traveling

Anonymous 69585

>>69578
I spent lockdown substitute teaching and got better at handling groups of people, so no, I'd say the opposite. Do notice my language skills failing slightly, but that seems to be me just not talking to people that much.

Anonymous 69596

>>69578
It's made me realise that I don't care if I don't leave the house for weeks. I don't like society or other people or most things other people enjoy. I can have everything exactly as I want it in my home and always get my own way.

I take language lessons and they always do an annoying warm up thing at the start of each lesson where they ask what I have been doing recently and where I have went. I think they must think I am a hikikomori or depressed or something as I seldom have anything to tell them. I'm not afraid of going outside though, I just don't want to.

I do plenty of interesting things inside (recently have been working on building my own private lab and I work a pretty interesting job from home) but somehow people always equate being inside with being bored and having no life? How do normies survive if they must always be talking to other people and doing things outside. Seems exhausting.



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