I am struggling to cope with no longer being 'the only girl in the group'
This is a bit of a complex one so bare with me. I am not that old, but i'm probably still a little bit older than a lot of the girls here. For a very long time, I was used to having almost all male friends. When I was in my teens it was still not very common for girls to like certain types of "less casual" video games (girls always have of course but it's more popular now than it was before, play tabletop rpgs (this was before the recent mass uptake and acceptance of D&D)or card games such as Magic the Gathering. I have spent a long time with each of these hobbies, attending clubs, events and competitions. Naturally for a long time all of my friends were boys. I was also fairly handy with computers and code and I never had very many common interests with normie girls. I never outwardly hated them or bragged about being Not Like Other Girls, but I did get bullied a lot by them in school and I essentially kept my distance.
When I got to college I joined the tabletop and tcg club, and out of about 60-100 members i was probably one of 5 girls. I never put myself in these situations to feel special or for male attention, but I got used to being treated a certain way (people would know my name and remember, people would want to talk to me, for instance or be nice and ask how i was going).
I'm not ugly. I'm no stacy either. I'd say I was about becky tier, maybe a bit uglier than that, but I was always able to make myself look better with makeup. Basically, right when it was popular i was rockin' the internet soft scene late 2000s nerd girl boxxy eyeliner that everyone was mad for at the time. People liked me well enough.
I still have mostly male friends, even if we see each other less now because of adult life. We still meet to play games (video and tabletop). However, recently we've grown more distant, as they've made two new female friends and bought them into the fold to play games with us.
At first i was happy about this because I really thought it would be a good opportunity to meet more women with similar interests, but really quickly I realized it wasn't going to work out like that.
The new girls don't really care about being my friend or getting to know me, they're mostly there for the boys. This would be fine, but the boys seem to have less and less time for me or interest in me these days. They dote on their new female
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