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Why are they like this? Anonymous 16677[Reply]

>meet a cute guy, we get on well and he’s funny and kindhearted
>he seems like he’s interested, we start flirting at a party and things are looking promising
>next time we’re at a party I’m going at it, (“let’s share a seat”, lots of hugging eye contact etc)
>this time somethings wrong, he looks all conflicted and uncomfortable
>turns out one of his friends, who is in my lectures, likes me and he has promised not to “get in his way”
I never expressed any interest in that guy and made it clear to him but now it’s ruined forever just for some bullshit territorial boy friendship thing.

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Vent Thread Anonymous 15610[Reply]

Old Thread >>12294

Get it off your chest.
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Anonymous 16672

>>16665
Hard agree with this fuck.

>>16666
I wouldn't really trust anything tumblr says. They claimed they took it off the app store for maintenance, when it actually apple removed it for violating their ToS. It's hard to know what is actually happening.

Anonymous 16673

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>>16668
>enforcing an actual tits or gtfo policy
Plus any trans anons would probably feel bad about that.

Anonymous 16674

>>16671
Sage but, I heard that apparently it's not an accident and tumblr is deleting all the NSFW accounts and reinstating them once they verify they're not minors. Tumblr has a huge problem with minors both sharing and viewing porn and distributing self-CP, so it makes sense that they wouldn't disclose that they're checking ages, because people would probably lie about that.

Anonymous 16675

>>16674
That makes sense, and if that's the case I don't blame them at all.

Anonymous 16676

I hope I don't get crap for this, but I use lolcow pretty frequently and I just can't stomach it anymore.
I generally post here, and read drama there, but sometimes wander off to other boards I used to use before I moved here. The drama boards are okay (getting worse) but there's been constant issues of getting attacked by anons with super extreme opinions just because I don't agree with their take on something, even if it's something I agree with, I am constantly being told that I clearly hate whatever it is and love the opposite.

It makes me sad but it also makes me thankful for how comfy it is here.


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tfw no bf Anonymous 14789[Reply]

Last thread maxxed out: >>>/feels/10193

Reminder:
Admin's post: >>>/feels/10163
>We ban trolls and delete their posts as we find them, but we've also had an influx of new genuine user groups who have clashing ideas of what the board culture should be like. Please report suspected troll posts and we'll take care of the rest.

Never made a Thread so I hope I did nothing wrong
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Anonymous 16577

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>started talking to a guy from tinder (he's a lot older than me but is a good guy…really ideal)
>we've been talking for a little over 2 weeks and he hasn't asked me to see him or anything (i think he tested the waters tho and hinted to it)
>after one week he asked for raunchy pix when i accidentally texted him at like 1am and i said no not rn so our convos never got saucy again
>we had fun conversations and he seemed interested in me at first but not so much anymore
>i think he's annoyed by me bc of the age difference and maybe just wanted to talk before smashing
>feeling stupid
gif is me to myself for being in my feels about this lol

Anonymous 16579

>>16577
>tinder
>older guy
What did you expect?

Anonymous 16580

>>16577
> a guy much older than you
> tinder

Gurl, he didn't want anything but an easy booty call.

Love u for using a Ramona gif lol

Anonymous 16582

>>16580
>>16579
i'm boo boo the fool obviously lol

& yes!!! the airhead queen

Anonymous 16667

So, another nice boy at my uni turned out to be gay. I appreciate the fact that he trusted me enough to tell me about that (I live in a conservative country), and I feel awful for saying that, but it made me sad. It's a shame that almost every soft, kind boy I met irl is gay.


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IT’S FUCKING OVER HELP Anonymous 16409[Reply]

I met a perfect boy at uni. At first I just noticed him because he is the absolute most handsome guy I’ve ever seen. Call me superficial but that alone made me develop a crush. I sort of tried to forget about him since I didn’t think it would go anywhere and tried to tell myself that he probably was a jerk anyway.

However, I was grouped with him and a few other girls for some group assignment, and he turned out to be the nicest person I’ve ever met. He’s ridiculously funny, interesting, cultured, creative (turns out he’s actually semi-famous in multiple fields), exciting, smart, he just has literally everything going for him. I’m not the most beautiful girl ever but I take care of myself (I’m skinny, have very well maintained natural blonde hair, blue eyes etc.). Acne has slways been a problem but after meeting this guy my face was finally clearing up. I suggested that everyone in the group exchanged numbers and everyone obliged.

Then the guy started texting (actually whatsapp which is the norm in my country but whatever) me. Mostly school stuff but also some personal things. He’d always reply to me right away, never left me on read, and was always willing to help and when I helped him he was super grateful and cute about it. I’ve never had text contact as good as this. He’d always say hi to me when we ran into each other, and in class he’d letvme sit with him. If he was talking to other people he’d always try to make me a part of the conversation too.

It got even better when I found out he was basically pure (yes meme af I know, you know what I mean). He was very serious about hygiene (he talked about how he disliked visiting friends who didn’t clean their rooms properly), wasn’t active on FB, IG or dating apps, isn’t part of a frat, and disliked weed (he does drink though but so do I so ehrm yeah). He also never mentioned a gf or anything like that.

The thing is, despite growingsomewhat close he never asked me out or anything and I was afraid to ask him out because I’m not sure if I’m worthy of him and came to the conclusion that he might be gay or something and I didn’t want to embarrass him. He was literally too perfect to not have a gf.

Then it all went wrong.

Last night I went out for drinks with a few uni friends and afterwards walked back to the train station (I don’t live in my uni’s city, I live with my parents in my hometown (which is completely normal in my country, the boy does the samPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 16637

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>>16409
Based Stacy putting a femcel in her place again.

Anonymous 16641

>>16419
wrong

Anonymous 16655

>>16625
Because this is the feels board?

>>16627
They're just joking. Millions of white girls are brunette and have brown eyes. That's what the "discussion" in this thread was about. In Germany at least, no one thinks brunette refers to a non-white person.

Anonymous 16661

>>16625
As much as I have my own problems and insecurities with guys and my lovelife, I feel there has been so much threads about boys that feels has become the boy troubles board.

It would be a good idea to make a general advice thread and/or a general boy/love life troubles thread. Just so all the boy troubles can be filtered through there. Or if they have no bf they can just put it all in the tfw no bf thread…

Anonymous 16663

>>16661
I like this suggestion. Lump all the boy issues into one board, /bt/


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Childhood abuse Anonymous 16586[Reply]

So, something weird happened.

My therapist finally got me to acknowledge the possibility(!) that I was abused as a child.

It didn't even go with shock and horror for me, but rather peaceful. Before, I went through an intense period of being disgusted by myself and of course my everlasting depression.

Now everything makes so much more sense. All the little fucked up things that I did, or that happend to me, or that my parents did.

Finally I can function freely. Finally, when asked what's up, I do not get back to the ground level of "I don't know" that has been permeating my entire life.

Finally, the things I say and do are not coming off like I was pretending something, or hiding behind a mask.

I feel free now. And I act better. Things in my life, actually my entire life, seemed to have changed for the better the instant I acknowledged it. I am finally peaceful now.

I'm just a little bit sick at my parents and, still, I don't know anything for sure. It's an assumption now, but it feels pretty good.

Anonymous 16587

Huh? What kind of abuse, and I assumed it was done by your parents? How did she/he get to that, instead of other solutions?

Anonymous 16599

>still, I don't know anything for sure. It's an assumption now, but it feels pretty good.
It is disturbing to me that therapists would encourage baseless accusations.

Anonymous 16600

>>16599
It's actually fucking terrifying. Therapists are literally trained to manipulate people, and we just accept on faith that they won't put lies in people's heads.

Anonymous 16614

>>16599
>>16600

Not OP. You need to understand that sometimes it's very confusing and blurry to understand what had happened as a child because your household will always seem normal.

It takes a lot as an adult to realize just how insane and wrong an adult in your life was acting and the ways it affects you still.

To finally remember so much that I spent my whole childhood enduring and tucking away and to be able to call it rampant neglect and child abuse felt so relieving the first time. To have other adults go "What the fuck? That is not okay" felt vindicating. It takes years and years to reach a spot where you identify the abuse for what it is and start moving forward.

It's astounding just how much a person's soul can repress in order to live day to day. I got asked in middle school if I was getting beaten and was told I behaved as if I was abused, in my mind I believed in earnest that our family was normal and that my life was normal.

Good luck OP, iktf

Anonymous 16643

We are so powerless when we're little …we have to put our anger somewhere, and if it's not safe to express it towards our parents, we will turn it on ourselves. Everything is our fault, we're "bad", we get depressed, etc. I'm glad you are growing and finding peace.


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Anonymous 16404[Reply]

Where do I go to get an e-bf who's pure like me?

All I see are frat boys who just want to "chill".(YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US)
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Anonymous 16547

>>16539
Human psychology is very much more complicated than just sex urges. Unlike r9k population would like to believe, living in celibacy doesn't ensure higher productive output in the slightest. It may help you from being distracted but the drive itself usually comes from deeper complexes that can be revealed among other things through confrontation with your fetishes. Freud is outdated now, but he is famous exactly because he was the one to openly address this connection between sexual desires and inner psychological issues, if you are interest in the subject i suggest you start reading there instead of reading fucking self-help author who is talking out of his ass.

Anonymous 16548

>>16539
Also Leonardo Da Vinci was convicted of participating in sodomy and Einstin was an adulterer. Your cherrypicked examples of devout Christian scientists prove nothing.

Anonymous 16549

>>16547
And you believe that the r9k population doesn't masturbate?
First of all this idea is not from some self help author it is a very old fundamental idea from western occultism as well as Hindu beliefs.

And as for Freud he himself was a practised celibate.
“Freud held the opinion (based on personal experience and observation) that sexual activity was incompatible with the accomplishing of any great work. Since he felt that the great work of creating and establishing psychotherapy was his destiny, he told his wife that they could no longer engage in sexual relations. Indeed from about the age of forty until his death Freud was absolutely celibate "in order to sublimate the libido for creative purposes," according to his biographer Ernest Jones.”
Source: https://web.archive.org/web/20160203165235/http://www.wien-vienna.com/freud.php

>>16548
It was an accusation. There is no evidence it actually happened. There are always political enemies you know, all charges were dropped, someone may have wanted him dead. "In the (((20th century biographers))) made explicit reference to a probability that Leonardo was homosexual though others concluded that for much of his life he was celibate."

One of the few references that Leonardo made to sexuality in his notebooks states: "The act of procreation and anything that has any relation to it is so disgusting that human beings would soon die out if there were no pretty faces and sensuous dispositions."

Yeah no.

Anonymous 16553

>>16548
I'm very sure Einstein wasn't fapping or inside someone when he came up with his special theory of relativity. He preferred to be alone most of the time and was known to engage in very long periods of solitude. Also Einstein was hardly the greatest of geniuses and his well known theory isn't very original.
https://www.bibliotecapleyades.net/esp_einstein.htm
His accomplishments are always overly hyped by his community.

Anonymous 16640

>>16553
>I'm very sure Einstein wasn't fapping or inside someone when he came up with his special theory of relativity.
The fact you bothered making this point shows how unconvinced you are by what you're saying yourself


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Do men even have feelings? Anonymous 15289[Reply]

I've never met a man that had a shred of empathy, even when they are "depressed" it's all about ohhhh no I will never have this 10/10 asian stacy suck my penis or waaaaaah women find men who are taller more attractive, do they care about love or friendship or anything deeper than sex and social status.

non-femcel anons please answer this question.
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Anonymous 16622

men do have emotions. Its usually beat out of them by life, women, and other men.
Men have to lock most of their emotions inside of them to not appear weak.
Men have the higher suicide rate when it comes to gender. Most men are lost inside of themselves.

Men usually use other outlets to express their emotions. like art


but yeah, some men genuinely might just be stupid or psychos.

There is this theory called "extreme male brain" that some scientists think might be the cause of autism. And with autistic people you have people who are sometimes very smart and focused but also socially retarded and incapable of recognizing emotions

Anonymous 16626

By the way, women dont want men who show their emotions all the time. No matter what you think or say.
How would you feel if your boyfriend or dad was crying all the time?

Yeah….

Men figure that out and lock themselves up

Anonymous 16630

>>16585
Oh, no he didn't stop being friends with me because I wasn't a potential partner, we were briefly bf/gf and when he found out i wasn't actually a virgin (probably my bad he thought this, I did insist, as a joke, that I was a virgin as well, because I thought he was joking about being a virgin) he broke up with me. He wanted to stay just friends but I loved him and he knew it would only cause me pain to talk to him. We decided to not talk to each other because it was what was best for me.

>>16604
You're probably right, I think a lot of things come into play, and it depends on the guy too. I disagree with the other anons telling you to not bring up how you've done it before, if that feels deceitful to you then don't lie about your past, otherwise it's just going to eat at you. With that said, don't be surprised if they eventually leave you because of it, no one wants to feel like they're second best.

Anonymous 16635

>>15289
Yes. It varies, it's just that the pervs tend to be more vocal, and it's true for both chads and robots and everything in between.

Men don't really have a culture of showing emotion, it's often viewed as begging for attention or just being a lil' bitch. Even the soft guys often pretend to be assholes just because that's the social baseline. A man is never sure how his bros would react to softening up, they might turn out to be the same, or they might just be a bunch of yelling apes and think lowly of him.

Friendships are a huge thing, when men are friends it's to the point they can punch each other in the face but it's still eventually cool. Friends are particularly important BECAUSE men can't reliably open up to anyone else. It's just rarely said out loud, because that would be GAAAAAAY.

I'm a Slav and I can tell you even the tracksuit-clad squatters show emotion SOMETIMES, they're just very reluctant to do it.

Anonymous 16642

>>16626
>no matter what you think or say
I imagine even taking actions and dating/being there for your emotional crybaby male friends wouldn't count for you.
It's never enough because women don't know what we want unless it's dictated to us by men. We are also a hivemind and all share the same tastes and opinions.


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Anonymous 16067[Reply]

i'm alone in my room, crying at 2am because my life is a mess. i met a guy on the internet 2 years ago, we started dating and he was being nice to me but then turned into an obnixious human-being. i really fell in love with him, i don't know why. i wasted the best years of my life. i was 16 when i first met him, and i decided to leave all of my friends behind, i only wanted to spend time with him. he told me he was depressed and didn't wanna go outside. which made sense, because i never really liked going outside either. i didn't like being social. this year was horrible. he would change his profile pic to a random cute girl, i think he was only doing that to make me jealous. but i didn't get jealous. i just felt really ugly. so i told him that he should stop doing that because we're in a relationship. (he knows i have self-esteem issues) he said i'm overreacting. then i said "yeah maybe you're right, after all it's just a profile picture" but then he did the same thing again. i felt like i was being used. then i found out that he talks about "cute girls" with his friends. which pissed me off. and i asked him why he was doing that, he said he loves me and not other girls. he was just talking about how "cute" they are. he said "cute girls exist too, you know" then i told him that if he does it again, i'll break up with him. but of course, he didn't give a fuck. he said he would change. (he didn't) the thing that pissed me off the most was when we were talking about religions, (i don't believe in god or anything, and he doesn't either) he said i would enjoy it if "muslim men" touched me. -i broke up with him after he said that- then we got back together because he apologised and said he didn't mean it, he was just "joking". whenever he gets mad he calls me bad names. last week, i was talking about the new hoop earrings i bought. he called me a whore and said "i can date multiple men if i want" because hoop earrings are for hoes. i fucking hate him so much. he told me he's sorry and that he's going to change. but i don't believe him. he said he's going to kill himself soon because he has no purpose in life. and he doesn't want to lose me. i feel so confused and i don't know what to do. i blocked him on discord and telegram. what else can i do? i just want to forget him but i can't. he was completely different when i met him. he would make me so happy, i remember feeling "butterflies" in my stomach, i thought he was the one. i guess i was wrong. my heart hurtsPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 16092

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>>16081
>no, we haven't met IRL
Gosh this really makes me wish I was 14 again. Maybe I'm a boomer after all

Anonymous 16123

forgot to mention that he liked cute asian women pics on twitter lol what a cunt. his profile pic is also a model. he would tell me not to talk to my friends just because theyre boys. thinking about this relationship makes me angry. i'm never going to e-date ever again.

Anonymous 16130

>>16067
>>16123
i get falling for someone online, a lot of people do that and if you don't have experience you can fall hopelessly in love with someone online.. but still, you sure did pick a braindead jerk. i'm almost impressed. this guy does care about you.. he cares about you just enough so that you'll waste your free time talking with him, so that you'll just take it when he picks on you, and so that he can sleep with you when you finally meet up (you don't even want to know how much pressure and degeneracy he will put on you in regards to this if you actually lived together). He does not love you, he may think he does but you walking away is him losing someone he can have some control over and he is finding that very upsetting. he's saying awful things to you and throwing all these sexual interests (that are not you) at your face, showing clearly that his values are shit and he doesn't care about your feelings. in his mind you are temporary, there's a girl he's chatting to somewhere that he'd rather be with, and if there's not, then he has the abstract idea of this girl (and her personality isn't part of it) and if she was around he'd drop you to go for her if she gave him the chance

Anonymous 16617

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>>16067
>he talks about "cute girls" with his friends
> i asked him why he was doing that, he said he loves me and not other girls
Why do boys believe this is a good answer? I fucking see it everywhere, and it irritates the hell out of me.

Anon, I'm sorry all this happened to you. He definitely doesn't deserve the love you gave him, especially after his refusal to change and the way he treated you. Maybe one day he'll realize how poorly he acted, but it doesn't seem like anytime soon.

Anonymous 16620

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NGL he sounds like a sociopath, no offense. You lost me on the Muslim bit, that's just multiple levels of problematic. Don't get roped into the apology shit. I'm 99% sure he's saying these things to get a rise out of you. You already blocked him on shit so I think you're on the home stretch. It's going to be hard but the longer you subject yourself to that kinda emotional abuse the longer you'll be unhappy. Don't waste any more time then you have to on someone like that.


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Task Accountability Thread Anonymous 6922[Reply]

Need some support with achieving your daily tasks and reaching your goals?
What things do you want to get done today/tomorrow?

Here's a thread where we can put down our tasks for the day, cheer each other on for accomplishing them, and offer support/ideas for those finding it hard.

For example:
19th May or Saturday's Tasks or To do
- Do laundry
- Take out trash
- Read chapters 3 and 4
- Get out of bed before 9am

Helpful links that may help you set goals and tasks
Mini habit ideas: https://minihabits.com/mini-habit-ideas/
The ABC method: https://www.briantracy.com/blog/leadership-success/practice-the-abc-method/
Pomodoro technique: https://francescocirillo.com/pages/pomodoro-technique
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Anonymous 16261

>>16252
You should try working through Zed Shaw's "Learn Python the Hard Way"
Here's a free download:
http://souravsengupta.com/cds2015/python/LPTHW.pdf

Anonymous 16270

eughhh, I need to finish and submit my final dissertation revisions tonight. It's just formatting, not even content, so it should be easy-ish.

SOMEBODY YELL AT ME. thanks ;3;

Anonymous 16272

>>14935
Update: That week went well and the trip was good, but I kind of fell off the wagon.

New tasks
- Take notes on chapters 9 & 10
- Start working on problem set 3
- Plan overview of rest of the term
- Mend clothes
- Practice making a weekly meal plan and grocery list, or at least begin by writing down 10 relatively easy go-to dinners
- Apply to volunteer position(s)
- Apply for part-time jobs

>>16239
Yay I'm proud of you!

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Anonymous 16274

>>16261
his books are on a bit of a blacklist because many good programmers think they aren't very good. I would recommend this for a first time or novice programmer
https://greenteapress.com/wp/think-python-2e/

Anonymous 16610

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>>16272

Complete
In progress

- Take notes on chapters 9 & 10
- Start working on problem set 3
- Plan overview of rest of the term
- Mend clothes
- Practice making a weekly meal plan and grocery list, or at least begin by writing down 10 relatively easy go-to dinners
- Apply to volunteer position(s)
- Apply for part-time jobs (Subtasks: Update CV, write down reflections on my goals and personal characteristics that help with writing cover letters and talking points for interviews)
- Thanksgiving grocery shopping


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Self harm general Anonymous 11340[Reply]

Anyone else self harm(ed)?
>Why
>How
>Advice
>Have you ever been caught?
>Do you want to be caught?
>Do you try to leave scars?
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Anonymous 15565

>>15563
fresh red lines =/= scars

retard

Anonymous 15566

>>15565
>fresh red lines =/= scars
so you don't even, or barely break skin? does a drop of blood burst forth and you immediately waddle over to the shower and rinse it off? keep your story straight

Anonymous 15567

>>15566
Any wound produced by a razor is a red line… a wound isn't a scar.

Scars can form whether someone tries to leave one or cuts without thinking about scars in mind. They weren't contradictory statements.

What are you trying to do here? Pwn the attention whore for personal intellectual points?

Anonymous 16602

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>>11340
I did it once when I was like 13, I was going through a weemo stage at the time (wanted to be a scene gamer girl but didn't know how hence 'wannabe emo'). My friends at the time used to SH and they'd talk about it a lot despite claiming not to do it if you asked them. I did it to try and fit in with them but also for attention, don't know why but I thought I'd be like a tragic heroine and all the boys would want me. Nobody found out because I only did it once but I never talked about it with my friends probably because deep down I knew it was just for attention.

Anonymous 16606

I self harm. Sometimes I feel so numb that cutting myself is the only thing That makes me feel alive. When I finish cutting myself I usually come out of my “episode” and immediately regret cutting. I have scars (that nobody seems to notice) I really wish somebody would notice and ask me if everything is okay but the one time somebody asked me if I was okay I pushed them away and yelled at them. On the inside I’m screaming for help but at this point it seems like I’m run on auto pilot.


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