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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 126473

>>126457
>The black walnut route? The w33d route?

Wtf no, start gardening or plant something and experience a bit of freedom

Dough that might work too I guess

Anonymous 126498

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Sometimes I feel like I want my husband to be mean and controlling to me, and I feel disgusted with myself for it. He is so sweet and kind to me and I love our relationship, so I've never told him about it since it sounds so stupid and pathetic. I have no idea how to fix it, because it seems like the only trick in the bag is to figure out the "why", which is probably popular media constantly showing abuse and my dad abusing my mom growing up. I've avoided acting on it, and I push it out of my mind. But it still is a subconscious wish that comes and goes, and it has since I was a child. Wish it would just go away.

Anonymous 126499

>>126498
why is this website full of pathetic cocksuckers

Anonymous 126500

>>126498
Try role-playing if you dont have much trauma maybe?

Anonymous 126501

>>126498
>sometimes
So it's not an all the time thing for you?
Either way, you could roleplay it, and you don't have to put yourself in the submissive role. I'm sadomasochistic and most masochists I've met have buried their sadism under their masochism. Most I know end up being both in some way, even if one side is usually greater than the other. I think most people are masochists though, something about wanting to be taken care of or not feeling the pressure of responsibility or something, I don't know. Trauma is often a result of loss of control though, so roleplaying a situation where you have full control could feel nice, especially if a submissive role doesn't feel right to you. You can try out both of course. Or not, if you're actually put off by it and don't really wanna do it, just don't. Arousal can hit weird, I've been aroused by things I wouldn't ever want to do, it happens.
And if it's an arousal thing that's actively messing with your sex-life, you could check out this https://www.therapyinbarcelona.com/couples-compass-a-self-help-guide-to-sex-therapy/
>why
Personal trauma, generational trauma, genetics, who knows, what you described just might be it. For me, it all applies so I have no idea, could be any or all of it. I thought I was doomed to only get off on BDSM but I've since found that I can get aroused by just the right kind of physical stimulation but also sensuality as well, like, just enjoying my partner's body, how it looks and feels and everything, the sound he makes when my touch arouses him… Well, I still have a need to feel in control and on top of things because I get anxious otherwise, but I feel like it's been getting better these days. Anyway, you're not alone and it's nothing you'd need to feel ashamed of, your kinks don't reflect who you are as a person, trauma affects people differently and so on.
>>126499
Sucking cock is unironically fun to some people. If you don't like it, don't do it. It's only a problem if one party is pressured to perform acts they don't even enjoy while getting nothing in return.
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Anonymous 126240[Reply]

So if this is a female version of 4chan, why don't you guys ever discuss race, politics, etc? Do you guys ever have race wars like 4chan? Are kikesses and pajeetas bullied here ?

Anonymous 126243

>>126240
Read the rules https://crystal.cafe/rules.html
What you're describing goes against rule 9.
>"discuss" race
Even on 4chan, racism outside of /b/ is against the rules (Global rule 3b), but both the moderation and more obviously the userbase in that shithole are just garbage.
>so there's no racism here, the site follows its own set rules and the moderation is great?
Nothing is perfect. Still not as abyssal as 4chan.

Anonymous 126386

>>126240
no, us women can't have an opinion on these matters.

Anonymous 126497

>>126240
No because we aren't retarded like 4chan moids



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Is my the rapist right? Anonymous 126493[Reply]

When i told my therpist that i spoke with my previous friend for 4h a day she immidetely started shaming me by saying i expect too much time from people. She says that adults shouldn't have bonds with their friends bc they have their own hobbies, acitvities and partners and nobody will spend their life connected and bonded with me and spending 4h a day with me. it made me wanna die

Anonymous 126494

pretty sure your therapist is not supposed to make you wanna die
that sounds really weird, have you had any other "communication issues" with them like that?

Anonymous 126495

huh??
if your previous friend was fine with talking to you that often, why is ur therapist shaming u for that?
that's weird of them to say

Anonymous 126496

this sounds like a fake therapist. drop and get a new one asap.



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Positivity. Anonymous 116556[Reply]

Share any positive feelings or positive things.

Garden your soul garden.
Every focus is infinite multiverses.
Keep watering the ideas/plants that make you feel the loveliest love


Here’s a thing that has made me feel so good and is important to me:
Thousands of Polska girls and Belarus girls are covering my NorthAmerican city with graffiti. They’ve somehow clearly gotten the idea to all become collectively like a splatoon. It has changed the energy immensely and really improved the omnipresent feminism quality~level vibe. These girls have religions about ancient euro queens and it really shows, lots of ethereal stuff.. I see so many soulful girls are more comfortable loitering around and making anywhere a party! That’s SO important! Sovl
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>do EEG in 2023
>got half conscious and nauseous like my brain got turned off after a drinking binge

>EEG now

>just really intense burning at the back of my head but I'm completely conscious

this illness took away all of my youth and I'm about to beat its ass
I just hate how I got gaslit that it was all psychosomatic for most of my life

Anonymous 126276

I'm at my favorite Cafe before I head into work. And I get to come in an hour late so I have extra time to bs and stuff.

Life is good to me (◕ᴗ◕✿)

Also! Happy Halloween nonas!

Anonymous 126379

>>116556
i keep ending up running into random restocks of niche perfume collabs i thought were gone and being able to score them. can’t wait for one of them to arrive today.

Anonymous 126490

I got approved for a credit card and a loan. Not in that order i might add.

Hooray for capitalism!

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Just one more year. What should I do? Anonymous 126476[Reply]

I'm stuck in a weird position.
When I newly turned 17, I met with a 30 year old guy from 4chan because I was lonely and wanted a friend. We had some common interests in games. We hung out at the arcade and in the same year, I went to his house to play co-op. However, the friendship was short lived as he asked me to be his girlfriend right after. I was young and stupid, I saw no issue with him. He was unfit and never had a girlfriend before, I never had a boyfriend before. So I thought I should give him a chance.
It's been 1 and a 1/2 years now. Due to feeling unsafe at home, as soon as I turned 18, I moved out to this dude's house. He said he'd support me. So I moved and enrolled to a highschool near his house.
Over time, living with him, I began to pick up on things that do not sit right with me.
Firstly, he has figurines of some anime girls that troubled me from the very first time I came over, but I thought I should just overlook it. Figurines of miku, vtubers and Fate characters. He has plushes of vtubers, his profile picture is a vtuber. He admits that he likes vtubers but doesn't watch them anymore. Yet when I criticise them for milking money from men he opposed me.
Things that disgust me include him loving the anime 'yuru yuri' a show common among lolicons, loving the soundtrack of 'yuru yuri', he downloaded all of them and calling the government 'woke' because the age for marriage is 18. Other than this, I told him I do not use twitter, but everyday, I check what he has posted and who he recently follows. When I checked his following for the first time, I burst into tears. It was anime porn artist after anime porn artists. Most of his following was that. Yet checking his recently followed, he still actively interacts with these anime porn artists. When he shows me something on twitter, he's very wary and cautious of ever scrolling too much, and when he accidently does - it's all vtubers and ecchi drawings of anime girls. Last night, I checked his following again, and I cried again discovering he followed 20 more disgusting anime artists.
The worst thing is, these anime porn artists also draw porn of underage characters… in other words loli. It's a trend I've noticed across the artists he indulges in.
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Anonymous 126486

youre such a pathetic cocksucker

Anonymous 126487

>>126486
dick sucking pig

Anonymous 126488

>>126478
I can see him doing that, he probably has, just too ashamed to tell me.

>>126486
>>126487
I am. I lick the ground for any affection or attention I can get. I am filthy. Not even my teachers or classmates want to ever talk to me or help me, I feel that they can sense that I'm a putrid whore who willingly serves disgusting adults.

Anonymous 126489

>>126488
>>126485

Whatever you do, DO NOT GET PREGNANT WITH THIS MAN. and if you do ABORT IT. You'd be doing both you and your spawn a big favor.

As for the money, you're going to have to do some five finger discounts (aka steal.)

Hey, if this guy has money for loli figurines, then he has money to spare for you. Unfortunately i dont have any tips on how to steal money but maybe some other nonas here can give some tips on how to steal money and not get caught

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>>126488
Don't call yourself that. You can't let unfortunate circumstances define who you are for the rest of your life.
Do as >>126482 said and please be kind to yourself. You deserve good things as much as anybody else.



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i have a phobia of female role in sex which makes me dysphoric as fuck and sex repulsed Anonymous 126444[Reply]

anyone else??? i just find the role submissive and humuliating, i dont wanna post it on nsfw board bc i dont wanna see anons talk about wanting to do humiliating sex acts i have a phobia of

Anonymous 126449

I'm exactly the same nona. Besides the dysphoric part. It just feels like people trying to pigeonhole you somewhere before you even tell them if you are interested or not.

Anonymous 126470

you’re not dysphoric you are having a normal reaction to being under the constant threat of sexual assault and being expected to allow this to happen to you and smile sweetly. you need to start harming men.

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Anonymous 126467

>>126466
hey nikolas parent do you think maybe you should get treated for gum disease or nah. like everyone take a moment and zoom in.

Anonymous 126468

wow thanks for the medical gaslighting today bitch. I guess every other doctor was wrong, my vitamin d levels at 12 ng ml is actually normal, my analyses that literally prove my condition are something else, and if nobody witnessed my symptoms they aren't legitimate, and if they didn't witness them right it didn't count. but you still prescribed the actual real meds anyway. I can't believe I paid for this shit.

Anonymous 126469

>>126468
make a thread for this dr on lolcow. listen to the demons. it will feel good.

Anonymous 126472

>>126466
nikolas parent and janelle wilkins consume child porn

Anonymous 126481

Id send this to you in person but honestly I think you blocked me on your ngl so here it goes.
Hey Rat Bastard, Its me, Margaret.
Not really, but think…. who calls you Rat Bastard in this lifetime?
Anyways. I've had time to think. Time to reflect. And honestly. Im happy you blocked me. Im happy you answered your ngls the way you did back in the spring/summer of this year. It shows how much you actually cared for me as a friend. Ive reread our messages on fb, and even though it was riddled with outright lies, one thing you always told the truth on was how much of a piece of shit scumbag you were. Before everything, I just thought you had a shitty self esteem. Now it just makes sense. It makes sense. And if you want to spend nine more years with the girl who breaks your shit, the very same girl you groomed, then by all means. You deserve it. But you dont get to come back. You made your choice. You made your bed. And if you somehow missed the memo before, I'm more then happy to repeat it- if you ever feel the need to make another burner account on fb or any other social media, block me. Block me and continue with whatever hoodrat shit you're planning on doing behind the scenes. Because what you've shown me thus far isnt compelling. You told me you wanted to build bridges then you turn around and bring nothing to the table. No apologies, no changed behavior. Just frivolous words and nonchalance. I dont need a friend like that. I dont need a friend whose willing to coerce someone into having sex the way you did with me. And you've made it clear where I stand in your life. So yea. Bing bong, fuk ya life, MOVE TO FLORIDA, yadda yadda.
I never want to see you again.



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Anonymous 126416[Reply]

I found the best man ever and I started dating him and we get along so well together and my life has improved in so many ways since meeting him, but for some reason I'm not falling in love with him.

He can tell that I don't have strong feelings for him, and it's important to him that a girlfriend does. He talked about how betrayed he felt by a past girlfriend that was with him just to not be alone. I don't feel like I'm settling for him, my brain just doesn't produce the correct feelings that I need to have.

Why does life have to be this way? Am I broken? Asexual? I'm just going to be single for the rest of my life the way this is going and it's making me feel very anxious and sad.
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Anonymous 126455

>>126427
If there's no romantic or sexual feelings, it is no different from a good friendship. The sexual incompatibility in particular is an issue.
>>126431
Not rude . Honestly I think my situation is very unique, though I suppose everyone thinks their situation is unique. We met when I was 18 and he 25, online. I was living in a very bad situation at the time. I was living with my dad (I have no mom), who was a hoarder and the house was pretty much decaying in many ways. I couldn't find a job (living in a rural area) and we couldn't afford much food. I was desperate to get out asap. Then I meet my husband, we get married when I turn 19. We get married because he lived in a different country and many times the only way to resolve an international LDR is through marriage. I wanted a stable place to live. I wanted food. But at the time, being naive, I really didn't think I was just using my husband for that. Sure I didn't find him that attractive, but I just admonished myself for that, thinking of myself as shallow for caring about physical appearance and that all issues would get fixed with time if we just worked on them together. Honestly, that's not true. Some issues are simply fundamental and cannot be changed even if you both genuinely care for each other so much and try your hardest.

I saw a good future with him and I felt like he was my only chance at a good life. He treats me well even. Now I'm 22 and we've been living together for about a year. I can't go back home to my dad, he has completely disowned me (not because of the marriage, he just wanted nothing to do with me when I turned 18). It's all just fucked really. I am so ashamed of myself and I feel great shame even typing this out on an anonymous imageboard. I blame my dad most of all and then I blame myself. The guilt and regret has caused me a delibitating amount of self-hatred. Basically, I think I was just in a pretty desperate situation and along my husband comes like the fairy godmother from Cinderella or some shit. I am a serious failure. Which would be fine enough if I was suffering by myself, but I feel like I've accidentally dragged another person down with me and ruined his life, although I never meant to and I never ever want to hurt him.
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Anonymous 126461

>>126455
Letting this fester will only hurt you both in the long run.
You've been faithful and tried your best as a wife, but it sounds like it's time to book a talk with him about how things really started and where you stand now.
22 and ~28 respectively isn’t too old to start over. You can be grateful to him, he can be kind, but you don’t have to stay trapped together just because you’re both “good people.”
The alternative is trying to bunker down for another decade until you’re both too emotionally exhausted and morally compromised to leave. A clean, compassionate break might be the more forgiving choice for you both

Anonymous 126474

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>>126417
I'm not latina

>>126450
>>126455
I feel like I can be myself around him, though we haven't known each other that long.

We haven't had sex but I can imagine myself hating that if it doesn't work out. Every other worry I've had has melted away the more I've gotten to known him, though.

Thanks for sharing your experiences, noonas. I still desperately wish I could try this anyway, but whatever happens I think I'm at least going to tell him what I feel, that way it's not just me deciding what to do but us together. If I'm lucky maybe he will offer his friendship instead and that will make me less lonely somehow.

Anonymous 126475

For me, sometimes observing my own feelings is like observing something with a microscope that is too small, that gets damaged by beams of light. If you are this way, and you haven't known each other for that long, then maybe you can just wait. Time and silence is sometimes all it takes for your inner thoughts to speak up. This is especially true if you've never been attracted to somebody in a long-term way before, you very well could just be slow to discern what you want. But if this is the case, then maybe try not to move forward (esp physically) until you can discern, as that would only increase mental noise and make it harder to figure out.

Also, are you like this in all other areas in life? Ex: if you adopt an animal, move, make new friends, change jobs/career ambitions/school concentrations, do you start worrying about your choices the same way you are with your boyfriend?

Anonymous 126480

>>126431
I think it's at least partly due to the fact many women are so used to men being complete garbage that when they meet one that's decent, who respects them and whom they respect, they'll interpret it as love. And from there, it's mostly just the usual cognitive bias and sunk cost fallacy that will trap them in a loveless relationship.



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Jealousy thread Anonymous 126198[Reply]

I'm a very jealous person, so much that seeing prettier women than me can affect my mood. I wondered if this was a common thing here, what and who makes you jealous?
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Anonymous 126295

Only thing that'll make me jealous is if someone has more money then me or a attractive moid that I want.

Both are easily fixable by locking in and shaping up to be the kind of woman to attract either or both things.

Anonymous 126296

I'm jealous of girls with clear skin, especially really fat girls who eat like shit. I cut out so much of my diet (white carbs, dairy, I eat minimal sugar and fats), bought so many skincare products but my face is still acne riddled.

I'm jealous specifically of fat girls with a ton of potential because even though I've basically done all I could to improve my appearance esp. with diet and fitness my highest potential is ugly while all they have to do is literally put in like half the work I do to be a 10/10.

Anonymous 126384

i’ve never felt jealous of another woman.

Anonymous 126388

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Damn imagine wasting your time thinking about how pretty you are in relation to other women.

You know what's so much more interesting than that, look at this awesome bowl of oyster dipping noodles.

Anonymous 126477

>>126198
My philosophy prevents me from caring about people's husk and start critically analysing the way they speak and think instead.



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