no, people are pretty much born without empathy that isn't just projective (so cognitive) and have to develop it. you just probably never learned why these things are bad.

I do think ppl overreact sometimes but I understand why. I just don't like it cause shitting on men is better when you're coming from a position of strength and not a position of a little bitch

also you might've felt nothing about your ex cause he was annoying to you but your grandma wasn't. maybe a defense mechanism like emotional detachment, but I can't know for sure from what you said. maybe you just didn't value him like your grandma? either way it's probably way more normal than you think, not necessarily good though

imagine him even mentioning his ex. at that point she’s as much a part of her life as you. you deserve better.

He's gonna have to stop thinking about his ex if the relationship is going to work out

Honestly if he feels like someone you want to try and go forward with just have a conversation with him about it. If he's not willing to move on with his ex then it's not worth it. If you have a friend more socially apt you can talk this through with that would help too. I think just asking him to move on would at least put your mind at ease because you tried everything you could.

Also regarding the feeling of love the way I felt when I met who I love it felt like I knew them for only a couple days and for over a decade at the same time. If what you feel is anything like that, this borderline ephemeral feeling, it's worth trying to make it work. Gl.

>>127510
inagine having a nonvirgin bf

>>127533
A virgin bf that isn't a bitter incel would be so hot

>>127472
thank you i think that it actually does really matter

>>127451
Thanks for asking and sorry I'm replying so late
I'm sad I'm furious I'm angry etc. The good thing is I'm starting to feel it instead of being numb to it.
I was very socially retarded for a long time and after unlocking a certain memory I realize why kinda
Like I had a classmate who didn't like me and made passive aggressive remarks towards me. One day we gone over to her house with other classmates and she just tells me to stay in the other room?? for something?? and I think I finally get to chill alone. But I didn't realize what I was doing was kinda setting myself up to find silver lining in shit treatment too much, really she just wanted me to fuck off.
It's embarrassing and led me to many dumb situations but also it's something that made me extremely adaptive.
Like I end up like being a weird lure for certain people that's capable of fucking them up suddenly and I don't really get traumatized too much but like… It's not worth it. It just isn't.
I'm like this very weird person you overestimate at first due to my detachment, then you underestimate me cuz you realize I'm actually just stupid then I end up re emerging in a real weird way.
I still hate myself for not caring about status and disrespect so much cause it just made socialization harder tho.

Sorry if this rant ends up weird. I think it stems from my childhood where I had to make up my own rules cause I didn't want to play by my parents'.

I didn't realize just how different standards are for women vs men and just how subhuman women are actuallytreated in public until I started working retail

Any male coworkers i had never got patronized by customers or coworkers, never got told to smile more or be more friendly and get praised for doing bare minimum at work meanwhile me and other female coworkers get constantly told we don't work hard enough

And I can't help but notice those pathetic old bitch karen customers acting bubbly and shit with the guys that work here, meanwhile shitting on us, reviews are full of them complaining about us but not the male workers

And old creepy moids that come here thinking female retail workers want to fuck them because we're being polite (it's literally our job), and get mad and personally offended if you don't smile while they're telling you creepy ass remarks about your body and face

>>127522
yup

>>127120
ehhhh no, if someone has to work in a business with sweatshop tier conditions i'd say self-pity is rational if anything

I might have isolated myself out of a group chat
And ngl I don't gaf at the moment.

Long story short there's a manchild who refuses to be held accountable and now his friends are creating excuses for him. And ngl I was mean. But also, I don't think he's the kind of dude I'd wanna hang around with for long periods of time. And he probably feels the same way???? Regardless his friends are enablers

I'm going to lean on my own spirituality more. Maybe I am wrong. But maybe this is the higher power cutting off people who aren't for my highest good in the first place

I don't have anyone to talk to on my lunch break so I'm on cc. Feels lonely.

I deserve love too

Reading lolcow's "Get it off your chest" thread and enjoying it so much somehow, almost as much as when I'm venting myself.

I wonder what it is about needing to vent in public, even if you don't want to talk about it with anyone. Just writing a letter no ones gonna see simply doesn't hit the same.

I wanna go for some McDonald's fries rn but it's 6 AM

No one has ever loved you for the way you are. He’s a criminal who was all over the “have you dated this man?” apps. You are the exact opposite of his physical type. You do however car pool to events he wants to go in and your friend helps with his cosplays.

i knew it was wrong
i’m beyond it
i tried to be strong
but i
lost
it

i’ve never even seen a porn video that had as much blood as that day.

444
under the light
time goes so slowly
in your world
over the night
don’t feel so lonely
in your world
can you hear me please?

is it hard to be?

Red roses in the bottle at the bottom of the pool
See you there tomorrow maybe, baby, play it cool
He loves you, he loves you not, baby, know the rules
Pickin' petals never made nobody choose
Blue oceans in your eyes and in my dreams they come alive
Skeletons in my closet, I might barely survive
They love me, they love me not, runnin' for my life
For no matter when it's time, get your shades for the shine you want
Everything we are
Everything is hard
This is espionage
I spy your heart breakin'
Red rover send me over, oh, you better pick a side
I told you I'd come and hold you, I'm just waitin' for a ride
He loves you, he loves you not, baby, it's alright
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Lonely, lonely, I guess I'm lonely
Пусть всё будет, как решит монолог твоей души
Lonely, lonely, I guess I'm lonely
Ты Венера, я Земля
Ева, я любила тебя
Твои пластинки слушала я
И в каждой находила себя (lonely, lonely)
Зачем остановила меня? (Lonely, lonely)

>>127315
Am I missing something or are you planning an overly complicated revenge plot to get back together with a guy who abandoned you after getting you knocked up and flirted with someone else in front of you? It'd probably be easier to find some other guy to date who won't do all this shit.

>>127315
I get that feeling of absolute hate.
I sometimes wish I had the skill and nerve to pull a Uramiya tier revenge scheme on someone, but the person I hate the most moved to who knows where before I found out what he did. He raped my best friend multiple times and I wish there was something I could do to ensure he won't do it to anyone else. My friend wants to leave it in the past but I'm still so mad on her behalf…
I'll respect her wishes but damn, this sucks.

>>127320
If it won't work while you're alive, it'll work even less when you're dead.
Unless your plan involves framing him for murder, suicide just isn't a good way to get back at anyone. There are better ways to take revenge.
You want to get back at him, right? You despise that piece of shit? Then don't hurt yourself like that, live your best life and if you must, at least find a way to get back at him that elevates you above him. You can't do that if you're 6 feet under…
You deserve a good life without obsessing over some human waste of a moid and you can regain your pride without having to tear him down first.
But if you reaally want to tear him down (he 100% deserves it), don't do it in the heat of the moment and work out something that won't bite you in the ass later.
If you plan on exposing him, you could try to get some legal advice if you think it might help.
>>127316
Fpbp but yeah, it'll depend on the country.

he is just going to say you took out the trash for him and they’ll look through your stuff and see you just wanted him back. you need to become more successful and then come back and cancel him for what he actually did to you. not lies.

>>127315
My revised version of your plan:
>take time collecting evidence of him asking you to translate or discussing the details (emails, texts, dates, screenshots)
>do NOT kys
>expose his ass to the publishers, colleagues and everyone
>do NOT kys
>enjoy watching his life crumble
>report back here for lolz
>do NOT kys
>go on with your life

If you're dead there will be nobody to challenge his claim that you did it because of your mental health.

why aren’t you guys compatible? don’t leave us hanging nona

same

>>125487
>me and my bf aren't compatible
buy an adapter then

>>127504
kek

>>127504
this is what i make my bald little dicked ex look like every time i send him his monthly review on how he’s fallen short of mediocrity this time

Which is why we gotta turn the tables and start doing irl reverse harems. Get impressionable 22+ year Olds to bend to our iron will and become subservient to us. Once I make a 6 figure income and get my own place that's what I plan on doing.

>>127469
except men cant get hard if they are not interested so reverse harem doesnt work

>>127495
girl what he just has to stroke his dick twice and think of his ex all they want is sex

>>127469
or you could just remove the "valuable" male element from your life entirely and focus on things that actually put you in a position of intellectual leverage over a male (the only way you as a woman could even fight back against male dominance anyway)

>>127496
and you are okay with your harem boy thinking of his sex while fucking you?