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Advice for friends Anonymous 122756[Reply]

How to stop dissociating

I am lately losing touch with reality and end up doomscrolling over temu or anything, I just have one left friend

And I try to get inside girl groups

Yet most of them think I'm a man online somehow. Some say I am too manly or too autistic.

Even in college groups I was asked if I was a man by a person on chat.

I do not know how to meet other women my age or not, I just want to form groups and do stuff like watch movies and walk yapping or do stuff

Im an autist and do not know how to keep friends

I really need some advice, nonas
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Anonymous 122792

>>122788

Reactions are just that, reactions. People melt with each other because they react as that, as if they reciprocate something.

Some people are good manipulators, some are not.

It is nice to know you are learning how to do what you want to do nona, good things happen when you do what you want.

Anonymous 122793

>>122792
>Reactions are just that, reactions. People melt with each other because they react as that, as if they reciprocate something.
That's actually what I tell myself and it helps me avoid taking things personally.

Anonymous 122800

>>122756
Most people are not worth befriending

Anonymous 122810

>>122800

Learning this the hard way.

Anonymous 122829

>>122800

but it's so hard nona sniff sniff

Looking at people and looking at those ones with the same organs as you.

They act different, very different. How can you be so different, yet share the similar organs they have?

Yeah it's stupid it's obvious everyone is different and other stuff is just a general social reaction pattern


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Vent Thread Anonymous 120288[Reply]

Previous thread >>117577
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Anonymous 122823

>>122820
You're right, I guess.
We've been dating for a year and he seemed to want what I wanted up until his parents urged him to get an internship, now everything might change of he enjoys it.
I told him I might not be able to continue the relationship if it will be like this. Is that abusive if it's one of my own standards that's been explicit from date two?

Anonymous 122824

>>122818
lol. lmao even. clownworld!

Anonymous 122825

>>122824
Why?

Anonymous 122827

>>122823

It's not abusive nona. If anything, making it clear to men will just prove if they are worth it.

Will he try to please you? husband material.

Will he say no! i don't want to marry you and cook and clean! he's not husband material

If you want him to be a househusband, of course.

My boyfriend currently always says he wants to be a househusband.

He is short as well. I can tell that the moid is not really worth it.

"My ideal househusband!!" now he wants a career!! noo nona don't be abusive! it's not abuse.
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Anonymous 122828

>>122517

that nona needs help she's literally enjoying being abused mentally
being a truecel is accepting it's better to die alone and respect your own needs and wishes than to let a moid tell you what the fuck to do with your pussy fucking retards I hate menwhores


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Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
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Anonymous 121976

>>121950
US. I came back, we alreadh had a huge fight and the police got called. Police were not helpful at all. Earlier that same day I talked to a social worker at the hospital who told me to wait for my paperwork to go through and then she can hook me up with resources to leave and set up a place to live.

Anonymous 122393

OP here. My paperwork came through, but my next appointment with the welfare manager isn't until July. I don't know if I can wait but I'm scared of being homeless. Every night I have to shower 3 times and wash my feet twice between cleaning the walls and floors. I get berated for alk my "mistakes" before I can sleep. Living out if a manga cafe would probably be easier but I'm scared.

Anonymous 122605

OP. My next meeying is in two weeks, I'm not going to let myself convince myself I want to stay. I will say I want to leave.

Anonymous 122638

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Hey, OP.
It took me too fucking long to leave my BPD husband. Years. He left me with physical, mental, and emotional scars and he couldn't care less, as long as he could control me. That's the goal.

He wasn't interested in seeking help for himself or "getting better"—they were sweet little lies crafted to keep me enslaved.

Once I left, it.. surprisingly.. my life wasn't that much more difficult. Turns out, not having to cater the demands of a deranged psycho puts everything else on easy-mode.

Will you struggle? Oh, yeah. But guess what? You'll be free. You get your life back. You get to become a person again. You get to take care of yourself.

You deserve the happiness that he has made clear he will NEVER give you!
You're so fucking close! Keep at it! You're almost there!

Life will be so much more beautiful once you're free! I fucking promise!

Anonymous 122826

>>122638
Thanks, I'm trying to remember this. We'll go out and have a good time and I'll think it's all in my head. Or we'll have a fight and I'll get worked up, and then believe that I'm at fault.

Currently every time I come back to the apartment I have to shower, wipe the walls, shower, wipe the walls, shower, wipe the floor, wash feet, wipe floor, wash feet, and wipe the floor.

He claims I decided on this routine and I can't change it because "it's been decided."

Counting down the days until my next meeting with my welfare manager.


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how to stop being mentally ill in my relationship? Anonymous 122806[Reply]

it's been some time since i've started officially dating a girl that i've been friends with for a while. we're pretty close, and i love her more than i can really put into words. but, i've been struggling with anxiety in our relationship. if she doesn't text me back within an hour, i start to get anxious and worry that she's mad at me. even if she has a totally reasonable excuse that she's told me beforehand, i still worry. do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.

how do i stop myself from getting anxious and worked up when she doesn't text me back? something i do now is deleting instagram, so i don't have to worry about getting a notification that she's texted me. it helps a bit, but i still can't help but worry.

Anonymous 122809

>>122806
sounds to me that "stopping being mentally ill" over it is just putting a fig leaf over the real problem. do you have low self esteem, nobody else other than her who can tend to your needs etc

>do to something that happened between us in the past, i have a really serious fear of her leaving me.
what is it?

Anonymous 122819

>>122809
i mean, i would probably argue that i have low self esteem lol. but she makes me feel loved, which is why i love her so much. i have other friends that i like, but not in the same way i like her.

>what is it?
i’d rather not say, but she didn’t cheat on me or anything. it’s not really something i hold against her either.

Anonymous 122822

>>122819
idk how to put it but I think this feeling signals a legitimate concern that she doesn't make you feel safe

doesn't mean she's a bad gf but maybe you don't feel you can rely on her to take your side
or not to violate her boundaries
just minute things that are important but you forget about eventually while your subconscious still buzzes about it


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What makes someone boring? Anonymous 116081[Reply]

I know that I am a boring person but I just don’t know how to be interesting. I have a decent amount of friends and can handle conversations and be a fun presence when I’m with a group of friends, but in a 1 on 1 conversation I’m just dull as dishwater. When I talk with people 1 on 1, I can barely maintain back and forth speaking and I can tell the other person is not at all interested in what I am saying.
I’m not expecting some silver bullet for my problem that will instantly make me interesting but just stuff like better habits? I don’t even really know. I just want to be more interesting, and really what I want is to be able to get close with my friends. Sure I’m a fun member of my friend groups but no one really knows me and I can feel really lonely because of that sometimes.
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Anonymous 116132

>>116086
Thanks Nona, you called the first half of the post rambling but you got your point across well. Also u were right on the money with the inward part, I get really stuck in my own head and am usually too afraid to reach out to others, and in one on ones I’m usually more stressed out worrying about what to talk about instead of talking. Your post gave me a really good starting point of what I really need to work on, I really appreciate it

Anonymous 116303

Honestly I think other people finding you "boring" has less to do with you yourself, and more to do with how you are making the other person feel in conversation. In other words, I don't think you should focus on making yourself more interesting, but instead on entertaining the other person as you talk to them. I've talked to a lot of different people who on the surface aren't "boring" (they have many hobbies, experiences, are expressive, etc) but conversations with them are dull because of two things: they never share about themselves deeply, and they never show interest in me. If you mirror another person's emotions and show interest in something they care about, they will get excited and open up more. Most people are just biting at the chance to talk about themselves, and if you give them the opportunity to do so, they will lead the conversation for you. You just have to listen intently, give feedback and your opinion, and ask a couple questions about whatever they are talking about. It's important to share earnestly about yourself too, like telling a person why you enjoyed something, instead of just saying you liked it.

So I have never met you nona but in my opinion I think you shouldn't feel like you're boring or doing something wrong. The more comfortable you get opening up to others, the more easier it gets and the more your friends will appreciate you. If you need a quick fix though showing up to a meetup on drugs will make you a lot more interesting

Anonymous 122804

>>116081
You have to be interested in things, even mundane things. Little things should be able to make you happy or sad or frustrated or whatever. Then, when you talk to people, you're actually able to talk about your life or what you did today.

Anonymous 122808

>>116303
fuck I can't tell if another nona wrote this or I did wtf

Anonymous 122821

depression


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 115657[Reply]

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Anonymous 122613

all these ladies pining over me

Anonymous 122637

i wish you’d followed through with it. i’m ready for peace.

Anonymous 122777

i’ve literally been good even as you’ve hacked into one of my accounts. just please apologize to me.

Anonymous 122807

I'm sory I couldn't see you but I am not legally allowed to leave the psychiatric hospital

Anonymous 122817

For all your hardships and circumstances, you did the best you could and that's the only thing that matters. Nobody can take that away. So what if someone thinks less of you? Do you even like these people yourself? That's what I thought.


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Disillusioned. Spent a large part of my life being inclusive to people who are "different" because of feeling like an outcast in childhood. Shit just blows up in my face. I don't consider myself GC or anything like that but I am noticing a sickening pattern.

Why is it that nearly every trans woman I've befriended or have to work with has caused absolutely fucking chaos in my life and acted like they were the poor little victim when I called them out on it. I can't talk about this shit anywhere or I'm a bigot apparently.

I remember when I came out as bi to my friends over a decade ago, my family somehow found out, and then it was a total fucking nuclear explosion of issues. I was ostracized in my small town for something I didn't even want to be known publicly. But now it's some bizarre purity test to be some flavor of queer and if I don't mention it I don't deserve respect?… Maybe it's because I'm so past that point, but my orientation is such a small part of my life and has little to do with how I view the substance a person has.

I don't want to dictate how other people live, whatever you want to do go for it. But I've been used, stalked, screamed at, and professionally sabotaged by people like this more often than the rest of the population, totally unprovoked. Ten in a row is insane and a pattern. I rarely get treated this way elsewhere. Even the men I work with are decent and kind in comparison.

My boss will be pretty assertive with anyone except the trans women on our team. I was being creeped on by one of our clients and one of the trans women basically sabotaged my safety. The other sabotaged me at a public event. Boss just shrugs her shoulders when I bring this up and is way too nice to them. Says some shit about second puberty and calls it a day. What's worse is I think her processing is skewed because she has a trans daughter that's financially and emotionally abusive to her. She is an elderly disabled woman, and I feel like they're only getting away with this because she's walking on eggshells. It hurts to watch because I'm also disabled and was abused by my family for it. But her daughter just gets away with it because “she's going thru a hard time.” That's not love.

Weren't we still expected to have accountability while we were going thru puberty?? I'm so sick of this bs without being able to talk about it.

What do I even do? Who do I even talk to?…
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Anonymous 122781

>>122780
lmao @ this reply

Anonymous 122799

>>122774
All troons should die

Anonymous 122811

>>122799
This, troons are just male predators.

Anonymous 122813

>>122774
that's because they're male lol, of course they're going to be abusive, controlling, and extremely unpredictable. stop catering to those degenerates, remove them from your life, interact with only women or normal men if you have to

Anonymous 122814

>>122813

I'm forced to work and perform with them until I can find a better job. I don't really have a choice. I told one of them to stop interacting with me unless it's work related and they pitched a fit with management despite them causing the hostile work environment. All I can do is bitch and moan at home in the meantime.


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Anonymous 122630[Reply]

I wish all men looked like this
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Anonymous 122648

>>122646
well that just means you get to enjoy a harem of cute boys.
if women dont want to take the risk we could force men to wear irremovable tech gadgets/devices/chips thatll identify them through an app.

Anonymous 122784

>>122648
Oh yeah and give them all a mindchip which reinforces the right behavior, they'll stay at home, cook, clean, take care of the kids amd will be always available. They wouldn't have any other life and will be solely dependent on the relationship and will love it.

Anonymous 122785

stop yapping about useless stuff and just give us his name already, holy shit

Anonymous 122802

>>122630
Too muscular for my taste

Anonymous 122812

>>122630
Would but his face is kinda meh. Need a chiseled angel bf to molest


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Anonymous 113757[Reply]

I feel like I'm so ugly without makeup. Even after being showered in compliments. I get many compliments from unattractive men. I never get any from men that are good looking. Tinder, instagram, real life

How do I cope?
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Anonymous 114048

anon if picrel is you then you are literally beautiful wtf?

Anonymous 114052

I don't wear makeup and have resting bitch face. It's like being invisible. No compliments, but no insults. It's nice.
It's also made me focus on taking care of my skin so I look okay without makeup. I didn't realize how uncomfortable dry skin on my face is until I took steps to manage it.

Anonymous 114078

OP, if that picture is you, you are absolutely gorgeous. You certainly have nothing to feel insecure about.

Anonymous 114084

>>114048
>>114078
The girl in that picture is a model called Jordan Mcewen.

Anonymous 122805

Genuinely, people always look uglier with makeup.


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