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bullied kids will never be taken seriously Anonymous 132440[Reply]

ok so basically what eats me alive lately is thinking about how the things i have been ridiculed for liking and straight up bullied is now liked by the people that hated me for liking said thing.
am i stupid for letting such thought bother me?, well, i know it’s stupid but part of me feels a bit sad, knowing i spent half my childhood up to adolescence being made fun of and hated for such little things, in which also made me extremely depressed and self isolated. seeing what made me happy and people hated me for liking being now their “interest” is so soul crushing to me.
it makes me think that all the pain i’ve felt while being bullied was just nothing, my sister used to be so mean and angry towards me for liking certain music and now she booked 2k in tickets for the concert of the bands I LIKED.
and now simply when i bring up about it it’s like “well that’s not true” “i dont remember it”.
am i in the wrong for feeling sad over things like this? it hurts me sometimes.

Anonymous 132442

Bullied kids are taken seriously. That is why people who bullied you will never straight out admit what they did to you, it may sound obvious yet it's not.

People often expect others to change, to admit their mistakes. See mouthwashing, Jimmy straight out admitted what he did in the end of the game. Yet despite what he did admit, he did it in front of the consequences of his actions despite admitting it when the current thoughts happened through his mind.

What Curly experienced bullying from Jimmy was for the fact he instead of dealing with thoughts of helplessness, was the feelings of lacking more than what he had. Returning to a home, having a wife and kids and not spending his whole life on the jet.

If you think about it again, you are practically expecting them to admit the responsability of their acitons, something women often are not teached about because society expects women to bother about other things depending on where you live. Yet most of the times as I might add as well, women are not expected to fully mature and thus in consequence, they raise improper children most of the times. Or to the contrary, they are expected to be as mature as possible since children to justify abuse and labors against their will, which they might as well use irresponsability as a way to escape those chores.

The best you can do is do the same they did to you, without making it noticeable. I would recommend you to directly overcome it.

Sometimes women are taught to not be responsible because since children we are taught women should not be responsible about the consequences of their actions.

To mature is to be responsible most of the time, it's part of growing up. And it comes with judgement from others about your past all the time. Currently bullying is seen as something not cool, it's popular to defend others. If they do what's popular they will not let others know they remember what they did and even justify it.

Leave things there and if possible make them feel guilt, make them feel irresponsible, learn manipulation if you want.
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Vent Thread Anonymous 129800[Reply]

Again because we need a gazillion of these
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Anonymous 132400

It's scary how having a son changes most women into a worse person. They suddenly defend men more and side with them only.

Anonymous 132423

I hate being lonely, ugly, friendless, poor, and fat

Anonymous 132435

I don't know if anyone will ever give advice here but I'm posting for my own sanity.
There's a guy which I'm not sure if he's gay or not and am not sure if he likes me or not.
>organizer of a volunteer thing I'm in
>pretty cute
>likes reading books and sitting in cafés
>studied math and literature
>has a high-ish voice - not the gay vibe exactly, but not manly too
>tried to get me more involved in the volunteering
>sends voice messages and said he was impressed after some even we did together
>has nice hair
>said "yeah we've got to choose SOME gay guys" when discussing who to vote for but we're also leftists so maybe it was in an egalitarian way??
>has a female ex

I'm so confused… He's surely gay, right? I don't know if I even like him or am just depressed and stalker-ish these days. And guys who read are so rare. And he's just nice because he wants me to volunteer more. But it works :(
How can I know for sure? Or make him like me? Or get out of my head and stop caring about it?

Anonymous 132439

Feeling anxious, desctructive, and lonely, what is new. I am tired of my friends, both the ones who bother contacting me and the ones who don't. Call me a bad friend. But I am just so tired. I wanted to drink myself to sudoku yesterday.

Anonymous 132441

I want to make friends so bad but I'm autistic and people always manage to find something they don't like about how I interact. Either that, or they find an interest I have that they dislike. I have a boyfriend and some friends from high school that I don't hang out with very frequently, but I want to have more friends. Everyone is way too busy now, and my boyfriend is trying to get a job. I want someone to approach me with understanding and kindness, like I try to do, but it's as if I accidentally do something wrong and they no longer like me. Ugh.


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

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Anonymous 131718

>>131717
Wym to gain status. You are assuming that. Status is definitely one of those things I don’t care for. I don’t like people glorifying and justifying the behaviors that had been harmful towards me.

Anonymous 131719

>>131718
1) tf is a vector?

2) what happened?

Anonymous 131720

>>131719
In computer security, an attack vector is a specific path, method, or scenario that can be exploited to break into an IT system, thus compromising its security.
In health and disease transmission, a vector is a living organism that carries and transmits an infectious pathogen to another living organism

Anonymous 131722

>>131720

So nona either broke security protocol or transmitted a disease by bullying someone?

Sounds retarded af

Anonymous 131887

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Why do you have to keep showing up in my dreams? Not only that, my subconscious humanizes in a way that isn't true to you, setting me up for disappointment again and again.
It's like I miss something that has never existed.


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Anonymous 131463[Reply]

What's your dream bf like?

for me:
>16-66 years old
>in severe debt
>incel, never had sex
>bald
>173cm tall exactly
>widely considered to be a schizo
>has a number of congenital diseases
>has brain damage
>no friends
>might be missing a finger or two
>speaks Mongolian
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Anonymous 131481

>>131480
>>pink nipples
good taste.

Anonymous 131484

>>131480
>Right leaning + not feminist
extremely cringe

>>131463
>bald
cringe

>21-25 or not stupid
>does not really identify with anything, cares about humanity as a whole (dutiful and self-sacrificing like a male feminist)
>can survive and make peace in any situation (such as being trapped in a basement)
>good fat storage, slightly fat because he takes care of his needs
>promiscuous and easily charms others to have homosexual relations (“my husband’s bf”)

Anonymous 131485

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>>131484
>cringe
assassinates you

Anonymous 131519

>16-20
>white, skinny, has glasses and a full head of hair
>above 5’7” at least
>showers
>baldness does not run in the family
>shy and awkward
>virgin
>cute
>christian, ideally lutheran
>doesn't watch IRL porn (written or drawn is fine)
>an otaku like me :3

Anonymous 132437

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>under 30
>metalhead
>brown eyes
>delicious body
>alcoholic
>anime watcher and drug taker
>hard to approach
>seems emotionally closed off and egoistic
>nice and funny when his mind isn't somewhere else
>has nothing in common with me
>lets me poke his waist


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are women meaner or nicer when you look good? Anonymous 131767[Reply]

Since I've moved to a big city I've had this problem where I'll be minding my business in a grocery store and some crackhead middleaged woman will try and start a fight with me. It happens a few times a year. I never instigate, I always keep to myself and stay far away from people. They'll throw insults usually, but last week a woman tried hitting me with her cart.

I always look like a bum when I go grocery shopping. My friend suggested I dress up when I shop so that these women will feel inferior and leave me the fuck alone. Does that work? I thought they'd get jealous and the opposite would happen.

Idk. Let me know what you guys have experienced.
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Anonymous 131794

>>131793
No

Anonymous 131807

You probably seem harmless and kind, and that type of thug really likes to hit on women. If you dress better, they might think you have more money and want to ask you for more things; the best thing to do is walk around with a serious face, homeless people and drug addicts like to intimidate people who seem excessively kind.

Anonymous 131809

>>131808
No milf for canadians

Anonymous 131826

>>131772
Nod and walk away.

Anonymous 132434

Update: maybe it hasn't been long enough to make a real observation. But it seems like people are ghetto around me and not toward me lmao. I also got a job. Have had zero crackhead encounters or middle aged women try and fight me. My theory is that I look rich enough to sue them.


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Anonymous 132401[Reply]

I need to know if loosing your virginity to a moid is really worth it. I'm afraid to be thrown and dispossed like an used tissue after gifting my virginity to someone…should I consider having my first time with another girl?, ¿Do you regret losing your virginity?
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Anonymous 132407

>>132405

I feel as it shouldn't be a concept at all, since now, in this age, it has become nothing but a word. A worthless term that has lost any meaning. But being in control of my sexuality also means wether I want to be sexually active or not. I simply want it to be a nice, comfortable memory instead of a regret.
I don't want to be vulnerable infront of a male that doesn't understand the amount of trust I'm giving him.

Anonymous 132408

Well if you're not sure about the person you're with don't be intimate with them, kinda obvious

I guess young people are embarrassed about not having lots of sex, well porn work and cheap sex leads to poverty

Anonymous 132414

>>132407
There is no guarantee, and there is never a guarantee that even the sweetest memory won't turn sour in case of a messy break up or something
Just, indeed, make sure you're on good two way terms with your partner - male or a woman, beware of red flags, love bombing especially, because it's those types who usually "dispose" of their partners afterwards

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>>132401
Don't because you'll regret it

Anonymous 132433

>>132401

Have dry sex, you basically rub with men until you both get wet from pleasure. No penetration, no pregnancy involved.

Do not take pills. It does not matter how many women take them, do not do it unless you are not in a safe enviroment or have a very very active sex life.

Condoms do not promise "no pregnancy" instead they should be used to prevent certain diseases and for pregnancy it can break, leak, and other kinds of awful things no one wishes for when using them. If you want sex? have dry sex. You are basically a virgin, since virginity is based on if a man has introduced himself inside you.

If you really really want sex, you are just ovulating or practically bery horny. Just tell the moid to pleasure you by dry sex. Keep your panties, he keeps his boxer, you do it dry and if he wets he has to change of clothes.

If what bothers you if he will discard you, discard him first. The first moment you feel you care for him too much, find other man that is more interesting than him in ways he will never pleasure you, in mind, in affection, in companionship, etc.

I hope you can be happy and healthy, xoxo, best wishes.


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Vent Thread Anonymous 132418[Reply]

I need some form of advice in this situation because its making me feel like i'm in a forever luteal mental state

I befriended this girl at work early last year and we got along really well. She was a bit shy and hard to talk to at the beginning but I saw a lot in her that I liked so I persevered in forming a friendship. As time went on we became really good friends and I thought she would have been a friend I would have for a long time. She hadn't really had much life experience but that wasn't an issue to me as I was more than happy to introduce her to my friends and guide the way and point her in a good direction as she isn't from my city.

I started to notice her saying weird things, villanising our other co workers, talking about the way her body looks which I would obviously be like oh don't be silly you're so pretty, not thinking much of it at the time.

I started dating my boyfriend a couple months after her and I started being friends and that hadn't changed anything at the time. She was very happy for me and all was well. A few months after that so around 8 months after her and I started becoming friends we decided to move in together.

The first month was great and there were no issues at all, the second month rolls around and at night when my boyfriend would stay over she would start slamming the doors and stomping around the house, I talked to her about it immediately but nothing changed snd she only did and does this when my boyfriend stays over. The first time this happened it marked the down hill spiral of this friendship.

I continued to be nothing but nice to her even though she was displaying really scary behaviours that to me are the most violent you can be without causing physical harm. I would continue to invite her to outings, share music and interests with her, invite her to hang out with my boyfriend and I, Cook her dinner occasionally.

Work changed for me, over time she would tell me all these "nasty things the girls were saying" which I later found out were not true and she had forged a story to stop me from finding out that she was complaining to them about me. saying that " I expected more from moving in with her, I expected to go out more"

She started to express extreme levels of jealousy that made my boyfriend and I feel guilty for being in a healthy relationship, we felt extremely policed, we were too scared to talk over a whisper at night not to upset her.
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Anonymous 132422

Socially isolated people are isolated unfairly and because of it they know no boundaries, social morality or other things that are a consequence of effective socialization.

Because of it, anyone who assumes the responsability of socializing with those people have the responsability since they are smarter socially to actually introduce them to proper social cues.

Such as properly stablishing boundaries.

This is awful to say, but if you are befriending someone who does not have much life experience, introduicng her to your friends and expectingh er to behave is too much.

Since there is a high probability she will not be socially capable.

The best you can do is treat her for what she deserves, and do the correct thing, put your boundaries.

It means basically learning to put your limits.

"Hey I think you do this and that" if she says that just treat her like you are teaching her boundaries.
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Anonymous 132426

>>132422

This is the issue I am facing, I am someone who is very clear about boundaries no matter the situation or person and I have nicely talked to her about the door slamming and stomping but that didn't change anything. The "fact my boyfriend and I are too loud" makes me feel like I can't have intercourse with my boyfriend when she is home because it will upset her.

She has never been in a relationship so any time any couple including myself and friends of mine are in her vicinity she will get really upset, leave, cry or yell at a family member on the phone about it. Its really uncomfortable and I don't know how to help, Ive been more than nice about it, Offering to help her get herself out there and take her out to pubs etc, being a wingwoman etc etc.

I digress, when I have very civil conversations with her about boundaries it will always go the same way, she will not be receptive of what I am saying and start telling me "you think I am a bitch, I am self centred, i'm a bad person, you hate me you hate me" and it becomes really hard to talk to her because she won't take accountability for anything. Last time we talked about something that was upsetting me this happened but then she said " but I let you have your boyfriend over" which really frustrated me because that isn't something she gets to decide, then she revealed to me that she had been complaining about him to her therapist, as if he doesn't do anything around the house, which is quite the opposite he does more than she does and contributes a lot to the house. She has villanised him and myself and the relationship between him and I.

No matter what I say to her or any boundary I set she creates something new to be angry about, Im the past at work she had yelled at me, she only shows this aggressive and destructive behaviour with me and no one else which is really upsetting

Anonymous 132432

Alright, so what I will say is very rude and probably not moral for some people, very much not ethical or some stuff and not woke at all.



I understand that you are not a therapist, or at least might not be one or a psych, or anything related to the sciences of the social and the mind. I will continue with what I want to propose to you after what I said.



She might be intellectually impaired. Yes, I know it sounds rude, and awful and sad sometimes that you can assume that about others. Yet what if she is? You should prepare as well for another social circumstance that is even if not as hard, a bit harder to deal with sometimes.



Perhaps she is just a narcissist. I remember if not wrong you said something like that, that perhaps she is a bad person and that is why people isolate her. The problem is it's hard to teach people like them actual limits.


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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132030

>6 months
This is not worth it
Please block him or something he’s manipulating you

Anonymous 132031

>>132028
>he used to treat me so good
This is exactly how it starts. It is also a pattern with moids from conservative culture that I’ve noticed. They treat women like queens but then also like shit because of how they objectify us or something. So he really doesn’t love you even though he fills some sort of unfulfilled emotional need.

Anonymous 132323

>>132028
This is a common tactic used by narcissists. The "old him" didn't exist, it's a facade.

Anonymous 132360

>>132323
If she is in love with the facade of a narcisist and is ready to pay the price, let her be in love with what that man pretend to be. The choice belong to her.
I somehow find it beautiful.

Anonymous 132431

you deserve better and you will definitely find better. leave this relationship before it messes you up long term. being alone is hard at first but it's a kind thing to do to yourself over facing abusive bs like this


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 132411

>>132409
Well, I am not sure if my life changing results are relevant to begin with if you weren’t semi psychotic like me my whole life. In fact I’ve never seen anyone describe experiences that would be similar to mine. So I wrote that post in hopes of finding someone who finds it relatable.

Anonymous 132412

>>132411
Same here xister, I turned my life around by smoking fentanyl
Now I have friends but I wish they'd stop stealing my stuff

Anonymous 132413

It’s all so tiresome.

Anonymous 132425

I like how it tickles when flies walk on my skin.

Anonymous 132428

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I’ve been getting fat ever since someone else started bringing in sweet snacks into the house… I didn’t even notice it until now. If buying all groceries were up to me, I wouldn’t be buying candy bars, that’s the funny thing. I’ll ask them not to buy this stuff for me…


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