>>129761i don't know what work you've done to understand how being groomed changed your feelings about the world and your own safety: but remember that it's naturally impacted your beliefs about vulnerable relationships. it's a- if you go through life thinking everything needs to be hammered, you'll only see nails -type of thing. and by that i mean, if you're nervous even subconsciously about being groomed or tricked again, you're putting too much burden on yourself to hyper-worry about it, which only does yourself a disservice (although it's normal to think about.) caution is warranted, just not to the degree that it sabotages your own plans and desires.
be nice to yourself and those thoughts. you can sit with the worry of the "grooming happening again", and eventually they'll start looking just like thoughts. and only thoughts. they don't represent an actual manifested reality; they're fleeting residue from previous trauma, they can't control your real world. you probably know all of this, so i'm not trying to baby you, but a reminder can't hurt.
hopefully that younger guy will be nice! it's a great idea considering recent data, so good luck
>"Research indicates that older women dating younger men often report higher sexual satisfaction and relationship well-being compared to younger women dating older men. A 2025 study published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy found that women in these reverse age-gap relationships experienced better sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm, while men in these pairings reported high relationship satisfaction that strongly predicted their sexual functioning." 
