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lonely post graduation Anonymous 128773[Reply]

18 yrs and graduated last year, all my friends got bfs and now dont talk to me anymore. And the one male friend I have who played video games with me sold his body to the army so now im all alone and posting on reddit to find friends. I genuinely do nothing all day besides play video games that I dont even enjoy to pass the time. I wish i could go back to highschool so bad even tho i was bullied lol just so i could have some human interaction outside of my cat and my mom
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Anonymous 128799

You got two options.

Either get neet bucks from your parents and get on that unemployment lifestyle…. or at least get a part time job to fund your interests and get out of your small town. You could also get a full time gig or go to college, but baby steps are better. The last thing you need is to circle through a bunch of degrees because you're trying to find yourself or worse- get a degree only to find out nobody hires people with your degree OR EVEN WORSE THAN THAT you gotta sink money into a masters degree to be taken seriously in the field you choose.

Best of luck adulting Nona!

Anonymous 128803

>>128782
Many countries mandatory conscription for all moids. They'll die either way if war breaks out

Anonymous 129154

thats so me

Anonymous 129162

Sound advice: invest in yourself
Watch the whole video
As for friends, you can try bars and even contacting some of your old friends who now have boyfriends; who knows, maybe they have a friend group which you can join
Even things like spin class, yoga class, courses

Anonymous 129163

>>128799
Worst case scenario there was an anon who said she was in severe debt after graduating from college then entered a sugar relationship where in the end all of the debt was paid in full but she had to do nasty things in bed and you don't want to have an average of 29,000 $ of debt when you're a student in the USA


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all the men i talked to just made me insecure about my appearance. Anonymous 129153[Reply]

all the men i talked to just made me insecure about my appearance and made me compare myself to other girls.

and i hate it, cause i constantly compared myself to the girls they mentioned and created an internal female rivalry with them. like, i didn't hate the girls, i js wanted to be like them and thats impossible. i only hate myself because genetically it would be possible to change my appearance, maybe in another life. and what irritates me the most is that I forgave it, even though sometimes i commented that i didnt like it and they obviously dont care. so because this, in my head, its impossible for someone to genuinely like me because of my appearance and my body, even if i consider myself a nice girl.

i hate moids who dream of an ideal type of woman they never have and say that to the girls they talk to. or guys whose minds are corroded by pornography

Anonymous 129156

they are negging you on purpose to lower your self worth and then erode your boundaries. you must be young and not have lived to see them all start balding at 23.

Anonymous 129161

The same thing happened to me, nona. The difference that they cited aspects of my appearance, mostly related to my genetic traits, which they considered flaws and asked me to change. Im already quite insecure, but they made me even more so. That's why I stopping trusting most moids.


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Anonymous 128950[Reply]

I've gotten to the point where I've become such a touch-starved femcel, I've started to envy and hate pretty girls who have been SA'd or stalked by men before. Instead of feeling sympathy for for them, I get to the point where I am annoyed and disgusted hearing their stories where they had that one ex boyfriend that just "couldn't let them go" or having had a man in their life obsess over them. That has been the stark opposite of my life. As a femcel I have been ignored by men my whole entire life, and the exes I have managed to have had all wanted to ghost or abandon me, none of my exes were ever obsessed with me. None of them blew up my phone constantly or begged for me. At this point, I see women talking about obsessive exes as nothing more than humble bragging, especially Stacies, complaining about how "oh so hard" it is that they've had an ex obsess over and stalk them. They don't understand that the life of a femcel is much worse. I would take their life over mine in a heartbeat. Being a Stacy where I have men obsessing over me, stalking me, and wanting to grope me versus being the touch starved ignored femcel I am. It's easy to see their life is easy mode of people doting on them all the time (their life) versus a life that is absolute hell (my life).
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Anonymous 128959

too many exes to be complaining

Anonymous 129148

So true nona! Staceys will brag about how desired they are, but instead of appearing as grossly vain (which they are), it's societally ok bcuz of the patriarchy (that they feed off of anyway(see: trad gender norms)).

Anonymous 129155

>femcel
>ex
Seems like you just want men to obsess over you and you're angry that you dont get enough attention. You're not a femcel though. Some of us have actually never had relationships ever in our lives. It's so annoying to see normalfag Beckies call themselves femcels because their ex didn't fucking stalk them or some shit.

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>>129155
Trust me I'm far from being a normfag or Becky. I'm a mentalcel and femcel. I never had a guy crush on me in school and I always had to be the one to initiate a relationship if I ever got one. And because of that things always broke off because a guy will never continue a relationship with a girl he's not obsessed with. Also I think it's unfair so many are saying I'm not femcel because I've forced relationships with guys. If guys are still allowed to be called incels after having relationships/sex with women then why can't women be allowed to be called femcel for doing the same things? Femcel means involuntarily celibate female. I am involuntarily celibate because everytime I try to get a relationship guys reject me or I somehow manage to get one and the guy only tolerates me instead of actually liking me.
>>128958
Then what about guys who get hung up on that one "special ex" that they can't let go of, to the point where they can start a new relationship with a girl and still message that same ex because they're so obsessed with her?

Anonymous 129160

>>129159
they never loved that ex and probably abused her worst of all. i’ve been that ex and i’ve reached out to the girl that i was supposed to live up to. i was raped and he’s still obsessed with me. she was raped and beaten and she was glad i reached out and she was glad she wasn’t crazy and it wasn’t just her. two different men, me in the opposite roles, same story.


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Commie moids Anonymous 128878[Reply]

Is it a good idea to date a hardcore commie moid? [Sorry for bad English it's my second language]
>met him at a book fair with other friends
>he was in a booth encouraging people to read commie books and even gave digital copies to some
>I'm 23 he is 21
>he is studying medicine and im studying engineering
>we kinda flirted and I have a date with him on Sunday
Is it a red flag for a moid to be a commie? [Pun intended]
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Anonymous 128937

>>128935
You can barely speak english, how would you know.

Anonymous 128939

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>So im back from the date
had a great time and learned a lot about him
FYI I like asking about his prior gfs just to weed out red flags
>Pros
>He is kind
>He is attentive
>He is really smart
>he isn't condescending (most smart moids are unbearable)
>I really enjoyed our conversation
>Surprisingly he has a part-time job
>he paid for the date
>told me about his exes when I asked he has had 3 (the first he ended on bad terms, the other two ended on good terms but he maintains zero contact) I like that
CONS
>he confessed to me his prior relationships failed because he is always busy and had very few dates with his past gfs
>didn't talk about his family
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Anonymous 128948

>>128939
It's ok to talk his ex. A bit weird though but tolerable, I guess. Just don't expect him to accept it if he discovers that. Would you be ok if he were stalking all of your profiles on Insta/FB/Whatsapp and talking to your exes, too?

Anonymous 129150

>>128878
They're notorious for betraying their friends and family to conform to the new rhetoric, I personally experienced that.

Anonymous 129157

>>129150
Can confirm, my sister has no loyalty towards her family that keeps supporting her throughout her life, just blindly defends people she has never met (at expense of those who are closer to her). As if to mechanically compensate for lacking natural human virtue, she clings to crude ideas of morality.


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new relationship not actually being toxic for once Anonymous 128947[Reply]

im 18yo lesbo9000 and ive had terrible relationship issues my entire life, usually being a mixture of both me & the other person being the problem

ive got insane mental issues but i recently got a girlfriend (although we were basically dating for a long time now). shes really nice to me: she doesnt randomly ignore me, and doesnt suck at communication. shes really happy to see me and doesnt mind me texting her a lot (She even likes it WTF?). she also has issues but works hard to be the best she can be

but its crazy feeling so fucking normal for once. no more three-times-a-day mental breakdowns and cutting myself over stupid bullshit. being in a healthy relationship feels so fucking weird in a Nice way. im really not used to it and i feel like a stray cat being randomly picked up on the street and given a domestic home. but its something i want to get used to. is this what relationship issues/attachment recovery feels like? Cool…

Anonymous 129152

prepare for the beatings when she tries to assert her dominance over you


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

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Anonymous 128920

I love you, I don't want to tell you yet but I knew from the moment I met you, I love you

Anonymous 128956

So you sit there silently and what are you waiting for? Did valentines day trigger your loneliness wound?
Are you hoping I still love you? Are you hoping I will be the first to apologize?
Or do you just want the access to me, just in case?

Anonymous 128957

You do not have access to me anymore. Any time I feel like I miss you I remember all the times you hurt me and lied to me and how many days i went not eating and sleeping because of you, cutting myself because of you. All the promises you made that you'll always be here and always love me only to leave me

I'm tired of wasting my time on you. Go fuck yourself. You should die alone

Anonymous Moderator 128961

Some posters have been using this thread to vaguely communicate with others and to spam dozens of one-liners one after the other. Don't use this thread as a chat thread. Your posts will be removed.

Anonymous 129151

>>128961
thank you.


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Anonymous 128788[Reply]

i feel like ill never find true love as a woman partially because men are shit and partially because im also an emotionally unavailable woman who wants very specific things out of a man. im just mad every man ill ever be around is a shithead and men make me feel so mad and evil

Anonymous 128789

What are your standards for a man?

Anonymous 128835

alive and maybe has a job

Anonymous 128863

I used to be a big believer in "true love." But I've come to the belief now that most people are constitutionally incapable of it. I know I am. And I know all the men I'd love or who would love me are too. I don't really care to search for it anymore. I am also emotionally unavailable, and I seem to attract emotionally unhealthy men. It is what it is, you know? But its easier to accept that after experiencing it fail first, which I have. I recommend having one or two disastrous relationships and then maybe you too can accept the futility of love.

Anonymous 128962

I gave up on love a time ago.


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Does anyone have a fear of never finding love? Anonymous 128837[Reply]

It's fine if I never find love or die alone. It's not a fear for me because life is life and I have my books, my cats, and my friends. But sometimes, maybe it's hormones or basic human fears, but I worry that never finding love will prove something about myself, like I am unworthy or a repellent of any sort of love. Around my period these feels worsen as is natural, but sometimes there is a hole in my belly from that fear and I can't let it go and I get anxious.

Anonymous 128891

>>128837
Yeah, I also feel this way. The thought of living my whole life without ever experiencing it because it's kind of plastered all over the media, in books, movies, music, even irl people place such importance on it that if you miss out on it you might feel like there's something wrong with you or you're unworthy or something. But honestly I think most people live without ever finding actual love in general. Most relationships seem to be just out of convenience or hierarchies or shallow shit. Or maybe I'm just trying to rationalize it idk. I mean even if you try to be realistic about it it's still a scary feeling. But at the end of the day I feel like most people feel this way deep down. Its a very human feeling I think

Anonymous 128945

this summarizes my feelings perfectly

Anonymous 128954

Same, nona. I think I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll be alone, because I'm afraid of being broken again after several failed attempts, and I believe that genuine love is hard to find these days.

Anonymous 128955

It's pretty much certain at thi point real love isn't possible, only infatuation. Most men and a lot of women can't commit to one person for too long, are afraid of emotional availability and responsibility. People want a lifetime long honeymoon phase where you can also see other people and your partner won't be mad about it.


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My boyfriend has ignored me all valentines day Anonymous 128893[Reply]

I even texted him happy valentines day and he didn't even say it back. He only said he couldn't do anything for me and he felt bad.
He just went out with his friends to drink and I feel lonely and sad.
He told me we couldn't meet today because he had to study, I don't know how to tell him how bad I feel so instead I'm drinking cheap whiskey and watching Gilmore Girls
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Anonymous 128896

>>128895
No I get it. I don’t mean to insult, you’re allowed to vent, vent all the way. I just wished young women would just stop with these moids as soon as possible. You sound hurt, and tired, and I don’t think love or relationships should be like that. Love is supposed to bring you life, even its difficulties should, I just don’t want anyone to torture themselves for a moid. You shouldn’t be drinking Whiskey and watching Gilmore Girls, it’s more him im annoyed at, not you, but I wrote it to sound like you.

Anonymous 128897

FUCKING
DUMP
HIM
NOW

Anonymous 128928

>>128893
Are you guys LDR or do you guys live close to one another? If it's an LDR relationship it may be understandable why he could have been busy that day, but if you guys live close he has no excuse.

Anonymous 128936

free yourself of that moid retard he clearly doesnt love you im so sorry nona but dont keep hurting urself by being with him

Anonymous 128942

>>128896
I know, but he's a really good boyfriend in other ways, I don't know what happened. Tbf I tried to make it seem like I don't think valentines day is a big deal when I do, plus we live 3 hours away from each other. I wish I could be more upfront
>>128928
I guess? Or medium distance more like


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