>>126937
Yes but not as blackpilled/nihilistic as you probably
voluntarily abstinent/virgin and celibate never had a bf few can relate but it brings me mystical insight

>>126937
wut is blackpill?

i crave it but im volcel

>>127262
A metaphorical term for demoralization.

A 16 y/o dating a 19 y/o is statutory rape. Yall just had bad communities

>>127253
a nineteen year old having anything in common with a sixteen year old is so embarrassing oh my god. it’s so creepy and sad i hate how stunted men are. i associate immature men with being pedophiles it’s always how they justify it.

>>127091
Being friends with your ex is a red flag my dude. Kudos to "J" for being stupid enough to put up with that

Yo L…. if you see this I hope you realize that you're only a object to him. You there to refuel what he cannot give himself. You make it easy to control you through the toxicity and bs. If that's what you call a win you can keep it. Have his child. You'd just be fulfilling more generational trauma to your progeny.

Do it. I triple dog dare you.

I wish I could treat you as cold and uncaring as you treated me so you'd know the pain you put me through, but I'm nowhere near as selfish and irresponsible as you are and I actually value you and care about you.

Meanwhile you treat me like shit for a month straight making me feel like I'm a burden to you, making me lose appetite and sleep and make me cry. Only to crawl back a week later with your "uwu nona I hope you're okay I want to cuddle you uwuuu" acting like none of that fucking happened.

I wish I had it in me to not forgive you.

Whatever. You won't see that side of me that you like ever again. I'm not gonna coddle you and give in to your need of intimacy from me. Because I know I changed and I'm a better person now and you're still the whiny little fuckass who always runs from problems instead of trying to fix them.

agree with everything you’re saying here and nona you can date me if you want.i think you could call me futch i like wearing feminine clothes and makeup im just lazy asf but if I was dating a girl I would put more effort into my appearance again

>sapphic
you fucking cocksucker

>>125973
I have a huge preference for girls and am generally attracted to more feminine women. my issue is that i just don't know when a girl is gay too. I avoid looking at women in this way because i'd feel creepy if she turns out to be straight.
There's currently one girl I like at my work, I can assume that she's gay because she's kinda masculine (short hair, alternative), but she still acts feminine and she has soft features and she's just super cutee
Idk but my issue with girls is that I start liking them when I know I can (if theyre gay too) because it's just so difficult to find.

>>126942
This happens like extremely rarely anyway

>>126942
You're right, and you also helped double convince me against even thinking about messing with this guy tonight. I was caught between "is he cute or the only guy dressed well tonight" and that's probably enough of a reason to just not.
I've been on the back end of that scenario, it's not fun. he was a porn sick guy who really didn't care about the woman's looks so long as they had a large cup size. I am small chested and eventually he sprung the "gift" of implants on me. And yeah it would be using the guy in a gross way, even if he technically is interested (but with a presumably excited and willing partner which I guess I'm not). My thoughts for getting with him absolutely are not virtuous though, I am lonely and post bad breakup with the aforementioned asshole lmao. I think some girls with uggos are like me, and some probably have low self esteem too like one of my friends who absolutely could do better than her ogrish Redditor bf

icl my boyfriend is hella ugly

>>126959
mine too lol but im so into it he's just so unique i need him. only problem is i cant stop thirsting over randoms bc theyre attractive. its too bad attractive men dont have personalities

>>126942
eh I dated a guy who wasn't conventionally attractive. He was so clingy and always wanted to be touching and kissing me or whatever, but sometimes he repulsed me. He didn't have optimal hygiene either what didn't help .

But I didn't date him as some sacrifice or whatever, I actually developed feelings for him , and over time he did start to become attractive to me. Idk how I was so blind. I started to like his smile and his eyes and freckles. Thinking back to moments I saw him, I do still look back and remember finding him attractive. But when I actually see pictures of him I'm embarrassed he can even say he was with me.

Idk if looks really matter. I'm currently talking to a guy I don't find super attractive but he's nice and I guess I could be able to find him cute if he is charismatic irl as well. But I probably wouldn't be able to find interest in someone who is actually super objectively ugly. Maybe thats shallow idk

>>119835
what?

It's unironically a young benedictine monk I met when I was in France, I have no idea if I'll meet him again or not but he was an amazingly sweet snd kind person (like most real christians). I'm not a christian so I have no idea what this is about.

>>113773
>>113949
>>114178
Submissive men that aren't very fetishistic about it are naturally hard to find due to being, obviously, submissive. They're shy, probably don't go out unless it's with friends, probably don't use dating apps.
Really, the only time to get a submissive man is when you're in school.

>>119668
I know a guy almost exactly like this, minus the TERF part.

Haha this is interesting. completely ideal/unrealistic:
lookswise:
>5'9-6'0
>good hygiene
>have some sense of style, or at least aware to look put together
>good dental hygiene !
>mixed or not white;
>bigger than me , but not too muscular

personality
>minimal screen usage/no social media like me
>minimal longing for sexual intimacy
>values me as a person
>can cook
>does not drink/smoke
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>>126914
DO NOT MEET WITH HIM!!

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

You are wasting both his and your time

>>127058
will someone PLEASE think of the man grooming a teenager online.. puhleeeaassee guys we have to caaarrrreeee about men’s time and feelings… please he must be so lonely having his entire social life over discord plssss can anyone help HIM

>>127059
HAHAHHA

>>126912
but yes nona pls get out asap while you still can. you are literally 19!!!! you deserve to meet and date people if you want that and have actual real connections. not get lovebombed by some guy 5 year older than you tf. And definitely don't feel guilty bc he spent time/money on youu, because be fr he's a grown man and those are his choices.

If you don't end it soon it'll just keep going and it'll be harder to get away from him. Think about your future. You do NOT want this man to be your husband !!!

>>127243
Yes you can. Any friend worth having would understand why you would say no.

>>127243
on the bright side he hasn't isolated you from your friends so you can always ask them for help

>>127144
Nona I say this with love in my heart but you need to grow a spine. If this isn’t a larp then holy guacamole this situation is pathetic!

>>127144
Nona I say this with love in my heart but you need to grow a spine. If this isn’t a larp then holy guacamole this situation is pathetic!

>>127239
yeah
if it’s fake this is godly ragebait
if it’s true this is cringe
half the thread is your posts escalating whatever was said before

>>127201
lmao what the fuck

>>127201
so many fetish posts the past 12 hours wtf is going on

>>127201
this didn't happen

>>127233
and it seems like that person has an embarrassing kink

My hubris seems to have caught up to me. Because who in their right mind would wanna stalk me if I truely had little to no importance in the grand scheme of things? Thats neither here nor there. Im gonna put the schizo mask down for a moment and just put this out into the universe.

Youre cute when you're terrified. I will suplex you when I get the chance (◕‿◕✿)

Dont like it? Move to Florida.

>>127006
i feel gross for even thinking of it but it makes me so uncomfortable knowing what men do online and having to wonder about it. i never want to be in a relationship again with someone i know is like porn sick. the absolute stomach lurch from hearing men casually mention all the porn theyve watched. there’s just no way it doesn’t change the way they view women. and it makes me want to cry they want to do those things to me and see me like that rather than like a nice girl who loves their soul.

>>127009
I struggle with this too. I know every man has looked at a woman in this degrading way. I feel like they are all just lustful and it makes me sick. It also has to do with normalization, and porn is a huge industry, but i hate it . I cannot trust them. Even without going on porn sites, scroll through a guys social media for you page and you see enough ,,,,

>>127225
i desperately want to look at my fiancés reddit dms. he hung out in a lot of sexual assault support groups because his ex was posting about what he did to her. and he insisted he wasn’t the one sexually harassing her on there. but she spoke about it a lot and he has multiple accounts.. but he always hides his conversations on there. is there a way to view his hidden chats? i want to find out if he has a rape kink.

>>127227
Wait, what? Your boyfriends ex is in SA support groups because of what HE did to her?? And he hides his conversations there..? Love I think you know the answer already. It's creepy for a man to be in SA groups (!plural?!?) while not having experienced SA himself (I assume). Why is he your fiancé??

As for checking his conversations, you could try going into his settings on his browser and checking the passwords. I think you need the phone password or email password for this. Then search for a reddit account. Or try to just access the reddit app yourself if he has it on his phone. I'm not sure if you are connected with his ex in any way, but ultimately you could also try to contact her (or have a friend do it).

Whatever you do I need you to be very careful. This situation already sounds like a red flag, and the last thing you want is for things to escalate and you getting in danger. Pls do not act "suspicious" (i.e. mentioning wanting to see his reddit/talking about his ex) while you try to gain access/information.

I also want you to know that you cannot safely stay with someone with a rape kink. This is very dangerous and no matter what he says, you could also become a victim.

So if you do happen to find out about something, negative, hide it while you plan your escape.

The situation does not look good for your boyfriend, it seems like you are in denial or holding onto any hope for it to all be some misunderstanding.. But unfortunately sometimes we pick the wrong people. It is important for you to act correctly and systematically now that you still can. If you manage to access his phone/laptop delete traces, but do document it using your own phone.

Good luck! Stay safe.

>>127230
she claims she was saving herself for marriage and he raped her. he claims she lost her virginity to him consensually within their first week of dating. this was two years after hs for them so it was a long time ago but she has maintained her story since she came forward and still is angry. he goes on those subreddits to watch for her posts he claims. thank you for the password tip, i will access his PC and his passwords and see what he gets up to. i wish i knew how to unhide chats because i’m sure i’ll find some he sent to her and tried to hide.