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boyfriend says he feels catfished by me? Anonymous 125071[Reply]

ive been dating this guy for about 6 months and its been really good until recently. he's super sweet, attractive, intelligent, very much a catch. ive never been with a guy who ive felt so happy to be with and i havent dated in a while.

things were going well until recently, when we were hanging out at his house and i was sitting on his couch sans makeup.

thing is, ive worn pretty heavy makeup when we first met, and i haven't taken it off until now. i noticed he was being really distant and i asked him why.

that's when everything came to head. he reluctantly admitted he felt really disappointed with how i naturally look and he was more excited to date me when i was done up. he went on to say he felt lied to and that i look significantly different without it.

i had no idea what to say so i just told him that he shouldn't be dating me if it was bothering him that much. he told me he wasn't sure how to bring it up to me and that maybe we weren't as great of a fit as he originally thought.

ever since then ive been replaying the event in my head and we're still together, but there's now an awkward distance between us. ive been feeling really down about the whole situation and have no idea of how to move forward.

nonas, what would you do if you were me? ive never had this problem with boyfriends until this week and i now feel pretty insecure about my makeup usage. i have no idea if he still likes me and we havent spoken as much after the conversation happened.

i'd appreciate any advice. thanks for listening if you've gotten this far.
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Anonymous 125081

That is sad, horrible and hilarious. Tbf I've never understood the point of heavy makeup. Then again I only use it to contour what's already there. Why cake it on other than to turn yourself into an art project? I'm honestly sorry that you feel like you need so much makeup because of impossible beauty standards that you're trying to live up to, and the fact that your scrote wants to break up. If my moid lied to me for six months about his appearance, like wearing a toupee or shoe lifts or something I'd want to leave him too. Honestly tho I think there's probably something else going on, the underlying desire to be something you're not, the imposter syndrome, the desire to please and using what is essentially a disguise. now that facade you built has cracked and you're vulnerable. You have an identity beyond that, show him that you do. Maybe go to couples therapy but even if you don't communication is key, talk it out. Make clear how you're hurting. Tell him bluntly that you showed who you really were under the mask and he laughed, tell him how it makes you feel. Guys are kinda emotionally stupid so be blunt.

Anonymous 125083

>>125079
Shit and lies. They coerce women to be beautiful (harass them into it) while they look like 80 year old Weiner. Hot men try to start looking like ass as soon as they possibly can. Do not EVER settle for ugly moids claiming that.

Anonymous 125085

He sounds inexperienced with women if he doesn't understand make up. That's not necessarily a bad thing. You could try telling hin how awful he made you feel and see if you can work through it. If hr gets defensive about it, he'll never change.


I feel like I already know the answer, but does he do grooming and primping himself?

Anonymous 125086

It's possible that he just reacted weird and it'll get better if you openly communicate how bad it's making you feel. From your description of him, he seems like a nice person and should be understanding.

But, on the other hand, I know how desperate it can feel if you've had relationships with bad people over and over, and you idealise the person whilst ignoring all their red flags.

I'd get a friend or family member to reality check you and see if he's really as sweet and kind as you think. Also please confront him. Like >>125085 said, if he gets defensive then drop him, he's not as good as you thought. And that would suck so bad, but it's better than hanging onto someone who's that upset over pigments on your face. Even good makeup doesn't fundamentally alter your bone structure, if he thinks that women naturally spawn with winged eyeliner and that he's entitled to that appearance then you're due for disaster down the line.

Anonymous 125104

>>125074
It was his choice to date a woman who obviously wears heavy makeup so that's on him. It's not like eyeliner or heavy eyelashes look natural in any way. Still sucks.


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I hate myself Anonymous 124840[Reply]

What I'm about to say may sound retarded as hell. No, I'm not a tranny, but I don't like my boobs. I hate how they're just there to feed a baby, I hate how my entire body is just meant to breed, I hate how they ruin every outfit, etc. I feel uncomfortable with them, does that make sense? Like my body isn't my own. I wanna get them cut off, I wish I had a flat chest honestly. I have a B cup/average size, not too big or too small but I genuinely hate them. No, I'm not a tranny, I'm still a woman I just don't want tits. But I know if I said this anywhere else I'd get called trans. This is my first time posting here, usually I just look at posts but this is really the only place where I could get advice.

Anonymous 124841

>>124840
You have forced into hating your body, men don't look at their balls and go "I hate that they're just there to breed a baby" because no one has ever made them believe bringing children to the world is something their whole identity should be reduced to. There is nothing wrong with your body.

Anonymous 124848

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Maybe try spending your time alone like picrel and see if you like it nona.
No, you're not a tranny btw. There are many celebrities who have went under the knife to reduce their boobs.

Anonymous 125091

Try massaging them and kneading them massively. It worked to reduce my breast size permanently. Don't post pictures or video of it online–it's going to attract weird people.

Anonymous 125103

>>124840
how old are you anon? I felt the same until I was about 25, then I started to feel comfortable in my body. I wore super baggy clothes all throughout my life until that point, then I started to actually like my boobs. I appreciate that they're a part of me, a part of a grown woman and they exist for nobody else but myself. Our bodies might be biologically designed to carry a baby but that is far from the totality of who we are and what we can achieve. You never have to have children if you don't want them. You're not trans and that rabbithole will just set you up to despise your body even more - it will start with your boobs, then your hips, then your vagina. All these parts of your body make up your whole, and it's far better in the long term to learn to accept it and eventually embrace it. All this is to say what you're feeling is normal, very normal. Everybody goes through the awkward stage of anger from your body developing in ways you can't control. I would suggest getting into fitness somehow, however you feel comfortable. Weight lifting, dancing, jogging did my mental health wonders and was the catalyst to me appreciating my body. It can do SO much, much more than I ever thought was possible when I was a self-hating teen/young adult. Also try to focus on other parts of yourself you like. What parts specifically do you like, or at least are neutral towards? Even something as stupid as your ears - you can buy cool and intricate ear cuffs to draw focus to them instead of your boobs. Sorry for the blogpost but I really relate you what you've posted and again, I just wanted to share that things will get better for you. Give yourself time, don't make a permenant and regrettable change to your natural body.


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Ugly Vent Thread Anonymous 124874[Reply]

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.
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Anonymous 125070

>>125056
Definitely a tranny moid

Anonymous 125098

>>125047
>meanwhile my boyfriend
fuck off and die humble bragging bitch

Anonymous 125099

>>125056
trooooon

Anonymous 125101

>>125099
nice to meet you, troooon, I'm Mom

Anonymous 125102

>>125098
I thought guys were easy, what's the deal? Why don't you have your own personal moid?


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Anonymous 121601[Reply]

Why do people get married only to cheat or divorce? Shouldn't they know if they're happy to be together BEFORE they get married?
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>>123265

Anonymous 123270

>>123265
based

Anonymous 123643

>>123252
thank u for this reminder

Anonymous 124641

>>121601
Its because they're having sex before they get married.
Sex clouds their judgement and they spend less time talking and more time just satisfying themselves.
How can you know if you mesh well with someone if you have sex with them, it's like trying to take make good decisions while drunk.

Anonymous 125100

>>124641
This is terrible advice. Sex doesn't work like that you fucking retard. You'd know if anyone wanted to have sex with your ugly ass.


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Have you ever wanted to kill someone? Anonymous 120653[Reply]

Why and what did you feel?
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Anonymous 120713

ALL MEN

Anonymous 123582

I wish my family was dead because they wanted me to be a boy when that's just not who I am.

Also, I want to kill Prozzub because he ruined my life.

Anonymous 125062

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I don't think I've ever wanted to kill someone myself but I have wanted people to die before. I just don't want to do it or be the reason they died.

When I was 20 I started dating a girl and moved in with her. She wouldn't let me leave the house and she raped me almost every night. After 6 months I escaped. The police were useless and told me I'm not really a victim and it's what I should have expected for being gay. When I called my mother she told me not to act like a victim. My grandmother told me it wouldn't have happened if I called more. And my father laughed at me before asking how that could happen and hanging up.

A few hours later my father called me back and said he was in the state and wanted to know if I wanted him to kill her. I thought about it and said no. He asked me if I was sure and I said yes. But sometimes I regret saying that. She was in the hospital for shooting herself in the head. She found where I was hiding and told me if she couldn't have me, no one could. She went outside and was on her way back in with a gun when the police showed up. She decided to shoot herself instead. She lived. So when he offered it felt like I could get what I was supposed to have. A final end. Never seeing her again, never worrying about her hurting someone else.

I know someone hurt her and she hurt me in turn, but I cant stand the idea that she could go on to hurt other girls like me.

I'm upset she is alive. But I'm happy that I don't have it on my hands.

Anonymous 125087

>>120708
Hopefully not too much of a necro to get the full story? Was he a terrible person or were you an unusually bloodthirsty 10 year old? He beat your mom, he beat you, what did he do?

>>125062
The way your family reacted is absolutely disgusting, nona, I'm so sorry you went through that. I had a similar experience at a younger age and I think it scarred me for life to have it brushed aside so readily, maybe even more so than the SA itself. I hope you find people who treat the topic with the heaviness and respect it deserves, and that you can heal someday.

Anonymous 125092

I hate my family dog because it killed my cat. I want to blow that dog up by strapping it to a firework.


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Is he hiding a porn addiction, cheating on me, or just weird? Anonymous 124972[Reply]

My bf is the sweetest, most attentive, loving bf. He is in general very honest and says that honesty is very important to him.

Weird behaviors:
- Only uses incognito mode on his phone and on his computer (no search history)
- Once got an YouTube AD for OnlyFans
- Says he doesn't like to use non-incognito mode because he gets recommended "weird/sexual ads"
- Doesn't post me to any of his social media
- Makes his Facebook followers private from everyone (including me) but let me go through them on his phone (he says he doesn't like getting friend requests from strangers)
- Doesn't like any posts on Facebook in general because it will "mess with his algorithm"
- Doesn't let me meet his friends (he says he's not close to any of them)
- Doesn't want to be posted on any of my social media
- Initially didn't want me to meet his mom, but I gave him an ultimatum and met her
- I had a dream he cheated on me (if that means anything

However:
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Anonymous 124976

It sounds likes he's just very careful about his personal information. If he posts photos of himself and friends on social media but not of you and him it seems kind of weird.

Anonymous 124977

Could be a simple case of tech-panopticon born paranoia, that's a good thing imo

Anonymous 124979

where are u all finding bfs who don’t follow other girls

Anonymous 124994

He's weird, but he seems the schizotypal kind of weird instead of guilt conscience weird. I actually really get not wanting to be posted on my SO's social media etc.

The only thing I really didn't like in the list is he doesn't want you to meet his friends or relatives. Like yeah, I get it he might be afraid of it being awkward and that's it, but that's not a good excuse to compartmentalize his social life imo.

Anonymous 125088

Probably just a weirdo who's overly private. Maybe he had helicopter parents who went through his personal belongings or digital history a lot, and there are some who will turn any mundane information against you, including your interests. Maybe he got tired of being made fun of and developed using incognito as a habit. I know you met his mom but those types of parents put up sympathetic appearances to make their kids seem crazy to anyone they might seek help from so don't trust it too much. And YouTube just straight up shows porn ads nowadays, you're more likely to get one when logged out/no history than with.

My advice to you:
Ask him about why he has those habits. He already told you he doesn't like friend requests from strangers on Facebook, and let you look through his friend list, I see that as a very reasonable thing. Just ask him where the behaviour comes from, when he started doing it, etc maybe the guy had an awful home life and will stop once he realises you won't berate him for searching Pokémon or something

He does sound like a sweet guy, and invested in you, just has some peculiar habits. If it bothers to the point of being a deal breaker, talk to him directly about it. Doesn't have to be confrontational, just cuddle up to his arm next time he opens an incognito browser and say you're curious why he feels the need to use it or something like that.


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Dealing with getting doxxed Anonymous 124922[Reply]

hello nonas,
i hope you don’t mind me reaching out and i hope you guys are doing amazing, but i’m feeling really lost and overwhelmed right now a few months ago my pictures and personal information were doxxed and since then i can’t stop thinking about it every time i check the website they’re still talking about me commenting on my body and it makes me feel absolutely worthless i don’t have anyone i can talk to about this and the anxiety is constantly on my mind i’m terrified they’ll find a way to reach my family something i would never want to happen it’s been consuming me and i feel like i’m trapped in this cycle of sadness the fact that they post about me regularly makes it almost impossible to resist checking the site even though i don’t want to i keep blaming myself for trusting people online and sharing my pictures with them when i rejected them they started circulating my images and using them to hurt me i have their pictures too but i’m afraid posting them would only make things worse giving them more fuel i’ve been inactive for a while but i still check the site now and then each time i hold onto a little bit of hope that things might have changed but i’m always left disappointed because they still keep posting about me even after all this time what should i do i feel so confused and lost. i’m so scared this will follow me into the future especially as i try to build a career in a public role i can't stop thinking about how my past will always be there lurking waiting to catch up with me when i was 17 i made racist remarks and hurt people with my words even if i thought they were just jokes or satire i was wrong i was cruel and i was selfish hiding behind anonymity thinking it didn’t matter but it did and it does i can’t change what i did and i know that no amount of regret will take away the harm i caused i feel lost in this realization but i accept it i accept that this part of me this mistake is something i have to carry with me forever i wish i could take it all back i wish i could undo the pain i caused but i can’t all i can do now is be sorry and try to be better even though i know it might never be enough
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Anonymous 124934

im sorry for making this thread all about me i really am please forgive for any trouble caused.

Anonymous 124935

>>124934
Hey, it's ok nona, this board is made for threads like this.

Anonymous 124947

Honestly you just create a new handle and move on. I had a similar issue happening to me a couple of years ago and that's what i did. I didn't have any issues since. I put my account private a couple of months then I came back to post to it afterwards, I only use it to post stuff unrelated to the doxing people. This way I don't give them any fuel.
But yeah I know it sucks, good luck to you, I know it hurts, but trust me you'll grow out of it affecting you. Even the moid will move on to another prey sooner or later. I had to deal with a similar kind of stalker and after a while their obsession for you starts diluting if you don't give them any attention. They'll just move on to another obsession. They're looking from a reaction from you, direct or indirect (ie: showing distress), if you don't give them anything they'll have no choice but to move on.

Best of luck to you anon, I know what you're going through, everybody can and will make mistakes, especially as a teenager. Please stop checking the site too.

Anonymous 124958

>>124932
This. They will get bored and lose interest, move on, and forget. It will take time but you will forget too. Maybe you will remember from time to time and cringe, but it will go away.

Anonymous 125084

I was doxxed by this guy Prozzub a while back. He posted one of my former home addresses online and said he wanted to kill me. His motive was literally losing against me in an online game.

I am considering a lawsuit against him. Maybe this could help you, if you can sue the person targeting you.


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Help Wanted - Watson Institute Ruined My Life Anonymous 124980[Reply]

When I was 14, I was sent to this school called Watson Institute. I was often threatened with rape and sexual assault, and one kid there tried to tear out my eye with a pencil saying he would force his penis into my eyesocket. I was never believed by any of the teachers. Because most of the other students were boys, the bullshit excuse I got was "boys will be boys".

Ever since then, I have not known how to interact with people. I was fired from two jobs and then kicked out of college twice. I live at my parents' house and at this point I am sitting around waiting to die. I don't want to be percieved as this mentally unstable thing people percieve me as. My life is destroyed.

I want Watson Institute sued. I can give as many names and addresses as you need me to. I just want help suing them for enough money to move into my own house to rot away there instead of my parents' house. I also need restitution for my mom for the damage to her life she suffered from giving birth to me.

230 Hickory Grade Road (Bridgeville)
Jennifer Dixon-Wagner
Rachael Knight
Iain Davis
Jennifer Do

Anonymous 125082

I found out years ago that I developed possible cPTSD from this, and further research suggests I may even have schizophrenia. Possibly caused by being abused for so long at this school, or the ZoLoft I was on two years before.


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What hath befallen the race of bois Anonymous 125000[Reply]

>be me, le schoolgril
I feel the boithirst in my bones, but I look around me and the dating scene seems postapocalyptic
Practically every boy in my program and in the social milieu I've fallen into (I'm a passive-type Pokemon)
- literally has an Instagram account and actually uses it
- either already has sleeve tattoos or is budgeting for them
- is unironically trying to looksmaxx or this-maxx or that-maxx or doing some other modern horror from TikTok
- has no dreams and no personality and either wants to be some kind of influencer or youtuber or smth, or pour his entire person into some soulcrushing desk job and have no other interests aside from killing beers, watching sportsball and slaying sloots

Some boys have approached me but the average quality is in the pooper, e.g. one guy on my res floor has this creepy radar for upset females, literally every time some girl is crying he shows up to give unwanted hugs and follows it up by asking her to coffee, he's transparently following some reddit guide to dating for manlets and it's so cringe and awkward, especially since I'm a femcel and I have a hard time saying no and hurting people's feels even when they probably don't have any

The worst thing is that the dating culture now seems so mercenary, everybody's on swiping apps and I feel like so much online brainrot has lurked through them into real life, everything is so contrived and hypercompetitive and awful
I feel like there is no love out there anymore because people have had it burned out of them by the brain-frying 5G death rays that come out of any phone with Tinder installed on it

Many grils seem to be able to give boys a shot and then move on when they prove to be loosers, but that doesn't sound like me, I'd probably end up crying for the rest of my life over some guy named Gary who thinks having a favourite flavour of vape is a personality trait

So wat do ladies, do I just an heroine or spend the rest of my life spending my NEETbux on Hello Kitty Island Adventure furniture, watching my mom's Gilmore Girls DVD's and cryibg?
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Anonymous 125044

>>125038
What is modern dating vs old fashioned dating

Anonymous 125051

>>125044
>>125044
Old fashioned dating was not having people tainted by incel culture online. And they went outside. That's mostly it really.

Anonymous 125053

>>125042
>>125041
>>125040
>>125040
Socializing with other women totally understandable ! But you're all cuckoo if you think being sociable and around people changes moid behavior. Frat boys, church boys, gym bros, computer nerds… I know from experience socializing it's more of the same, thinly veiled misogyny. Yes I live in a western society!

Call me whatever you want, but don't get her hopes up that it's not going to be digging through a massive barrel of crap thanks to the culture we live in.

Anonymous 125059

>>125053
>Call me whatever you want
You are not on any normal spectrum and don't have any authority on the topic. If you're a paranoid cunt (that loves to shit on everyone because it "feels good" lol) to everyone on here I shudder to think what you're like IRL. Now fuck off and lurk for 12 years before posting.

Anonymous 125068

>>125059
>>125059
Asking you to be honest about men in all walks of life, is not instigating ww3, but keep going nuclear over it, it's really convincing


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