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finally had sex with a girl, but i cried after Anonymous 129205[Reply]

i've only been with moids my whole life, but last night i had an opportunity to have sex with a woman and it was very lovely at first, but i realised during it i wasn't really enjoying it, so we stopped.

after i had left her house i just cried so hard.
i never particularly liked having sex with moids, but i thought that was a moid thing.

i think i struggle with having sex with anybody, it just makes me really uncomfortable despite the fact i really enjoy intimacy and the company of others.
i really like to flick my bean, so its not like i have no arousal.. i just dont like having sex with people.

have any other nonas experienced anything similar?
i feel like im in a weird situation because i can't expect a long-term relationship with anyone if the thought of having sex with them terrifies me.
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Anonymous 129237

>>129229
i watched porn from a very young age, around 9. it took me until my mid 20's to stop watching it.

do you think porn could be the issue?

i do have some trauma from being on the internet at a young age i have been groomed a lot. i was quite hypersexual as a teenager, but a lot of those hypersexual tendencies ended during my later teenaged years. (i never had sex during my hyper-sexual years, just a lot of sexting)

now i dont particularly seek out sexual gratfication from others, instead i just masturbate.
i worry i won't be able to form a long term partner due to the fact i hate having sex.

Anonymous 129238

>>129237
Seems serious, i recommend contacting a professional sexologist (not sex therapist).

Anonymous 129239

Not liking casual sex is normal.

Anonymous 129240

>>129239
True.

Anonymous 129241

>>129239
This isn't just not liking casual sex it's obviously something psychological. Cause eventually Nona is gonna find someone she really loves and stays with for a while and she just won't be able to do anything. If she were truly asexual/not want to sleep with people she doesn't know well or something it would be fine.


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Anonymous 129236[Reply]

When I was a kid I lied to my boyfriend and I told him I was 18 (with 16 y/o), eventually he discovered it, but also did my parents. Therefore, three adults kept insulting me while I tried to figure out how to fix everything, everyone said I was the worst thing that had ever happened to them, that I had deceived them all and didn't deserve even a shred of affection. Years have passed and I got back together with that guy when I turned 18. My parents see it as "an awkward but funny anecdote." Everyone else has gotten over it except me, my boyfriend is no longer an asshole who decides to blame a girl, but everyone forced me to grow up. And I don't know how to keep up this act of being okay anymore. I had to pretend to be okay because nobody cared what some selfish girl said about how she felt, but they did care that I had to be the one to blame and take care of everything, because to begin with, my parents told me that when I told them I was raped. I feel like there's no place for me. I want to escape my family, but I want to escape my boyfriend, who seems to be the only way to escape them. I just want to escape having to be the adult in a world where the people who were supposed to take care of me blamed me for the things I tried to avoid suicide.

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Anonymous 128956

So you sit there silently and what are you waiting for? Did valentines day trigger your loneliness wound?
Are you hoping I still love you? Are you hoping I will be the first to apologize?
Or do you just want the access to me, just in case?

Anonymous 128957

You do not have access to me anymore. Any time I feel like I miss you I remember all the times you hurt me and lied to me and how many days i went not eating and sleeping because of you, cutting myself because of you. All the promises you made that you'll always be here and always love me only to leave me

I'm tired of wasting my time on you. Go fuck yourself. You should die alone

Anonymous Moderator 128961

Some posters have been using this thread to vaguely communicate with others and to spam dozens of one-liners one after the other. Don't use this thread as a chat thread. Your posts will be removed.

Anonymous 129151

>>128961
thank you.

Anonymous 129235

>>128239
Mom,
The older I get the more I understand you and realize the things you tried to tell me all along.
I see myself slowly become all the things I used to hate about you.
I was not a good daughter.
I sit and think about all the times you have asked me to come home. They play through my head and it hurts. I'm sorry I hurt you and I know you're right.
I'm too prideful to admit I was wrong.
I love you.


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Anonymous 129166[Reply]

I am so fucking angry that I have to work for the rest of my life. The concept of working is fucking cruel if you think about it long enough. We are slaving our lives away and for what? To not be homeless? The homeless have more freedom than us. I am neet currently but I will be forced into slavery soon since my money is running out. The last job I had, I only lasted a week at. It was genuinely traumatic. Working was 10x more traumatic than when I was molested and soon I'm going to have to fucking do it again for the next 50 years. My life is a nightmare I wish I was aborted. I just want to play vidya all day that's it. That's my only goal
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>>129176
Sweet summer child, you are underestimating the wast difference between productivity levels then and now. Thing is, when productivity rises so do taxes, so that plebs can never rise up, no matter how advanced technology gets. On the contrary, technology enables a tighter grip on the masses.

Anonymous 129178

It's not taxes, you fool, taxes are a percent. It's rent. The rent always goes up until people can't afford it and the landlord laugh all the way to the bank. Luigi had the right idea.

Anonymous 129191

Your pedophile overlords need your tax money

Anonymous 129193

Luigi your landlord today.

Anonymous 129234

Then go be homeless :)


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I am sad ill never have him Anonymous 129232[Reply]

I'm so sad I'll never have a boyfie like Sheldon Cooper. He is so perfect. I love his aspie mannerisms, his intelligence, his facial expressions, his mischievous smile, his flat affect, I mean even when he is flirting he is still innocent and spergy. He is so charming to me I love him so much. The fact that he is not real and I'll never have him makes me feel hopeless. I can't imagine being with anyone else. When I am sad I imagine him holding me and telling me cool science facts, or helping me research historical shit I'm into at the moment. I love him so much, he is perfect and I would feel so safe with him. Him and Amy are my hopefuel too, it's the only show where an ugly autist girl gets a happily ever after with a moid that actually loves her. I so badly want a romantic aspie love with a moid exactly like Sheldon Cooper. My heart hurts

Anonymous 129233

>>129232
Men like sheldon are endearing until you actually try to have an adult relationship with them and you realize how insufferable it is to always cater to a self centered manchild who gives you almost nothing in return. Trust me, you want better for yourself.


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I'm so mad im from da hood.. Anonymous 129188[Reply]

I am a black girl from da hood and I hate it so much. And no this is not self hating shit, I don't hate being black, I just hate that I was raised in a ghetto desolate city with no hope or future. It's just ghetto shit and I don't relate. I never did, when I was a kid I felt so alienated from everything in my real life so I retreated to the internet since it was the only way I could find non-normies. Everyone around me is obsessed with rap and gang culture shit so it's hard to find peoplel that admire classical and deep stuff with fucking meaning. I wish I was born in a small French town so bad. I want to learn French so I can join a nunnery there. I WILL fucking escape this life. I will make it out of here. A part of me dies every time I have to leave the house.

Anonymous 129189

>>129188
good for you nona you have a dream and it seems you're willing to fight for it,. you can definitely get out. much love

Anonymous 129192

politicians and billionaires made it this way on purpose and they have names and addresses

Anonymous 129200

Go, escape. Build a beautiful life for yourself.
Don't let anyone tell you no. Your mind alone proves you deserve out of that environment.

Anonymous 129227

This is real but I hope sometimes soon you start realizing that other black people aren't 'wrong' for not liking the stuff you do. This might be a stretch but you seem to idolize European culture like there aren't artistic, spiritual, deep black people. If you want to see the people around you care more, become someone that cares. Quit thinking running away to France will solve everything. That isn't your only option. Go to some slam poetry event. Listen to rap that ISNT just about gang violence so that you can see how much of an art it really is. treat rap that is about gang violence like what it is: people finding a form of art to express their hard life. I'm not trying to be rude but your mindset is pathetic and you aren't the only black person that admires deep thinking and meaning, you just let yourself grow into a eurocentric mindset. I hope you grow out of it soon and start actually exploring the world around you with an open mind.

Anonymous 129231

>>129189
>>129200
>>129192
thx Nonas
>>129227
Ya, what you said is true. I don't believe all black culture is bad or anything. And I agree I came across as close minded. I'm just frustrated that so many people in our community praise gang culture shit. But not all rap or black culture is like that I know. A lot of aspects of it is very beautiful and I admire it a lot. and I don't praise only white culture since that's cringe I just want to get away from my horrible city kek. but I agree with what you said


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Anonymous 128905[Reply]

What is love to you? What does it mean to fall in love?
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Anonymous 128931

>>128910
very true. And the truest truth of all is realizing that death is preferable to life

Anonymous 129197

Love is coming over my bestie's house, joking, watching anime, cooking together, talking about our past troubles and future worries. I came over to help her prepare for a party she was throwing and to actually meet her bf who helped cook too. I brought a pie i made for it, and everyone enjoyed it and many wanted seconds. Love is being kind to yourself and showing that kindness to others. Most people will not reciprocate but those that do, and truly value your care, will love you and become like family.

Anonymous 129206

definitely not what your gooner picture portrays

Anonymous 129226

Love is cuddling under a heated blanket. It's him respecting my wishes to wait till marriage. It's us cooking for each other. It's us doordashing each other medicine or sweets even though we're too far away to get it ourselves. It's the stuffed animal he sewed by hand. It's the drawings he's made of us. It's the warmth I feel when he holds my hand. It's way we still are kind to each other after we get a little too heated during a discussion. It's the patience we have for each other when one of us messes up.

Anonymous 129230

>>129197
This is a good answer, Love this!


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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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am i cooked for showing apprehension to the idea of getting married to my bf of 3.6 years?
we are both 24. i'm not ready, and never realistically thought i'd ever get married.
i'm not opposed to the idea of marrying him, he's essentially ideal. but now i'm afraid that the whole thing is ruined by my apprehension of thinking he's not the right one for me or something. i know i hold onto very naive and idealistic ideas of what marriage and love are, and i'm trying to get over that. but the thing is that he knows this is how i feel bc i've been so open about it since it's obvious how much i've been spiraling about it. lets say we do get married, will this follow into the marriage? always associating our coupling with the doubt on my end and the general idea that his wife was not 100% on board at the first sound of a ring and matrimony? most girls kill for this, fight their boyfriends for not bringing up marriage sooner, i'm broken lmao

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>>129210
Maybe he'll never propose and you're worrying for nothing.

Anonymous 129215

>>129212
he’s made it very clear he wants to get married! says he doesn’t want to date much longer than 4 years without my hand..

Anonymous 129216

>>128940
I quit my job in June 2025 but other than that it's pretty much same to same. I'm trying to start applying for jobs but even seeing negative reviews online like glassdoor about unethical company behavior is triggering to me. Nobody around me understands and some even tell me I am entitled and privileged to be choosy about not wanting to get into a toxic job again.

Anonymous 129228

>>129216
AYRT, and yes, I feel this. I had an interview with a company that had horrible glassdoor reviews, they ended up ghosting me before the final interview and I am relieved lol. I also withdrew my application for another job where I had a meeting with the VP. The other VP interview a week before went well, she was chill and warned me about the next interview stating that the engineer sill has ptsd from how intense it was and it just confirmed my bad gut feeling. Interview happens and the lady and I bickered a bit and since I am used to that leadership style I handled it well. She insinuated that I was going to move onto the final round but I emailed the hr lady after the interview and withdrew my application. I knew exactly what that job would be like and I noped out quick. I also live in Toronto and the job market here is absolute garbage. I know that I would rather be unemployed than work a toxic job ever again.


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Anonymous 129214[Reply]

How have you reacted to men sharing their feelings with you? Do stories like this one seem true?

Anonymous 129217

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These people (like in the image) don't want solutions, they just want a sounding board to feel like they are the center of the universe and that everything except them are the problem why they are feeling low. My autistic ass thinks solutions but when I try to give it to them, they get angry. Sometimes I try to talk about myself in an attempt to demonstrate that everyone goes through their problems and they accuse of making everything about myself. I can never win.

Anonymous 129223

Fuck moids. If he can't handle his own emotions, dump 'em

Anonymous 129224

I love advocating for moids opening up about mental healths, because it shifts power dynamics and control back to me

Anonymous 129225

Stuff like this makes me wonder the context of her reply. I would never talk to my boyfriend like this. It makes me wonder if he did something fucked up then tried shifting focus to his own feelings, like many emotional manipulators do.


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