There aren’t many methods of coping posted here which is very depressing. Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty? I find myself being upset about this every waking minute, even when I’m completely alone where it shouldn’t matter.

I hate having a wide face, I can’t even tie my hair back or put it behind my ears because I look like the moon emoji and charlie kirk. picrel

>>127744
> Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty?
Dear nona, I have some insights for you, do with them as you please. I want you to look back to yourself, as a child. Do you have any pictures to look at, or can you picture yourself in your mind? When you look at her, I hope, you probably think she's quite cute, still happy. I hope, you wouldn't say such harsh things about her, as what you may tell yourself now.

You might think how that's way different. You're older now! And you're right. What was the age you started becoming self conscious? For me it was pre-teen, I think this is similar for everyone, perhaps teen years. While we grow up, and our brains develop, we can process our life experiences and become aware of certain expectations. This is my insight: Unfortunately all suffering and misery can be led back to other people, and the pressure of the expectations they hold. I'm not necessarily talking about a certain person in your life, but how all people basically act and think due to how our society is set up. (and remember: women are, still, always at a disadvantage!!)

So When you feel sad/or are picking yourself apart, think about why? It isn't even making you happy! So why are you doing it? try to remember when you learned to see that aspect of yourself as negative, or even 'important' to think about. A nose is made for breathing for example, why do we care if it small or big? You will find out it will always be due to ideas from other people (either direct or indirect), and even though you can't do anything about this, it does redirect the 'fault' from you, to, well, others. This has made me at least feel better, because I, nor you, don't have any inherent faults or uglyness. It is always a result of societal pressures.

And social media doesn't help this at all. unfortunately the majority of people you see online are -in terms of beauty- exceptional. You don't see these people in regular life, but online it's become 'normalized'. It is a bit cliche, but recently I have completely deleted all social media (even messaging apps) , and I cannot begin to describe the benefits it has brought me. Aside from my immensely improved focus, not having something/someone to compare myself to (sub consciously even) has also incredibly helped my sPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>127744
It’s like what people say about grief. You don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it. Just give it time is what I am saying, live life.

i constantly wear a full face of makeup and always have my hair done while only keeping heavily angle and lighting frauded photos in an attempt to delude myself into thinking i am prettier than i am. ofcourse, it doesnt work and leaves me with intense feelings of guilt due to being a catfish. I also try comfort myself with the idea that in the future ill get all these surgeries to fix what ive got going on, but in this economy i wont. being a 4/10 lanky, socially inept teen was a traumatic experience.

>>127980
nobody lucks out when their partner is into anime. anime is fucking retarded.

>>128009
Beautifully said. I am engraving this on my tombstone

>>128009
insert salieri gif

>>127962
No, he isn't gay, stop acting like a TIF and trying to dictate how much of a man he is. Or are you an undercover TIM posting here? If you are going to be crying about him not being some himbo, a monolith, a cardboard cutout instead of an individual then just leave him. He probably has a hentai addiction anyway.

every tranime-loving male friend ive had was bisexual

>i thought you were a dumb normie
>i didn't like you before
very interesting messages to receive from 2 people independently

Social media makes me feel so lonely. I'm not even talking about the typical FOMO from Instagram pictures or whatever because I don't use that, but Twitter. I'm in a community for a game I love and I feel so alone within it. I'm not even someone who wishes for friends because I enjoy my own company, but the moment I log onto my main account I find myself becoming someone desperate for friendship, acknowledgement, etc. It's gross and I hate it

>>125754
apartments are apart-ments not one big room with all your neighbours. what propaganda are you smoking ma'am.

>>128031
I used to feel that way too. It's the avatars, usernames and the overall UI that makes you feel like this. Now I only browse the dedicated forums for my games, like fenoxo.

I hate my job and I don’t want to go back in 5 days. I can’t do this. I only need to keep it for 6 more months but it all feels like such a long stretch of time looking at it now. I hate this town and I hate this job. Fuck my life.

What if their gender fluids are leaking out all platonic like?

>my boyfriend is damn near asexual

I'd check his phone, he might jsut be spending all his libido on porn and has no interest in real sex

>>128015
this is gold. really needed this laugh tonight. thanks nona!

>>128011
You can't account for everything in a relationship. The best course of action here is to assume good faith or go with him to meet her so you can decide for yourself if they seem romantically attached onesided or otherwise.

My question is why even be with a moid who’s asexual? What even is the point?

Yes, I want to be a mother but I'm scared of pregnancy and childbirth. My sister-in-law had a very dangerous childbirth (she and the baby both turned out ok) which really put the fear of god into me. But I want to raise a child.

>>125730
I have neither the money, nor the confidence nor a partner. Also, pregnancy sounds like body horror and I already have incontinence among other health issues.
Kids are cute, but I'd rather be a cool aunt than a mum.

I would love to be a mom but I just know I'd end up being toxic or abusive like my mother was to me and her mother was to her. I want to be a mom but know I wouldn't make a good mother. Also I do not trust men enough to procreate with one so it would be adopted.

no i’m not suffering through child birth just to have a kid in this economy. no thanks. i like the idea of never experiencing a vaginal tear.

Interacting with phone is an easy dopamine hit.
Interacting with a human is more complicated and harder source of dopamine.

>>125583
I'll be honest i said i didn't care a while ago but it's been 2 months so checking in. Can u admit it was all a rouse?

>>125583
>being abused by this man for literal years
>"gee, I hope my husband can be convinced to go to therapy!"

Girl.

Maybe you can go to therapy is his place because your delusions are almost as bad as his.

Only update when you've decided to leave him for good.

>>127275
OPhere, it's not a ruse. I'm staying with my MIL tonight because things got out of control again. I'm probably going to start on seperating oncexthe new year opens.

OP here again, thinking about fucking his mom as a revenge

OP. Husband has completely lost it. I escaped last night and stayed with my MIL. I can't really affor a hotel so I'm going to stay at a manga cafe nights. The problem is my husband sent me shopping but didn't trust me with my own phone, so I have his. I can't access my email or line, or use paypay. Luckily I have cash.

No plan except never going back. Looking forward to freedom in 2026.

>>127946
Noo I wrote this myself😭 i thinks thats quite obvious

>>127947
I thought it was good. Don't accuse, explain how it affects you.

Your boyfriend sounds anxious and you sound a bit avoidant. That's the most agonizing dynamic in a relationship.

>>127955
It's true but I'm getting over it for him. I've been more open bout my feelings and forcing myself to communicate cause I love him and whatnot. It's hard but he's worth it to me

>>127968
That's cool. I'm praying for you Anon 🙏

you’re not having fun
i think that you should ride
call me when you’re ready to be real

did i get lost along the way?
lose my mind for a new identity?
i quite enjoy ruining your day
and i just wanna cause a entropy

you tried so hard
to make a hero out of me
but there are some rules i don’t obey
and i just wanna cause a little chaos and
entropy

you tried so hard
to take the discord out of me
but guess what?
i wasn’t born that way
and i just wanna cause a little entropy

and when you shame me
it makes me want it more

Friday night, time to get drunk
Go, go to the party, time to get drunk
Arrive in the Clio, get driven by a hunk
Straight to the bedroom, driven by a hunk
Plenty of boys in the yard
One look at me and they get hard

H-Hard as stone, ready to bone
Like Medusa on a party throne
DJ, DJ, DJ DJ DJ
Slow it down for an epic BJ
Thanks, man, so glad you came
I think I love you, what's your name?
Don't leave yet, we're having fun
Friday night, number one
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