/hb/ - Health & Beauty

>>7525
You're literally willing to harm yourself so you can conform to society's beauty standards. Obviously not in the case of corrective surgery (ie. fixing deviated septum, or teeth that could cause issues). But how is breaking your face, and harming other parts of your body just to look good in society's eyes, healthy? And then don't get me started on implants, even worse because the damn things will be uncomfortable for the rest of your life.

>b-but it's for me!
Nah. If you weren't bombarded by idealized images of beautiful people 24/7 you wouldn't have learned to hate your body.

> If you have a defect that causes you insecurities there's nothing wrong with wanting to fix it
It's putting a bandaid over a festering wound. You have to do the inner work and fix the insecurities first. The work that needs to be done is internal, not external.

I was born with what I have and I'm learning to live with it. After starting to see results a few years trialing anti-depressents and group therapy sessions, I'm starting to think people who get cosmetic surgeries (outside of a genuine deformity) have some sort of mental illness not being treated. My compulsive hate of myself and urges to change have gone away almost entirely, other than the occasional thought that passes I'm able to observe and let go of. Obviously this is vague, but after the work I've gone through, I'm starting to see common thought patterns between the old me, and those I meet that are considering going under the knife.

I guarantee this thread I probably have the least attractive breasts, far apart, sagging, yet very small, but they don't cause me any problems (as of now). I rarely get breast pain, I don't get a large portion of underboob sweat like my friends, no swelling, rare soreness, and no back pain. I'm sure they'll perform their basic function if I had a baby as well. Many are not so lucky, and I should be thankful. I've had guys make fun of my breasts, one tell me he wouldn't be with me unless I got silicone implants. I'm alone now, much happier.

I can't tell anyone to not do it, but at least be safe. Very little research has ever been done on implants, the FDA passed them without really doing long extensive testing on patients. Recent studies have been published that textured implants cause cancer. Read about "Breast Implant Illness." While not an officially recognized diagnosis, women who are predisposed to other auto-immune disorders have had a number of symptoms that caused inflammation until their implants were removed. Almost all women, supportive of surgery or not, with implants, agree that they are restrictive of breathing. Cons considered, it's not worth it. Health is more important. Breast implants, to me, are no different than those who risk blindness to change their eye color. My skin on my chest, and my eyesight are not replaceable.

>>7531
Good on you anon, that is really inspiring.

>>3999
I have implants. Got them because I was worried about how broad my shoulders were in comparison to my A-Cup breasts. They really are only for if you want to impress other people. No plastic surgery will "fix you" and make you okay with yourself, however, if you're honest with yourself, that you're doing it for other people. They're alright. They look great but it's a 100% true they feel different and are obviously different when groped. Only slightly though as long as you didn't go full retard size wise.

All in all if you want it go for it, but it won't solve your problem. Shits expensive and will feel different. You get used to it though.

>>3999
>>7385
"Quality men".
Most of guys dripping for those Insta girls are pieces of shit.
It's all about money.
If you want a man for money, save yourself 5 grand and get big tits.
Date empty scum bags.
Be an empty scumbag yourself.
Loving real men and women, that's what keeps you away from scum like this. And even then, most "real" people are also scums.
I'm happy to have found my GF 2 years ago, we are the 1% of the 1%.
We hate living in the same world as most of those scumbags.

Mostly agree with >>7505 Some of the looks I've seen under the "soft girl" tags on instagram are honestly ugly, but pastels and more girly looks have been my aesthetic long before this trend started. Got me more out of my comfort zone when it comes to showing skin as well.

>>7504
reminds me of grandma's house

My gf is this aesthetic. (I'm more androgyne, not really fashion-sensible.) Can confirm it's kino.

>>7504
i love it

>>7504
It's an aesthetic
Exterior aesthetic
That's the problem…

>>7538
Same. Although I've always loved chubby women with more in the chest area than me (easily achieved), it just looked horrible on me and clothes were too hard to find lmao.

Did your body type really do a 180 when you lost weight though? That is rough. My ratio stayed the same no matter my weight. Never had any tits personally, but I imagine it is dramatic for women who have a big chest with weight.

>>7541
>>7542
Actually I do, but you can't win against unfavourable genes. It is rough.

>>7546
I will, thank you anon! (:

>>7341
I do not have a workout routine but would like to get /fit/. Anybody know a good starting point for a stick whose main desire is to be strong enough to defend herself?

Can you get a flat stomach if you have broad hips?

>>7244
wow that's quite the turnaround going from daily to just a few times this year

junk food. I am addicted to it and often binge until I feel sick. I choose a lot of junk that makes me feel awful and aggravates my IBS, breaks me out and generally makes me lethargic. It makes my hard so much more difficult than it needs to be. some days I wake up and just eat 10 cookies instead of a normal breakfast. later I'd eat toast and then finish off the cookies. maybe later I'll eat a huge bag of crisps. I rarely eat fruit and veg. some days I will go on a health kick and drink green smoothies and forget the junk but the cravings and dislike of healthy food pulls me back.

in the past I've gone maybe a week without ANYTHING that my body reacts badly to (this includes all highly processed food including wheat) I felt great after those 7 days but couldn't keep it up unfortunately

nothing has helped me really but I'm going to try the journaling to observe my emotions thing another anon mentioned. I usually binge when I feel sad or bored, it's comfort eating I suppose.

I really want to be healthy and eat a balanced diet. I'm going to try and learn to cook (I have NO idea how to) and have a bunch of healthy meals I can turn so I can plan my meals because now the complete lack of structure is another reason I eat so poorly.

>>7314
I meant makes my life much harder than it needs to be especially the physical reactions

>>7314
Did you keep up the journaling? How did it go?

I use a memo feature in my scheduling app to keep a mostly-daily journal where I jot down what emotions I'm feeling and/or physical things I notice (hungry, exhausted, etc.) I also try to take motes when I'm doing poorly and when I'm doing well.

It's really helping me become a better (read: functioning) person and deal with my self-control problems.

I'm one week away from six months sober. I wish I could just be normal and enjoy a drink but I'm crazy and alcohol brings out the crazy even more.

(And no soda stream bc other problems have me on a budget. I kind of forgot about it tbh because the supermarket near me has really cheap flavored soda water)

I was in my early twenties my first time. It hurt a bit but I wouldn't call it painful. It felt like I expected it to, I guess. But I was pretty comfortable at the time. I had never used tampons or really inserted anything substantial into myself before. I don't recall bleeding afterwards.

I didn't bleed at all (I was 20). I used tampons before I started having sex, but I could never fit a dildo up there (still can't unless I recently had sex either).
I do believe that the hymen does wear away over time, but I think it was more due to my tampon use than anything else

2 or 3 drops of blood afyerwards and that was it.
I almost thought that we didn't do something right because we really didn't understand how himen works. Still thought it will 'break' at some point.I was 14 he was 16 and we've been together for about a year, lost virginity to each other.
It makes me laugh now about how young we were.

I was coming off my period when I lost mine (I'm a really light flow anyway) so if I did I wasn't sure to the extent. I bled the second time too when I was fully off my period but that was a lot rougher than the first time. I think it can take a few goes sometimes to fully break it because you'll be more nervous your first time than your second.

I've only had sex once and it was really painful. I didn't bleed the night it happened but I did bleed a little bit in the days after.

I did masturbate and never experienced bleeding that way. I'd also worn tampons, but they're about the same size/smaller than what I would use to penetrate myself.

>>7029
omg, please be joking

I started wearing skirts from the ages of like 18 - 24 then just stopped when I started wearing skinny jeans. now I'm getting older I'm tired of tight as fuck and uncomfortable jeans and am probably going to go back to skirts. I picked up a really cute one and am looking forward to wearing it! I want to get some chelsea boots to team it up with.

what kind of shoes do miners wear with floaty just above the knee skirts?

i have a weird body shape: im a little tall (5' 9") with slightly broad shoulders a smallish waist and a flat butt and biggish thighs. skinny jeans look terrible on me (i feel like it makes my thighs look like sausages).

i used to hate my frame, but them i started wearing dresses and they drape really nicely. skirts, particularly high-waist ones also really look nice.

i only started figuring this out recently so im still pretty excited

>>6674
Love them, much more comfy than jeans tbh
>>7053
>does any other country use it for genuine racism?
All of Latin America.
Also, I heard Spanish, Italians and French people using it to insult African street venders when I went to Yurop for the summer.
I laughed so hard when this little French lady went off on one of the niggers who grabbed her and tried to put some shitty little bracelet on her.

>>6674
yes, theyre awesome.
i never wore skirts until very recently and honestly, as a woman with large hips/thighs, theyre like heaven on earth.

>>6803
Ugh, BIG MOOD.

Not as androgynous, more femme, but closer along my personal style, and enough tomboy to make straight men REEEE irl at me. I miss my curls. I wish I never started straightening my hair.
>>6885
Afros are so gorgeous, oml. I love her coat too.
>>6892
She looks a little like me, spooky.

swam my first full mile in ~35 minutes! I am very proud of myself

>>7207
Good job! That sounds really exhausting. Do you swim regularly?

>>7210
Now I do! Started swimming more regularly a bit before summer, I feel happy that my hard work has paid off. I’ve improved my stokes too!

I've started working a few full push-ups into each set (instead of doing all knee push-ups). The doms is intense but so rewarding.

>>7219
I stopped for about two weeks, but got back on the wagon and have been working out regularly. I do as many push-ups as I can (in sets of ten) throughout the day, every other day. I try to focus on good form. I can feel myself getting stronger, it's pretty exciting. I haven't been able to use my scale, but I like how my body is looking and feeling lately.

>>7557

Mostly women at my workplace, but there are a few men who sit close to me. People at my office like to gossip, so I try not to rock the boat/do anything differently from other people.

>>7556
OP, you asked what would have been a notmal question 20 years ago. You're not weird. Unfortunately trans women have latched onto periods as something sacred and often ask questions like this.

>>7559
*normal

>>7553
When I worked in an office, I was constantly asked for tampons or pads or even just panty liners. When I switched to a menstrual cup, I kept a handful of tampons in my purse for that reason lol.

I have a huge ass bag, so i usually just throw my pads in there and bring it with me wherever. When i cant bring my bag though I make sure i put on a bigger pad so it doesnt overflow, otherwise i just hide it somewhere on my clothes or just grab it on my hands anyway.

I wanted to try cups but read some stories about it getting suck on your cervix like a suction cup and that scared me away. I'm not in a country where I could just go to the doctor if it got stuck.

>>7524
all you would need to do in that situation is to pinch the cup at the base to release the suction. that's why all cups have tiny holes at the top for that exact reason

I've been using the cup for over a year and have never had an issue with infection. It also doesn't smell, wtf, are you guys not cleaning it? I just bought the cheapest one on Amazon and I love it, though in a pinch I'll use a tampon.

>>6392
>tfw live in the south and birth control requires a prescription from a doctor
>tfw no health insurance
speaking of which, i'm about to visit Colorado. I'm considering buying an ass-load of birth control over the counter while I'm there and bringing it back to my homestate. Is this possible?

>tiny tampons hurt
>different brand tampons, big or small, soft, "stiff", hurt
>insertion hurts no matter different methods way
>a (small) cup doesn't hurt

what gives? not complaining, but hey.

>>7533
Agree about smells. It smells less actually, since the fluids are not exposed to the air until you go to empty the cup.